Infidelity Therapists in Oswego, IL

Hello. I am Debbie Levinson and I am 100% telehealth. "We have communication issues", " "I don't know whether I should stay?" "Can our relationship survive after an affair?" There is so much invested: children, family, mutual friends, religion, culture, and finances. I hear the fear, anxiety and worry in these questions. This is your life, and you are coming for answers, guidance and hope. I do not take this lightly. I sincerely want to help give you the skills and education to improve your struggle. I will work along you to bring health to your relationship(s). You want to feel safe, heard and respected.

It feels hopeless. It is intimidating. It may even feel insurmountable. It is the pain of life, and it is real. But, what if I told you it is not hopeless? That you hold the key to making things better. Seeking help can feel equally daunting, but it is the first step of breaking through the negative cloud of despair. I meet my clients where they are in their life’s journey and I consider myself a “fellow traveler.” I join them it that journey to help them gain insight, to provide perspective, and to collaborate and determine the best course of treatment to regain the direction of their destination.

I work with a number of clients clients including adolescents, adults, couples, and families. Several issues I feel comfortable working with include anxiety, depression, stress management, grief issues, adjustment and change issues, Bipolar Disorders, working through past trauma, issues with self-injury, suicidal ideation, sexual/verbal/emotional/physical abuse issues, self-esteem/self-worth issues, bullying, communication issues, sexual or intimacy struggles. I specialize in working with the LGBTQIA community and other gender and sexually diverse populations.

I love working with many different populations. My therapy style is more directive; I ask questions, gently challenge (when necessary), and offer feedback. While my preferred clients are the elderly, those experiencing grief and loss, and those with Borderline Personality Disorder, I also treat many mood disorders as well as provide couples and family therapy. I have also treated domestic violence victims, people with severe and chronic mental illness, and people struggling with daily stress or life transitions. I'm also a lesbian, so familiar with and accepting of queer populations, and I am a fat-positive provider.

It can often be a challenge to find a counselor to connect with, to feel comfortable sharing your experiences with and that seem to "get you". We also often want someone that cannot only understand and empathize but also to challenge behaviors/beliefs in a way that help create introspective thought, growth and change. I endeavor to join you on your journey, exploring what you seek, while also embracing the idea that sometimes you just need the ability to share safely and authentically in a supportive environment.

People don't just want to be listened to, they want to know you "get it", so that you can really help them. When an individual feels "gotten" a connection will form and a nonjudgmental environment is created. I believe in individualizing treatment to each client's needs. I help individuals and couples address various types of issues like symptoms of anxiety, depression, and relational conflict I specialize in Mood disorders, PTSD and Family and Marital conflict.

I see children, adolescents and adults for individual therapy and couples therapy. I utilize a client centered approach where I give unconditional positive regard to my clients in a non-judgmental therapeutic setting. I have seen clients meet their treatment goals and develop positive coping skills to effectively manage their distressing symptoms. The greatest gift of therapy is the therapeutic alliance between the therapist and the client that elicits change and allows the client to use the tools that they have learned to make lifelong gains.

You are the focus! With over 30 years of experience as a seasoned clinician, I recognize the uniqueness of each person who walks through my door. As the client, you guide the pace of treatment, and together as a team, we identify the steps to enhance your quality of life. Whether you seek short-term sessions or a more extended journey, I'm here to help you create the life you desire and navigate challenges, be it a life transition, a relationship issue, or a lifelong wound. Let's work together on this journey.

Dr. Laura Bokar is the CEO/President of Fox Valley Institute for Growth and Wellness and has been an individual, marital/couple and family therapist for almost three decades. Her approach is tailored to the client's need. She is an open, non-threatening therapist with a sense of humor. Dr. Laura is a LMFT, LCPC and an Approved Clinical Supervisor. She is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). She is also certified in Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Critical Incident Response, Prepare/Enrich Pre-Marital Assessment, Primary Care Behavioral Health, and DBT.

How We Treat One Another Matters: For better and for worse, across our whole lives, we operate in relationships. Our views of our "self" and how we relate to others develop from how we have been treated in relationships. Our capacities to love, to learn, to become our best, all emerge optimally within healthy relationships. Likewise, wounds of heart and soul emerge from ways we have been treated and/or choices we have made which have hurt us, sometimes very deeply. Persons who have experienced relational trauma and/or overwhelming life stressors are ideal candidates for clinical services at Gateway.

Are your feelings of sadness and anxiety preventing you from enjoying life? Are you struggling with relationship difficulties or life transitions? Do you feel stuck? Do you desire closeness and greater intimacy with your partner/spouse? Do you want to improve your communications? You are not alone. Seeking therapy is the 1st step toward achieving a more satisfying life and/or relief from suffering. The decision to seek therapy can be difficult but helpful when we are overwhelmed by life experiences and unhappy with relationships in our lives. Treatment is confidential. My office is located in a private, safe & comfortable setting.

Are you simply tired of feeling undervalued, unseen, unheard or uncomfortable? Are you struggling to find ways to build confidence and get unstuck? Maybe there is no one to honestly confide in about how you truly feel, because outwardly, you are a high-achiever and put together? You feel torn about spending time working on yourself, but you’ll do anything for others, even if it puts you out? It’s time to learn how this cycle began so we can rewire the anxious brain and create healthier and more fulfilling ways to live life! You will learn boundaries and how to set them to make yourself a priority, maybe for the first time ever!

Life is challenging. Within the context of supportive relationships and with sincere efforts, people can thrive. I am here to be part of that support. My goal is to provide you with a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore. Finding your true potential and living a fulfilled life is want I want for others. I work with a diverse clientele.

East Aurora Counseling, Ltd. is an urban private practice operating since 2013 with an emphasis on the hierarchy of needs in our community. EAC strives to promote and support optimum mental and emotional health for the individual and the family. East Aurora Counseling, Ltd. aims to support people dealing with issues of poverty and immigration, family, parenting, trauma, depression, anxiety, and issues of gender identity and sexual orientation.

Hello! Taking the first step and choosing a counselor to talk to when you are struggling can be overwhelming, and I am so glad you are here. I understand you may feel alone, anxious, or even a bit down but this is the first step in creating a better you! My approach is honest, relatable, and knowledgeable. As a team, we will establish goals and begin working to achieve them. We will identify your personal strengths and support you in using these strengths to overcome life's challenges. I can help you find a path to feeling better and stronger emotionally as an individual as well as in your relationships

I believe in creating a therapeutic environment that is conducive to healing / growth. It is important I develop a strong, genuine relationship with clients that allows me to deeply understand each person's own unique experiences and to accept each person as they are without judgment. I meet clients where they're at in their life processes and collaborate with them in order to help navigate and find solutions to their struggles. I can help with self harming, divorce, relationship issues, identity struggles, anxiety, depression, stress, emotion regulation, etc.

Do you or someone you love feel overwhelmed with life's challenges? Are mental health issues impacting your relationships, work/school and well being? Are you looking to find fulfillment in your daily life? Life can be hard. I am here to help navigate through life's challenges to encourage growth, change and healing. I am passionate about building meaningful relationships with my clients through a lens of compassion, collaboration and empowerment. I use an eclectic approach to therapy to integrate various forms of evidence-based strategies to encourage self-expression in a way that feels comfortable to the client.

I strive to provide services to anyone feeling misunderstood, unheard, lost or struggling with the next stage in their life. Society can have a picture of what our lives should look like and how we should feel when certain events happen to us, it can get hard when we do not fit into that picture. Sometimes all we need is someone to listen and to validate our emotions to be able to find ourselves.

Whether it's "big T Trauma" or "little t trauma", no one's life is perfect. From a difficult breakup to family conflict, relationship concerns, the loss of a loved one, a global pandemic, or surviving any number of difficult experiences, the world is going to test you. I will meet you where you are and together we will create a map to help you move forward. I draw from CBT, ACT, Motivational Interviewing, Strengths-Based, Solution-Focused and Existential theories and practices.