Sex Therapists in Chicago, IL

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Alexi Peters
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, LCPC, ASDCS, CCTP
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60657
Alexi Peters MA, LCPC is a sex-positive, fat positive, queer therapist. They take a warm yet honest approach to therapy strategically supporting clients in achieving their personal and interpersonal goals through actionable work. Alexi primarily utilizes narrative therapy, DBT, and RODBT to work with clients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, eating disorders, body image, LGBTQIA+ and sexual health, including gender identity and gender affirming needs.
Alexi Peters MA, LCPC is a sex-positive, fat positive, queer therapist. They take a warm yet honest approach to therapy strategically supporting clients in achieving their personal and interpersonal goals through actionable work. Alexi primarily utilizes narrative therapy, DBT, and RODBT to work with clients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, eating disorders, body image, LGBTQIA+ and sexual health, including gender identity and gender affirming needs.
(872) 206-9161 View (872) 206-9161
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Chris Tennant
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified
3 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613
I also teach sex education classes in partnership with local non profits, so please feel free to ask me any questions.
Your decision to seek therapy is a sign of strength, courage, and respect for your personal well-being. I welcome people facing a variety of challenges including depression, anxiety, trauma, substance use challenges, LBGTQ+ identities, relationship issues, and the general "stuck" feeling. My therapeutic style is caring, encouraging and individualized in order to help each person learn skills to work with their emotions, see situations without judgment and recognize solutions that fit personal values. I also have a strong emphasis on diversity and social justice and incorporate it into my practice.
I also teach sex education classes in partnership with local non profits, so please feel free to ask me any questions.
Your decision to seek therapy is a sign of strength, courage, and respect for your personal well-being. I welcome people facing a variety of challenges including depression, anxiety, trauma, substance use challenges, LBGTQ+ identities, relationship issues, and the general "stuck" feeling. My therapeutic style is caring, encouraging and individualized in order to help each person learn skills to work with their emotions, see situations without judgment and recognize solutions that fit personal values. I also have a strong emphasis on diversity and social justice and incorporate it into my practice.
(872) 239-3953 View (872) 239-3953
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Prem K Pahwa
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CST
Verified
3 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60640
Waitlist for new clients
Completing post graduate training in sexual health/ sex therapy through the University of Michigan (and then serving as The Director and Core Faculty in the Program) allows me to provide sex therapy from an informed and current perspective.
I'm a Mental Health Clinician with over 20yrs experience, and also a Certified Sex Therapist. I work with LGBTQ+ and heterosexual people on a variety of relational and mental health issues, as well as sexual and intimacy concerns. I approach my work from a sexual health model and values driven perspective. I work with clients on consensual non-monogamy/polyam, kink, BDSM, as well as sexual health challenges such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, desire discrepancies, etc. I continue to work with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as navigating life!
Completing post graduate training in sexual health/ sex therapy through the University of Michigan (and then serving as The Director and Core Faculty in the Program) allows me to provide sex therapy from an informed and current perspective.
I'm a Mental Health Clinician with over 20yrs experience, and also a Certified Sex Therapist. I work with LGBTQ+ and heterosexual people on a variety of relational and mental health issues, as well as sexual and intimacy concerns. I approach my work from a sexual health model and values driven perspective. I work with clients on consensual non-monogamy/polyam, kink, BDSM, as well as sexual health challenges such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, desire discrepancies, etc. I continue to work with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as navigating life!
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Jl Family Services Ltd.
LCPC, CADC, NCC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60602  (Online Only)
I have a deep passion for working with individuals seeking support for issues related to sex, sexual dysfunction, and substance abuse. I believe in the transformative power of addressing these challenges head-on and creating a space where healing can flourish. With empathy and expertise, I am here to guide you on your unique path toward reclaiming your sexual well-being and overcoming substance abuse, empowering you to live a fulfilling and vibrant life. I am dedicated to guiding individuals toward a path of healing, empowerment, and personal growth.
I have a deep passion for working with individuals seeking support for issues related to sex, sexual dysfunction, and substance abuse. I believe in the transformative power of addressing these challenges head-on and creating a space where healing can flourish. With empathy and expertise, I am here to guide you on your unique path toward reclaiming your sexual well-being and overcoming substance abuse, empowering you to live a fulfilling and vibrant life. I am dedicated to guiding individuals toward a path of healing, empowerment, and personal growth.
(312) 957-7682 View (312) 957-7682
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Giulia Casani
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
Chicago, IL 60657  (Online Only)
Are you struggling in one or more aspects of your relationship with your significant other? Is your sex life not as satisfying as you hoped it to be? Are you facing trauma, loss, disruptive transitions, divorce or cultural adjustments? We will work together to define your goals and maximize your strengths in a process that is collaborative and driven by you. It is my belief that the therapeutic growth occurs in between sessions; therefore, you will be provided with the proper tools to develop insights about non-productive behaviors and patterns of thinking, and improve your daily life.
Are you struggling in one or more aspects of your relationship with your significant other? Is your sex life not as satisfying as you hoped it to be? Are you facing trauma, loss, disruptive transitions, divorce or cultural adjustments? We will work together to define your goals and maximize your strengths in a process that is collaborative and driven by you. It is my belief that the therapeutic growth occurs in between sessions; therefore, you will be provided with the proper tools to develop insights about non-productive behaviors and patterns of thinking, and improve your daily life.
(872) 204-2384 View (872) 204-2384
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Amy K Stewart
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, CST
Chicago, IL 60602
Relationships can be a powerful source of fulfillment to draw from in our lives. Miscommunication, old patterns, unrealistic expectations and daily stress sometimes step in, preventing them from providing that happiness and strength. Therapy can break down barriers to improve communication, decrease conflict and increase emotional and physical intimacy. I specialize in the respectful treatment of relationship and sexual concerns, utilizing an open, honest, and sex-positive approach to help assess your unique personal goals and assist you in developing more positive and fulfilling relationships- with yourself and with partners.
Relationships can be a powerful source of fulfillment to draw from in our lives. Miscommunication, old patterns, unrealistic expectations and daily stress sometimes step in, preventing them from providing that happiness and strength. Therapy can break down barriers to improve communication, decrease conflict and increase emotional and physical intimacy. I specialize in the respectful treatment of relationship and sexual concerns, utilizing an open, honest, and sex-positive approach to help assess your unique personal goals and assist you in developing more positive and fulfilling relationships- with yourself and with partners.
(872) 231-3107 View (872) 231-3107
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Debby Spertus
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LSW
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60614
You are ready to make a change. You may be saying to yourself, “I don't know ‘what's wrong,’ I just know that I don't feel right,” or you may be having relationship distress and don't know what to do next. I work with individuals & couples (Gottman & EFT), life transitions, anxiety, depression, and artistic block. I support both traditional and non-traditional family structures. I also work with women who are experiencing low or reduced sexual desire, couples with desire discrepancies, as well as helping couples expand sexuality within their relationship.
You are ready to make a change. You may be saying to yourself, “I don't know ‘what's wrong,’ I just know that I don't feel right,” or you may be having relationship distress and don't know what to do next. I work with individuals & couples (Gottman & EFT), life transitions, anxiety, depression, and artistic block. I support both traditional and non-traditional family structures. I also work with women who are experiencing low or reduced sexual desire, couples with desire discrepancies, as well as helping couples expand sexuality within their relationship.
(708) 578-7137 View (708) 578-7137
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Klara Suparman
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, LCPC, ATR-BC
Verified
4 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613
Klara is non-judgmental, sex-positive, kink-friendly, and affirming of all types of relationships.
Klara utilizes strength-based and relational approaches to help clients build resilience and personal insight through self-compassion and skill-building. Due to the creative and fluid nature of the therapeutic process, Klara mindfully shifts with each client’s needs, changing and growing with them on their unique journeys. She utilizes creative, holistic, and trauma-informed interventions while working collaboratively with her clients to create a tailored therapeutic experience.
Klara is non-judgmental, sex-positive, kink-friendly, and affirming of all types of relationships.
Klara utilizes strength-based and relational approaches to help clients build resilience and personal insight through self-compassion and skill-building. Due to the creative and fluid nature of the therapeutic process, Klara mindfully shifts with each client’s needs, changing and growing with them on their unique journeys. She utilizes creative, holistic, and trauma-informed interventions while working collaboratively with her clients to create a tailored therapeutic experience.
(872) 469-7471 View (872) 469-7471
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Winnie Landon
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Chicago, IL 60661  (Online Only)
I approach therapy from an anti-oppressive, feminist, sex positive and trauma-informed lens that views the therapeutic relationship one of equal participants, and values mutual collaboration from everyone involved.
As a black, mixed-race, pansexual, cisgender woman and part of other pleasure-focused communities, I know from experience how important it is to create a safe, empowering and affirming therapy space that will foster trust and allow us to acknowledge the nuances and beauties of your intersecting identities and unique inner self. I enjoy working with adults from diverse backgrounds and am committed to understanding your unique experience.
I approach therapy from an anti-oppressive, feminist, sex positive and trauma-informed lens that views the therapeutic relationship one of equal participants, and values mutual collaboration from everyone involved.
As a black, mixed-race, pansexual, cisgender woman and part of other pleasure-focused communities, I know from experience how important it is to create a safe, empowering and affirming therapy space that will foster trust and allow us to acknowledge the nuances and beauties of your intersecting identities and unique inner self. I enjoy working with adults from diverse backgrounds and am committed to understanding your unique experience.
(773) 694-9356 View (773) 694-9356
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Robert H Dargel
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, CST
Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60625  (Online Only)
My specialty is couples therapy and sex therapy - I have had extensive advanced training in these areas of practice.
I actively work to make the process relevant and helpful for you. I have been a therapist for 30+ years so I have had thousands of conversations with clients and extensive advanced training. I know change can be challenging so I try to make the process as efficient and painless as possible. I am motivated to help you meet YOUR goals. I always offer you the insights gained from my years of experience as well as my knowledge about what helps us lead a good life. I am practical and down to earth in my approach.
My specialty is couples therapy and sex therapy - I have had extensive advanced training in these areas of practice.
I actively work to make the process relevant and helpful for you. I have been a therapist for 30+ years so I have had thousands of conversations with clients and extensive advanced training. I know change can be challenging so I try to make the process as efficient and painless as possible. I am motivated to help you meet YOUR goals. I always offer you the insights gained from my years of experience as well as my knowledge about what helps us lead a good life. I am practical and down to earth in my approach.
(773) 841-6450 View (773) 841-6450
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Adrianna K. Neri
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified
8 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613  (Online Only)
I am trained in sex therapy and a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, with a background in marriage & family therapy.
Life can be challenging and very difficult to navigate, whether it's concerning a career, school, an illness, relationships, etc., and often times, these life challenges are in co-occurrence with one another. Likewise, we tend to feel as though we are alone in facing life struggles, and I am here to help you understand that you are not alone. My goal is to validate you and your life experiences while guiding you in a way to effectively take on life challenges. Through validation, collaboratively, we can also recognize how your thought and behavioral patterns impact how you emotionally react to difficult life experiences.
I am trained in sex therapy and a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, with a background in marriage & family therapy.
Life can be challenging and very difficult to navigate, whether it's concerning a career, school, an illness, relationships, etc., and often times, these life challenges are in co-occurrence with one another. Likewise, we tend to feel as though we are alone in facing life struggles, and I am here to help you understand that you are not alone. My goal is to validate you and your life experiences while guiding you in a way to effectively take on life challenges. Through validation, collaboratively, we can also recognize how your thought and behavioral patterns impact how you emotionally react to difficult life experiences.
(872) 252-7712 View (872) 252-7712
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Bernadette Parfenoff
Counselor, MEd, LCPC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60661  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
Do you struggle to prioritize yourself? Are you having a hard time feeling accepted for your desires? Maybe you need an affirming space to explore yourself and your needs. Our therapeutic relationship can help you uncover parts of yourself you haven't been able to face, while giving you support to heal and grow. Additionally, as a sex-positive and kink informed therapist, I'm passionate about supporting individuals with alternative sexualities, erotic practices, and kink/BDSM interests. I believe in providing an accepting, compassionate therapeutic environment for all my clients.
Do you struggle to prioritize yourself? Are you having a hard time feeling accepted for your desires? Maybe you need an affirming space to explore yourself and your needs. Our therapeutic relationship can help you uncover parts of yourself you haven't been able to face, while giving you support to heal and grow. Additionally, as a sex-positive and kink informed therapist, I'm passionate about supporting individuals with alternative sexualities, erotic practices, and kink/BDSM interests. I believe in providing an accepting, compassionate therapeutic environment for all my clients.
(312) 584-4032 View (312) 584-4032
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Ross Mondschain
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60642
Additionally, I have a passion for counseling LGBTQ+ clients and celebrate diverse and expansive expressions of sexuality, affection, gender, and intimate relationships.
Our quality of life improves dramatically as we learn to show up more authentically in our personal relationships. We can always cultivate more meaningful connections, whether in an intimate partnership, biological or chosen family, or friendships. I understand how creating change can feel daunting or overwhelming and is best navigated with intentionality and solid support. Actively collaborating with my clients, I ensure that together, we set clear and attainable goals and that each session moves you closer to achieving your vision. Change is Possible!
Additionally, I have a passion for counseling LGBTQ+ clients and celebrate diverse and expansive expressions of sexuality, affection, gender, and intimate relationships.
Our quality of life improves dramatically as we learn to show up more authentically in our personal relationships. We can always cultivate more meaningful connections, whether in an intimate partnership, biological or chosen family, or friendships. I understand how creating change can feel daunting or overwhelming and is best navigated with intentionality and solid support. Actively collaborating with my clients, I ensure that together, we set clear and attainable goals and that each session moves you closer to achieving your vision. Change is Possible!
(773) 207-4037 View (773) 207-4037
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Peter Hindley
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, ALMFT
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60604
My focus is working with couples and individuals looking to improve the quality of their relationships. I am passionate about sex positivity and working to unlearn shame and embarrassment that may be ingrained from past experiences. I aim to facilitate open communication between couples to ensure both parties are getting their needs met. When working with individual clients, I can help guide you in advocating for what you need in your relationships with others. I am a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, and specialize in working with queer individuals and couples. I am kink, poly, and sex-worker affirming.
My focus is working with couples and individuals looking to improve the quality of their relationships. I am passionate about sex positivity and working to unlearn shame and embarrassment that may be ingrained from past experiences. I aim to facilitate open communication between couples to ensure both parties are getting their needs met. When working with individual clients, I can help guide you in advocating for what you need in your relationships with others. I am a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, and specialize in working with queer individuals and couples. I am kink, poly, and sex-worker affirming.
(773) 839-9524 View (773) 839-9524
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Maia Easley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, BCBA, LMFT
Verified
5 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60604  (Online Only)
Sex, relationships, sexual connection, and intimacy are all topics that can feel isolating, and scary. But, with the right supportive partner, it can feel freeing. As a culturally sensitive Couple and Family Therapist, I can help you navigate these struggles, and support you through the process. I understand that embarking on a journey of therapy can seem daunting, which is why I am here to take the drive with you. During your therapy journey, you will have control of the steering wheel but will have the full support of myself in the passenger seat beside you. Together we can embark on a journey that can create a healthier you.
Sex, relationships, sexual connection, and intimacy are all topics that can feel isolating, and scary. But, with the right supportive partner, it can feel freeing. As a culturally sensitive Couple and Family Therapist, I can help you navigate these struggles, and support you through the process. I understand that embarking on a journey of therapy can seem daunting, which is why I am here to take the drive with you. During your therapy journey, you will have control of the steering wheel but will have the full support of myself in the passenger seat beside you. Together we can embark on a journey that can create a healthier you.
(312) 465-4604 View (312) 465-4604
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Melissa A. Novak
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CST
Verified
Chicago, IL 60657
Waitlist for new clients
I am a Certified Sex Therapist and work with the LGBTQ community, kink and poly communities.
The therapeutic relationship is a safe place to explore, examine, and assess where you are today versus where you want to be in future. Together, we will identify the challenges that keep you from living a more satisfying life and develop concrete plans and skills to address these obstacles. My approach is always collaborative, in which you are the expert of your own experience and strengths. I work with couples and adults with a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, anxiety, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, personality disorders, and PTSD.
I am a Certified Sex Therapist and work with the LGBTQ community, kink and poly communities.
The therapeutic relationship is a safe place to explore, examine, and assess where you are today versus where you want to be in future. Together, we will identify the challenges that keep you from living a more satisfying life and develop concrete plans and skills to address these obstacles. My approach is always collaborative, in which you are the expert of your own experience and strengths. I work with couples and adults with a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, anxiety, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, personality disorders, and PTSD.
(773) 922-6527 View (773) 922-6527
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Korey McWilliams
Counselor, MA, MS, LCPC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613
I work with individuals and couples with a variety of emotional and interpersonal concerns. I have a particular interest in working with issues around intimacy, sexuality, and identity. Sexual difficulties and dissatisfaction are surprisingly common. In fact, most of us will experience some sexual difficulties even in the best of relationships and at the best of times. However, misunderstood and unaddressed sexual difficulties can have a domino effect, negatively impacting how you view yourself, your partner, and your relationship. The result often entails unnecessary feelings of disconnection, frustration, anxiety, and shame, not to mention the loss of your sex life!
I work with individuals and couples with a variety of emotional and interpersonal concerns. I have a particular interest in working with issues around intimacy, sexuality, and identity. Sexual difficulties and dissatisfaction are surprisingly common. In fact, most of us will experience some sexual difficulties even in the best of relationships and at the best of times. However, misunderstood and unaddressed sexual difficulties can have a domino effect, negatively impacting how you view yourself, your partner, and your relationship. The result often entails unnecessary feelings of disconnection, frustration, anxiety, and shame, not to mention the loss of your sex life!
(312) 487-2555 View (312) 487-2555
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Morgan Claire Filmer
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60642
As a relationship and individual therapist is affirming of all gender, consensually sexual and romantic presentations and identities; I am sex worker allied and my care is kink/BDSM/ENM informed (and enthusiastic!) and embracing of neurodivergence.
Shame and stigma can permeate every aspect of our lives and make pleasure, love and work challenging, painful and sometimes impossible. Shame and stigma often mask something special and remarkable about a person; talents, identities, ways of living or loving that are unappreciated, misunderstood and even repudiated. Deviance and difference should not be requisites for pain and failure; those qualities can be empowering and liberating. Often, it is a dominant culture that pulls the veil of shame over our eyes and hearts. Our stories and ourselves are worthy of dignity and care, regardless of what we learn from the dominant discourse.
As a relationship and individual therapist is affirming of all gender, consensually sexual and romantic presentations and identities; I am sex worker allied and my care is kink/BDSM/ENM informed (and enthusiastic!) and embracing of neurodivergence.
Shame and stigma can permeate every aspect of our lives and make pleasure, love and work challenging, painful and sometimes impossible. Shame and stigma often mask something special and remarkable about a person; talents, identities, ways of living or loving that are unappreciated, misunderstood and even repudiated. Deviance and difference should not be requisites for pain and failure; those qualities can be empowering and liberating. Often, it is a dominant culture that pulls the veil of shame over our eyes and hearts. Our stories and ourselves are worthy of dignity and care, regardless of what we learn from the dominant discourse.
(773) 692-0017 View (773) 692-0017
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Sophie Tobin
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified
Chicago, IL 60601
Do you struggle with sexual desire and feel like your partner is always more in the mood than you are (or vice-versa)? Are you currently struggling with dating and worried you won’t find a good match? Do you want to explore kink or non-monogamy, but aren’t sure how to go about doing so? Did you wait until marriage to have sex for the first time, but are now struggling to enjoy sex with your partner? If any of these questions resonated with you, you’re in luck! I would be honored to work with any and all people who may be having these experiences. I work with any issues related to sex, intimacy, relationships, queerness.
Do you struggle with sexual desire and feel like your partner is always more in the mood than you are (or vice-versa)? Are you currently struggling with dating and worried you won’t find a good match? Do you want to explore kink or non-monogamy, but aren’t sure how to go about doing so? Did you wait until marriage to have sex for the first time, but are now struggling to enjoy sex with your partner? If any of these questions resonated with you, you’re in luck! I would be honored to work with any and all people who may be having these experiences. I work with any issues related to sex, intimacy, relationships, queerness.
(312) 756-0495 View (312) 756-0495
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Practical Audacity
Counselor, LPC
Verified
Chicago, IL 60647
Using an attachment and relational approach, I will help you navigate your relationships and identities through an intersectional, feminist, and sex-positive lens.
I specialize in working with clients around trauma, mood disorders, relationships, identity development, and queerness. I help people tap into their potential and existing strengths to build confidence for tackling the problems that are unrelentingly thrown at them by the world. I also enjoy helping clients improve communication skills and connect with themselves through their emotional experiences. Partners who want to deepen their connection and improve communication are also an integral part of my clinical work. If you're interested in working with me, please email intake at the address provided below!
Using an attachment and relational approach, I will help you navigate your relationships and identities through an intersectional, feminist, and sex-positive lens.
I specialize in working with clients around trauma, mood disorders, relationships, identity development, and queerness. I help people tap into their potential and existing strengths to build confidence for tackling the problems that are unrelentingly thrown at them by the world. I also enjoy helping clients improve communication skills and connect with themselves through their emotional experiences. Partners who want to deepen their connection and improve communication are also an integral part of my clinical work. If you're interested in working with me, please email intake at the address provided below!
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Sex Therapy

Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.