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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
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Huilin Lai

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI (she, her)

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Available both in-person and online
138 West 25th St FL 8 New York, NY 10001
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I help adults navigate relationship challenges, trauma, anxiety, ADHD, grief, and concerns around intimacy, sexuality, and identity. Many of my clients are high-achieving professionals, immigrants, and international students. As a bilingual Chinese immigrant and former international student, I understand the complexities of belonging, cultural adjustment, and balancing multiple worlds. Together, we'll move from “human doing” to “human being,” creating a life that feels more connected, authentic, and meaningful.
I specialize in sex, relationship, and trauma therapy for adults navigating intimacy concerns, relationship challenges, cultural identity, and life transitions. Integrating EMDR, sex therapy, attachment-focused, and parts work approaches, I help clients heal old wounds, build healthier relationships, and create more fulfilling lives.
Many of my clients come to therapy after years of trying harder, pushing through, and carrying everything on their own. If that sounds familiar, you don't have to do it alone. Through Ally Counseling and Therapy, our multicultural and multilingual team provides a culturally responsive and affirming space where healing, connection, and change can happen.
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My Practice at a Glance

Available both in-person and online

Ally Counseling and Therapy

138 West 25th St

FL 8

New York, NY 10001 map

Ally Counseling and Therapy

24-20 Jackson Avenue

Suite 211

Long Island City, NY 11101 map

My website
Now accepting new clients for in-person and teletherapy in NY, with availability for remote clients in NJ, CA, FL and VT
I specialize in Relationship Issues, Sex Therapy and Trauma and PTSD 
I accept insurance 
I see individuals, couples and groups  
Connect with Huilin Lai
Photo of Huilin Lai, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI

My Practice at a Glance

Available both in-person and online

Ally Counseling and Therapy

138 West 25th St

FL 8

New York, NY 10001 map

Ally Counseling and Therapy

24-20 Jackson Avenue

Suite 211

Long Island City, NY 11101 map

My website
Now accepting new clients for in-person and teletherapy in NY, with availability for remote clients in NJ, CA, FL and VT
I specialize in Relationship Issues, Sex Therapy and Trauma and PTSD 
I accept insurance 
I see individuals, couples and groups  

Finances

Payment Methods

American Express, Cash, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Visa

Insurance

  • Aetna
  • UHC Student PPO plans
  • Wellfleet
  • Out of Network
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If we're out of network with your insurance, we will do our best to give you as close to an in-network experience as possible.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.
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If we're out of network with your insurance, we will do our best to give you as close to an in-network experience as possible.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.

Qualifications

  • Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of New York / R081942 Huilin Lai
  • Education and Years In Practice

  • In Practice for 16 years
  • Attended University of Michigan & University of Pittsburgh, Graduated 2010
  • Additional Credentials

  • Certificate from AASECT / Certified Sex Therapist 2021
  • Certificate from The EMDR International Association Certified EMDR Therapist / 2020
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With over a decade of clinical experience, I continue to deepen my expertise through advanced training in trauma, relationships, sexuality, and experiential therapies. I am certified in sex therapy and EMDR, with additional training in hypnotherapy, AEDP, Relational Life Therapy, and parts work.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.
"
With over a decade of clinical experience, I continue to deepen my expertise through advanced training in trauma, relationships, sexuality, and experiential therapies. I am certified in sex therapy and EMDR, with additional training in hypnotherapy, AEDP, Relational Life Therapy, and parts work.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

  • Relationship Issues
  • Sex Therapy
  • Trauma and PTSD

Expertise

  • ADHD
  • Adoption
  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Bisexual
  • Body Image
  • Cancer
  • Coping Skills
  • Cross-cultural adjustment
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Emotional Disturbance
  • Family Conflict
  • Grief
  • Infidelity
  • Lesbian
  • LGBTQ+
  • Life Coaching
  • Life Transitions
  • Marital and Premarital
  • Mood Disorders
  • Parenting
  • Peer Relationships
  • Personality Disorders
  • Polyamory & ENM
  • Racial Identity
  • School Issues
  • Self Esteem
  • Sex-Positive & Kink Friendly
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Sleep or Insomnia
  • Stress
  • Thinking Disorders
  • Transgender
  • Veterans
  • Women's Issues
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Trauma, relationship challenges, and sexuality concerns often leave people feeling stuck in survival mode, disconnected from themselves, or trapped in recurring patterns. Together, we will explore the roots of these struggles, heal old wounds, and create new ways of relating to yourself and others. My goal is to help clients move beyond coping toward greater authenticity, connection, and healing.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.
"
Trauma, relationship challenges, and sexuality concerns often leave people feeling stuck in survival mode, disconnected from themselves, or trapped in recurring patterns. Together, we will explore the roots of these struggles, heal old wounds, and create new ways of relating to yourself and others. My goal is to help clients move beyond coping toward greater authenticity, connection, and healing.
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Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.


Client Focus

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals
Couples
Group

Communities

Bisexual Allied
Gay Allied
HIV / AIDS Allied
Intersex Allied
Lesbian Allied
Non-Binary Allied
Queer Allied
Racial Justice Allied
Sex Worker Allied
Transgender Allied

Ethnicity

Asian

I also speak

Mandarin

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals
Couples
Group

Communities

Bisexual Allied
Gay Allied
HIV / AIDS Allied
Intersex Allied
Lesbian Allied
Non-Binary Allied
Queer Allied
Racial Justice Allied
Sex Worker Allied
Transgender Allied

Ethnicity

Asian

I also speak

Mandarin

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

  • Acceptance and Commitment (ACT)
  • AEDP
  • Attachment-based
  • Clinical Supervision and Licensed Supervisors
  • Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
  • Culturally Sensitive
  • EMDR
  • Family / Marital
  • Feminist
  • Gottman Method
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Mindfulness-Based (MBCT)
  • Relational
  • Trauma Focused
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Rather than relying on a single therapy model, I integrate different approaches based on each client's needs and goals. My work combines insight-oriented, experiential, and trauma-informed therapies, helping clients move beyond intellectual understanding toward deeper emotional healing, self-compassion, and lasting change.
Photo of Huilin Lai, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.
"
Rather than relying on a single therapy model, I integrate different approaches based on each client's needs and goals. My work combines insight-oriented, experiential, and trauma-informed therapies, helping clients move beyond intellectual understanding toward deeper emotional healing, self-compassion, and lasting change.
Photo of Huilin Lai, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
with questions.

Groups


Location

Primary Location

Ally Counseling and Therapy

138 West 25th St

FL 8

New York, NY 10001

Additional Location

Ally Counseling and Therapy

24-20 Jackson Avenue

Suite 211

Long Island City, NY 11101

"
Now accepting new clients for in-person and teletherapy in NY, with availability for remote clients in NJ, CA, FL and VT
Photo of Huilin Lai, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
"
Now accepting new clients for in-person and teletherapy in NY, with availability for remote clients in NJ, CA, FL and VT
Photo of Huilin Lai, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI
Huilin Lai
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, CST, SIFI