Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

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Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

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New York, NY 10007

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Are you often self-critical, with a negative or harsh voice in your head? Do you feel suffocated by shame, “not good enough-ness”, and unworthiness and the sense of aloneness that follows? Maybe you’ve had these feelings and thoughts for a long time, learned from past traumatic experiences or an unsupportive environment you grew up in. These experiences are painful and can hinder you from living a more rewarding and joyful life. If this sounds familiar, I understand and I’m here to help. I specialize in working with anxiety, complex trauma, self-criticism, identity, relationship difficulties, life transitions, sexuality, and gender.

I welcome the full tapestry of who you are—your cultural, spiritual, neurodiverse, and sexual and relational identities. My work is rooted in deep respect for your lived experience and the wider systems that shape it. I tailor therapy to your unique context, complexity, and ways of being.

No matter where you are in your life, I will meet you with warmth, grounded strength, and compassion. Together, we'll create a space where you feel truly seen and understood. My aim is to support you in moving toward greater self-trust, building healthier connections, and developing a reliable sense of comfort and safety within yourself and your world.

Call or Email Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain now for a free 15 minute consultation - (332) 239-5640

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

New York, NY 10007

(332) 239-5640

Virtual Sessions (New York)

Brooklyn, NY 11215

My website

I'm passionate about helping marginalized individuals heal and feel safe in their bodies and communities.

I specialize in Anxiety, Relationship Issues and Mother Wound: Impact of Maternal Relationships

I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Let's Connect (332) 239-5640

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

New York, NY 10007

(332) 239-5640

Virtual Sessions (New York)

Brooklyn, NY 11215

My website

I'm passionate about helping marginalized individuals heal and feel safe in their bodies and communities.

I specialize in Anxiety, Relationship Issues and Mother Wound: Impact of Maternal Relationships

I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Finances

Payment Methods

American Express, Cash, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Visa, Zelle

Insurance

Aetna
BlueCross and BlueShield
City of New York PPO
Meritain Health
Optum
Oscar Health
Oxford
Quest Behavioral Health
UnitedHealthcare UHC | UBH
Out of Network

I accept Aetna, Anthem BCBS, Optum (UHC, NYCE, Oxford, and Oscar), and Quest insurance plans and help with out-of-network reimbursement. I'll guide you through the process to ensure therapy stays affordable and accessible.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Qualifications

Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of New York / 015921 Harlene Macapga Dela Torre-McIlwain

Education and Years In Practice

Attended Antioch University New England, MA Clinical Mental Health Counseling (Trauma-Focused)

Additional Credentials

Certificate from Antioch University New England

I integrate somatic and experiential therapies such as IFS, AEDP, Coherence Therapy, and mindfulness to help you connect with your emotions and uncover unconscious emotional learnings. Together, we identify what no longer serves you and tap into your innate resilience.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

Anxiety
Relationship Issues
Mother Wound: Impact of Maternal Relationships

Expertise

ADHD
Asperger's Syndrome
Autism
Bipolar Disorder
Borderline Personality (BPD)
Chronic Pain
Codependency
Coping Skills
Depression
Family Conflict
Grief
LGBTQ+
Life Transitions
Mood Disorders
Peer Relationships
Personality Disorders
Racial Identity
Self Esteem
Stress
Trauma and PTSD
Women's Issues

I specialize in treating anxiety, depression, complex trauma, intergenerational trauma, relationship difficulties, and identity and purpose-related struggles. I am deeply interested in and have training in the use of psychedelics, such as ketamine and psilocybin, to facilitate personal transformation and healing.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

3 Endorsements

Alison Machabee

Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT

Harlene's gift is helping clients feel seen and understood. She is gentle, caring, and full of knowledge, wisdom, and lived experience. She supports clients in feeling more safe and at ease inside their lives. She has extensive training - and it shows!

Sohni P.

Licensed Master Social Worker

I recommend Harlene as a highly skilled therapist. She has a warm and compassionate style that makes clients feel comfortable and understood. With her insightful approach, Harlene helps people navigate their challenges and find their path forward.

Lindsey Washington

Licensed Master Social Worker, LMSW, LSW

Harlene is not only skilled in her approach with clients but also remarkably open-minded. She always listens without judgment and provides thoughtful and grounded insights that align with her clients long and short term goals

Client Focus

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Transgender Allied

Ethnicity

Asian

I also speak

Filipino

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Transgender Allied

Ethnicity

Asian

I also speak

Filipino

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

AEDP
Attachment-based
Coherence Therapy
Emotionally Focused
Experiential Therapy
Integrative
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Interpersonal
Ketamine-Assisted
Mindfulness-Based (MBCT)
Psychodynamic
Relational
Somatic
Strength-Based
Trauma Focused

My therapeutic framework is attachment-based and trauma-informed and includes somatic, mindfulness-based, parts work, and psychedelic harm reduction and integration therapies. My approach is grounded in the idea that presence, trust, and connection are the essential elements for any healing relationship.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (332) 239-5640

Location

Primary Location

New York, NY 10007

(332) 239-5640

Email Me

My website

Additional Location

Virtual Sessions (New York)

Brooklyn, NY 11215

(332) 239-5640

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Cities

Counties

Zips

Neighborhoods

I'm passionate about helping marginalized individuals heal and feel safe in their bodies and communities.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call for a free consultation now - (332) 239-5640

I'm passionate about helping marginalized individuals heal and feel safe in their bodies and communities.

Harlene M. Dela Torre-McIlwain

Mental Health Counselor, LMHC

Call for a free consultation now - (332) 239-5640

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