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Joan Hasibar
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
Waitlist for new clients
Through therapy, clients rebuild, balance, and strengthen from PTSD, trauma, grief, loss, anxiety, and/or depression.
Are you feeling stuck, numb, or tired all the time? Are you having trouble focusing - on your work, family and friends, your partner, or even YOURSELF? Do you experience anger, guilt, sadness, or hopelessness? Would you like to find a way to overcome this but don't know where to begin? I believe through exploration there can be freedom, from fear, guilt, shame, doubt, and uncertainty. As with all explorations, I will be your guide to walk with you through the frustration, pain, and confusion. Regardless of what we find, I will be committed to doing it with you.
Through therapy, clients rebuild, balance, and strengthen from PTSD, trauma, grief, loss, anxiety, and/or depression.
Are you feeling stuck, numb, or tired all the time? Are you having trouble focusing - on your work, family and friends, your partner, or even YOURSELF? Do you experience anger, guilt, sadness, or hopelessness? Would you like to find a way to overcome this but don't know where to begin? I believe through exploration there can be freedom, from fear, guilt, shame, doubt, and uncertainty. As with all explorations, I will be your guide to walk with you through the frustration, pain, and confusion. Regardless of what we find, I will be committed to doing it with you.
(323) 694-2024 View (323) 694-2024
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Kathryn Scott
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
Kathy is also a certified grief therapist, spiritual direction provider, and a respected Women's Retreat Leader.
Kathy Scott has a warmth and vitality, which foster a sense of trust and safety, and she has an especially strong ability to connect with and understand her clients. Her training in EMDR and psychoanalytic therapy effectively support her work-- helping heal abuse and trauma of all kinds. Because of her own personal experience, she has compassion and a heart for women who are widowed and experiencing deep losses. As a result, Kathy works well with women in transition, divorce, parenting issues, single-parenting, step-parenting, blended families, "empty nest" difficulties, and parent-caregiver concerns.
Kathy is also a certified grief therapist, spiritual direction provider, and a respected Women's Retreat Leader.
Kathy Scott has a warmth and vitality, which foster a sense of trust and safety, and she has an especially strong ability to connect with and understand her clients. Her training in EMDR and psychoanalytic therapy effectively support her work-- helping heal abuse and trauma of all kinds. Because of her own personal experience, she has compassion and a heart for women who are widowed and experiencing deep losses. As a result, Kathy works well with women in transition, divorce, parenting issues, single-parenting, step-parenting, blended families, "empty nest" difficulties, and parent-caregiver concerns.
(626) 486-9790 View (626) 486-9790
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Deborah R. Bates
Psychologist, MA, PsyD
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
I have experience working with diverse clientele, from older adults grieving the loss of their spouse to young foster children recovering from abuse.
No matter your circumstance, whether you have been struggling life-long or just recently stuck in a rut, whether you are suffering from depression or anxiety, dissatisfied with your relationships, unsure how to help your child, crippled by past pain, or simply desiring to grow, there is hope for you. I strive to make the therapy room a warm and safe environment where you feel heard and understood, and where you can honestly and openly explore who you are and who you want to be. I will meet you where you are and walk with you toward growth and healing.
I have experience working with diverse clientele, from older adults grieving the loss of their spouse to young foster children recovering from abuse.
No matter your circumstance, whether you have been struggling life-long or just recently stuck in a rut, whether you are suffering from depression or anxiety, dissatisfied with your relationships, unsure how to help your child, crippled by past pain, or simply desiring to grow, there is hope for you. I strive to make the therapy room a warm and safe environment where you feel heard and understood, and where you can honestly and openly explore who you are and who you want to be. I will meet you where you are and walk with you toward growth and healing.
(626) 317-8506 View (626) 317-8506
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Micaela Flores
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
My specialties include sexual abuse, childhood trauma, marriage crisis, relational problems, life transitions, children, trauma treatment, crisis intervention, grief and loss, blended families, adoption and foster care, and parenting issues.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and I have worked with individuals, children, adolescents, couples, and families. I believe that through collaborative work together, there is hope for changing behaviors, beliefs, and conflicts that are impeding you from having the quality of life you desire. I strive to provide an environment that is nurturing, open, and safe for you to process and grow, improving your life and level of functioning.
My specialties include sexual abuse, childhood trauma, marriage crisis, relational problems, life transitions, children, trauma treatment, crisis intervention, grief and loss, blended families, adoption and foster care, and parenting issues.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and I have worked with individuals, children, adolescents, couples, and families. I believe that through collaborative work together, there is hope for changing behaviors, beliefs, and conflicts that are impeding you from having the quality of life you desire. I strive to provide an environment that is nurturing, open, and safe for you to process and grow, improving your life and level of functioning.
(626) 587-2087 View (626) 587-2087
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Kathryn Hammond
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
Sometimes life can feel overwhelming. The troubles in our relationships can feel impossible to overcome. As a result feelings of depression, anger, and anxiety often occur. As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have helped many people overcome these debilitating emotions, improve their relationships, and move on to lead lives that are more fulfilling. My specialties include working with families, couples and individuals who have been impacted by addiction, childhood trauma, grief and loss, and change of life issues.
Sometimes life can feel overwhelming. The troubles in our relationships can feel impossible to overcome. As a result feelings of depression, anger, and anxiety often occur. As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have helped many people overcome these debilitating emotions, improve their relationships, and move on to lead lives that are more fulfilling. My specialties include working with families, couples and individuals who have been impacted by addiction, childhood trauma, grief and loss, and change of life issues.
(626) 586-3950 View (626) 586-3950
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Jade Rogers
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016  (Online Only)
I have experience treating individuals, couples, and families that may be experiencing anxiety and panic disorders, depression, grief, addiction and substance abuse, relationship/marriage issues, sexual concerns/difficulties, eating disorders, personality disorders, trauma, PTSD, infidelity, and fertility issues.
Growth and change are possible for everyone, and today proves that you are taking a very brave first step in walking a more positive path to growth, well-being, and healing. I help to guide individuals, adolescents, couples, and families through relationship and mental health challenges and I am passionate in believing that growth and change are possible for everyone. I offer a supportive, interactive, and nonjudgmental approach to therapy in which to help you deal with any and all issues that may be troubling you.
I have experience treating individuals, couples, and families that may be experiencing anxiety and panic disorders, depression, grief, addiction and substance abuse, relationship/marriage issues, sexual concerns/difficulties, eating disorders, personality disorders, trauma, PTSD, infidelity, and fertility issues.
Growth and change are possible for everyone, and today proves that you are taking a very brave first step in walking a more positive path to growth, well-being, and healing. I help to guide individuals, adolescents, couples, and families through relationship and mental health challenges and I am passionate in believing that growth and change are possible for everyone. I offer a supportive, interactive, and nonjudgmental approach to therapy in which to help you deal with any and all issues that may be troubling you.
(323) 894-9731 View (323) 894-9731
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Desiree Harris
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, LPCC
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
Hello, my name is Desiree Harris, and I am a licensed therapist (LPCC). I am licensed in California and work from a CBT ad Solution Focused framework. In my practice, I use a mix of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Solution-focused Therapy to help clients understand how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interrelated while supporting them through changes without getting stuck in problems/challenges. Goal setting with my clients is a collaborative process. I will take the time to listen to your needs and concerns, engage you in reflective conversation, and pinpoint goals that meet your needs.
Hello, my name is Desiree Harris, and I am a licensed therapist (LPCC). I am licensed in California and work from a CBT ad Solution Focused framework. In my practice, I use a mix of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Solution-focused Therapy to help clients understand how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interrelated while supporting them through changes without getting stuck in problems/challenges. Goal setting with my clients is a collaborative process. I will take the time to listen to your needs and concerns, engage you in reflective conversation, and pinpoint goals that meet your needs.
(626) 240-5890 View (626) 240-5890
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Natasha Morisawa
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
If you have a hard time remembering when you felt good or really cared about yourself, therapy CAN help. You can make changes in relationships and life that bring you DEEP SATISFACTION. I help you know yourself better so you may better help yourself. I'm interested, caring, and professional. It's been my honor to help clients find relief, deepen relationships and recover from trauma. Many of the most successful people in our communities have worked through adversity and taken non-traditional paths to success. Let me help you find yours!
If you have a hard time remembering when you felt good or really cared about yourself, therapy CAN help. You can make changes in relationships and life that bring you DEEP SATISFACTION. I help you know yourself better so you may better help yourself. I'm interested, caring, and professional. It's been my honor to help clients find relief, deepen relationships and recover from trauma. Many of the most successful people in our communities have worked through adversity and taken non-traditional paths to success. Let me help you find yours!
(626) 478-3909 View (626) 478-3909
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Relationships For Better: Individuals + Couples
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
You want to thrive in your closest relationship: we're here for you. My name is Megan Lundgren, and I am the Director of Relationships For Better, a relationship counseling private practice based in Monrovia, in the San Gabriel Valley. My team of experienced and skilled therapists specializes in helping people navigate relationship hurdles with compassion and care. Relationships are the most important part of life: let's make them better, together.
You want to thrive in your closest relationship: we're here for you. My name is Megan Lundgren, and I am the Director of Relationships For Better, a relationship counseling private practice based in Monrovia, in the San Gabriel Valley. My team of experienced and skilled therapists specializes in helping people navigate relationship hurdles with compassion and care. Relationships are the most important part of life: let's make them better, together.
(626) 587-2299 View (626) 587-2299
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Tamika Wyatt
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91017  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
Is your sink full of dirty dishes? What is your smallest dish? We all know that feeling of looking at a sink full of dirty dishes and just not knowing where to start so when things become distressing the best way to move forward is to “wash the smallest dish”. I know many of us can relate to this simple but profound metaphor, at times we become so overwhelmed by the nuances of life that gaining mastery in managing some of the “dishes” in our lives related to trauma, anxiety, depression, and stress can leave us feeling stuck or unsure of just what to do because all we can see is the sink full of dishes.
Is your sink full of dirty dishes? What is your smallest dish? We all know that feeling of looking at a sink full of dirty dishes and just not knowing where to start so when things become distressing the best way to move forward is to “wash the smallest dish”. I know many of us can relate to this simple but profound metaphor, at times we become so overwhelmed by the nuances of life that gaining mastery in managing some of the “dishes” in our lives related to trauma, anxiety, depression, and stress can leave us feeling stuck or unsure of just what to do because all we can see is the sink full of dishes.
(626) 649-3946 View (626) 649-3946
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Jaclyn Sagun
Psychologist, LCP
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
My name is Jaclyn Sagun, Ph.D. I'm a Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY28693). I have a client-centered approach to therapy. I believe that the client, not the therapist, is the expert in their own life. My job is to support and guide my clients see their strengths and increase self-awareness so that they can learn how to live a more satisfying life. My background is working with children, adolescents, and adults struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma, and psychosis. I have provided treatment in a variety of mental health settings including outpatient, community mental health, and forensic settings.
My name is Jaclyn Sagun, Ph.D. I'm a Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY28693). I have a client-centered approach to therapy. I believe that the client, not the therapist, is the expert in their own life. My job is to support and guide my clients see their strengths and increase self-awareness so that they can learn how to live a more satisfying life. My background is working with children, adolescents, and adults struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma, and psychosis. I have provided treatment in a variety of mental health settings including outpatient, community mental health, and forensic settings.
(626) 772-6091 View (626) 772-6091
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Relationships For Better
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MSMFT, AMFT
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
Isn't it true that our relationships are what life is all about? When we feel isolated in our relationship with ourselves and loved ones, we are more likely to experiencing disconnection, dysfunction and emotional pain. Though we often grow through pain, feeling stuck can feel hopeless. My goal is to walk with you through the healing process. I'm here to support you in restoring life in your relationship with yourself and others. Using a holistic approach to therapy, we'll address underlying feelings and needs to restore a vital connection with yourself and others as we walk together through the healing process.
Isn't it true that our relationships are what life is all about? When we feel isolated in our relationship with ourselves and loved ones, we are more likely to experiencing disconnection, dysfunction and emotional pain. Though we often grow through pain, feeling stuck can feel hopeless. My goal is to walk with you through the healing process. I'm here to support you in restoring life in your relationship with yourself and others. Using a holistic approach to therapy, we'll address underlying feelings and needs to restore a vital connection with yourself and others as we walk together through the healing process.
(626) 869-2713 View (626) 869-2713
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Carol Crabson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
Hello, my name is Carol Crabson. I received my bachelor's degree in Humanistic Psychology from the University of Redlands and went on to receive my master's degree in social work from the University of California Los Angeles. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and am based in Southern California working statewide via telehealth. I work with adults and youth who have anxiety, depression and other mental health issues due to experiencing trauma in their lives by using Cognitive Behavioral techniques, Internal Family Systems, EMDR and Strength based approaches.
Hello, my name is Carol Crabson. I received my bachelor's degree in Humanistic Psychology from the University of Redlands and went on to receive my master's degree in social work from the University of California Los Angeles. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and am based in Southern California working statewide via telehealth. I work with adults and youth who have anxiety, depression and other mental health issues due to experiencing trauma in their lives by using Cognitive Behavioral techniques, Internal Family Systems, EMDR and Strength based approaches.
(562) 526-6012 View (562) 526-6012
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Dr Nev Psychological Services
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
"The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else..." (Dr. Irvin D. Yalom). The process of psychotherapy is uncovering the pain, either developmental, situation specific or just existential, and working through it within the bounds of a trusting, accepting and empathetic therapeutic relationship. Throughout the process, I will help you uncover and become comfortable with your authentic self, while bringing into the consciousness some of the themes and motives that have unconsciously ruled your life and became a part of who you are.
"The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else..." (Dr. Irvin D. Yalom). The process of psychotherapy is uncovering the pain, either developmental, situation specific or just existential, and working through it within the bounds of a trusting, accepting and empathetic therapeutic relationship. Throughout the process, I will help you uncover and become comfortable with your authentic self, while bringing into the consciousness some of the themes and motives that have unconsciously ruled your life and became a part of who you are.
(626) 238-0289 View (626) 238-0289
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Dawn Wisniewski
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91017
During the seasons of life, we encounter various barriers, bumps, ditches and forks in the road that lead us in different directions leaving us feeling disconnected, stressed, anxious, depressed, confused and frustrated. As your therapist, my goal is to empower and collaboratively help you heal, resolve and work through issues, identify and explore your strengths and help you to reconnect with yourself and others in the way you envision. I offer a place that is welcoming, friendly, empathetic, supportive, nonjudgmental and safe in order for you to explore and discuss the issues that are impacting you and your life.
During the seasons of life, we encounter various barriers, bumps, ditches and forks in the road that lead us in different directions leaving us feeling disconnected, stressed, anxious, depressed, confused and frustrated. As your therapist, my goal is to empower and collaboratively help you heal, resolve and work through issues, identify and explore your strengths and help you to reconnect with yourself and others in the way you envision. I offer a place that is welcoming, friendly, empathetic, supportive, nonjudgmental and safe in order for you to explore and discuss the issues that are impacting you and your life.
(626) 210-2367 View (626) 210-2367
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Michele Wilkens
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
We need support at different times and for various reasons. Right now, may be that time for you. Do you have feelings that are overwhelming or experience lack of feeling, and doing things is becoming more difficult? You may have feelings that are painful, intolerable, empty, lost, or feel just stuck. Do you ever wonder what would it be like to feel ok? Imagine feeling some relief, calmness, and peace. How essential is it to better understand and feel good about you? It may not be easy, but we can work together for you to feel better and content with your life.
We need support at different times and for various reasons. Right now, may be that time for you. Do you have feelings that are overwhelming or experience lack of feeling, and doing things is becoming more difficult? You may have feelings that are painful, intolerable, empty, lost, or feel just stuck. Do you ever wonder what would it be like to feel ok? Imagine feeling some relief, calmness, and peace. How essential is it to better understand and feel good about you? It may not be easy, but we can work together for you to feel better and content with your life.
(323) 312-5494 View (323) 312-5494
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Jennifer Goss
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91017
Allow me to assist you in finding potential solutions to obstacles and challenges that you may be facing by guiding you to rediscovering your resiliency. It is my hope to help you bring forth and strengthen your personal capabilities. We will focus on utilizing effective coping strategies to manage challenging emotions, and work on enhancing your personal strengths.
Allow me to assist you in finding potential solutions to obstacles and challenges that you may be facing by guiding you to rediscovering your resiliency. It is my hope to help you bring forth and strengthen your personal capabilities. We will focus on utilizing effective coping strategies to manage challenging emotions, and work on enhancing your personal strengths.
(626) 240-5761 View (626) 240-5761
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Tammy Kealey Neuropsychologist
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
Have you noticed a change in memory or find it harder to focus or multitask? Has there been a change in mood? A variety of conditions impact our thinking and influence how we function at home, school, and work. Fortunately, neuropsychological assessments can help identify what neurological challenges might be impacting your day-to-day. I'm a clinical neuropsychologist and I offer comprehensive evaluations for individuals with neurological and psychiatric disorders, including (but not limited to) ADHD, stroke, traumatic head injury, dementia, depression, anxiety, and trauma.
Have you noticed a change in memory or find it harder to focus or multitask? Has there been a change in mood? A variety of conditions impact our thinking and influence how we function at home, school, and work. Fortunately, neuropsychological assessments can help identify what neurological challenges might be impacting your day-to-day. I'm a clinical neuropsychologist and I offer comprehensive evaluations for individuals with neurological and psychiatric disorders, including (but not limited to) ADHD, stroke, traumatic head injury, dementia, depression, anxiety, and trauma.
(626) 779-9082 View (626) 779-9082
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Lisa Kim
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Monrovia, CA 91016
Hi, I'm Lisa Kim. I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC 49076) who is client-centered and driven to collaborate with clients in search of solution-focused ideas to overcome barriers. I am an experienced psychotherapist and MFT with a demonstrated history of working in community mental health and the hospital/healthcare industry. My specializations include child/adolescent developmental psychology, family systems, trauma-focused therapy, solution-focused therapy, and spiritual counseling since 2007.
Hi, I'm Lisa Kim. I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC 49076) who is client-centered and driven to collaborate with clients in search of solution-focused ideas to overcome barriers. I am an experienced psychotherapist and MFT with a demonstrated history of working in community mental health and the hospital/healthcare industry. My specializations include child/adolescent developmental psychology, family systems, trauma-focused therapy, solution-focused therapy, and spiritual counseling since 2007.
(951) 468-9287 View (951) 468-9287
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Theresa Lopez
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, CCTP
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Monrovia, CA 91016
Searching for a therapist is a vulnerable decision. Often, we don’t know what causes feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger, & disconnection from our lives & our loved ones. My therapeutic style is grounded in process-based therapy, with a focus on creating an emotionally safe environment to decrease internal shame & explore life concerns & struggles. I assist with identifying maladaptive patterns & internal strengths to sustain meaningful change. Each person’s experience is unique & includes nuances that deserve great emotional care, collaboration, & respect.
Searching for a therapist is a vulnerable decision. Often, we don’t know what causes feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger, & disconnection from our lives & our loved ones. My therapeutic style is grounded in process-based therapy, with a focus on creating an emotionally safe environment to decrease internal shame & explore life concerns & struggles. I assist with identifying maladaptive patterns & internal strengths to sustain meaningful change. Each person’s experience is unique & includes nuances that deserve great emotional care, collaboration, & respect.
(909) 552-8496 View (909) 552-8496
Grief Therapists

How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.