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Kevin J Woolums
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, PhD Can
Verified Verified
Long Beach, CA 90814
When deciding to see a therapist, it is important to find a fit that is right for you. This is why my practice aims to provide deep and safe sessions that ignite real insight, exploration, hope and change. You need a safe space, knowledgeable support and a collaborative effort. With over a decade of working in counseling psychology and extensive postgraduate work in depth psychology, dreams, and more, I am confident that our time together can help you discover the infections beneath difficult symptoms, the hidden treasure within our greatest obstacles and desired support at a pace that is right for you.
When deciding to see a therapist, it is important to find a fit that is right for you. This is why my practice aims to provide deep and safe sessions that ignite real insight, exploration, hope and change. You need a safe space, knowledgeable support and a collaborative effort. With over a decade of working in counseling psychology and extensive postgraduate work in depth psychology, dreams, and more, I am confident that our time together can help you discover the infections beneath difficult symptoms, the hidden treasure within our greatest obstacles and desired support at a pace that is right for you.
(916) 571-0197 View (916) 571-0197

Online Therapists

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Helen Land
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Los Angeles, CA 90010
My specialties include trauma recovery, loss, and bereavement recovery, depression, and anxiety treatment, and couples therapy.
If you have difficulty forgiving yourself for what you have done, said, or failed to say have relationship conflict, feel depressed, anxious, or have trauma, you need a therapist who is empathetic, knowledgeable, and experienced. In my many years practicing I've had the pleasure of teaching, writing, and helping individuals, couples, and families with vastly different problems. As everyone is different, I adapt to your particular needs. I listen and I partner with you to accomplish what works best for you as I know a wide array of treatment approaches. In fact, I have taught them. I have a very broad knowledge base to draw upon.
My specialties include trauma recovery, loss, and bereavement recovery, depression, and anxiety treatment, and couples therapy.
If you have difficulty forgiving yourself for what you have done, said, or failed to say have relationship conflict, feel depressed, anxious, or have trauma, you need a therapist who is empathetic, knowledgeable, and experienced. In my many years practicing I've had the pleasure of teaching, writing, and helping individuals, couples, and families with vastly different problems. As everyone is different, I adapt to your particular needs. I listen and I partner with you to accomplish what works best for you as I know a wide array of treatment approaches. In fact, I have taught them. I have a very broad knowledge base to draw upon.
(323) 271-4629 View (323) 271-4629
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Kate Henderson Bartenhagen
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Los Angeles, CA 90048  (Online Only)
Do you question your purpose in life? Are you still looking for your "passion?" Do you want a deeper connection with others? Do you sometimes feel that there must be more to life than working and buying things? I am passionate about helping you answer these questions. My approach to mental health is collaborative and includes a strong belief that people strive towards wellness and have within them the capacity to heal and grow. I see individuals, couples, and families age 15 and up. I treat couples, sex/infidelity, substance use/abuse, mood disorders, grief and loss, life struggles.
Do you question your purpose in life? Are you still looking for your "passion?" Do you want a deeper connection with others? Do you sometimes feel that there must be more to life than working and buying things? I am passionate about helping you answer these questions. My approach to mental health is collaborative and includes a strong belief that people strive towards wellness and have within them the capacity to heal and grow. I see individuals, couples, and families age 15 and up. I treat couples, sex/infidelity, substance use/abuse, mood disorders, grief and loss, life struggles.
(408) 840-4106 View (408) 840-4106
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Sara Semal
Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Los Angeles, CA 90042
I like to be real with people. I find the best way to work with individuals and couples is to be present, ask the right questions, and give honest feedback. Whether you are coming to therapy for personal growth, a relationship or family issue, healing from loss, past trauma, or anything else, I want to explore who you are, how your life experiences have affected you and your relationships, ways in which those experiences keep replaying themselves, and how to get you out of the cycle. My approach is to provide a comfortable and real space to talk, explore and work on feeling better.
I like to be real with people. I find the best way to work with individuals and couples is to be present, ask the right questions, and give honest feedback. Whether you are coming to therapy for personal growth, a relationship or family issue, healing from loss, past trauma, or anything else, I want to explore who you are, how your life experiences have affected you and your relationships, ways in which those experiences keep replaying themselves, and how to get you out of the cycle. My approach is to provide a comfortable and real space to talk, explore and work on feeling better.
(773) 757-5042 View (773) 757-5042
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Tracy R Zemansky
Psychologist, PhD, CSAT-S, MFT
Verified Verified
Santa Monica, CA 90405
I am a licensed Clinical Psychologist, Clinical Sex Addiction Therapist - Supervisor, and licensed MFT with a private practice in Santa Monica, California since 1994. I offer interpersonal psychotherapy with individuals, families, and groups as well as psychological testing and assessment. My areas of expertise include: substance and process addictions, trauma/abuse, positive psychology, impaired professionals and first-responders, as well as grief/loss, disfigurement, and cross-cultural issues. I provide traditional, forensic, and pre-employment psychological assessment as well as Collaborative/Therapeutic evaluations.
I am a licensed Clinical Psychologist, Clinical Sex Addiction Therapist - Supervisor, and licensed MFT with a private practice in Santa Monica, California since 1994. I offer interpersonal psychotherapy with individuals, families, and groups as well as psychological testing and assessment. My areas of expertise include: substance and process addictions, trauma/abuse, positive psychology, impaired professionals and first-responders, as well as grief/loss, disfigurement, and cross-cultural issues. I provide traditional, forensic, and pre-employment psychological assessment as well as Collaborative/Therapeutic evaluations.
(424) 396-0349 View (424) 396-0349
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David Ibrahim
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LAADC , E500RYT, EMDR, ISTDP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Los Angeles, CA 90025
Aren’t you tired of anxiety, loss, suffering or dealing with emotional challenges? From one to several sessions you can get rapid relief from your symptoms.
Are past traumatic experiences, being an adult child of a dysfunctional home, incest survival experiences, addiction issues, phobia, panic, anxiety, C-PTSD or depression affecting your success? Are distractions impacting your optimal performance abilities at work, in your intimate relationships, or in relationships with family members or with yourself? Are you surviving instead of thriving? I provide accelerated psychotherapy for individuals and couples who are challenged by performance loss and emotional unhappiness. Also offer Diagnosis evaluation for addiction, mood, personality, and adult Autism spectrum. HSP and Kink friendly.
Aren’t you tired of anxiety, loss, suffering or dealing with emotional challenges? From one to several sessions you can get rapid relief from your symptoms.
Are past traumatic experiences, being an adult child of a dysfunctional home, incest survival experiences, addiction issues, phobia, panic, anxiety, C-PTSD or depression affecting your success? Are distractions impacting your optimal performance abilities at work, in your intimate relationships, or in relationships with family members or with yourself? Are you surviving instead of thriving? I provide accelerated psychotherapy for individuals and couples who are challenged by performance loss and emotional unhappiness. Also offer Diagnosis evaluation for addiction, mood, personality, and adult Autism spectrum. HSP and Kink friendly.
(323) 366-3016 View (323) 366-3016
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Carmela Floro
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Redondo Beach, CA 90278  (Online Only)
I can help guide you towards improving important relationships in your life: With yourself, family, at work, in love, and with others. If you are experiencing betrayal, doubt, confusion, sadness, anxiety, anger, loss, fear and hurt, we will look at solutions,options, choices, value, expression, attitudes, negative influences, strengths, abilities, and relations affecting your life. We will explore differences in values, perspective, backgrounds, communication styles, and evaluate trust, honesty, respect, expectations and relational patterns. My work is holistic, integrative, and solution-focused (https://www.carmelaflorolmft.com).
I can help guide you towards improving important relationships in your life: With yourself, family, at work, in love, and with others. If you are experiencing betrayal, doubt, confusion, sadness, anxiety, anger, loss, fear and hurt, we will look at solutions,options, choices, value, expression, attitudes, negative influences, strengths, abilities, and relations affecting your life. We will explore differences in values, perspective, backgrounds, communication styles, and evaluate trust, honesty, respect, expectations and relational patterns. My work is holistic, integrative, and solution-focused (https://www.carmelaflorolmft.com).
(818) 850-5521 View (818) 850-5521
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Diane R Gehart
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Agoura Hills, CA 91301
Waitlist for new clients
With over 30 years of experience, I provide effective therapy to individuals, couples, adolescents, children, and families, addressing issues such as depression, anxiety, OCD, child and adult trauma, couples issues, divorce, parenting, child/teen concerns, sexuality, work-related issues, life transitions, eating disorders, personality disorders, and grief.
Whether you are looking for a therapist because of recent difficulties or challenges that started years ago, you will find that I offer a rare combination of rigorous training with a down-to-earth style to help you achieve your goals. As an established professor and author in the field, I am well-versed in the latest research to ensure your problems are resolved as efficiently as possible using the most effective methods available. If you have had difficulty connecting with past therapists or are concerned that I might act like therapists in the movies, I believe you will find my style refreshingly more relatable.
With over 30 years of experience, I provide effective therapy to individuals, couples, adolescents, children, and families, addressing issues such as depression, anxiety, OCD, child and adult trauma, couples issues, divorce, parenting, child/teen concerns, sexuality, work-related issues, life transitions, eating disorders, personality disorders, and grief.
Whether you are looking for a therapist because of recent difficulties or challenges that started years ago, you will find that I offer a rare combination of rigorous training with a down-to-earth style to help you achieve your goals. As an established professor and author in the field, I am well-versed in the latest research to ensure your problems are resolved as efficiently as possible using the most effective methods available. If you have had difficulty connecting with past therapists or are concerned that I might act like therapists in the movies, I believe you will find my style refreshingly more relatable.
(805) 367-5822 View (805) 367-5822
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West Valley Counseling Center
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MFT
Verified Verified
Ventura, CA 93003
Our diverse staff are trained to address the specific needs of you and/or your family including trauma recovery, marital and family issues, life transitions and loss, depression, anxiety, abandonment, self-esteem issues, career confusion, and many more.
West Valley Counseling Center (WVCC) offers a wide range of therapeutic interventions and services to bring affordable mental health services to the San Fernando Valley. WVCC is a non-profit community mental health center that has been serving the Greater Los Angeles region for well over a decade. Our qualified therapists work with individuals, relationships, traditional families, and non-traditional families to help ease life's burdens and to provide specialty services.
Our diverse staff are trained to address the specific needs of you and/or your family including trauma recovery, marital and family issues, life transitions and loss, depression, anxiety, abandonment, self-esteem issues, career confusion, and many more.
West Valley Counseling Center (WVCC) offers a wide range of therapeutic interventions and services to bring affordable mental health services to the San Fernando Valley. WVCC is a non-profit community mental health center that has been serving the Greater Los Angeles region for well over a decade. Our qualified therapists work with individuals, relationships, traditional families, and non-traditional families to help ease life's burdens and to provide specialty services.
(805) 620-8046 View (805) 620-8046
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Mindful Health Solutions
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
Los Angeles, CA 90036
I practice general psychology and works with clients who are struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma, prenatal and postpartum issues, anger, parenting challenges, and couples issues. I also have a concentrated interest in the family of origin trauma.
I practice general psychology and works with clients who are struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma, prenatal and postpartum issues, anger, parenting challenges, and couples issues. I also have a concentrated interest in the family of origin trauma.
(323) 529-0824 View (323) 529-0824
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Mindfulpath Inc
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Calabasas, CA 91302
Mindfulpath Inc is a healing space encompassed by a variety of treatment professionals, providing a wide array of services, and working as one connected team to provide quality mental health care. Our community of practitioners make available a wide array of services from individual and group therapy to nutrition and yoga all in one location.  Mindfulpath understands there is no one healing modality that works for all. We take the time to get to know YOU based on YOUR uniqueness and together we create a customized plan to best suit your needs as you walk on YOUR mindfulpath. 
Mindfulpath Inc is a healing space encompassed by a variety of treatment professionals, providing a wide array of services, and working as one connected team to provide quality mental health care. Our community of practitioners make available a wide array of services from individual and group therapy to nutrition and yoga all in one location.  Mindfulpath understands there is no one healing modality that works for all. We take the time to get to know YOU based on YOUR uniqueness and together we create a customized plan to best suit your needs as you walk on YOUR mindfulpath. 
(310) 909-8164 View (310) 909-8164
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Clarity & Growth Center for Psychotherapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Pasadena, CA 91101
Finding a therapist who's the right fit can be stressful and time-consuming. Thank you for taking a minute to see if one of our therapists is right for you. You may be feeling stressed, worried, anxious, angry, hopeless - or all of the above! - and you just want to feel better. Maybe there's a problem you need to talk through, find some clarity around, and take action on. Or perhaps you're looking for someone who can help you clarify your goals, develop your potential, and bring your dreams into reality. In any case, we'd love to help!
Finding a therapist who's the right fit can be stressful and time-consuming. Thank you for taking a minute to see if one of our therapists is right for you. You may be feeling stressed, worried, anxious, angry, hopeless - or all of the above! - and you just want to feel better. Maybe there's a problem you need to talk through, find some clarity around, and take action on. Or perhaps you're looking for someone who can help you clarify your goals, develop your potential, and bring your dreams into reality. In any case, we'd love to help!
(626) 765-1753 View (626) 765-1753
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Transformative Marriage and Family Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
For 25 years I have been doing a specific therapy that is structured with a beginning, middle, and end. It is healing from emotional immaturity due to childhood trauma. It is deep rooted therapy with actual tools and healing of wounds that stop us from living to full potential . Many have referred to it as the most transformative therapy that leads to generations of healing. Ideal client is high functioning with a need to recover from love addiction or love avoidance. I was trained by Pia Melody for the last 10 years. I am passionate about this therapy because of what it does for people. This is a therapy that has a structure.
For 25 years I have been doing a specific therapy that is structured with a beginning, middle, and end. It is healing from emotional immaturity due to childhood trauma. It is deep rooted therapy with actual tools and healing of wounds that stop us from living to full potential . Many have referred to it as the most transformative therapy that leads to generations of healing. Ideal client is high functioning with a need to recover from love addiction or love avoidance. I was trained by Pia Melody for the last 10 years. I am passionate about this therapy because of what it does for people. This is a therapy that has a structure.
(760) 263-6981 View (760) 263-6981
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Caring Connected
Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT, APCC, LMFT, LPCC, LCSW
Verified Verified
10 Endorsed
Valencia, CA 91355
Are you feeling disconnected, stressed, stuck, scared, or angry? Are you repeating relationships, patterns, or situations and wishing you could break the cycle? Maybe life feels more frustrating or stressful than usual. Sometimes we aren't sure what causes our distress, but we know we're not reaching our potential for health, happiness, or success. And even if we know what the issue is, change can feel impossible. That's where our team of qualified professionals can help. Our job isn't to judge you or your choices, it's to help you understand the root causes of your issues and work together to create a custom plan for change.
Are you feeling disconnected, stressed, stuck, scared, or angry? Are you repeating relationships, patterns, or situations and wishing you could break the cycle? Maybe life feels more frustrating or stressful than usual. Sometimes we aren't sure what causes our distress, but we know we're not reaching our potential for health, happiness, or success. And even if we know what the issue is, change can feel impossible. That's where our team of qualified professionals can help. Our job isn't to judge you or your choices, it's to help you understand the root causes of your issues and work together to create a custom plan for change.
(707) 317-6092 View (707) 317-6092
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Aviva Euripides
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, lacana
Verified Verified
Los Angeles, CA 90028  (Online Only)
I am an experienced clinician and gauge our work by the progress you are making towards your treatment goals. I have extensive experience as a clinical consultant and provide consultation for clinicians. I have supervised clinicians in treatment settings ranging from the counselor's office to acute mental health facilities. I have a professional background in the arts and work with self defined meaning, identity and creative processes. My work specifically is in Lacanalysis and I am in ongoing formation as such with Jacques Siboni at Lutecium Paris, www.lutecium.org.
I am an experienced clinician and gauge our work by the progress you are making towards your treatment goals. I have extensive experience as a clinical consultant and provide consultation for clinicians. I have supervised clinicians in treatment settings ranging from the counselor's office to acute mental health facilities. I have a professional background in the arts and work with self defined meaning, identity and creative processes. My work specifically is in Lacanalysis and I am in ongoing formation as such with Jacques Siboni at Lutecium Paris, www.lutecium.org.
(415) 301-5219 View (415) 301-5219
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Marco Zahedi
MD, MPH
Verified Verified
Laguna Hills, CA 92653
we specialize in working with mental health and addiction clients and address addictions ranging from benzodiazepine use to opioid withdrawals, we have an outpatient clinic that focuses on what our clients needs are and working on underlying traumas that caused there use or mental health disorder.
we specialize in working with mental health and addiction clients and address addictions ranging from benzodiazepine use to opioid withdrawals, we have an outpatient clinic that focuses on what our clients needs are and working on underlying traumas that caused there use or mental health disorder.
(714) 515-7919 View (714) 515-7919
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Nanette Sebourn Couples-Individual-Sex specialist
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
Temecula, CA 92590
Ms. Sebourn is IMPARTIAL, KIND AND ACCURATE. She treats individuals and couples AT THE SAME TIME. She specializes in sex therapy for individuals and couples. She is a Psychologist, a Healer and an Educator so her treatments use all three modes to help with any issue. Her hours are 12noon to 7pm to accommodate everyone's schedule on Mondays thru Thursday. She wrote a book titled "Love with a Brain" ( ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0578661698 ) and it is available on Amazon. She offers a free meet & greet so please call to find out more. She honestly cares about her clients. See for yourself at Nanettesebourn.com
Ms. Sebourn is IMPARTIAL, KIND AND ACCURATE. She treats individuals and couples AT THE SAME TIME. She specializes in sex therapy for individuals and couples. She is a Psychologist, a Healer and an Educator so her treatments use all three modes to help with any issue. Her hours are 12noon to 7pm to accommodate everyone's schedule on Mondays thru Thursday. She wrote a book titled "Love with a Brain" ( ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0578661698 ) and it is available on Amazon. She offers a free meet & greet so please call to find out more. She honestly cares about her clients. See for yourself at Nanettesebourn.com
(951) 291-0563 View (951) 291-0563
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Counseling Services, Inc.
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, PhD, MFT, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Culver City, CA 90230  (Online Only)
At Counseling Services/LA Peace of Mind.com, we guide people to the light and empower themselves to heal. We help people who seek trust and freedom to be expressive, address life challenges, and barriers that interfere with growth and achieving life's goals. Now offering Neurofeedback in 2024
At Counseling Services/LA Peace of Mind.com, we guide people to the light and empower themselves to heal. We help people who seek trust and freedom to be expressive, address life challenges, and barriers that interfere with growth and achieving life's goals. Now offering Neurofeedback in 2024
(424) 353-4257 View (424) 353-4257
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Tom Gigliotti
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LISW-S, ACHT, SAP
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Corona, CA 92883
I have 38 years experience as a life change specialist. If you want to feel better today book an appointment now. The experience I have as teacher and research specialist will give you the life you want today. My clients come from all walks of life and have indicated what they most like is my client-centered approach to treatment. If you are ready to do a deep dive into life and and create the life you have been aspiring to by removing blocks to healthy living then call me and set up an appt. I provide video mental health tips also on my YouTube channel which is (use the character (at) tomgigliotti6677.
I have 38 years experience as a life change specialist. If you want to feel better today book an appointment now. The experience I have as teacher and research specialist will give you the life you want today. My clients come from all walks of life and have indicated what they most like is my client-centered approach to treatment. If you are ready to do a deep dive into life and and create the life you have been aspiring to by removing blocks to healthy living then call me and set up an appt. I provide video mental health tips also on my YouTube channel which is (use the character (at) tomgigliotti6677.
(714) 582-4009 View (714) 582-4009
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Chandler Sims Chang
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Los Angeles, CA 90017
Dr. Chang, founder of Therapy Lab and TL Kids (formerly Golden Hour Therapy), has provided science-based psychological treatment in downtown Los Angeles since 2008. Using evidence-based treatments and a compassionate approach, she offers expertise based on a decade of experience at prestigious research-oriented psychology programs, including UCLA and NYU's Child Study Center, with degrees from Princeton University and The University of Georgia.
Dr. Chang, founder of Therapy Lab and TL Kids (formerly Golden Hour Therapy), has provided science-based psychological treatment in downtown Los Angeles since 2008. Using evidence-based treatments and a compassionate approach, she offers expertise based on a decade of experience at prestigious research-oriented psychology programs, including UCLA and NYU's Child Study Center, with degrees from Princeton University and The University of Georgia.
(323) 275-9242 View (323) 275-9242
Grief Therapists

How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.