Photo of Cyndee M Baldwin, Counselor in 98020, WA
Cyndee M Baldwin
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020
I will help you to have more meaningful relationships in life, utilize your talents and abilities more fully, maintain a more truthful and accurate self-esteem, have more satisfying sexual relationships, understand yourself and others in a more meaningful way, and face life's challenges with greater freedom and flexibility. My specialty is relational psychotherapy for individuals, couples, and groups which aids in transformation for most issues in life: grief, loss, anxiety, depression and transition, to name a few. Take the step today toward your own transformation and healing, a lifelong investment.
I will help you to have more meaningful relationships in life, utilize your talents and abilities more fully, maintain a more truthful and accurate self-esteem, have more satisfying sexual relationships, understand yourself and others in a more meaningful way, and face life's challenges with greater freedom and flexibility. My specialty is relational psychotherapy for individuals, couples, and groups which aids in transformation for most issues in life: grief, loss, anxiety, depression and transition, to name a few. Take the step today toward your own transformation and healing, a lifelong investment.
(425) 358-3404 View (425) 358-3404
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Jan Santora-Farrar
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
Psychotherapy for individuals and groups regarding life issues: work, aging, health, relationships, finances, loss and grief, and experiencing the Self. I facilitate adaptation to ongoing living loss such as a medical diagnosis, forced estrangement, or the failing health of a beloved family member. Coping skills are formed early to survive in family-of-origin, which is a microcosm of the culture. As we age, these skills become less adaptive, causing pain. Successful transition through life involves changing ways of coping with life-enhancing skills, and building resilience through healing attachment issues and trauma.
Psychotherapy for individuals and groups regarding life issues: work, aging, health, relationships, finances, loss and grief, and experiencing the Self. I facilitate adaptation to ongoing living loss such as a medical diagnosis, forced estrangement, or the failing health of a beloved family member. Coping skills are formed early to survive in family-of-origin, which is a microcosm of the culture. As we age, these skills become less adaptive, causing pain. Successful transition through life involves changing ways of coping with life-enhancing skills, and building resilience through healing attachment issues and trauma.
(206) 569-4835 View (206) 569-4835
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Matthew David Markell
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
My areas of focus for therapy include the treatment of Anxiety, Depression, grief and loss, stress management, parenting skills, life transitions, personal growth, spiritual exploration and healing from religious trauma. I provide an LGBTQIA-friendly environment for individual and family therapy treatment.
My areas of focus for therapy include the treatment of Anxiety, Depression, grief and loss, stress management, parenting skills, life transitions, personal growth, spiritual exploration and healing from religious trauma. I provide an LGBTQIA-friendly environment for individual and family therapy treatment.
(425) 589-9900 View (425) 589-9900
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Carolyn Akhtar
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSWAIC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
I am accepting new clients. There is no question life has its ups and downs. Sometimes we all just need a little extra support. I work with people from many walks of life dealing with many different situations. I treat adolescents, adults, couples and families with anxiety, depression, stress, grief, life changes, relationships, addiction, trauma and many other challenges.
I am accepting new clients. There is no question life has its ups and downs. Sometimes we all just need a little extra support. I work with people from many walks of life dealing with many different situations. I treat adolescents, adults, couples and families with anxiety, depression, stress, grief, life changes, relationships, addiction, trauma and many other challenges.
(425) 532-3265 View (425) 532-3265
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Monique Ngo
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
I am an integrative and culturally sensitive driven therapist who works with teens and adults to unlearn systemic inequalities and process intergenerational trauma, grief, and anxiety, so you can confidently befriend your feelings, navigate life transitions, step into authenticity, and feel more at home in yourself. Often times when we are going through something difficult, it can be hard to see our way out. This may lead to spiraling thoughts, a lost sense of security & safety, thinking "I'm not good enough", consistently feeling on edge, and feeling disconnected from ourselves and others.
I am an integrative and culturally sensitive driven therapist who works with teens and adults to unlearn systemic inequalities and process intergenerational trauma, grief, and anxiety, so you can confidently befriend your feelings, navigate life transitions, step into authenticity, and feel more at home in yourself. Often times when we are going through something difficult, it can be hard to see our way out. This may lead to spiraling thoughts, a lost sense of security & safety, thinking "I'm not good enough", consistently feeling on edge, and feeling disconnected from ourselves and others.
(206) 823-2701 View (206) 823-2701
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Anne Davis
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
I work with women who are struggling with symptoms related to trauma, grief, depression, and chronic illness. I believe it is possible not only to recover, but to achieve greater resilience and post-traumatic growth. My goal will always be to help you find hope and strength in your journey while building greater insights and coping strategies. I hope to support and empower you to rise unbroken from whatever challenges you may face.
I work with women who are struggling with symptoms related to trauma, grief, depression, and chronic illness. I believe it is possible not only to recover, but to achieve greater resilience and post-traumatic growth. My goal will always be to help you find hope and strength in your journey while building greater insights and coping strategies. I hope to support and empower you to rise unbroken from whatever challenges you may face.
(425) 470-6625 View (425) 470-6625
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Ian Jacobson
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
Working with a broad spectrum of clients dealing with such issues as grief, loss, trauma, shame, depression, anxiety, stress management, identity issues, and relational problems, my desire is to help them to move beyond merely coping with these issues and to find true healing and freedom and, ultimately, to live more whole, fulfilling, and flourishing lives.
*Currently accepting new patients* Hi, there! I'm Ian. If you are feeling down, anxious, or stuck or are struggling in your relationships, I would like to help. I believe that meaningful personal connection—feeling understood, accepted, & loved—is at the heart of well-being, so my desire is to provide a genuine, warm, & safe presence in which my clients feel comfortable sharing their stories & exploring how their past has shaped them & their experience of the present. Though I use a psychodynamic approach, I tailor my approach to meet my clients' needs, integrating techniques from various approaches like CBT, gestalt, & mindfulness.
Working with a broad spectrum of clients dealing with such issues as grief, loss, trauma, shame, depression, anxiety, stress management, identity issues, and relational problems, my desire is to help them to move beyond merely coping with these issues and to find true healing and freedom and, ultimately, to live more whole, fulfilling, and flourishing lives.
*Currently accepting new patients* Hi, there! I'm Ian. If you are feeling down, anxious, or stuck or are struggling in your relationships, I would like to help. I believe that meaningful personal connection—feeling understood, accepted, & loved—is at the heart of well-being, so my desire is to provide a genuine, warm, & safe presence in which my clients feel comfortable sharing their stories & exploring how their past has shaped them & their experience of the present. Though I use a psychodynamic approach, I tailor my approach to meet my clients' needs, integrating techniques from various approaches like CBT, gestalt, & mindfulness.
(206) 531-7328 View (206) 531-7328
Photo of Heather Fisher, Marriage & Family Therapist in 98020, WA
Heather Fisher
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MedFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I work with children, adolescents, adults, individuals, families, couples and typically address concerns related to depression, anxiety, self-esteem, grief, parenting struggles, caregiver burnout, PTSD, etc.
First and foremost I believe that you are the expert on your life, not me. I will begin with openness about what you are bringing to counseling, respect for you and your family, curiosity about who you are and what you believe, as well as accountability to my power in the room. I emphasize the strengths I see in each individual and system and ask that you try on new perspectives and actions that may help you better reach your goals. I encourage you to draw on experiences from your past in order to help you better understand your current choices, feelings, and relationships.
I work with children, adolescents, adults, individuals, families, couples and typically address concerns related to depression, anxiety, self-esteem, grief, parenting struggles, caregiver burnout, PTSD, etc.
First and foremost I believe that you are the expert on your life, not me. I will begin with openness about what you are bringing to counseling, respect for you and your family, curiosity about who you are and what you believe, as well as accountability to my power in the room. I emphasize the strengths I see in each individual and system and ask that you try on new perspectives and actions that may help you better reach your goals. I encourage you to draw on experiences from your past in order to help you better understand your current choices, feelings, and relationships.
(425) 651-6552 View (425) 651-6552
Photo of Jessica Wong Life Healing Therapy And Counseling, Marriage & Family Therapist in 98020, WA
Jessica Wong Life Healing Therapy And Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
Waitlist for new clients
Please email to join the waitlist. Life can be meaningful even when painful events happen. I believe the path out of suffering is when we pass through our struggles, instead of running away from them. I am honored to be your secure emotional support through your personal and relational struggles. I hold a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and work with a broad spectrum of challenges including depression, anxiety, trauma, and substance addiction. I help my clients improve their self-esteem, process grief, and heal from painful events. My clients often find strength, relief, acceptance, and growth from working with me.
Please email to join the waitlist. Life can be meaningful even when painful events happen. I believe the path out of suffering is when we pass through our struggles, instead of running away from them. I am honored to be your secure emotional support through your personal and relational struggles. I hold a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and work with a broad spectrum of challenges including depression, anxiety, trauma, and substance addiction. I help my clients improve their self-esteem, process grief, and heal from painful events. My clients often find strength, relief, acceptance, and growth from working with me.
(425) 217-3170 View (425) 217-3170
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Elaine Willey
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
For over 20 years, I've worked with individuals and couples struggling with relationship problems, challenging life transitions like mid-life crises, job stress, grief and loss, and living authentically. I also specialize in depression, anxiety, stress and chronic health issues. You're not alone in your struggle once we begin to work together. I listen deeply to really understand you as we work to transform your issues. I offer sessions in my Edmonds office, by phone, or by video conference.
For over 20 years, I've worked with individuals and couples struggling with relationship problems, challenging life transitions like mid-life crises, job stress, grief and loss, and living authentically. I also specialize in depression, anxiety, stress and chronic health issues. You're not alone in your struggle once we begin to work together. I listen deeply to really understand you as we work to transform your issues. I offer sessions in my Edmonds office, by phone, or by video conference.
(206) 455-7166 View (206) 455-7166
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Annie DeWaal
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020
The clients I work with are struggling with one--or several--of the following: trauma, relationship issues, anxiety, depression, terminal illness, loss and grief, issues of abuse (psychological, sexual, physical), loneliness and disconnection.
Therapy is a safe place to grieve what hurts and build hope for a life of thriving, not merely surviving. Together, we'll find ways to calm body and mind, connect with yourself and others, and move forward with intention. Our work together will be a safe place to be who you are. Healing, freedom, and wholeness are possible, and I would love to be a part of your journey.
The clients I work with are struggling with one--or several--of the following: trauma, relationship issues, anxiety, depression, terminal illness, loss and grief, issues of abuse (psychological, sexual, physical), loneliness and disconnection.
Therapy is a safe place to grieve what hurts and build hope for a life of thriving, not merely surviving. Together, we'll find ways to calm body and mind, connect with yourself and others, and move forward with intention. Our work together will be a safe place to be who you are. Healing, freedom, and wholeness are possible, and I would love to be a part of your journey.
(206) 207-9015 View (206) 207-9015
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Colleen C. Holbrook
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW, CMHS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020
Are you feeling anxious, depressed or in a battle with your body? Do you have trouble identifying your needs, establishing boundaries or settling limits. Do you put everyone else first? Are you frustrated by the challenges of ADHD? Are you a parent confused by your child's behavior? Are you someone who has experienced abuse and neglect growing up? Have you been able to move past the pain of grief and loss? Are you feeling disrespected and overlooked in your life? My clients are able to open up about their lives, their secrets and struggles in a warm, safe environment free of judgement where there is trust and understanding.
Are you feeling anxious, depressed or in a battle with your body? Do you have trouble identifying your needs, establishing boundaries or settling limits. Do you put everyone else first? Are you frustrated by the challenges of ADHD? Are you a parent confused by your child's behavior? Are you someone who has experienced abuse and neglect growing up? Have you been able to move past the pain of grief and loss? Are you feeling disrespected and overlooked in your life? My clients are able to open up about their lives, their secrets and struggles in a warm, safe environment free of judgement where there is trust and understanding.
(206) 457-3540 View (206) 457-3540
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Frances Murphy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Frances Murphy, MSW, LICSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020
If you are struggling in your daily life with symptoms of anxiety, depression, relationship issues, conflict, grief and loss, stress or PTSD or you’re burnt out at work, We can partner to help you figure out a way to honor your true nature, effectively communicate, gain clarity and the skills you need to thrive in your life.
Reaching out is a big decision. We all have the ability to change, learn and grow. We are not born with skills, throughout our life we gain many coping mechanisms, but some of those are born out of survival, fear or toxic family dynamics and might make it challenging to navigate in relationships or during life’s transitions. For many this leads to experiencing a variety of symptoms. Life can also throw us some big curveballs that feel impossible to adjust to. I believe with assistance anyone can process the past, heal, build coping skills and cultivate a mindset that is needed to create a life that is enjoyable
If you are struggling in your daily life with symptoms of anxiety, depression, relationship issues, conflict, grief and loss, stress or PTSD or you’re burnt out at work, We can partner to help you figure out a way to honor your true nature, effectively communicate, gain clarity and the skills you need to thrive in your life.
Reaching out is a big decision. We all have the ability to change, learn and grow. We are not born with skills, throughout our life we gain many coping mechanisms, but some of those are born out of survival, fear or toxic family dynamics and might make it challenging to navigate in relationships or during life’s transitions. For many this leads to experiencing a variety of symptoms. Life can also throw us some big curveballs that feel impossible to adjust to. I believe with assistance anyone can process the past, heal, build coping skills and cultivate a mindset that is needed to create a life that is enjoyable
(425) 578-5814 View (425) 578-5814
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Niko Palacios
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CMHS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020
Sometimes we struggle to make meaning where life has thrown us a curveball: a death, a divorce, coming out, or even a pandemic. It’s overwhelming trying to bring order to chaos, at times having to impossibly reconcile competing truths. “It gets better” fails to appreciate the acute pain of the moment, only going so far in moving the needle towards hope. In an age where humans are increasingly polarized, buoyed by deeply held beliefs, there remains a need for something more than personal happiness alone. As a relational Therapist, I help clients find sustainable wellness; prioritizing relationship with self and others over ideology.
Sometimes we struggle to make meaning where life has thrown us a curveball: a death, a divorce, coming out, or even a pandemic. It’s overwhelming trying to bring order to chaos, at times having to impossibly reconcile competing truths. “It gets better” fails to appreciate the acute pain of the moment, only going so far in moving the needle towards hope. In an age where humans are increasingly polarized, buoyed by deeply held beliefs, there remains a need for something more than personal happiness alone. As a relational Therapist, I help clients find sustainable wellness; prioritizing relationship with self and others over ideology.
(206) 222-2942 View (206) 222-2942
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Cynthia Piepenbrok
Counselor, MA, LMHC, CCTP, CTMH
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I have worked with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, loss & grief, life transitions, posttraumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and relationship issues.
Many of us, at one time or another, experience a feeling of being overwhelmed by life. There are even phases when everything seems to be going wrong. Anxiety and depression are common responses to the difficulties of life. If you are on here searching for help you are most likely at a point in your life where things feel out of balance.
I have worked with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, loss & grief, life transitions, posttraumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and relationship issues.
Many of us, at one time or another, experience a feeling of being overwhelmed by life. There are even phases when everything seems to be going wrong. Anxiety and depression are common responses to the difficulties of life. If you are on here searching for help you are most likely at a point in your life where things feel out of balance.
(425) 310-4582 View (425) 310-4582
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Valentinya Germer
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSWAIC, MSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
I work with youth, age 13+, and adults across the lifespan. I'm passionate about LGBTQIA+ and gender affirming mental health therapy, I support folks in navigating and exploring relationship to self and others (sex and body positive, ethical non-monogamy and poly affirming), anxiety, depression, trauma, family of origin, disability, chronic-illness, grief, substance use, life transitions and challenges. I have an intersectional, anti-oppressive approach to therapy— highlighting how our relationship to ourselves, community, environment, and historical legacies impact and affect each other.
I work with youth, age 13+, and adults across the lifespan. I'm passionate about LGBTQIA+ and gender affirming mental health therapy, I support folks in navigating and exploring relationship to self and others (sex and body positive, ethical non-monogamy and poly affirming), anxiety, depression, trauma, family of origin, disability, chronic-illness, grief, substance use, life transitions and challenges. I have an intersectional, anti-oppressive approach to therapy— highlighting how our relationship to ourselves, community, environment, and historical legacies impact and affect each other.
(425) 490-5466 View (425) 490-5466
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Debby Fields
Counselor, MS, LMHC
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
Have you or your loved ones experienced trauma, loss, or unmet needs? Are you feeling defeated and hopeless about your relationship with your child or spouse? If your messages to yourself are critical and self-defeating, or your communication with family members is strained and ineffective, you are continually bumping up against the same walls. Understanding and nurturing are necessary for your healing and growth. With awareness and support you can have peace in your heart and joy in your relationships.
Have you or your loved ones experienced trauma, loss, or unmet needs? Are you feeling defeated and hopeless about your relationship with your child or spouse? If your messages to yourself are critical and self-defeating, or your communication with family members is strained and ineffective, you are continually bumping up against the same walls. Understanding and nurturing are necessary for your healing and growth. With awareness and support you can have peace in your heart and joy in your relationships.
(425) 307-5207 View (425) 307-5207
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Bonnie Walchuk at Dream Big Wellness
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, ATR-BC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020
Waitlist for new clients
At Dream Big Wellness we warmly welcome our clients in taking this step to find support and compassionate care. We are a team of licensed and experienced clinicians in WA state & nationally registered art therapists. We specialize in supporting people impacted by cancer, medical illness, chronic illness/pain, trauma, stress, bereavement, grief & loss, adjustment & transition, anxiety & depression. Dream Big Wellness is an Art Therapy & Integrative Wellness 501(c)3 Nonprofit increasing access to mental health care, art therapy, and wellness services through our Pay it Forward Program. www.dreambigwellness.org/pay-it-forward/
At Dream Big Wellness we warmly welcome our clients in taking this step to find support and compassionate care. We are a team of licensed and experienced clinicians in WA state & nationally registered art therapists. We specialize in supporting people impacted by cancer, medical illness, chronic illness/pain, trauma, stress, bereavement, grief & loss, adjustment & transition, anxiety & depression. Dream Big Wellness is an Art Therapy & Integrative Wellness 501(c)3 Nonprofit increasing access to mental health care, art therapy, and wellness services through our Pay it Forward Program. www.dreambigwellness.org/pay-it-forward/
(425) 403-2630 View (425) 403-2630
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Aishleen O'Brien
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
I’m passionate about working with young adults, and couples/families who are struggling with trauma/medical trauma, anxiety, grief/loss, depression, and new or difficult diagnoses.
Please note: I'm only accepting new client couples or families at this time. On your journey of self-improvement, I hope to provide you with a safe and empathetic space to be your most authentic self. Both past and present challenges can affect individuals in so many different and powerful ways. Through building a genuine and collaborative therapeutic relationship, I hope to help you explore your life experiences in an environment free from judgement or assumption. While therapy can be challenging, we will work together to unpack internalized burdens and emotions, leading to increased clarity and sense of purpose.
I’m passionate about working with young adults, and couples/families who are struggling with trauma/medical trauma, anxiety, grief/loss, depression, and new or difficult diagnoses.
Please note: I'm only accepting new client couples or families at this time. On your journey of self-improvement, I hope to provide you with a safe and empathetic space to be your most authentic self. Both past and present challenges can affect individuals in so many different and powerful ways. Through building a genuine and collaborative therapeutic relationship, I hope to help you explore your life experiences in an environment free from judgement or assumption. While therapy can be challenging, we will work together to unpack internalized burdens and emotions, leading to increased clarity and sense of purpose.
(206) 672-0817 View (206) 672-0817
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Andrea Mendoza
Counselor, LMHC, SUDPT
Verified Verified
Edmonds, WA 98020  (Online Only)
I am currently accepting new clients! I specialize in working with adults and teens who are seeking help with trauma, attachment wounds, relationship issues, anxiety, life transitions, grief, depression, and/or addiction. I also work with couples who may be experiencing challenges with communication, mutual understanding, connection, and strengthening their bond.
I am currently accepting new clients! I specialize in working with adults and teens who are seeking help with trauma, attachment wounds, relationship issues, anxiety, life transitions, grief, depression, and/or addiction. I also work with couples who may be experiencing challenges with communication, mutual understanding, connection, and strengthening their bond.
(509) 401-8304 View (509) 401-8304
Grief Therapists

How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.