Life can bring uncertain times and circumstances that can lead to anxiety, sadness, feelings of despair and a lack of options. There are so many aspects of our lives (family, upbringing and traumatic events) that we cannot choose or change. No matter how imperfect you think your life story is in this “now moment,” please know that you deserve to feel love, happiness and peace. We live in a society and culture that emphasizes happiness defined by status, material items and wealth rather than a life filled with peace, balance and contentment within ourselves.
I believe in being all you can be using a holistic approach to have peace and harmony in your life. I specialize in trauma and anxiety, couples and family therapy using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and EMDR therapy which has been proven to be the therapy of choice to overcome trauma and anxiety and to achieve letting go of disturbing memories and issues from the past that may have held you back from moving forward in your life. I am also an advanced hypnotherapist and have helped many people achieve success in areas such as stopping smoking, weight loss and phobias.
Many times we are our own worst critic. Did you know that we have 60,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are negative and the majority of them are the same ones we had yesterday. Let me help you silence that critic in you, and teach you how to talk more nicely to yourself. It all starts with your thoughts, and once you change those, you change your entire life. Through personal experience and education, I have learned how to journey with others as they mange this thing we call "Life". I would consider it an honor to journey with you today!
With my help, by triggering your IMAGINATION you will learn and practice how to craft, create, and build your desirable present, and as a result, your successful future. Combining Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Hygiene tools you will have a detailed understanding of your emotions and will learn to control them. You will become the one who controls how your life should be, regardless of the circumstances that life has or will make you face.
Connection is hard. It requires a level of vulnerability that opens us up to the very pain we’ve been trying to avoid. The thing about connection though, is that it is vital to every person’s emotional, sexual, and mental well-being. We can’t understand ourselves or feel close to others without it. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist, I offer a safe, honest, and affirming environment where you can feel comfortable exploring whatever holds you back from connecting with yourself and others. With you in the driver's seat, I can help you move towards a more fulfilling and integrated life.
“You likely know what you would like to change or not change and have most of the tools to do it. Let’s work together to help you become unstuck.” This is the axiom that guides my work with you. You are the expert of your life and what matters to you. However, I also believe the more that we feel accepted for who we are now, the more likely we are to take those first steps toward change. This is why I strive to create a relational space in which you will feel safe, accepted and empowered. I have training in the following evidence based practices: Motivational Interviewing, EMDR, Family Centered Treatment, CBT and TF-CBT.
Neuropsychology involves the assessment of brain functions such as memory, attention, concentration, judgment, reasoning, problem solving, motor and sensory functions and psychological variables that affect functioning. These evaluations can identify learning disabilities, ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, Autism Spectrum Disorders or other Developmental Disorders. They can also diagnose dementia and subtle cognitive deficits in strokes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's, Lyme Disease, Traumatic Brain injury, Neurosurgery as well as many other disorders.
Are you struggling with relationships? Depression or anxiety? Stress management? Unhealthy substance use? Counseling might seem scary and intimidating, but with the right therapist it can be life changing. I have been working with people for over fifteen years, helping them through life's challenges. I understand the importance of personalizing the counseling experience to the individual. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Certified Addiction Professional. My goal is always to help you achieve your goals, and I am honored to be part of the change process.
Everyday life can be distracting and steer us away from living a fulfilling, balanced, and purposed life. My mission is to help individuals find peace and healing from challenging situations. My goal is to provide support, education, and empowerment to get clients back on the path to living their best life. Therapy provides an opportunity to self reflect and learn healthy coping skills to deal with everyday life challenges. I am committed to providing a safe therapeutic environment in which I can support you in meeting your individual goals.
Feeling stagnant, lacking purpose, enjoyment and fulfillment? Or maybe previous trauma or experiences are blocking you from success and happiness? I seek to help clients that are lacking connection, overall life dissatisfaction and belonging. Some of us might have negative core beliefs or life scripts that aren't helping us live the life we want. Focusing on your strengths and abilities, I help to unblock and uncover the life you want for yourself.
Lets face it, no matter how hard we work at finding our own solutions to life's problems we sometimes get stuck. All of us at times can feel overwhelmed and helpless to change our situation. With over 25 years of clinical experience, engaging in the counseling process with Jontie Hays is a form of partnership and teamwork that will assist you in moving forward into resolution and healing. As the individual owner and operator of Be Whole Counseling you are sure to receive individual attention from beginning to end with upmost professional and caring service.
Registered Clinical Social Worker Intern, MSW, RCSWI
I work with individuals who are seeking healing and positive changes in their life. This includes addressing mental health symptoms tied to past or recent traumatic occurrences, helping clients who are overwhelmed by distressing emotions, and working with those who are encountering conflicts in relationships, or going through a life transition. I support, guide, and educate clients, and help them find relief and create happiness in their life. I help clients build emotional resilience and develop self-compassion, to work toward valuing and caring for what is most important in their life with renewed love and appreciation.
I would like to help you or your family member address issues that may be causing emotional and mental distress. My goal is to provide a safe, comfortable and confidential setting where you can restore a sense of balance and create a more fulfilling life.
Now and always, I offer convenient, confidential online video therapy. It feels just like meeting in the office but with safe social distancing. You’re feeling overwhelmed, on edge, and depleted. The coping methods that worked before aren’t working now. Multi-tasking has become a struggle. Little things are now overpowering. The stress is taking its toll even though you have always seemed able to handle things well. Whether you are looking to heal Posttraumatic stress, anxiety, confusion about your relationships or life direction or just looking to maximize the amazing life that is yours, It would be my privilege to be your guide
I offer telehealth/virtual visits for United Healthcare/Optum, Cigna, Tricare, & private pay clients. I can help you learn the coping skills to address your personal & relationship issues including: anxiety, depression, self esteem, marital communication & conflict resolution, parenting skills, and trauma & abuse. In addition to being skilled in the "talking therapies" I am a certified hypnotherapist. .
Feeling stuck or overwhelmed? Are you frustrated with work or home life? Relationships with family or loved ones strained? Are you in a transitional point in your life and not sure about your next move? If you are worried about how to move forward and need someone who will listen, offer support and help you to reduce stress and create balance in your life then counseling is your next best step. I am here to help.
Let’s face it, life is tough – if we did not know that before the pandemic, we know it now. Some of us are feeling more disconnected and anxious than ever. What is it that is keeping you from living your life in the truest way that you can imagine? I work with clients experiencing anxiety, loss of sense of self or purpose, a need to improve or make sense of interpersonal relationships, spirituality and spiritual doubt or deconstruction, feelings of regret, anger, stress and an array of other personal issues.
If you are looking for a heart-centered guide to help you tap into your own health and happiness, look no further. You may be struggling to make some positive changes in your life, but feel the need for some guidance. Maybe you are being pulled in many directions, feeling stressed, overwhelmed or depressed with the demands of life. You might feel challenged in your attempts to find balance in life as you juggle the responsibilities of work, family, friends, finances, and "me time” . . . or perhaps it’s grief. Have you lost a loved one, a job, a home, a way of life, or no longer feel like yourself? Good grief! What do you do?
Regrettably, life does not come with an instruction manual, that would be too easy. I work with my clients to form changes through both coaching and therapy. There can be many possible issues interfering with the life you want. I can help you regain control and create the life you envision.