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Abundant Life Counseling Services, PA
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78750
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
(512) 846-9396 View (512) 846-9396
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Irek Banaczyk
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCDC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78701
Informed by developmental neurobiology and emotionally focused experiential psychotherapies, I aim to be a gentle collaborator in your process of transformation toward the person you aspire to be.
It takes courage to seek out therapy, so congratulations on taking the first step in your journey of therapeutic healing and connection to self and others. What happens in the therapeutic setting in conjunction with lifestyle enhancements can, over time, bring about lasting change. With gentle facilitation, you can increase awareness of body and mind and enhance mood, motivation, agency, and integration of skills. These self-improvements allow for a more self-directed life that can be lived more fully through consciously curated personal values and choices.
Informed by developmental neurobiology and emotionally focused experiential psychotherapies, I aim to be a gentle collaborator in your process of transformation toward the person you aspire to be.
It takes courage to seek out therapy, so congratulations on taking the first step in your journey of therapeutic healing and connection to self and others. What happens in the therapeutic setting in conjunction with lifestyle enhancements can, over time, bring about lasting change. With gentle facilitation, you can increase awareness of body and mind and enhance mood, motivation, agency, and integration of skills. These self-improvements allow for a more self-directed life that can be lived more fully through consciously curated personal values and choices.
(512) 675-5787 View (512) 675-5787
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Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A.
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78750
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
(512) 960-3584 View (512) 960-3584
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Aaron Mink
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFT-A
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78759
In life, we face circumstances that lead us to cope however we can. Sometimes those coping methods lead us into shame and disconnection. I lend a compassionate ear to my clients struggling with addiction, life transitions, relationship issues, intimacy, and more. I strive to lend empathetic and non-judgmental support to my clients in order to help them grow deeper in their self-compassion. I use techniques and concepts of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Somatic Therapy to provide you with a space to learn and grow more comfortable and familiar with your emotions.
In life, we face circumstances that lead us to cope however we can. Sometimes those coping methods lead us into shame and disconnection. I lend a compassionate ear to my clients struggling with addiction, life transitions, relationship issues, intimacy, and more. I strive to lend empathetic and non-judgmental support to my clients in order to help them grow deeper in their self-compassion. I use techniques and concepts of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Somatic Therapy to provide you with a space to learn and grow more comfortable and familiar with your emotions.
(737) 302-4885 View (737) 302-4885
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Trent Schmiedehaus, LCSW-S, SEP
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-S, SEP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78746
Waitlist for new clients
My practice is grounded in an experiential, emotionally focused approach to healing, drawing from transformative modalities such as AEDP, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) mindfulness, attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology and Somatic Experiencing.
My approach is based first and foremost on offering you a safe, supportive space in which you can feel free to explore, change and heal. By examining your direct experience, we can observe the habitual reactions, limitations, and outdated stories that prevent you from feeling the full richness of life. Engaging your moment to moment experience will allow you to develop a full appreciation of who you are, and move you toward the life you want to live.
My practice is grounded in an experiential, emotionally focused approach to healing, drawing from transformative modalities such as AEDP, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) mindfulness, attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology and Somatic Experiencing.
My approach is based first and foremost on offering you a safe, supportive space in which you can feel free to explore, change and heal. By examining your direct experience, we can observe the habitual reactions, limitations, and outdated stories that prevent you from feeling the full richness of life. Engaging your moment to moment experience will allow you to develop a full appreciation of who you are, and move you toward the life you want to live.
(512) 271-4876 View (512) 271-4876
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Ryan Hester
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFT-A
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78759
Hello, and welcome! I am delighted to share a glimpse into my work to support individuals and couples in their pursuit of healthy, fulfilling relationships. I am a dedicated therapist with a passion for utilizing evidence-based methods such as PACT, EFT, Gottman, and Attachment Theory to promote lasting change and growth. Our work will address the unique challenges and dynamics that arise within your relationships. I also specialize in working with individuals and couples who are impacted by ADHD. As a therapist with ADHD, I understand the intricate ways in which it can impact relationships, communication, and daily life.
Hello, and welcome! I am delighted to share a glimpse into my work to support individuals and couples in their pursuit of healthy, fulfilling relationships. I am a dedicated therapist with a passion for utilizing evidence-based methods such as PACT, EFT, Gottman, and Attachment Theory to promote lasting change and growth. Our work will address the unique challenges and dynamics that arise within your relationships. I also specialize in working with individuals and couples who are impacted by ADHD. As a therapist with ADHD, I understand the intricate ways in which it can impact relationships, communication, and daily life.
(512) 641-5404 View (512) 641-5404
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Omar Chavez
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78704  (Online Only)
New couples are often reluctant to seek help. Be it stigma surrounding couple's therapy, or feeling like they have not been together "long enough," couples usually wait until resentment and unhappiness have grown to distressing levels before reaching out for help. According to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, couples often endure an average of six years of unhappiness before seeking help. Why let years of resentment build up when you can spend that time strengthening your bond and finding new ways to overcome and adapt to life's inevitable conflicts?
New couples are often reluctant to seek help. Be it stigma surrounding couple's therapy, or feeling like they have not been together "long enough," couples usually wait until resentment and unhappiness have grown to distressing levels before reaching out for help. According to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, couples often endure an average of six years of unhappiness before seeking help. Why let years of resentment build up when you can spend that time strengthening your bond and finding new ways to overcome and adapt to life's inevitable conflicts?
(512) 601-5869 View (512) 601-5869
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Paul Boone, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MDiv, LPC, LMFT, LCDC
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78759  (Online Only)
I am an advanced clinician in Imago Therapy. When relationships aren't working very well or are on the brink of ending, it really feels bad; like the rug is being pulled out from under you. Often there are solvable reasons for why these things happen. I am motivated by those methods such as Imago therapy and EFT which have worked so well for so many in the past to help couples develop a high degree of safe attachment in their relationships. Something, that once they have learned how to do it, they can take with them because it is portable.
I am an advanced clinician in Imago Therapy. When relationships aren't working very well or are on the brink of ending, it really feels bad; like the rug is being pulled out from under you. Often there are solvable reasons for why these things happen. I am motivated by those methods such as Imago therapy and EFT which have worked so well for so many in the past to help couples develop a high degree of safe attachment in their relationships. Something, that once they have learned how to do it, they can take with them because it is portable.
(512) 851-0660 View (512) 851-0660
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Joe X Cantu
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78759
I am a ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, EFT Supervisor and Certified EFT Couples Therapist.
Remember what it felt like when you first met? Remember all the fun you had together? All the laughs? All the love? Do you wonder what happened? Do you look back and ask what went wrong?
I am a ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, EFT Supervisor and Certified EFT Couples Therapist.
Remember what it felt like when you first met? Remember all the fun you had together? All the laughs? All the love? Do you wonder what happened? Do you look back and ask what went wrong?
(310) 579-2638 View (310) 579-2638
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Noah Enteen, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78746
Waitlist for new clients
As an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I have the tools to help you feel more connected, present and fulfilled in your relationship.
Would you like to improve your communication with your partner and feel connected? Does your teen need some help getting back on track? Are you feelings stuck & ready for change? I have 18+ years of experience supporting teens, young adults, adults, families & couples (LGBTQ encouraged) with breaking patterns, managing depression and anxiety, improving communication with colleagues and loved ones and meeting life goals. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration, growth and healing. My therapy style is warm, straightforward, collaborative and relational.
As an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I have the tools to help you feel more connected, present and fulfilled in your relationship.
Would you like to improve your communication with your partner and feel connected? Does your teen need some help getting back on track? Are you feelings stuck & ready for change? I have 18+ years of experience supporting teens, young adults, adults, families & couples (LGBTQ encouraged) with breaking patterns, managing depression and anxiety, improving communication with colleagues and loved ones and meeting life goals. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration, growth and healing. My therapy style is warm, straightforward, collaborative and relational.
(512) 865-4692 View (512) 865-4692
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Don D Allen
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LISW-S, LCSW
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78746
Welcome! I am Dr. Don Allen. I have a concierge practice and have formally opened my Austin, Texas office! I currently specialize in the treatment of Marriage and Emotional Trauma. I am a Certified Gottman Therapist, Certified EFT Therapist and EMDR Certified Therapist. Prior to 2012, I specialized in the treatment of Children and Adolescents and Drug and Alcohol Intervention. Please visit my website to get to know me, learn more about my practice, see videos and listen to my live radio broadcasts. Looking forward!
Welcome! I am Dr. Don Allen. I have a concierge practice and have formally opened my Austin, Texas office! I currently specialize in the treatment of Marriage and Emotional Trauma. I am a Certified Gottman Therapist, Certified EFT Therapist and EMDR Certified Therapist. Prior to 2012, I specialized in the treatment of Children and Adolescents and Drug and Alcohol Intervention. Please visit my website to get to know me, learn more about my practice, see videos and listen to my live radio broadcasts. Looking forward!
(512) 601-5297 View (512) 601-5297
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Mario Uribe
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MS, LMFT-A
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78701
My specialized training and experience in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) provides an experiential approach in working with couples-- one that builds strong, enduring emotional connections from their emotional core.
Do you feel disconnected from your spouse-- perpetually trying "reach" him or her, but angry, sad or frustrated at your inability to connect? Or perhaps you find yourself distancing from your marriage partner, avoiding conflict in order to feel safe, only to find yourself "walking on eggshells." You feel the pain of disconnection with the person you love, and you feel stuck; maybe it even feels hopeless at times. If only you could re-discover the bond that somehow still exists beneath the rubble of fighting, avoiding and blaming. Or, possibly your struggles are more individual than relational?
My specialized training and experience in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) provides an experiential approach in working with couples-- one that builds strong, enduring emotional connections from their emotional core.
Do you feel disconnected from your spouse-- perpetually trying "reach" him or her, but angry, sad or frustrated at your inability to connect? Or perhaps you find yourself distancing from your marriage partner, avoiding conflict in order to feel safe, only to find yourself "walking on eggshells." You feel the pain of disconnection with the person you love, and you feel stuck; maybe it even feels hopeless at times. If only you could re-discover the bond that somehow still exists beneath the rubble of fighting, avoiding and blaming. Or, possibly your struggles are more individual than relational?
(512) 648-4264 View (512) 648-4264
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Salado Christian Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, DMin
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 73301  (Online Only)
My practice specializes in treating trauma among Active Duty service members, veterans, and law enforcement. In addition, we utilize evidence-based approaches such as CBT, EFT, SFT, and EMDR for individuals, couples, and families. In-person and Telehealth counseling is provided to our clients. Jeffery Jolly, LMFT just joined our team and can be reached at 254-218-3936. Our office is located on the second floor of the Salado Inn in Historic Downtown Salado, TX.
My practice specializes in treating trauma among Active Duty service members, veterans, and law enforcement. In addition, we utilize evidence-based approaches such as CBT, EFT, SFT, and EMDR for individuals, couples, and families. In-person and Telehealth counseling is provided to our clients. Jeffery Jolly, LMFT just joined our team and can be reached at 254-218-3936. Our office is located on the second floor of the Salado Inn in Historic Downtown Salado, TX.
(512) 607-9296 View (512) 607-9296
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Kevin Leapley
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, CSAT, CEFT
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78702
I am a certified emotionally focused couples therapist and have undergone rigorous training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, an empirically validated form of couples therapy.
Are you wanting to save your relationship? Do you often argue about the same issues? Do you desire the closeness you once had, but don't know how to reconnect? Being in a relationship is difficult work, and we all experience times when our relationship ideal is not our reality. The good news is that you can get back those warm feelings that drew you together in the beginning. I can help you make sense of the struggles, and explore conflict in a way that brings clarity, understanding and intimacy back in to your relationship. I also have received specialized training to help couples experiencing betrayal and infidelity.
I am a certified emotionally focused couples therapist and have undergone rigorous training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, an empirically validated form of couples therapy.
Are you wanting to save your relationship? Do you often argue about the same issues? Do you desire the closeness you once had, but don't know how to reconnect? Being in a relationship is difficult work, and we all experience times when our relationship ideal is not our reality. The good news is that you can get back those warm feelings that drew you together in the beginning. I can help you make sense of the struggles, and explore conflict in a way that brings clarity, understanding and intimacy back in to your relationship. I also have received specialized training to help couples experiencing betrayal and infidelity.
(512) 862-9783 View (512) 862-9783
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Phil Coleman
Licensed Professional Counselor Associate, LPC-A, RMHCI
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78738  (Online Only)
I primarily use a modality called EFT paired with ADHD specific skills.
Do you struggle sharing your thoughts & feelings with your partner? Do you minimize the conflicts in your relationship out of fear? Are you easily distracted when listening to one another? I know how this feels because these have been my struggles too. As someone living with ADHD, I've learned to trust my partner and implement tools to overcome distractions. Feeling deeply connected to your partner can be challenging when you feel pulled in so many directions. From screaming kids to work stress, lack of support, or being absolutely exhausted. I'm passionate about helping people find each other again amidst the chaos of life.
I primarily use a modality called EFT paired with ADHD specific skills.
Do you struggle sharing your thoughts & feelings with your partner? Do you minimize the conflicts in your relationship out of fear? Are you easily distracted when listening to one another? I know how this feels because these have been my struggles too. As someone living with ADHD, I've learned to trust my partner and implement tools to overcome distractions. Feeling deeply connected to your partner can be challenging when you feel pulled in so many directions. From screaming kids to work stress, lack of support, or being absolutely exhausted. I'm passionate about helping people find each other again amidst the chaos of life.
(512) 598-6402 View (512) 598-6402
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Chuck Powers
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78727
My heart breaks every time I see couples who are stuck and running out of hope. "What's going on?" "The world says we're supposed to be okay being alone, but I feel miserable and alone." "What happened to us?" "How did we get here?" "We were never supposed to be those ‘other couples’." Relationships can become painful and unsettling. And so disappointing. The good news is relationship injuries can be repaired. And, you can have the hopes and dreams you’ve long since dismissed as a pleasant fantasy.
My heart breaks every time I see couples who are stuck and running out of hope. "What's going on?" "The world says we're supposed to be okay being alone, but I feel miserable and alone." "What happened to us?" "How did we get here?" "We were never supposed to be those ‘other couples’." Relationships can become painful and unsettling. And so disappointing. The good news is relationship injuries can be repaired. And, you can have the hopes and dreams you’ve long since dismissed as a pleasant fantasy.
(512) 522-6115 View (512) 522-6115
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Dr. Uriel Navarrete
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78701  (Online Only)
Are you looking for an inclusive, culturally aware, and relationally focused therapist? Many of the concerns that clients bring up in therapy often involve challenges related to their various identities (e.g., race/ethnicity, gender, sexuality, body size, etc.) and/or the quality of their relationships. When describing their experiences with previous therapists, many clients have expressed things to me like, “my therapist just didn’t get me", and as a result, find themselves wanting to be understood and seen. As part of my practice, it’s important to me that I hold a deep understanding of your story, worldview, and experiences.
Are you looking for an inclusive, culturally aware, and relationally focused therapist? Many of the concerns that clients bring up in therapy often involve challenges related to their various identities (e.g., race/ethnicity, gender, sexuality, body size, etc.) and/or the quality of their relationships. When describing their experiences with previous therapists, many clients have expressed things to me like, “my therapist just didn’t get me", and as a result, find themselves wanting to be understood and seen. As part of my practice, it’s important to me that I hold a deep understanding of your story, worldview, and experiences.
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Buck Dodson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78705
Let’s face it – looking for a therapist isn’t easy. The process takes time, energy and bandwidth that are in short supply for you right now. Whether you need help for your yourself or your relationship, you're in the right place. I'm here to help you get curious about what's happening, start feeling better, find new solutions, and get back on track so you're living and loving with more ease, joy and vitality. You'll learn to express your feelings, work with negative thoughts, rewrite limiting beliefs, and explore what's holding you back from the past so you can move forward in your life.
Let’s face it – looking for a therapist isn’t easy. The process takes time, energy and bandwidth that are in short supply for you right now. Whether you need help for your yourself or your relationship, you're in the right place. I'm here to help you get curious about what's happening, start feeling better, find new solutions, and get back on track so you're living and loving with more ease, joy and vitality. You'll learn to express your feelings, work with negative thoughts, rewrite limiting beliefs, and explore what's holding you back from the past so you can move forward in your life.
(512) 861-0483 View (512) 861-0483
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Austin Johnson
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Austin, TX 78731  (Online Only)
I help create work-life stability, improve job and relationship satisfaction, and build leadership and communication skills. No matter what is ailing you right now - whether burnout, trauma, depression, or conflict - working with a trusted professional can help. There is a path forward.
I help create work-life stability, improve job and relationship satisfaction, and build leadership and communication skills. No matter what is ailing you right now - whether burnout, trauma, depression, or conflict - working with a trusted professional can help. There is a path forward.
(806) 602-9573 View (806) 602-9573
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Landon Cotton
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78745  (Online Only)
Anyone who has ever experienced a challenging life event knows how difficult it can be to talk to someone about it. Healing from these experiences is a process. If you're reading this, then you are already taking one of the most challenging steps in that process: reaching out. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor located in Austin, Texas. I specialize in working with LGBTQ+ experiences, anxiety, depression, men's issues, and relationship challenges.
Anyone who has ever experienced a challenging life event knows how difficult it can be to talk to someone about it. Healing from these experiences is a process. If you're reading this, then you are already taking one of the most challenging steps in that process: reaching out. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor located in Austin, Texas. I specialize in working with LGBTQ+ experiences, anxiety, depression, men's issues, and relationship challenges.
(512) 843-7449 View (512) 843-7449
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.