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Saudia S Bickley
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19124
I incorporate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused therapy into my practice.
I work with a diverse group of individuals that have one thing in common, a desire to change and improve their lives. I partner with adult clients who are facing issues with ADHD, anxiety, depression, Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (nail biting, hair pulling, skin pulling), stress management, and life transitions. I also work with couples whose goal is to create strong, loving, and, supportive connections.
I incorporate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused therapy into my practice.
I work with a diverse group of individuals that have one thing in common, a desire to change and improve their lives. I partner with adult clients who are facing issues with ADHD, anxiety, depression, Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (nail biting, hair pulling, skin pulling), stress management, and life transitions. I also work with couples whose goal is to create strong, loving, and, supportive connections.
(610) 508-9593 View (610) 508-9593
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Rachel Milberg
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19103  (Online Only)
My work is informed by narrative therapy, emotionally focused therapy, mindfulness, systems theory, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Welcome! I'm Rachel. In my therapy, I care about building a space with you that is safe and uniquely yours, where you can share what is on your mind and feel supported in making meaningful changes to your life. I believe in the power of being heard and understood, and strive to create a comfortable, non-judgmental therapeutic experience for those I work with. I use a relational and systemic framework by exploring challenges in the context of our world and our relationships. I bring my personality into my work, including my sense of humor, curiosity, and compassion. I look forward to learning more about you and your goals!
My work is informed by narrative therapy, emotionally focused therapy, mindfulness, systems theory, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Welcome! I'm Rachel. In my therapy, I care about building a space with you that is safe and uniquely yours, where you can share what is on your mind and feel supported in making meaningful changes to your life. I believe in the power of being heard and understood, and strive to create a comfortable, non-judgmental therapeutic experience for those I work with. I use a relational and systemic framework by exploring challenges in the context of our world and our relationships. I bring my personality into my work, including my sense of humor, curiosity, and compassion. I look forward to learning more about you and your goals!
(267) 214-8815 View (267) 214-8815
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Compass Counseling and Psychotherapy, LLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, ACS, NCC
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19102  (Online Only)
Our clinicians have training in Emotionally Focused therapy CBT, DBT and TF-CBT.
"Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving , we get stronger and more resilient" Steve Maraboli. If you are reading this, you have already taken the hardest step toward feeling better- reaching out for help. At Compass we understand that it is important for you to feel understood, heard and supported. When we all are working as a team, those things will be automatic. Our approach is direct yet very compassionate. Our goal is for us together to identify the cause of your issues, to develop what is needed and how it can be achieved. We would like to get you unstuck and on the path to happiness.
Our clinicians have training in Emotionally Focused therapy CBT, DBT and TF-CBT.
"Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving , we get stronger and more resilient" Steve Maraboli. If you are reading this, you have already taken the hardest step toward feeling better- reaching out for help. At Compass we understand that it is important for you to feel understood, heard and supported. When we all are working as a team, those things will be automatic. Our approach is direct yet very compassionate. Our goal is for us together to identify the cause of your issues, to develop what is needed and how it can be achieved. We would like to get you unstuck and on the path to happiness.
(202) 998-5586 View (202) 998-5586
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Laura F Brown
Pre-Licensed Professional, MFT, MS
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19103  (Online Only)
Laura is a Marriage and Family Therapist who is passionate about cultivating meaningful and healing relationships with her clients by working with each client individually to understand and empathize with their unique set of challenges and needs. Laura’s approach to therapy is taking on a compassionate, caring, and genuine therapeutic stance with all of her clients, creating a safe and warm environment for everyone who walks through her door. She uses a multitude of systemic approaches when working with her clients, with an emphasis on Emotionally Focused Therapy and The Gottman Method, in which she holds a Level 3 certification.
Laura is a Marriage and Family Therapist who is passionate about cultivating meaningful and healing relationships with her clients by working with each client individually to understand and empathize with their unique set of challenges and needs. Laura’s approach to therapy is taking on a compassionate, caring, and genuine therapeutic stance with all of her clients, creating a safe and warm environment for everyone who walks through her door. She uses a multitude of systemic approaches when working with her clients, with an emphasis on Emotionally Focused Therapy and The Gottman Method, in which she holds a Level 3 certification.
(267) 214-6587 View (267) 214-6587
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Natasha Metzger
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19103
We'll do this work from a holistic lens that integrates cognitive, emotion-focused, somatic, and behavioral theories (CBT, EFT, Narrative, IFS, ACT, Attachment, and more).
Do you have trouble knowing what you want or asking for it? Do your feelings seem overwhelming at times? Do you find yourself giving in to avoid conflict or banging your emotional head against a wall? Do you find that your behavior and values sometimes don't align? Are you frustrated or disappointed by the lack of physical and emotional connection with the people closest to you? Are you and your partner concerned by your differing levels of sexual desire? Do you feel stuck and lethargic or that your thoughts spiral out of your control? Do you want to develop insight and create change in your own life? If so, let's talk!
We'll do this work from a holistic lens that integrates cognitive, emotion-focused, somatic, and behavioral theories (CBT, EFT, Narrative, IFS, ACT, Attachment, and more).
Do you have trouble knowing what you want or asking for it? Do your feelings seem overwhelming at times? Do you find yourself giving in to avoid conflict or banging your emotional head against a wall? Do you find that your behavior and values sometimes don't align? Are you frustrated or disappointed by the lack of physical and emotional connection with the people closest to you? Are you and your partner concerned by your differing levels of sexual desire? Do you feel stuck and lethargic or that your thoughts spiral out of your control? Do you want to develop insight and create change in your own life? If so, let's talk!
(856) 644-1359 View (856) 644-1359
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Andrea Castro-Steffens
Pre-Licensed Professional, MFT
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19103
Life transitions can be unsettling and isolating. My hope as a therapist is to support and empower my clients on their path towards healing. Utilizing a trauma-informed, non-judgmental space, I specialize in helping individuals, couples and families build a strong connection rooted in trust and acceptance. We will work together to build the knowledge and skills necessary to support what wellness looks like for you and your relationships during your life transitions.
Life transitions can be unsettling and isolating. My hope as a therapist is to support and empower my clients on their path towards healing. Utilizing a trauma-informed, non-judgmental space, I specialize in helping individuals, couples and families build a strong connection rooted in trust and acceptance. We will work together to build the knowledge and skills necessary to support what wellness looks like for you and your relationships during your life transitions.
(484) 559-6391 View (484) 559-6391
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The Better You Institute
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MEd, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19109
Experience personalized care with our therapists' eclectic approach, blending CBT, Trauma-Focused, EFT, Gottman, IFS, DBT, etc.
You're a successful person, yet you feel as if something is missing. It seems like you're caught in a cycle of conflict and negativity, both within yourself and with others. What you really desire is the sense of calmness that comes with confidence. Instead, frustration and exhaustion seem to be your constant companions. You're eager for a transformation! Let's embark on this journey together, igniting your potential, unveiling new possibilities, and sculpting the life you envision. Or, maybe you're here for your child or teen. You sense their struggle, understanding their pain even when words fail them. You both feel stuck.
Experience personalized care with our therapists' eclectic approach, blending CBT, Trauma-Focused, EFT, Gottman, IFS, DBT, etc.
You're a successful person, yet you feel as if something is missing. It seems like you're caught in a cycle of conflict and negativity, both within yourself and with others. What you really desire is the sense of calmness that comes with confidence. Instead, frustration and exhaustion seem to be your constant companions. You're eager for a transformation! Let's embark on this journey together, igniting your potential, unveiling new possibilities, and sculpting the life you envision. Or, maybe you're here for your child or teen. You sense their struggle, understanding their pain even when words fail them. You both feel stuck.
(267) 390-4604 View (267) 390-4604
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Leeor Gal
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19103
Providing online (NJ&PA) and in-person (PA) therapy to folks, my practice offers a variety of therapeutic services such as EMDR & EFT.
Maybe you have anxiety, experienced trauma, or diagnosed with ADHD and you're looking to heal those parts. Perhaps you’re struggling with your partner, friends, boss, or parents and you’re looking to understand those relationships deeper. It can feel overwhelming and isolating working on healing from negative experiences, I get it. We may oftentimes find ourselves feeling stuck and unsure of where to go to next. I want to help you overcome that. Changing is not necessarily the answer, but rather growing into the version of you that you want to see.
Providing online (NJ&PA) and in-person (PA) therapy to folks, my practice offers a variety of therapeutic services such as EMDR & EFT.
Maybe you have anxiety, experienced trauma, or diagnosed with ADHD and you're looking to heal those parts. Perhaps you’re struggling with your partner, friends, boss, or parents and you’re looking to understand those relationships deeper. It can feel overwhelming and isolating working on healing from negative experiences, I get it. We may oftentimes find ourselves feeling stuck and unsure of where to go to next. I want to help you overcome that. Changing is not necessarily the answer, but rather growing into the version of you that you want to see.
(215) 515-5647 View (215) 515-5647
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Melanie Basden Taylor
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern, MA, MFT, Intern
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19104
My treatment approach is one of inspiration, Reality theory, Emotionally focused therapy, and Cognitive and Positive therapy.
Finding the right therapist can be overwhelming when seeking therapy, but that is where I come in. I view the Psychotherapy process as a team effort where we work together to work through your trauma or relationship problems. I love building a rapport with my couples to work through the healing process together.
My treatment approach is one of inspiration, Reality theory, Emotionally focused therapy, and Cognitive and Positive therapy.
Finding the right therapist can be overwhelming when seeking therapy, but that is where I come in. I view the Psychotherapy process as a team effort where we work together to work through your trauma or relationship problems. I love building a rapport with my couples to work through the healing process together.
(215) 201-4442 View (215) 201-4442
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Rebecca McDermott
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19128
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an evidence-based approach to support and create lasting change for couples.
You have spent years now wishing that things would be different. Your hope that things would get better once you were done school, the kids were older, you/they got the job, but nothing feels different. You are stuck in cycle, that during it's peak shakes you to your core and makes you question everything. When things feel calmer, you are holding your breath waiting for it to start again. You want to break free of this cycle. You want joy, laughter, love and connection! You already have the answers to make this a reality, maybe you just need a guide.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an evidence-based approach to support and create lasting change for couples.
You have spent years now wishing that things would be different. Your hope that things would get better once you were done school, the kids were older, you/they got the job, but nothing feels different. You are stuck in cycle, that during it's peak shakes you to your core and makes you question everything. When things feel calmer, you are holding your breath waiting for it to start again. You want to break free of this cycle. You want joy, laughter, love and connection! You already have the answers to make this a reality, maybe you just need a guide.
(484) 851-9291 View (484) 851-9291
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Tonette Whitted
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MSEd, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19019  (Online Only)
I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from structural, solution-focused, emotionally focused and cognitive behavioral therapy.
To my future clients, wow I'm so glad you've crossed my page. I'm not sure what it took to get to this point, but I am sure glad you did. I could give you the long spill of why I think this process is helpful and enlightening, but I won't. What I will tell you is; you are capable, you are strong, you are resilient and going through the psychotherapy process I hope you discover that too! You deserve to be seen, to feel valued and to be heard. Life has a way of knocking the wind out of you and causing you to question your existence. Resilience is one thing we all share; the capability of getting back up and breathe again. Breathe.
I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from structural, solution-focused, emotionally focused and cognitive behavioral therapy.
To my future clients, wow I'm so glad you've crossed my page. I'm not sure what it took to get to this point, but I am sure glad you did. I could give you the long spill of why I think this process is helpful and enlightening, but I won't. What I will tell you is; you are capable, you are strong, you are resilient and going through the psychotherapy process I hope you discover that too! You deserve to be seen, to feel valued and to be heard. Life has a way of knocking the wind out of you and causing you to question your existence. Resilience is one thing we all share; the capability of getting back up and breathe again. Breathe.
(412) 435-9031 View (412) 435-9031
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Ernest R Flores
PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19019
I have extensive experience counseling married couples through a number of problems such as infidelity, conflict resolution, blended families, impact of early childhood trauma, and other issues. I integrate modern psychological techniques and therapies with Biblical values and concepts. Psychological techniques such as Solutions Focused Brief Therapy, Family Systems, Emotionally Focused, and Trauma Therapy are highly compatible with Biblical teaching. Couples are affirmed in their Biblical beliefs and encouraged to integrate them with modern psychological understandings.
I have extensive experience counseling married couples through a number of problems such as infidelity, conflict resolution, blended families, impact of early childhood trauma, and other issues. I integrate modern psychological techniques and therapies with Biblical values and concepts. Psychological techniques such as Solutions Focused Brief Therapy, Family Systems, Emotionally Focused, and Trauma Therapy are highly compatible with Biblical teaching. Couples are affirmed in their Biblical beliefs and encouraged to integrate them with modern psychological understandings.
(267) 481-7964 View (267) 481-7964
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Revive Therapy Services
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19104
You've tried to heal in so many ways but nothing seems to really work. You've been to countless therapists but you are always left feeling like your kicking a dead horse. You feel stuck, helpless, and like something must be inherently wrong with you. It could look like not knowing why you do the same things over and over again when you know it will lead to the same result. It might show up in your relationships, job, or identity. At the end of the day, all you know is that you can't keep doing what you've been doing.
You've tried to heal in so many ways but nothing seems to really work. You've been to countless therapists but you are always left feeling like your kicking a dead horse. You feel stuck, helpless, and like something must be inherently wrong with you. It could look like not knowing why you do the same things over and over again when you know it will lead to the same result. It might show up in your relationships, job, or identity. At the end of the day, all you know is that you can't keep doing what you've been doing.
(267) 296-8773 View (267) 296-8773
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Jordon Campbell
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19132  (Online Only)
My passion is to work with individuals, couples and families from diverse backgrounds that are having a difficult time communicating their feelings and needs. I work closely with my clients to help them discover their innate coping skills while introducing a variety of others.Those that struggle in their relationships; whether it be with work, friends or a loved one, will gain support in creating and setting appropriate boundaries. I provide a space to work through trauma (sexual, racial, familial and work). I also provide clinical supervision for therapists seeking to expand and grow their mental health career
My passion is to work with individuals, couples and families from diverse backgrounds that are having a difficult time communicating their feelings and needs. I work closely with my clients to help them discover their innate coping skills while introducing a variety of others.Those that struggle in their relationships; whether it be with work, friends or a loved one, will gain support in creating and setting appropriate boundaries. I provide a space to work through trauma (sexual, racial, familial and work). I also provide clinical supervision for therapists seeking to expand and grow their mental health career
(215) 486-8220 View (215) 486-8220
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Asia Panzino
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19102  (Online Only)
Asia Panzino, MA has provided therapeutic support for a diverse range of concerns and experiences which include Influence of Childhood Bonding and Attachment on Lifestyle, Symptom Management for Anxiety and Depression, Safety Plans for Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence, Senior-Living, Vocational Guidance, Family Conflict, Fostered, Adopted, and Aging-Out Youth Advocacy, Self-Regulation Techniques, and Life Transitions. They have passionately worked with diagnoses such as Bi-Polar, Generalized Anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Gender Dysphoria, and PTSD.
Asia Panzino, MA has provided therapeutic support for a diverse range of concerns and experiences which include Influence of Childhood Bonding and Attachment on Lifestyle, Symptom Management for Anxiety and Depression, Safety Plans for Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence, Senior-Living, Vocational Guidance, Family Conflict, Fostered, Adopted, and Aging-Out Youth Advocacy, Self-Regulation Techniques, and Life Transitions. They have passionately worked with diagnoses such as Bi-Polar, Generalized Anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Gender Dysphoria, and PTSD.
(484) 799-9049 View (484) 799-9049
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Marin Roth
Pre-Licensed Professional, MFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19103
Hi, I’m Marin and I’m so glad you’re here! If you’re experiencing distance or conflict in your relationships or are hoping to build a more compassionate and meaningful relationship with yourself, I’d love to help. I am passionate about helping couples find their way through any hardship in a way that brings them closer along the journey and would love to help you build a foundation of communication and trust that you can build on for years to come. I also have a special interest in helping individuals with ADHD, anxiety, or depression find ways to work with their brain and build kindness and confidence within themselves.
Hi, I’m Marin and I’m so glad you’re here! If you’re experiencing distance or conflict in your relationships or are hoping to build a more compassionate and meaningful relationship with yourself, I’d love to help. I am passionate about helping couples find their way through any hardship in a way that brings them closer along the journey and would love to help you build a foundation of communication and trust that you can build on for years to come. I also have a special interest in helping individuals with ADHD, anxiety, or depression find ways to work with their brain and build kindness and confidence within themselves.
(267) 214-9814 View (267) 214-9814
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Molly Weingrod
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSS, LSW
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19119
Life is infinitely dimensional - amazing, and so utterly hard! Negotiating relationships, navigating purpose, moving through predictable and unpredictable life transitions, managing crises, and just contending with the inevitable reality of ongoing change. It can be a frustrating and fulfilling process to really pay attention, integrate experience, and find balance in the midst of it all. How to work with the rich material of life effectively, creatively, and well? Therapy can help: slow things down, make space to pay attention, gather perspective, and shore up support.
Life is infinitely dimensional - amazing, and so utterly hard! Negotiating relationships, navigating purpose, moving through predictable and unpredictable life transitions, managing crises, and just contending with the inevitable reality of ongoing change. It can be a frustrating and fulfilling process to really pay attention, integrate experience, and find balance in the midst of it all. How to work with the rich material of life effectively, creatively, and well? Therapy can help: slow things down, make space to pay attention, gather perspective, and shore up support.
(215) 437-3214 View (215) 437-3214
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Dr. Erica Liebman
Psychologist, PsyD, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19102
Your most well-intentioned friend or internet guru might have you believe that fixing your problems is a quick process that involves simple mantras and just doing things differently. In contrast, I believe that it is possible in time and in the context of developing a genuine and safe therapeutic relationship, for you to feel understood, cared for and free to express yourself while creating change. My clinical experience lies in helping those through relationship troubles, uncomfortable and painful feelings, addiction to substances, feelings of depression and anxiety, or just a quiet sense that something is not right.
Your most well-intentioned friend or internet guru might have you believe that fixing your problems is a quick process that involves simple mantras and just doing things differently. In contrast, I believe that it is possible in time and in the context of developing a genuine and safe therapeutic relationship, for you to feel understood, cared for and free to express yourself while creating change. My clinical experience lies in helping those through relationship troubles, uncomfortable and painful feelings, addiction to substances, feelings of depression and anxiety, or just a quiet sense that something is not right.
(484) 265-9020 View (484) 265-9020
Turning Leaf Therapy, LLC
Verified Verified
Philadelphia, PA 19106
We understand that life's struggles can present in many different ways and that everyone has a unique story that deserves to be heard. Our focus is on building a safe, non-judgmental space where you can be seen, accepted, and helped to better understand yourself, how you got to where you are, how to heal what needs to be healed, and how to get to a better place. We want to help people better cope with the present, understand their past, improve their relationship with themselves and with others, and to grow into the most authentic person they can be. Sometimes this work can feel hard, and we can walk with you and support you.
We understand that life's struggles can present in many different ways and that everyone has a unique story that deserves to be heard. Our focus is on building a safe, non-judgmental space where you can be seen, accepted, and helped to better understand yourself, how you got to where you are, how to heal what needs to be healed, and how to get to a better place. We want to help people better cope with the present, understand their past, improve their relationship with themselves and with others, and to grow into the most authentic person they can be. Sometimes this work can feel hard, and we can walk with you and support you.
(267) 754-2809 View (267) 754-2809
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Key Therapy & Wellness
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Philadelphia, PA 19103
Welcome! Congratulations on taking the first step on this adventure. We know finding the right therapist can be hard, stressful and a grueling process. For many clients this is the first time they have asked for help. At Key Therapy & Wellness we believe everyone deserves to unlock their full selves, feel empowered to make choices, and be supported through the journey towards change. We provide therapy that is compassionate, collaborative, and liberating. As a team we believe in celebrating and affirming the parts of clients that make them unique.
Welcome! Congratulations on taking the first step on this adventure. We know finding the right therapist can be hard, stressful and a grueling process. For many clients this is the first time they have asked for help. At Key Therapy & Wellness we believe everyone deserves to unlock their full selves, feel empowered to make choices, and be supported through the journey towards change. We provide therapy that is compassionate, collaborative, and liberating. As a team we believe in celebrating and affirming the parts of clients that make them unique.
(484) 214-2426 View (484) 214-2426

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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.