Therapists in Nassau County, NY
Shani Friedlander
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cedarhurst, NY 11516
I use EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) which is a wonderful model of therapy.
Is your relationship not where it used to be? Or where you want it to be? Do you sometimes feel so disconnected and distant that you wonder how did we get to this place? Perhaps there has been a betrayal or deep hurt. Perhaps there has been a lot of stress or outside distractions and within all that you found yourselves alone and distant. Do you find yourselves rehashing the same arguments and not sure how to get out of this crazy making cycle? You want to feel connected again and strengthen your relationship. I can help you rediscover and build on the connection you once had. Actually, it can be stronger than what you once had.
I use EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) which is a wonderful model of therapy.
Is your relationship not where it used to be? Or where you want it to be? Do you sometimes feel so disconnected and distant that you wonder how did we get to this place? Perhaps there has been a betrayal or deep hurt. Perhaps there has been a lot of stress or outside distractions and within all that you found yourselves alone and distant. Do you find yourselves rehashing the same arguments and not sure how to get out of this crazy making cycle? You want to feel connected again and strengthen your relationship. I can help you rediscover and build on the connection you once had. Actually, it can be stronger than what you once had.
Marisa T. Cohen
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Floral Park, NY 11001 (Online Only)
I am also a certified Prepare Enrich facilitator and have completed Level 1 and Level 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the EFT Externship.
Therapy offers a safe place for exploration and a greater depth of understanding of both yourself and your relationships. It is also an avenue to enhance social connections, and a way to set goals and chart a path to achieve them. I work with clients to address any obstacles they may be facing and in helping them to enact a plan to achieve their desired outcomes. This partnership is different from person to person, because it’s about identifying any stumbling blocks clients may be facing and working through them. I value approaching people from a place of curiosity, empathetic understanding, and use a collaborative approach.
I am also a certified Prepare Enrich facilitator and have completed Level 1 and Level 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the EFT Externship.
Therapy offers a safe place for exploration and a greater depth of understanding of both yourself and your relationships. It is also an avenue to enhance social connections, and a way to set goals and chart a path to achieve them. I work with clients to address any obstacles they may be facing and in helping them to enact a plan to achieve their desired outcomes. This partnership is different from person to person, because it’s about identifying any stumbling blocks clients may be facing and working through them. I value approaching people from a place of curiosity, empathetic understanding, and use a collaborative approach.
Natalie R Gross
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Lawrence, NY 11559
In addition, I utilize different modalities to suit the needs of my clients including CBT, DBT, IFS, EFT and EMDR.
My clients come to me with a history of family issues, anxiety, depression, trauma, low self-esteem, marital and relationship conflicts. They want to learn coping skills to help them reduce anxiety and depression, improve interpersonal relationships, strengthen self-esteem, accept life situations, develop perspective, all while having compassion for themselves and others.
In addition, I utilize different modalities to suit the needs of my clients including CBT, DBT, IFS, EFT and EMDR.
My clients come to me with a history of family issues, anxiety, depression, trauma, low self-esteem, marital and relationship conflicts. They want to learn coping skills to help them reduce anxiety and depression, improve interpersonal relationships, strengthen self-esteem, accept life situations, develop perspective, all while having compassion for themselves and others.
Dvorah Levy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Cedarhurst, NY 11516
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couple therapy.
Our strongest reactions have roots in the past. We can't change difficult situations of the past but we can work together to understand how you have been impacted and work through challenges in the present. My goal is to work with you to uncover your true potential and innate healing. By applying complementary therapeutic approaches and techniques, in a warm and supportive environment, we will unearth long-standing behavior patterns and/or negative perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing healthier relationships and a happier, more fulfilling life today.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couple therapy.
Our strongest reactions have roots in the past. We can't change difficult situations of the past but we can work together to understand how you have been impacted and work through challenges in the present. My goal is to work with you to uncover your true potential and innate healing. By applying complementary therapeutic approaches and techniques, in a warm and supportive environment, we will unearth long-standing behavior patterns and/or negative perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing healthier relationships and a happier, more fulfilling life today.
David Mark
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MS, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cedarhurst, NY 11516
Given my certifications in the Gottman method and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) I am trained in helping couples build and rebuild friendship and intimacy, manage conflict better and create increased shared meaning. Research indicates that secure attachment and emotionally fulfilling relationships are integral components of mental and physical health, and that emotionally focused interventions have the power to establish and recreate supportive bonds among individuals. I am therefore dedicated to the understanding of individual health and dysfunction in the context of relationship with others and the enhancement of couple and family
Given my certifications in the Gottman method and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) I am trained in helping couples build and rebuild friendship and intimacy, manage conflict better and create increased shared meaning. Research indicates that secure attachment and emotionally fulfilling relationships are integral components of mental and physical health, and that emotionally focused interventions have the power to establish and recreate supportive bonds among individuals. I am therefore dedicated to the understanding of individual health and dysfunction in the context of relationship with others and the enhancement of couple and family
Yehuda Septimus
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW
Verified Verified
Lawrence, NY 11559
I’ve also had intensive training in EMDR, Sensorimotor, and Emotionally Focused therapies, and I have studied with world experts in the integration of these and other modalities to treat trauma and other complex life challenges.
Congratulations! You’ve made the courageous decision to search for something new. My approach to psychotherapy is experiential and relational. I believe that we hold within us everything we need for recovery and expansion and that a genuine and non-judgmental therapeutic relationship offers the context for healing, exploration, and growth. My clients describe feeling gotten and empowered by me. Psychotherapy with me is like traditional talking therapy. And also quite different. We won’t just talk about the bad experiences you’ve had. We’ll also cultivate new ones and help you consolidate the "new you" that will slowly emerge.
I’ve also had intensive training in EMDR, Sensorimotor, and Emotionally Focused therapies, and I have studied with world experts in the integration of these and other modalities to treat trauma and other complex life challenges.
Congratulations! You’ve made the courageous decision to search for something new. My approach to psychotherapy is experiential and relational. I believe that we hold within us everything we need for recovery and expansion and that a genuine and non-judgmental therapeutic relationship offers the context for healing, exploration, and growth. My clients describe feeling gotten and empowered by me. Psychotherapy with me is like traditional talking therapy. And also quite different. We won’t just talk about the bad experiences you’ve had. We’ll also cultivate new ones and help you consolidate the "new you" that will slowly emerge.
Annmarie B Boyle
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Merrick, NY 11566 (Online Only)
I work with couples to overcome infidelity, persistent conflict, and other relationship issues. I work with individuals to challenge negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that create patterns that keep them stuck. My approach is emotionally focused and attachment-based, to help clients gain insight and resume positive progress in their lives. See my profile at helloalma.com/providers/annmarie-boyle/ and request a free 15-minute consultation. I accept many insurance plans. Visit me at helloalma.com and let change start today.
I work with couples to overcome infidelity, persistent conflict, and other relationship issues. I work with individuals to challenge negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that create patterns that keep them stuck. My approach is emotionally focused and attachment-based, to help clients gain insight and resume positive progress in their lives. See my profile at helloalma.com/providers/annmarie-boyle/ and request a free 15-minute consultation. I accept many insurance plans. Visit me at helloalma.com and let change start today.
Masha (Maria) Leder
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CCATP, CIMHP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Woodbury, NY 11797
I use a mix of modalities such as psychodynamic psychotherapy, behavioral therapy (CBT), art therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), NVC (Non-violent communication) and DBT.
I am here to give you a deeper sense of self and the tools to get where you wish to be. If you are in a dark place, on a life crossroads or grieving a loss of a loved one - please knock on my door and I will help you process your feelings and recognize your needs, after which we will start creating a new life for you! Together we will deal with depressed moods, anxiety (I will share an extensive anxiety tool box with you!) and stress. With me you will feel SEEN, gotten and cared for. You will feel empowered to go on, make life choices and handle everyday stress. You will feel supported. You can start creating new reality today!
I use a mix of modalities such as psychodynamic psychotherapy, behavioral therapy (CBT), art therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), NVC (Non-violent communication) and DBT.
I am here to give you a deeper sense of self and the tools to get where you wish to be. If you are in a dark place, on a life crossroads or grieving a loss of a loved one - please knock on my door and I will help you process your feelings and recognize your needs, after which we will start creating a new life for you! Together we will deal with depressed moods, anxiety (I will share an extensive anxiety tool box with you!) and stress. With me you will feel SEEN, gotten and cared for. You will feel empowered to go on, make life choices and handle everyday stress. You will feel supported. You can start creating new reality today!
Zalman Nelson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Port Washington, NY 11050 (Online Only)
Hello, Looking for a therapist? That takes courage and you clearly have it. With over 14 years of experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I specialize in Addiction Counseling. I've worked globally, helping clients with ADHD, Adolescent, Adoption Issues, and more, using CBT, Emotionally Focused, and Mindfulness-based Therapies. I'm in-network with various insurances and excel in Couples Counseling, Depression, Divorce, and Drug related concerns. I'm adept at addressing Family Conflict, Highly Sensitive traits, and even offer support for fellow Therapists. Let's take this transformative journey together.
Hello, Looking for a therapist? That takes courage and you clearly have it. With over 14 years of experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I specialize in Addiction Counseling. I've worked globally, helping clients with ADHD, Adolescent, Adoption Issues, and more, using CBT, Emotionally Focused, and Mindfulness-based Therapies. I'm in-network with various insurances and excel in Couples Counseling, Depression, Divorce, and Drug related concerns. I'm adept at addressing Family Conflict, Highly Sensitive traits, and even offer support for fellow Therapists. Let's take this transformative journey together.
Carline M Napolitano
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, R, BCD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Syosset, NY 11791
Waitlist for new clients
Using emotionally focused treatment, I help people clarify needs, develop improved coping strategies and heal from conditions such as anxiety, depression, and chronic illness.
There is no need to face some of life's challenges alone. The mission of my practice is to offer individuals, couples and families, a safe place to explore all of life's possibilities.
Using emotionally focused treatment, I help people clarify needs, develop improved coping strategies and heal from conditions such as anxiety, depression, and chronic illness.
There is no need to face some of life's challenges alone. The mission of my practice is to offer individuals, couples and families, a safe place to explore all of life's possibilities.
Janet Steiner
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Hewlett, NY 11557
Life can be stressful and challenging at times. Sometimes we need the guidance, empathy and support of a skilled therapist to help us through difficult times. I am a warm, dynamic and seasoned individual, family and couples therapist trained at the Ackerman Institute. My goal is to help my clients identify feelings, thoughts or behaviors which may affect their interpersonal relationships, self esteem or personal goals. I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples which helps identify negative patterns and creates greater trust, understanding and intimacy.
Life can be stressful and challenging at times. Sometimes we need the guidance, empathy and support of a skilled therapist to help us through difficult times. I am a warm, dynamic and seasoned individual, family and couples therapist trained at the Ackerman Institute. My goal is to help my clients identify feelings, thoughts or behaviors which may affect their interpersonal relationships, self esteem or personal goals. I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples which helps identify negative patterns and creates greater trust, understanding and intimacy.
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Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, ATR-BC, ATCS
Verified Verified
Woodmere, NY 11598
Trained in IFS and EFT, I help individuals and couples heal and repair past emotional injuries that keep them stuck in frustrating patterns of interactions, and achieve intimacy in their relationships.
I view psychotherapy as a deeply personal process, one that is transformative. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help; finding the right therapist is crucial to your success. To achieve success, one must be supported by people they trust, find their life’s purpose, access suppressed passions, and appreciate the wisdom that can only be informed through past failures. Trust, respect, acceptance, mutuality, and empathy are foundational. My role is to assist you develop greater insight and self-awareness, feel heard, validated, and witnessed so that you can be your most authentic self.
Trained in IFS and EFT, I help individuals and couples heal and repair past emotional injuries that keep them stuck in frustrating patterns of interactions, and achieve intimacy in their relationships.
I view psychotherapy as a deeply personal process, one that is transformative. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help; finding the right therapist is crucial to your success. To achieve success, one must be supported by people they trust, find their life’s purpose, access suppressed passions, and appreciate the wisdom that can only be informed through past failures. Trust, respect, acceptance, mutuality, and empathy are foundational. My role is to assist you develop greater insight and self-awareness, feel heard, validated, and witnessed so that you can be your most authentic self.
Sage Williamson
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
East Norwich, NY 11732
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
Dr. Brant Anderson
Pre-Licensed Professional, PhD, JD
Verified Verified
East Norwich, NY 11732
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
Elizabeth Crossfield
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
East Norwich, NY 11732
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
Sephora Baron
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
East Norwich, NY 11732
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
I blend techniques from the Top in our field from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy.
Are you missing appreciation? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Fighting over sexual frequency? I can help you stop the negative cycle. Feel love again. Feel intimate again. Trained explicitly as a marriage and family therapist, I am a highly trained and experienced couples therapist. I believe in a collaborative approach and skilled at creating tools to foster healthy connections between couples and families. Together, we repair your relationship by introducing new methods of communication to increase empathy and flexibility.
Tzippy Preil
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Lawrence, NY 11559 (Online Only)
Tzippy Preil, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist who focuses on adults in the Jewish community. She addresses many areas in day-to-day life including anxiety, depression, self-esteem, self-confidence, emotion regulation, behavior disorders, trauma and relationships. She has experience working in a variety of environments such as public and private schools, non-for-profit agencies, as well as clinic and private practice settings. Her clinical approach engages in a number of therapeutic techniques, such as CBT, EFT, Somatic Intervention, Trauma Interventions, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, etc.
Tzippy Preil, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist who focuses on adults in the Jewish community. She addresses many areas in day-to-day life including anxiety, depression, self-esteem, self-confidence, emotion regulation, behavior disorders, trauma and relationships. She has experience working in a variety of environments such as public and private schools, non-for-profit agencies, as well as clinic and private practice settings. Her clinical approach engages in a number of therapeutic techniques, such as CBT, EFT, Somatic Intervention, Trauma Interventions, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, etc.
Easton Gaines
Psychologist, MSEd, PsyD
Verified Verified
Old Westbury, NY 11568
I practice Holistic Psychology and am passionate about making evidence-based therapeutic practices accessible. Therapy with me is collaborative, flexible, and strengths-based. My approach is grounded in scientifically-backed methods with specialized training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). I see clients of all ages ranging from young childhood through adulthood, including families and couples.
I practice Holistic Psychology and am passionate about making evidence-based therapeutic practices accessible. Therapy with me is collaborative, flexible, and strengths-based. My approach is grounded in scientifically-backed methods with specialized training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). I see clients of all ages ranging from young childhood through adulthood, including families and couples.
Abba Cohen
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Cedarhurst, NY 11516
Advanced training in: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Ericksonian Hypnosis, Gottman Couples Therapy, Play Therapy & Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Please see my YouTube video in which I discuss an aspect of my work with children: www.
I work with children, individuals & couples. In my work with children I engage them in a non-pressured environment using play & talk therapy as I work with them and their parents to help understand their world, increase awareness, promote effective communication & find meaningful solutions. I do a lot of work with individuals who struggle with anxiety, depression or anger to learn to cope and express themselves. I selectively use family & interpersonal dynamics. I use EFT to help couples improve the intimacy and closeness that they crave in their marriage while improving communication and understanding.
Advanced training in: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Ericksonian Hypnosis, Gottman Couples Therapy, Play Therapy & Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Please see my YouTube video in which I discuss an aspect of my work with children: www.
I work with children, individuals & couples. In my work with children I engage them in a non-pressured environment using play & talk therapy as I work with them and their parents to help understand their world, increase awareness, promote effective communication & find meaningful solutions. I do a lot of work with individuals who struggle with anxiety, depression or anger to learn to cope and express themselves. I selectively use family & interpersonal dynamics. I use EFT to help couples improve the intimacy and closeness that they crave in their marriage while improving communication and understanding.
Heather DeGuire
Pre-Licensed Professional, MHC-LP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Massapequa Park, NY 11762
My passion as a mental health counselor is to help people get in touch with their values so that they can live true to these through thought, behaviors, feelings, and communication. I believe in helping clients to develop healthy coping skills that allow them to heal and grow both in our session and throughout their daily lives. My focus is to build a strong therapeutic alliance that will help us work together towards your goals.
My passion as a mental health counselor is to help people get in touch with their values so that they can live true to these through thought, behaviors, feelings, and communication. I believe in helping clients to develop healthy coping skills that allow them to heal and grow both in our session and throughout their daily lives. My focus is to build a strong therapeutic alliance that will help us work together towards your goals.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.