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Dr. Johana Kuemerle-Pinillos
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27628  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I use evidence models like EFT and EMDR to support your journey.
Most people go into relationships with big hopes, a vision of a good future, and the desire to have a fulfilling life. However, somewhere in the process difficulties start to arise, and this hope soon becomes frustration and disappointment. You start to feel discouraged, and might begin to have thoughts of ending the relationship because it is all too much. Whether you are in a new relationship, or you have been together for decades, you are not alone. Every couple experiences a range of difficulties, you might be struggling with communication, constant arguing, or even infidelity. Regardless, I can help you. FREE 15 min consult!
I use evidence models like EFT and EMDR to support your journey.
Most people go into relationships with big hopes, a vision of a good future, and the desire to have a fulfilling life. However, somewhere in the process difficulties start to arise, and this hope soon becomes frustration and disappointment. You start to feel discouraged, and might begin to have thoughts of ending the relationship because it is all too much. Whether you are in a new relationship, or you have been together for decades, you are not alone. Every couple experiences a range of difficulties, you might be struggling with communication, constant arguing, or even infidelity. Regardless, I can help you. FREE 15 min consult!
(860) 901-0327 View (860) 901-0327
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Kinga Gudor @ Deep Connections Counseling
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27609  (Online Only)
Do you feel disconnected and lonely in your relationship? I can help you re-connect and feel again the bond you once had. I use Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( EFT), an attachment based therapy method. I am also trained in EMDR ( Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), ACT ( Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- a combination of CBT and mindfulness techniques) and IFS ( Internal Family Systems ) which are helpful in processing trauma.
Do you feel disconnected and lonely in your relationship? I can help you re-connect and feel again the bond you once had. I use Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( EFT), an attachment based therapy method. I am also trained in EMDR ( Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), ACT ( Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- a combination of CBT and mindfulness techniques) and IFS ( Internal Family Systems ) which are helpful in processing trauma.
(252) 300-3150 View (252) 300-3150
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Anna Vargas
Counselor, LCMHCA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27603
I use a variety of therapy modalities including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), attachment theory, psychodynamic therapy, emotion-focused therapy (EFT) and mindfulness practices.
I provide guidance for clients with a variety of mental health concerns including anxiety, OCD, depression, traumatic events, challenging childhoods, and feeling overwhelmed, stressed and “not good enough,” but most importantly, I enjoy helping folks navigate the challenges of being human in a world that is constantly telling us how we’re “supposed” to be. I strive to create a warm, non-judgmental and down-to-earth environment for clients to begin sharing their life experiences, expanding self-awareness, shifting perspectives, and letting go of unworkable patterns in order to move in a more meaningful and intentional direction.
I use a variety of therapy modalities including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), attachment theory, psychodynamic therapy, emotion-focused therapy (EFT) and mindfulness practices.
I provide guidance for clients with a variety of mental health concerns including anxiety, OCD, depression, traumatic events, challenging childhoods, and feeling overwhelmed, stressed and “not good enough,” but most importantly, I enjoy helping folks navigate the challenges of being human in a world that is constantly telling us how we’re “supposed” to be. I strive to create a warm, non-judgmental and down-to-earth environment for clients to begin sharing their life experiences, expanding self-awareness, shifting perspectives, and letting go of unworkable patterns in order to move in a more meaningful and intentional direction.
(919) 298-8529 View (919) 298-8529
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William Marshall
Counselor, LMHC-A
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27607
Each person comes to individual therapy for numerous and very honest reasons, despite how overwhelmed and powerless they are feeling. It is okay to not know what to do or know what is next. Deep down, I believe that each one of us has the innate wisdom to know themselves and to know what to do next, under optimal conditions. Couples caught in a criticize-withdraw cycle are often doing what their survival instincts tell them to do. I am also highly trained in couples counseling and marriage counseling through emotionally focused therapy (EFT). Marital therapy and individual counseling need guidance from an empathic but neutral party.
Each person comes to individual therapy for numerous and very honest reasons, despite how overwhelmed and powerless they are feeling. It is okay to not know what to do or know what is next. Deep down, I believe that each one of us has the innate wisdom to know themselves and to know what to do next, under optimal conditions. Couples caught in a criticize-withdraw cycle are often doing what their survival instincts tell them to do. I am also highly trained in couples counseling and marriage counseling through emotionally focused therapy (EFT). Marital therapy and individual counseling need guidance from an empathic but neutral party.
(919) 338-5022 View (919) 338-5022
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Awakenings Counseling for Couples and Sex Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT, LCMHC, AASECT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27615
Online or in-person, Awakenings' therapists use the scientifically-researched attachment theory with EFT (emotionally-focused therapy) and Gottman& Imago techniques, to help you improve or find relationship happiness.
Do you need online couples counseling, online sex therapy or online marriage counseling near me? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Are you missing appreciation? Fighting over sexual frequency? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues because of infidelity? Relationships need both emotional connection, intimacy and sex to be happy. We help repair affairs. Stop the fighting. Stop the criticism and withdrawing. Build a deeper connection, trust, & better communication. Feel love again. We treat erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, anorgasmia, low libido, frequency discrepancy.
Online or in-person, Awakenings' therapists use the scientifically-researched attachment theory with EFT (emotionally-focused therapy) and Gottman& Imago techniques, to help you improve or find relationship happiness.
Do you need online couples counseling, online sex therapy or online marriage counseling near me? Do you feel a lack of sexual desire? Are you missing appreciation? Fighting over sexual frequency? Does he stonewall? Does she not stop criticizing? Anxious and having trust issues because of infidelity? Relationships need both emotional connection, intimacy and sex to be happy. We help repair affairs. Stop the fighting. Stop the criticism and withdrawing. Build a deeper connection, trust, & better communication. Feel love again. We treat erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, anorgasmia, low libido, frequency discrepancy.
(984) 205-4614 View (984) 205-4614
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Emotivate Counseling, PLLC
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, MDiv, LCSW, LCAS, CCS
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27601
Whether you are a couple, an individual, or a family, I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and trauma informed treatment.
Are you trying to navigate relationship difficulties? Do your conflicts seem to repeat themselves over and over? Perhaps, you and your partner have simply grown distant from each other, or you are just looking for a more intimate bond and connection. Whether you are newly weds, having trouble conceiving, facing infidelity, or empty nesters, there is a tried and true way to navigate these experiences. Your relationship doesn't have to suffer any longer, there is a way through your unique circumstances. Let us help you find the connection that you truly desire in your relationship.
Whether you are a couple, an individual, or a family, I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and trauma informed treatment.
Are you trying to navigate relationship difficulties? Do your conflicts seem to repeat themselves over and over? Perhaps, you and your partner have simply grown distant from each other, or you are just looking for a more intimate bond and connection. Whether you are newly weds, having trouble conceiving, facing infidelity, or empty nesters, there is a tried and true way to navigate these experiences. Your relationship doesn't have to suffer any longer, there is a way through your unique circumstances. Let us help you find the connection that you truly desire in your relationship.
(585) 501-3045 View (585) 501-3045
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Rebecca Martinez Fitzgerald
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27606
I'm trained in EFT for couples and AEDP for individuals to help heal attachment traumas.
Loneliness is the worst. Isolation shows up in many forms, including shame, stress, mistrust, and unproductive conflict. People grow and heal in the context of secure relationships, and I aim to help clients create and sustain them. It's my pleasure to work with couples, partnerships and individuals who are experiencing distress, coping with trauma, or struggling with identity development.
I'm trained in EFT for couples and AEDP for individuals to help heal attachment traumas.
Loneliness is the worst. Isolation shows up in many forms, including shame, stress, mistrust, and unproductive conflict. People grow and heal in the context of secure relationships, and I aim to help clients create and sustain them. It's my pleasure to work with couples, partnerships and individuals who are experiencing distress, coping with trauma, or struggling with identity development.
(919) 626-9715 View (919) 626-9715
Alexandra Maestre
Psychological Associate, PsyD
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27615
My treatment approach focuses on providing services that are tailored to meet each client’s individual needs by integrating a range of therapeutic modalities. I value the importance of a strong therapeutic relationship and believe in the benefits of collaborative work in treatment. I aim to foster a genuine and welcoming environment that facilitates a safe space for clients to experience self-exploration, personal growth, and positive change while acquiring the tools they need to navigate these transitions in life.
My treatment approach focuses on providing services that are tailored to meet each client’s individual needs by integrating a range of therapeutic modalities. I value the importance of a strong therapeutic relationship and believe in the benefits of collaborative work in treatment. I aim to foster a genuine and welcoming environment that facilitates a safe space for clients to experience self-exploration, personal growth, and positive change while acquiring the tools they need to navigate these transitions in life.
(919) 823-5790 View (919) 823-5790
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Jasmin Young-Bradshaw
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27615
I became a Therapist because I genuinely love hearing about peoples lives. Listening is one of the most important aspects, in addition to creating a non-judgmental safe environment for individuals, couples, families, to let their "hair down" so to speak. I have spent the last 10 years working with anxiety, depression, panic, life transitions (death, divorce, stage of life, etc.), work stress, familial discord (including parent disappointment and disconnect, regardless of age), self-worth and self-love deficiencies, what the heck am I doing with my life questions. At the end of the day, I believe most of us want to experience peace.
I became a Therapist because I genuinely love hearing about peoples lives. Listening is one of the most important aspects, in addition to creating a non-judgmental safe environment for individuals, couples, families, to let their "hair down" so to speak. I have spent the last 10 years working with anxiety, depression, panic, life transitions (death, divorce, stage of life, etc.), work stress, familial discord (including parent disappointment and disconnect, regardless of age), self-worth and self-love deficiencies, what the heck am I doing with my life questions. At the end of the day, I believe most of us want to experience peace.
(919) 759-6756 View (919) 759-6756
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Veronica Pereira
Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, MS, LCMHC, NCC, CGCS
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27612  (Online Only)
There is nothing more painful than the death of a loved one. Taking a first step to engage in therapy could be a very difficult decision. If you are here, it means that you have decided to take a step towards your healing. Grief is not only the loss of a loved one, but may also be a life changing event such as the end of a relationship, moving to a new country, or a change in living conditions. Losses can be both sudden and predictable. Predictable losses have the added layer of waiting for the loss to happen, followed by the loss itself. Grieving can be overwhelming and isolating. Find in our sessions a safe space to heal.
There is nothing more painful than the death of a loved one. Taking a first step to engage in therapy could be a very difficult decision. If you are here, it means that you have decided to take a step towards your healing. Grief is not only the loss of a loved one, but may also be a life changing event such as the end of a relationship, moving to a new country, or a change in living conditions. Losses can be both sudden and predictable. Predictable losses have the added layer of waiting for the loss to happen, followed by the loss itself. Grieving can be overwhelming and isolating. Find in our sessions a safe space to heal.
(984) 205-8963 View (984) 205-8963
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Keiro Branch
Pre-Licensed Professional, MSW, LCSWA
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27616
Waitlist for new clients
You should be embracing those uncomfortable feelings in life- it could be a sign that you are growing! Bloom where you are planted. I understand how overstimulating it can be to adapt and navigate stressful environments or life experiences. You deserve a safe space where you feel comfortable working through the fear or stress that you may be experiencing. Additionally, the ability to adapt to life’s inevitable changes is an invaluable skill to have and unfortunately it’s not a skill that comes naturally to many of us, especially young children. Please note — in office hours include M- Thurs 2PM - 7PM; Friday Virtual only 12pm- 5PM
You should be embracing those uncomfortable feelings in life- it could be a sign that you are growing! Bloom where you are planted. I understand how overstimulating it can be to adapt and navigate stressful environments or life experiences. You deserve a safe space where you feel comfortable working through the fear or stress that you may be experiencing. Additionally, the ability to adapt to life’s inevitable changes is an invaluable skill to have and unfortunately it’s not a skill that comes naturally to many of us, especially young children. Please note — in office hours include M- Thurs 2PM - 7PM; Friday Virtual only 12pm- 5PM
(984) 249-3362 View (984) 249-3362
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Kristin Rodriguez
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27615
I am eager to counsel a variety of people from all walks of life. I'm excited to work with individuals and couples from various histories, ethnicities or spiritual backgrounds using Narrative, Systems, CBT, Emotion Focused Therapy and techniques from the Gottman approach. I offer traditional counseling for individuals or couples and I enjoy couple's intensives as well, which is focused time for 1-3 days for 3-5 hour periods.
I am eager to counsel a variety of people from all walks of life. I'm excited to work with individuals and couples from various histories, ethnicities or spiritual backgrounds using Narrative, Systems, CBT, Emotion Focused Therapy and techniques from the Gottman approach. I offer traditional counseling for individuals or couples and I enjoy couple's intensives as well, which is focused time for 1-3 days for 3-5 hour periods.
(919) 626-9930 View (919) 626-9930
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Christine Marie Schneider
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27603  (Online Only)
I’ve been working as a child & family therapist at least 10 years dealing with trauma and addiction. From there I branched out to work with adults. As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, I am passionate about healing and growth. I can work closely with you to provide a safe and confidential space for renewing and rewiring our brain. Are you struggling as a couple? We often overcompensate in our relationships often due to ignoring past hurts and fears, repeating the same patterns without even realizing it because it’s so familiar. And what we resist persists. Let’s work together to peel these layers to the beautiful real you.
I’ve been working as a child & family therapist at least 10 years dealing with trauma and addiction. From there I branched out to work with adults. As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, I am passionate about healing and growth. I can work closely with you to provide a safe and confidential space for renewing and rewiring our brain. Are you struggling as a couple? We often overcompensate in our relationships often due to ignoring past hurts and fears, repeating the same patterns without even realizing it because it’s so familiar. And what we resist persists. Let’s work together to peel these layers to the beautiful real you.
(984) 217-8460 View (984) 217-8460
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Julian Crespo
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27604  (Online Only)
I am a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist with extensive experience working with individuals, couples, and families. I am also an assistant professor of Marriage and Family Therapy and a clinical supervisor. I have been able to help many couples and families acquire the necessary skills needed to cope with very real relational problems (e.g., communication issues, infidelity, and power dynamics). I also help individuals from multiple cultural and ethnic backgrounds struggling with anxiety, depression, acculturation, and discrimination/oppression issues. I am committed to offering you a safe space where you can grow.
I am a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist with extensive experience working with individuals, couples, and families. I am also an assistant professor of Marriage and Family Therapy and a clinical supervisor. I have been able to help many couples and families acquire the necessary skills needed to cope with very real relational problems (e.g., communication issues, infidelity, and power dynamics). I also help individuals from multiple cultural and ethnic backgrounds struggling with anxiety, depression, acculturation, and discrimination/oppression issues. I am committed to offering you a safe space where you can grow.
(919) 443-6170 View (919) 443-6170
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Brea Ageda
Pre-Licensed Professional, MSW, LCSWA, LCASA
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27609
Accepting New Clients - I believe life should be a lot easier than it is. We often become sidetracked by life due to classes, work, and mother duties. The pressure changes us into different people, and we often forget about our mental health. How do we get past reacting to life and start enjoying ourselves again? The answer is not easy because many factors fracture our attention, steal our resources, and prevent progress. My job is to help change these factors to set you up for success and aid in defining what success means for you.
Accepting New Clients - I believe life should be a lot easier than it is. We often become sidetracked by life due to classes, work, and mother duties. The pressure changes us into different people, and we often forget about our mental health. How do we get past reacting to life and start enjoying ourselves again? The answer is not easy because many factors fracture our attention, steal our resources, and prevent progress. My job is to help change these factors to set you up for success and aid in defining what success means for you.
(984) 265-8670 View (984) 265-8670
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Jomaris Diaz Hernandez
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27614
Hello! Yo hablo español e inglés con fluidez! I speak Spanish and English fluently, and work with folx from diverse communities and backgrounds to address topics such as self-identity, belonging, anxiety, stress, life transitions, improving self-talk, inner child work, and navigating parental relationships. I am especially passionate about providing care to folx from historically marginalized communities, especially those suffering from language barriers, experiencing bicultural stress, or navigating the Latine experience.
Hello! Yo hablo español e inglés con fluidez! I speak Spanish and English fluently, and work with folx from diverse communities and backgrounds to address topics such as self-identity, belonging, anxiety, stress, life transitions, improving self-talk, inner child work, and navigating parental relationships. I am especially passionate about providing care to folx from historically marginalized communities, especially those suffering from language barriers, experiencing bicultural stress, or navigating the Latine experience.
(919) 769-6464 View (919) 769-6464
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Drew Marino
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW-A
Verified Verified
20 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27615
Accepting New Clients - I am a strengths-based clinician who enjoys learning about my clients and their unique lived experience. I work with people in transition, who are still discovering themselves even later in life, and who are looking to identify what holds them back. I build a constructive dialogue with my clients, helping them gain insightful into their troubles, even when they struggle to see where their stressors lie. Even if you do not have the tools yet, but you are willing to take that first step and make a change, I will meet you every step of the way.
Accepting New Clients - I am a strengths-based clinician who enjoys learning about my clients and their unique lived experience. I work with people in transition, who are still discovering themselves even later in life, and who are looking to identify what holds them back. I build a constructive dialogue with my clients, helping them gain insightful into their troubles, even when they struggle to see where their stressors lie. Even if you do not have the tools yet, but you are willing to take that first step and make a change, I will meet you every step of the way.
(980) 243-4436 x919679 View (980) 243-4436 x919679
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Melissa Carmona
Counselor, MS, LCMHC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27601  (Online Only)
Asking for help and seeking treatment is hard! You're longing to feel more understood, less isolated, and more at home in your body. You're ready to enjoy more of your life and worry less. You don't want to compare yourself to others any longer. People have told you to "shake it off," "get over it," "you shouldn't feel this way." You're tired of being told how you should feel and that it's not okay TO feel, to begin with. There is enough space for ALL of your feelings and experience here; all parts of you are welcome.
Asking for help and seeking treatment is hard! You're longing to feel more understood, less isolated, and more at home in your body. You're ready to enjoy more of your life and worry less. You don't want to compare yourself to others any longer. People have told you to "shake it off," "get over it," "you shouldn't feel this way." You're tired of being told how you should feel and that it's not okay TO feel, to begin with. There is enough space for ALL of your feelings and experience here; all parts of you are welcome.
(828) 575-5532 View (828) 575-5532
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Sun Counseling and Wellness
Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, LCMHCS, RPT, PhD, DBH, RYT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27601
We can all benefit from gaining insights, learning skills, and having “tune-ups” along the way. If you’re feeling stuck, struggling with how you feel about yourself or in relationship with someone, experiencing unwanted or intrusive thoughts or memories from a past experience, ruminating on negative thoughts or beliefs, feeling anxious or depressive symptoms, or struggling in your relationship with food or your body, you don’t have to walk through it alone! We have two locations and a consortium of providers who can help. We see all ages and have mental health therapy, nutrition services, and integrative wellness offerings.
We can all benefit from gaining insights, learning skills, and having “tune-ups” along the way. If you’re feeling stuck, struggling with how you feel about yourself or in relationship with someone, experiencing unwanted or intrusive thoughts or memories from a past experience, ruminating on negative thoughts or beliefs, feeling anxious or depressive symptoms, or struggling in your relationship with food or your body, you don’t have to walk through it alone! We have two locations and a consortium of providers who can help. We see all ages and have mental health therapy, nutrition services, and integrative wellness offerings.
(704) 981-8261 View (704) 981-8261
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Evelyn Ponce
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27605  (Online Only)
Welcome! I am a therapist providing virtual only sessions. I specialize in depression, anxiety disorders (including social phobia), pregnancy, and postpartum. I have experience in community-based mental health as well as school and government-based agencies. I work best with people who want to take an active role in building the life they want, figuring out the person they want to be and how we can build on all of their innate strengths to live a rich and meaningful life, even in the face of disappointment, loss, frustration, and pain.
Welcome! I am a therapist providing virtual only sessions. I specialize in depression, anxiety disorders (including social phobia), pregnancy, and postpartum. I have experience in community-based mental health as well as school and government-based agencies. I work best with people who want to take an active role in building the life they want, figuring out the person they want to be and how we can build on all of their innate strengths to live a rich and meaningful life, even in the face of disappointment, loss, frustration, and pain.
(919) 351-6147 View (919) 351-6147
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.