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Thriving Lives Counseling, LLC
Counselor, MA, LCPC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Tinley Park, IL 60477
You feel like you're going through the motions but never really getting anywhere. Maybe you're completely stressed out and worried about your future or your family members' futures. Or maybe it's a struggle to set healthy boundaries for yourself and your loved ones. You've likely been debating seeking help for months if not years. We're so glad you've taken the courageous step of being here. We're confident that together, we can work to help equip you with the necessary tools to help you face and overcome these challenges.
You feel like you're going through the motions but never really getting anywhere. Maybe you're completely stressed out and worried about your future or your family members' futures. Or maybe it's a struggle to set healthy boundaries for yourself and your loved ones. You've likely been debating seeking help for months if not years. We're so glad you've taken the courageous step of being here. We're confident that together, we can work to help equip you with the necessary tools to help you face and overcome these challenges.
(708) 401-6941 View (708) 401-6941
Photo of Sophie Follenweider, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Sophie Follenweider
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, PEL , CLC
Verified Verified
Tinley Park, IL 60477
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed School Counselor and Certified Life Coach. My work experience spans multiple areas including private practice, behavioral healthcare organizations, public and private schools, and mental health hospitals where I provided individual, group counseling and education. I have worked extensively with teenagers, families, individuals and children. My therapeutic approach includes family systems, eclectic and holistic approaches and other interventions that allow individuals and families as co-facilitators of emotional healing. I feel I have a keen ability to listen and understand my clients.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed School Counselor and Certified Life Coach. My work experience spans multiple areas including private practice, behavioral healthcare organizations, public and private schools, and mental health hospitals where I provided individual, group counseling and education. I have worked extensively with teenagers, families, individuals and children. My therapeutic approach includes family systems, eclectic and holistic approaches and other interventions that allow individuals and families as co-facilitators of emotional healing. I feel I have a keen ability to listen and understand my clients.
(708) 633-8000 View (708) 633-8000

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Photo of Gigi Sappenfield, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Gigi Sappenfield
Licensed Professional Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Homewood, IL 60430
Trauma certified, Reiki, Brainspotting and EFT trained, i practice incorporating somatic experiences and the mind body connection to heal, create change, improve relationships and one's quality of life.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, specializing in relationships, personal healing and trauma. I create safe caring spaces where we can join together while facing difficulties. Counseling with me is affirming and interactive. You will learn to identify and release problematic beliefs and behaviors, that have become barriers to your wellbeing. You will gain new perspectives and acceptance to help you heal, while discovering insights to the power and strength within you.
Trauma certified, Reiki, Brainspotting and EFT trained, i practice incorporating somatic experiences and the mind body connection to heal, create change, improve relationships and one's quality of life.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, specializing in relationships, personal healing and trauma. I create safe caring spaces where we can join together while facing difficulties. Counseling with me is affirming and interactive. You will learn to identify and release problematic beliefs and behaviors, that have become barriers to your wellbeing. You will gain new perspectives and acceptance to help you heal, while discovering insights to the power and strength within you.
(708) 365-4179 View (708) 365-4179
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Cheron Allen
Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Olympia Fields, IL 60461  (Online Only)
At my core, I am an artist and believe in creating the sacred space necessary for intentional healing. My approach is strength-based and person-centered. I draw from evidence-based modalities such as Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Systems Theory and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to address individual and relational needs.
At my core, I am an artist and believe in creating the sacred space necessary for intentional healing. My approach is strength-based and person-centered. I draw from evidence-based modalities such as Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Systems Theory and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to address individual and relational needs.
(773) 207-5400 View (773) 207-5400
Photo of Nicole Rodriguez, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Nicole Rodriguez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LCSW
Verified Verified
Crestwood, IL 60445
My clients have a variety of issues including Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, Emotional Disturbance, and Behavioral Issues. Clients often require psychoeducation, identifying emotions and somatic symptoms, use of a variety of coping skills, behavioral management techniques including contingency management, knowledge of social skills and opportunities to practice such skills. My goal for every client is to help them find their motivation, gain knowledge about their issues, and to be able to effectively manage their issues.
My clients have a variety of issues including Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, Emotional Disturbance, and Behavioral Issues. Clients often require psychoeducation, identifying emotions and somatic symptoms, use of a variety of coping skills, behavioral management techniques including contingency management, knowledge of social skills and opportunities to practice such skills. My goal for every client is to help them find their motivation, gain knowledge about their issues, and to be able to effectively manage their issues.
(708) 726-0520 View (708) 726-0520
Photo of Maricarmella A Baker, Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Maricarmella A Baker
Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Palos Hills, IL 60465
Therapy is a journey that can be wonderful, exhausting, and awakening all at the same time. I am here to walk with you, to help navigate the challenges in life that stand in the way of healing. My therapy focuses on providing compassionate, personalized care using a warm, emphatic and interactive approach to counseling.
Therapy is a journey that can be wonderful, exhausting, and awakening all at the same time. I am here to walk with you, to help navigate the challenges in life that stand in the way of healing. My therapy focuses on providing compassionate, personalized care using a warm, emphatic and interactive approach to counseling.
(708) 480-9630 View (708) 480-9630
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Khesed Wellness
LPC
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Flossmoor, IL 60422
We believe everyone deserves access to quality mental health therapy they can afford. Our team of therapists offer a variety of expertise, including anxiety, depression, PTSD, addiction and substance use, eating disorders, LGBTQ+ issues, faith, sexuality, boundary setting, identity exploration, and more. We offer individual, couples, and family sessions. Our goal is to match you with the therapist who is the best therapeutic, cultural and relational fit to meet your needs. We return all outreaches within one business day and match you with a therapist within one week so you don't have to wait for care. We're here for you.
We believe everyone deserves access to quality mental health therapy they can afford. Our team of therapists offer a variety of expertise, including anxiety, depression, PTSD, addiction and substance use, eating disorders, LGBTQ+ issues, faith, sexuality, boundary setting, identity exploration, and more. We offer individual, couples, and family sessions. Our goal is to match you with the therapist who is the best therapeutic, cultural and relational fit to meet your needs. We return all outreaches within one business day and match you with a therapist within one week so you don't have to wait for care. We're here for you.
(972) 544-4168 View (972) 544-4168
Photo of Emily Brennan, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Emily Brennan
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60655
I have experience working with both children and adults seeking individual and/or family therapy to help address a variety of presenting problems including depression, anxiety, substance abuse, feelings of unworthiness, stress, ADHD, neuro-divergance, relational issues, codependency, emotional/behavioral concerns, and parent/caregiver support.
I have experience working with both children and adults seeking individual and/or family therapy to help address a variety of presenting problems including depression, anxiety, substance abuse, feelings of unworthiness, stress, ADHD, neuro-divergance, relational issues, codependency, emotional/behavioral concerns, and parent/caregiver support.
(708) 740-2496 View (708) 740-2496
Photo of Jessica Carufel, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Jessica Carufel
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, MA, NCC, LCPC, CCTP
Verified Verified
New Lenox, IL 60451
Trauma can make you feel like someone has robbed you of your innocence, purpose, sense of belonging, your voice, and ability to feel safe in your own body. You might be searching for a sense of control, but feeling completely powerless. You escape into activities or relationships in order to feel anything at all and other times to make the feelings stop all together. You may have developed parts of yourself in order to survive, but what would life look like if you could shed old scripts and truly live a life that’s worth living?
Trauma can make you feel like someone has robbed you of your innocence, purpose, sense of belonging, your voice, and ability to feel safe in your own body. You might be searching for a sense of control, but feeling completely powerless. You escape into activities or relationships in order to feel anything at all and other times to make the feelings stop all together. You may have developed parts of yourself in order to survive, but what would life look like if you could shed old scripts and truly live a life that’s worth living?
(708) 438-5857 View (708) 438-5857
Photo of Brittany Stevenson, Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Brittany Stevenson
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
Palos Heights, IL 60463
We all tend to feel down at times and the negative thoughts that come with these instances send us into a downward spiral. This can contribute to depressed mood, feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, or a lack of motivation. Let me help you reshape the way you think, bring positivity and light back into the way you feel, and create productive goal-achieving behavior. Sometimes tackling life's problems alone can feel daunting and impossible. Come hike with me, invite me onto your team so we can knock out these problems together, and learn to laugh again!
We all tend to feel down at times and the negative thoughts that come with these instances send us into a downward spiral. This can contribute to depressed mood, feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, or a lack of motivation. Let me help you reshape the way you think, bring positivity and light back into the way you feel, and create productive goal-achieving behavior. Sometimes tackling life's problems alone can feel daunting and impossible. Come hike with me, invite me onto your team so we can knock out these problems together, and learn to laugh again!
(708) 480-9536 View (708) 480-9536

Online Therapists

Photo of Stacey Seibold, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Stacey Seibold
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60607  (Online Only)
EFT, SE, IFS, Gottman Method, CBT, and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction that will help you achieve the quality of life you want.
I pride myself on meeting my clients where they are to walk alongside them as they heal & create their best life. We all at times go through periods when processing, whether towards change or healing, becomes necessary. I hope to make that process a bit more comfortable, so that you are not alone, and also to help you move through your journey with integrity and intention. Many of my clients report feeling it to be easier to approach difficult topics due to us having a friendly relationship as a foundation. I believe that foundation is in part created due to our efforts in seeing and validating their own internal strengths.
EFT, SE, IFS, Gottman Method, CBT, and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction that will help you achieve the quality of life you want.
I pride myself on meeting my clients where they are to walk alongside them as they heal & create their best life. We all at times go through periods when processing, whether towards change or healing, becomes necessary. I hope to make that process a bit more comfortable, so that you are not alone, and also to help you move through your journey with integrity and intention. Many of my clients report feeling it to be easier to approach difficult topics due to us having a friendly relationship as a foundation. I believe that foundation is in part created due to our efforts in seeing and validating their own internal strengths.
(224) 261-7610 View (224) 261-7610
Photo of Sheila Hynes, Marriage & Family Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Sheila Hynes
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60564
Waitlist for new clients
In my practice, I work with couples, individuals, and families utilizing methods from Emotionally Focused Therapy. This scientifically proven approach, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, helps people understand and improve their emotional connection with themselves and others. Couples learn how to reconnect through listening, validation, and empathy. The EFT process, backed by research, enables couples, families, and individuals to create secure attachments, leading to improvements in depression and anxiety. I offer faith-based counseling in my practice according to my client's preferences.
In my practice, I work with couples, individuals, and families utilizing methods from Emotionally Focused Therapy. This scientifically proven approach, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, helps people understand and improve their emotional connection with themselves and others. Couples learn how to reconnect through listening, validation, and empathy. The EFT process, backed by research, enables couples, families, and individuals to create secure attachments, leading to improvements in depression and anxiety. I offer faith-based counseling in my practice according to my client's preferences.
(331) 701-2676 View (331) 701-2676
Photo of Gabrielle Soe, Pre-Licensed Professional in Tinley Park, IL
Gabrielle Soe
Pre-Licensed Professional, MS
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60657
My therapeutic approach is collaborative and draws from various models, including emotionally focused, experiential, trauma-informed, and somatic-based.
I believe that we all have the right to find safety, empowerment, and acceptance in our own lives and in the relationships we value. My work begins with genuine curiosity, and continues toward leading clients into creating their own meanings from lived experiences. Working together, we can build up self-advocacy and allow for self-love to flow through so that you may choose how to begin creating practices of care and support.
My therapeutic approach is collaborative and draws from various models, including emotionally focused, experiential, trauma-informed, and somatic-based.
I believe that we all have the right to find safety, empowerment, and acceptance in our own lives and in the relationships we value. My work begins with genuine curiosity, and continues toward leading clients into creating their own meanings from lived experiences. Working together, we can build up self-advocacy and allow for self-love to flow through so that you may choose how to begin creating practices of care and support.
(872) 259-5275 View (872) 259-5275
Photo of Poyesh Ganji, Marriage & Family Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Poyesh Ganji
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60622
I have training in family systems therapy, Emotionally focused therapy, interpersonal trauma and attachment, and I am also a psychoanalyst in training at Chicago Psychoanalytic Institute.
You might look for individual therapy because you experience obstacles that happen again and again; you are trying to figure out who you are and what you want in life. You might be looking for couples therapy because you feel disconnected from your partner or have difficulty communicating; you fight or have difficulty with being intimate. You might be looking for family therapy because you don’t know how to connect with your kids; there is conflict in your family and you don’t know how to resolve it. You might be a person of color, immigrant or second generation and struggle with issues mentioned above.
I have training in family systems therapy, Emotionally focused therapy, interpersonal trauma and attachment, and I am also a psychoanalyst in training at Chicago Psychoanalytic Institute.
You might look for individual therapy because you experience obstacles that happen again and again; you are trying to figure out who you are and what you want in life. You might be looking for couples therapy because you feel disconnected from your partner or have difficulty communicating; you fight or have difficulty with being intimate. You might be looking for family therapy because you don’t know how to connect with your kids; there is conflict in your family and you don’t know how to resolve it. You might be a person of color, immigrant or second generation and struggle with issues mentioned above.
(458) 219-7228 View (458) 219-7228
Photo of Monique Prohaska-Slattery, Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Monique Prohaska-Slattery
Counselor, LCPC, ATR, CYT, BSP
Verified Verified
Oakbrook Terrace, IL 60181
In sessions I use ACT, CBT, Brainspotting, & Positive Psychology along with EFT, yoga, mindfulness, art therapy, & reiki when appropriate.
Accepting Clients for In-Person & Telehealth (M, T, W 12:15 - 4:30 pm): Are you looking to find peace, perseverance, and resilience through everyday struggles? Imagine what it would feel like to not worry all the time or do the “what-if” dance in your mind. Whether your struggles are about a life transition, a relationship issue, experiencing stress, physical & emotional changes such as peri-menopause and menopause, or anything else that feels like "something's not quite right," finding a safe outlet to express yourself, understand your anxiety, build your coping skills, and find solutions is where your transformation begins.
In sessions I use ACT, CBT, Brainspotting, & Positive Psychology along with EFT, yoga, mindfulness, art therapy, & reiki when appropriate.
Accepting Clients for In-Person & Telehealth (M, T, W 12:15 - 4:30 pm): Are you looking to find peace, perseverance, and resilience through everyday struggles? Imagine what it would feel like to not worry all the time or do the “what-if” dance in your mind. Whether your struggles are about a life transition, a relationship issue, experiencing stress, physical & emotional changes such as peri-menopause and menopause, or anything else that feels like "something's not quite right," finding a safe outlet to express yourself, understand your anxiety, build your coping skills, and find solutions is where your transformation begins.
(630) 473-9273 View (630) 473-9273
Photo of Caitlin Lantz, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Caitlin Lantz
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Bloomington, IL 61701  (Online Only)
I'm trained in numerous modalities (TBRI, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, etc) but what makes me the most effective is being a card carrying member of the human race.
Has your life taken an unexpected detour? Maybe it's a chaotic relationship, unrelating anxiety or navigating difficult family dynamics. Whatever your struggles might be, fighting these battles on your own can be difficult, painful and sometimes overwhelming. However, there is an incredible amount of power in a strong therapeutic relationship where you can process life with someone who desires to fully understand you with a lens of compassion and empathy.
I'm trained in numerous modalities (TBRI, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, EMDR, etc) but what makes me the most effective is being a card carrying member of the human race.
Has your life taken an unexpected detour? Maybe it's a chaotic relationship, unrelating anxiety or navigating difficult family dynamics. Whatever your struggles might be, fighting these battles on your own can be difficult, painful and sometimes overwhelming. However, there is an incredible amount of power in a strong therapeutic relationship where you can process life with someone who desires to fully understand you with a lens of compassion and empathy.
(217) 216-9157 View (217) 216-9157
Photo of Cora Mills, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Cora Mills
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60540
She also specializes in couples work and is Gottman and EFT trained.
Briarwood Counseling seeks to help people who are struggling to figure out how to feel better in their lives. Cora works with individuals, couples and families struggling with depression, anxiety, life and relationship transitions into and out of parenthood, grief, loss, and rebuilding after abuse and trauma experiences. Sometimes people just feel "stuck" and want their lives to look different or want to move into a more positive space. Cora helps sift through the trouble and find solutions and move forward. Cora loves working with people who want to know themselves better.
She also specializes in couples work and is Gottman and EFT trained.
Briarwood Counseling seeks to help people who are struggling to figure out how to feel better in their lives. Cora works with individuals, couples and families struggling with depression, anxiety, life and relationship transitions into and out of parenthood, grief, loss, and rebuilding after abuse and trauma experiences. Sometimes people just feel "stuck" and want their lives to look different or want to move into a more positive space. Cora helps sift through the trouble and find solutions and move forward. Cora loves working with people who want to know themselves better.
(779) 204-5159 View (779) 204-5159
Photo of Meredith Farster, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Tinley Park, IL
Meredith Farster
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LISW
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60707
My work is influenced by cognitive behavioral therapy, intersectional gender dynamics, racial trauma, navigating oppressive systems, relational/cultural modalities, attachment theory/EFT, Gottman and process oriented somatic complex trauma modality of NARM(Neuroaffective Relational Model).
Therapy is a space to explore who you are, were & want to be. Change and growth can be scary & difficult but also beautiful & freeing. My hope is to help you move through that process in the way that works best for you. Working toward a greater insight and awareness of our experiences can help us to embrace and enhance connection to ourselves and others. I provide culturally & racially conscious therapy services using the social work adage of beginning where my client is. I see my role as being present with my clients as they face and navigate the grey areas of life, while increasing agency, sense of self & healthy coping skills.
My work is influenced by cognitive behavioral therapy, intersectional gender dynamics, racial trauma, navigating oppressive systems, relational/cultural modalities, attachment theory/EFT, Gottman and process oriented somatic complex trauma modality of NARM(Neuroaffective Relational Model).
Therapy is a space to explore who you are, were & want to be. Change and growth can be scary & difficult but also beautiful & freeing. My hope is to help you move through that process in the way that works best for you. Working toward a greater insight and awareness of our experiences can help us to embrace and enhance connection to ourselves and others. I provide culturally & racially conscious therapy services using the social work adage of beginning where my client is. I see my role as being present with my clients as they face and navigate the grey areas of life, while increasing agency, sense of self & healthy coping skills.
(708) 295-3237 View (708) 295-3237
Photo of Ana N Hedenstrom, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Ana N Hedenstrom
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613
Working with relationships, I use approaches related to somatic therapies, EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) and Gottman’s Method.
I believe that all healing happens within connection. All personal healing, in turn heals the collective. You are the creator of your own life. We will move down a path of self-actualization and change, utilizing your personal strengths to guide us. I am passionate about facilitating creative, client-centered and culturally-centered therapy. You are the expert on your life, and I will support you in transformative self-reflection and embodiment. When it comes to PTSD and trauma, I use somatic practices, EMDR Flash Technique, art therapy and attachment theory.
Working with relationships, I use approaches related to somatic therapies, EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) and Gottman’s Method.
I believe that all healing happens within connection. All personal healing, in turn heals the collective. You are the creator of your own life. We will move down a path of self-actualization and change, utilizing your personal strengths to guide us. I am passionate about facilitating creative, client-centered and culturally-centered therapy. You are the expert on your life, and I will support you in transformative self-reflection and embodiment. When it comes to PTSD and trauma, I use somatic practices, EMDR Flash Technique, art therapy and attachment theory.
(872) 204-0432 View (872) 204-0432
Photo of Sara Kaeding, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tinley Park, IL
Sara Kaeding
Licensed Professional Counselor, MEd, NCC, LPC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Saint Charles, IL 60174
I use modalities like EFT, Mindfulness-Based CBT, and ACT to increase resiliency, improve communication strategies, and help clients manage stress.
I enjoy working collaboratively with clients to create a plan for sustainable growth and change. I operate from a neuro-affirming, trauma-informed lens to support you in creating goals that align with your own vision for growth and healing. I understand how much effort it takes to create space in your life for therapy. I promise to honor that effort by providing a safe, non-judgmental environment where you feel heard, supported, and encouraged.
I use modalities like EFT, Mindfulness-Based CBT, and ACT to increase resiliency, improve communication strategies, and help clients manage stress.
I enjoy working collaboratively with clients to create a plan for sustainable growth and change. I operate from a neuro-affirming, trauma-informed lens to support you in creating goals that align with your own vision for growth and healing. I understand how much effort it takes to create space in your life for therapy. I promise to honor that effort by providing a safe, non-judgmental environment where you feel heard, supported, and encouraged.
(224) 243-4076 x91 View (224) 243-4076 x91

Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.