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Cora Mills
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60540
She also specializes in couples work and is Gottman and EFT trained.
Briarwood Counseling seeks to help people who are struggling to figure out how to feel better in their lives. Cora works with individuals, couples and families struggling with depression, anxiety, life and relationship transitions into and out of parenthood, grief, loss, and rebuilding after abuse and trauma experiences. Sometimes people just feel "stuck" and want their lives to look different or want to move into a more positive space. Cora helps sift through the trouble and find solutions and move forward. Cora loves working with people who want to know themselves better.
She also specializes in couples work and is Gottman and EFT trained.
Briarwood Counseling seeks to help people who are struggling to figure out how to feel better in their lives. Cora works with individuals, couples and families struggling with depression, anxiety, life and relationship transitions into and out of parenthood, grief, loss, and rebuilding after abuse and trauma experiences. Sometimes people just feel "stuck" and want their lives to look different or want to move into a more positive space. Cora helps sift through the trouble and find solutions and move forward. Cora loves working with people who want to know themselves better.
(779) 204-5159 View (779) 204-5159
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Sheila Hynes
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60564
Waitlist for new clients
In my practice, I work with couples, individuals, and families utilizing methods from Emotionally Focused Therapy. This scientifically proven approach, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, helps people understand and improve their emotional connection with themselves and others. Couples learn how to reconnect through listening, validation, and empathy. The EFT process, backed by research, enables couples, families, and individuals to create secure attachments, leading to improvements in depression and anxiety. I offer faith-based counseling in my practice according to my client's preferences.
In my practice, I work with couples, individuals, and families utilizing methods from Emotionally Focused Therapy. This scientifically proven approach, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, helps people understand and improve their emotional connection with themselves and others. Couples learn how to reconnect through listening, validation, and empathy. The EFT process, backed by research, enables couples, families, and individuals to create secure attachments, leading to improvements in depression and anxiety. I offer faith-based counseling in my practice according to my client's preferences.
(331) 701-2676 View (331) 701-2676
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Philip A Kirk
Counselor, MA, NCC, LCPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
Are your feelings of sadness and anxiety preventing you from enjoying life? Are you struggling with relationship difficulties or life transitions? Do you feel stuck? Do you desire closeness and greater intimacy with your partner/spouse? Do you want to improve your communications? You are not alone. Seeking therapy is the 1st step toward achieving a more satisfying life and/or relief from suffering. The decision to seek therapy can be difficult but helpful when we are overwhelmed by life experiences and unhappy with relationships in our lives. Treatment is confidential. My office is located in a private, safe & comfortable setting.
Are your feelings of sadness and anxiety preventing you from enjoying life? Are you struggling with relationship difficulties or life transitions? Do you feel stuck? Do you desire closeness and greater intimacy with your partner/spouse? Do you want to improve your communications? You are not alone. Seeking therapy is the 1st step toward achieving a more satisfying life and/or relief from suffering. The decision to seek therapy can be difficult but helpful when we are overwhelmed by life experiences and unhappy with relationships in our lives. Treatment is confidential. My office is located in a private, safe & comfortable setting.
(815) 261-1617 View (815) 261-1617
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Rory Scher
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60540
Therapy can be a great place to begin the courageous journey of rediscovering who you are and equipping yourself with the tools needed to make your life more enriched and fulfilling. I work with couples, families, and individuals of all ages. I have undergone training in EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy), and use ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) for treating OCD and anxiety related disorders.
Therapy can be a great place to begin the courageous journey of rediscovering who you are and equipping yourself with the tools needed to make your life more enriched and fulfilling. I work with couples, families, and individuals of all ages. I have undergone training in EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy), and use ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) for treating OCD and anxiety related disorders.
(331) 204-1696 View (331) 204-1696
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Christine A Barker
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
I use mindfulness, CBT, CPT, and EFT in many of my sessions.
Hi there! I am Christine :) I am a passionate-practicing LCPC in North Naperville. I have over 10 years of experience. I enjoy working with adults who have problematic relationships, childhood issues, and who feel stuck in their present life. It might be trauma, depression, anxiety, but whatever it is we can help you get "unstuck" together. I believe everyone has potential to help themselves, but sometimes we need some guidance. Many of us weren't taught how to deal with our emotions and feelings, and as a result, our adult lives suffer in ways we aren't educated to fix. I am here to help guide YOU to your BEST SELF.
I use mindfulness, CBT, CPT, and EFT in many of my sessions.
Hi there! I am Christine :) I am a passionate-practicing LCPC in North Naperville. I have over 10 years of experience. I enjoy working with adults who have problematic relationships, childhood issues, and who feel stuck in their present life. It might be trauma, depression, anxiety, but whatever it is we can help you get "unstuck" together. I believe everyone has potential to help themselves, but sometimes we need some guidance. Many of us weren't taught how to deal with our emotions and feelings, and as a result, our adult lives suffer in ways we aren't educated to fix. I am here to help guide YOU to your BEST SELF.
(630) 581-2505 View (630) 581-2505
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Kerry Lavine
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
Kerry frequently utilizes approaches from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy (NT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), and Interpersonal Therapy (IPT).
Kerry believes that each client possesses strength and qualities within them needed to work through life challenges; however, they often may lack the tools needed to access them. these when beginning therapy. Kerry takes a collaborative approach with clients to help identify their specific problems, needs, and goals and tailors’ therapeutic interventions to what works best for each individual. Kerry believes in building a strong therapeutic rapport with each client to foster a safe environment for them to express their emotions and feel empowered to work toward becoming their most authentic selves.
Kerry frequently utilizes approaches from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy (NT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), and Interpersonal Therapy (IPT).
Kerry believes that each client possesses strength and qualities within them needed to work through life challenges; however, they often may lack the tools needed to access them. these when beginning therapy. Kerry takes a collaborative approach with clients to help identify their specific problems, needs, and goals and tailors’ therapeutic interventions to what works best for each individual. Kerry believes in building a strong therapeutic rapport with each client to foster a safe environment for them to express their emotions and feel empowered to work toward becoming their most authentic selves.
(331) 258-8062 x240 View (331) 258-8062 x240
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Lisa Pisha
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60540
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, writer, and parent instructor working with individuals, families, and couples strengthening relationships through some of life's challenges and transitions. My areas of expertise include couples and marriage counseling including infidelity and sex and intimacy therapy, parenting, life transitions and challenges, postpartum, depression and anxiety, and personal growth and wellness. I have a special interest and extensive research working with couples and individuals experiencing the transition into parenthood, and/or dealing with postpartum and baby blues.
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, writer, and parent instructor working with individuals, families, and couples strengthening relationships through some of life's challenges and transitions. My areas of expertise include couples and marriage counseling including infidelity and sex and intimacy therapy, parenting, life transitions and challenges, postpartum, depression and anxiety, and personal growth and wellness. I have a special interest and extensive research working with couples and individuals experiencing the transition into parenthood, and/or dealing with postpartum and baby blues.
(630) 796-4938 View (630) 796-4938
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Kristin Kallas
Marriage & Family Therapist, ALMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
Systems-Based, Person-Centered, Strengths-Based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Narrative Therapy guiding clients to see the strongest version of their authentic selves; looking at clients through a family system lens, getting to the root of presenting issues.
Kristin is an experienced counselor, with a Master’s Degree in both Clinical Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. She specializes in couples of all ages, who are experiencing challenges with sexual and emotional intimacy, as well high stress and/or anxiety with their partners or within their family system. Kristin works with individuals and families, and sees clients ages 10+. Areas of focus is individuals dealing with depression, interpersonal issues, illness/medical issues, life changes/adjustment disorder, pre-marital/engagement issues, relationship issues, self-esteem/self-worth and women’s issues.
Systems-Based, Person-Centered, Strengths-Based, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Narrative Therapy guiding clients to see the strongest version of their authentic selves; looking at clients through a family system lens, getting to the root of presenting issues.
Kristin is an experienced counselor, with a Master’s Degree in both Clinical Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. She specializes in couples of all ages, who are experiencing challenges with sexual and emotional intimacy, as well high stress and/or anxiety with their partners or within their family system. Kristin works with individuals and families, and sees clients ages 10+. Areas of focus is individuals dealing with depression, interpersonal issues, illness/medical issues, life changes/adjustment disorder, pre-marital/engagement issues, relationship issues, self-esteem/self-worth and women’s issues.
(331) 259-8418 View (331) 259-8418
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Ashwini Krishnakumar
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
I am passionate about providing counseling for children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. I enjoy working with diverse cultural backgrounds, all sexual orientations and gender, and advocating for clients. I use an integrative treatment pulling from Humanistic, Systems, Trauma-Informed, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy while incorporating expressive therapy techniques for individual clients. For couples therapy, I use the Emotionally Focused Couples therapy techniques to help couples understand and dismantle unhealth conflict cycles.
I am passionate about providing counseling for children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. I enjoy working with diverse cultural backgrounds, all sexual orientations and gender, and advocating for clients. I use an integrative treatment pulling from Humanistic, Systems, Trauma-Informed, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy while incorporating expressive therapy techniques for individual clients. For couples therapy, I use the Emotionally Focused Couples therapy techniques to help couples understand and dismantle unhealth conflict cycles.
(872) 231-3382 View (872) 231-3382
Photo of Angie Young, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Naperville, IL
Angie Young
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, EMDR, RYT200
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60565
I believe healing is possible through an invitation to connect with your body, emotions, and thoughts. To build understanding about how your experiences, relationships, and culture have impacted your life. I seek to be a companion in the process of sharing your personal story as you sift through the well of your entire lived experience to discover your authentic voice. Together, we will use body based interventions, emotionally focused work, and brain-based approaches like EMDR to reclaim the chapters of your life where difficult experiences stole your sense of who you are, and nurture growth, healing, and overcome loneliness.
I believe healing is possible through an invitation to connect with your body, emotions, and thoughts. To build understanding about how your experiences, relationships, and culture have impacted your life. I seek to be a companion in the process of sharing your personal story as you sift through the well of your entire lived experience to discover your authentic voice. Together, we will use body based interventions, emotionally focused work, and brain-based approaches like EMDR to reclaim the chapters of your life where difficult experiences stole your sense of who you are, and nurture growth, healing, and overcome loneliness.
(630) 524-4362 View (630) 524-4362
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Dr. Leslie Davis
Counselor, PhD, LCPC, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60565
I am a National Certified Counselor and a member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
Do you constantly find yourself in toxic relationships? Have your relationships caused you anxiety or depression? It’s time for a change. As a Relationship Therapist, my goal is to help you thrive in healthy relationships with your romantic partner, friend, or family member. My ideal clients are teens, young adults, college students, and couples who may struggle with developing and maintaining healthy connections. Using an emotion-focused approach I will empower you with tools to improve your relationships and your self-esteem. My promise is to never sugarcoat the truth, so grab a cup of coffee/tea and come sit with me.
I am a National Certified Counselor and a member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
Do you constantly find yourself in toxic relationships? Have your relationships caused you anxiety or depression? It’s time for a change. As a Relationship Therapist, my goal is to help you thrive in healthy relationships with your romantic partner, friend, or family member. My ideal clients are teens, young adults, college students, and couples who may struggle with developing and maintaining healthy connections. Using an emotion-focused approach I will empower you with tools to improve your relationships and your self-esteem. My promise is to never sugarcoat the truth, so grab a cup of coffee/tea and come sit with me.
(708) 295-3412 View (708) 295-3412
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JoLeann Trine
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60540  (Online Only)
Joey Trine is a Board-Certified Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC-BC) a member of the Illinois Association of Adult Development and Aging (IAADA), and former program development chair for IAADA. She has more than 6 years of experience working with adults and seniors who are experiencing variations of grief, anxiety, self-esteem concerns, depression, impulse control, trauma, and issues in effective communication & boundaries.
Joey Trine is a Board-Certified Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC-BC) a member of the Illinois Association of Adult Development and Aging (IAADA), and former program development chair for IAADA. She has more than 6 years of experience working with adults and seniors who are experiencing variations of grief, anxiety, self-esteem concerns, depression, impulse control, trauma, and issues in effective communication & boundaries.
(630) 949-3565 View (630) 949-3565
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Mary Holmes
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60563  (Online Only)
I use attachment-based, emotionally focused therapy to help clients process complex feelings and ultimately connect more deeply with others and with themselves.
Led by compassion and curiosity, I see people, not problems. My practice style is client-led, culturally humble, trauma-informed, sex-positive, kink aware, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and social justice-oriented. I believe we live our best lives when we are seen, heard, and met with empathy, free of judgment. I work with clients to support a safe base from which to explore vulnerabilities, assess struggles, and process emotions. My clients hold the key to their own self-discovery, wellness, and balance and I am honored to walk this path with them.
I use attachment-based, emotionally focused therapy to help clients process complex feelings and ultimately connect more deeply with others and with themselves.
Led by compassion and curiosity, I see people, not problems. My practice style is client-led, culturally humble, trauma-informed, sex-positive, kink aware, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and social justice-oriented. I believe we live our best lives when we are seen, heard, and met with empathy, free of judgment. I work with clients to support a safe base from which to explore vulnerabilities, assess struggles, and process emotions. My clients hold the key to their own self-discovery, wellness, and balance and I am honored to walk this path with them.
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Matthew Caston
Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60567
As an integrative provider, Matthew often turns to DBT, ACT, IFS, EFT, Psychodynamic, and other modalities to process dynamics relating to ineffective patterns of behavior.
Matthew Caston is an LCPC with several years of experience working with adolescents and adults with a variety of personal and clinical issues (mood, anxiety, behavioral, life transition, men's/women's issues, relationships, trauma, etc.). He sees strong conviction in those who are forthcoming about what brings them to counseling. "For me, it shows a level of vulnerability that I've come to respect greatly. With such a large stigma surrounding mental health, I believe it's helpful to adapt to life's stressors; when we're vulnerable to them, learn how the environment may contribute, and what can we do to address the issues at hand."
As an integrative provider, Matthew often turns to DBT, ACT, IFS, EFT, Psychodynamic, and other modalities to process dynamics relating to ineffective patterns of behavior.
Matthew Caston is an LCPC with several years of experience working with adolescents and adults with a variety of personal and clinical issues (mood, anxiety, behavioral, life transition, men's/women's issues, relationships, trauma, etc.). He sees strong conviction in those who are forthcoming about what brings them to counseling. "For me, it shows a level of vulnerability that I've come to respect greatly. With such a large stigma surrounding mental health, I believe it's helpful to adapt to life's stressors; when we're vulnerable to them, learn how the environment may contribute, and what can we do to address the issues at hand."
(630) 426-7980 View (630) 426-7980
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Emily Frey
Psychologist, PsyD, LCP, LCPC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60540
I meet my clients where they are at and can implement a variety of therapies depending on the need - EFT, CBT, and psychodynamic.
Do you feel like you're stuck? Or that it is difficult to manage your life or emotions? It is not easy to take the first step in seeking therapy but it can honestly change your life in the ways you are hoping. If you are struggling to find energy, motivation, quality relationships, or purpose, now is the time to take that first step to help yourself. This includes developing the capacity for emotion regulation, learning to self-soothe, assertiveness training, and building insight into the self. Dr. Emily Frey provides a warm, genuine, empathic environment for clients, while fostering sensitivity and vulnerability.
I meet my clients where they are at and can implement a variety of therapies depending on the need - EFT, CBT, and psychodynamic.
Do you feel like you're stuck? Or that it is difficult to manage your life or emotions? It is not easy to take the first step in seeking therapy but it can honestly change your life in the ways you are hoping. If you are struggling to find energy, motivation, quality relationships, or purpose, now is the time to take that first step to help yourself. This includes developing the capacity for emotion regulation, learning to self-soothe, assertiveness training, and building insight into the self. Dr. Emily Frey provides a warm, genuine, empathic environment for clients, while fostering sensitivity and vulnerability.
(847) 380-8502 View (847) 380-8502
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Elizabeth Schaefer
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60540  (Online Only)
Whether you are dealing with stressful life changes, relationship conflict, cycles of anxiety and depression, feeling in a funk, or just need someone to help process all of life's complicated emotions, I am here to help. I truly believe everyone can benefit from therapy. When life gets tough, it forces us to look for ways to change and grow and it does not hurt to have some help as we do so.
Whether you are dealing with stressful life changes, relationship conflict, cycles of anxiety and depression, feeling in a funk, or just need someone to help process all of life's complicated emotions, I am here to help. I truly believe everyone can benefit from therapy. When life gets tough, it forces us to look for ways to change and grow and it does not hurt to have some help as we do so.
(630) 686-7192 View (630) 686-7192
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Judith Cervantes
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
At first therapy can seem intimidating as processing through our struggles can be; however it is important to recognize that we all need some support sometimes, and professionals like myself are here to help! As a Licensed Professional Counselor I have worked with various populations including adolescents, couples, adults, groups, and families. Typically some of the issues that I address in therapy but are not limited to include depression, anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders, ADHD, addiction, and relationship difficulties. In my office, I strive to provide a safe and encouraging environment to help walk you through this process.
At first therapy can seem intimidating as processing through our struggles can be; however it is important to recognize that we all need some support sometimes, and professionals like myself are here to help! As a Licensed Professional Counselor I have worked with various populations including adolescents, couples, adults, groups, and families. Typically some of the issues that I address in therapy but are not limited to include depression, anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders, ADHD, addiction, and relationship difficulties. In my office, I strive to provide a safe and encouraging environment to help walk you through this process.
(331) 207-9149 View (331) 207-9149
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William P. Russell
Marriage & Family Therapist, LCSW, LMFT, BCD
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60540  (Online Only)
For over 35 years I have worked with individuals, couples and families to solve problems, improve relationships and make life transitions. In this time I have learned to respect the uniqueness of each individual and family, as well as the abilities and courage they bring to the challenges they face. My approach is friendly, straightforward and solution-focused, but with appreciation for the variety and complexity of factors that may be involved with the issues that folks bring to therapy. I enjoy collaborating with clients to manage stress and modify the patterns of thinking, feeling and acting that concern them.
For over 35 years I have worked with individuals, couples and families to solve problems, improve relationships and make life transitions. In this time I have learned to respect the uniqueness of each individual and family, as well as the abilities and courage they bring to the challenges they face. My approach is friendly, straightforward and solution-focused, but with appreciation for the variety and complexity of factors that may be involved with the issues that folks bring to therapy. I enjoy collaborating with clients to manage stress and modify the patterns of thinking, feeling and acting that concern them.
(847) 440-3982 x636 View (847) 440-3982 x636
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Kelsey Romanoff (Naperville Wellness And Counseling)
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Naperville, IL 60563
I specialize in working with clients with anxiety, and depression, as well as support for new moms. You deserve a safe and comfortable space to process your thoughts and emotions. I use various skills and techniques, as we work together, to navigate the areas in your life that you are ready to explore. Genuine empathy and interpersonal connection are our baseline. It’s my goal that you feel heard, valued, and accepted. I look forward to working with you! Improved overall quality of life is possible and you are capable of doing hard things! www.napervillewellnesssancounseling.com
I specialize in working with clients with anxiety, and depression, as well as support for new moms. You deserve a safe and comfortable space to process your thoughts and emotions. I use various skills and techniques, as we work together, to navigate the areas in your life that you are ready to explore. Genuine empathy and interpersonal connection are our baseline. It’s my goal that you feel heard, valued, and accepted. I look forward to working with you! Improved overall quality of life is possible and you are capable of doing hard things! www.napervillewellnesssancounseling.com
(331) 225-4171 x1 View (331) 225-4171 x1
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Kimberly Oddo
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Naperville, IL 60563
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker at Affinity Clinical Services, LLC. I have been in private practice since 2012 and work with clients on numerous issues, including stress, anxiety, grief, trauma, eating disorders, divorce and much more. I work mostly with older teens, young adults, adults, couples, and seniors. The year 2020 has proven to be stressful for everyone. If you are feeling stuck, lonely, anxious or just not yourself and just need to talk , feel free to contact me. As a therapist I provide a safe, nurturing environment that will help clients be more accepting of themselves.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker at Affinity Clinical Services, LLC. I have been in private practice since 2012 and work with clients on numerous issues, including stress, anxiety, grief, trauma, eating disorders, divorce and much more. I work mostly with older teens, young adults, adults, couples, and seniors. The year 2020 has proven to be stressful for everyone. If you are feeling stuck, lonely, anxious or just not yourself and just need to talk , feel free to contact me. As a therapist I provide a safe, nurturing environment that will help clients be more accepting of themselves.
(872) 246-8151 View (872) 246-8151
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.