Therapists in Cook County, IL

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Mike Connell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60647  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
With expertise in CBT, EFT, Gottman, and person-centered therapy, I offer a comprehensive range of tools.
I graduated from Adler University with a master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and hold a license as a Marriage and Family Therapist in Illinois and Oregon. Throughout my career, I have had the privilege of working with individuals, families, couples, adolescents, and children on a wide range of issues. These include anxiety, depression, communication, conflict resolution, emotional regulation, Autism spectrum disorder, trauma, and life transitions. My approach to therapy is rooted in the belief that true change occurs by focusing our energy on building the new rather than fighting the old.
With expertise in CBT, EFT, Gottman, and person-centered therapy, I offer a comprehensive range of tools.
I graduated from Adler University with a master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and hold a license as a Marriage and Family Therapist in Illinois and Oregon. Throughout my career, I have had the privilege of working with individuals, families, couples, adolescents, and children on a wide range of issues. These include anxiety, depression, communication, conflict resolution, emotional regulation, Autism spectrum disorder, trauma, and life transitions. My approach to therapy is rooted in the belief that true change occurs by focusing our energy on building the new rather than fighting the old.
(312) 779-0403 View (312) 779-0403
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Jean Rock
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
Northbrook, IL 60062
As much as my training is primarily psychodynamic, I use an integrative approach that incorporates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Person-Centered Therapy.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor with strong clinical training and years of experience in private practice, high school and community mental health settings. I obtained a Master's in Counseling and Psychotherapy from the Institute for Clinical Social Work. In addition, I received certification as a Grief Support Specialist from the University of Wisconsin. My main objective is to support you in gaining a deeper understanding of your emotional challenges, while at the same time, empowering you to make healthy and desired changes.
As much as my training is primarily psychodynamic, I use an integrative approach that incorporates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Person-Centered Therapy.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor with strong clinical training and years of experience in private practice, high school and community mental health settings. I obtained a Master's in Counseling and Psychotherapy from the Institute for Clinical Social Work. In addition, I received certification as a Grief Support Specialist from the University of Wisconsin. My main objective is to support you in gaining a deeper understanding of your emotional challenges, while at the same time, empowering you to make healthy and desired changes.
(847) 321-7325 View (847) 321-7325
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Sandra Stevens
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Oak Park, IL 60301
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who works with children, teens, adults and couples. She works from a person-centered approach and has training in emotionally-focused therapy, attachment theory, EMDR, and psychodrama. Bringing a background in fine arts, music, dance, and movement, Sandra utilizes an eclectic approach to accommodate what works best for each individual, seeking to foster a safe, comfortable environment to help each client fulfill their treatment goals.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who works with children, teens, adults and couples. She works from a person-centered approach and has training in emotionally-focused therapy, attachment theory, EMDR, and psychodrama. Bringing a background in fine arts, music, dance, and movement, Sandra utilizes an eclectic approach to accommodate what works best for each individual, seeking to foster a safe, comfortable environment to help each client fulfill their treatment goals.
(708) 809-3952 View (708) 809-3952
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Igor Soloveychik
Psychologist, PsyD, CSAT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60611
I have completed advanced training in the EFT / Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples.
Dr. Soloveychik focuses on treatment of sex and love addiction (pornography, infidelity, escorts, romantic obsessions) and sexual anorexia. For the past 15+ years, I’ve had the privilege to provide concierge therapeutic relationships to help individuals and their partners to stop out of control damaging sexually compulsive behaviors. You can heal the shame, loneliness, and possible presence of attachment failures/trauma. You can stop using sex to cope with stress/boredom. End seeking external validation and artificial dopamine dependence; regain lost time, become more present, and experience intimate loving honest relationships.
I have completed advanced training in the EFT / Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples.
Dr. Soloveychik focuses on treatment of sex and love addiction (pornography, infidelity, escorts, romantic obsessions) and sexual anorexia. For the past 15+ years, I’ve had the privilege to provide concierge therapeutic relationships to help individuals and their partners to stop out of control damaging sexually compulsive behaviors. You can heal the shame, loneliness, and possible presence of attachment failures/trauma. You can stop using sex to cope with stress/boredom. End seeking external validation and artificial dopamine dependence; regain lost time, become more present, and experience intimate loving honest relationships.
(773) 312-3752 View (773) 312-3752
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Christine Aiello
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60661  (Online Only)
I help individuals and couples with relationship conflict, sexual concerns, and adjustment to life transitions. Clients often come to therapy with some common issues: feeling disconnected in their relationship, having the same argument on repeat, unsatisfying sex, discomfort or awkwardness talking about sex and intimacy, mismatched desire, painful intercourse, wondering "is this normal?" and more. With advanced training in relationship and sex therapy, I’ll help you to identify your needs and goals, build skills and knowledge, and improve connection, trust, empathy, and intimacy in your life and relationships.
I help individuals and couples with relationship conflict, sexual concerns, and adjustment to life transitions. Clients often come to therapy with some common issues: feeling disconnected in their relationship, having the same argument on repeat, unsatisfying sex, discomfort or awkwardness talking about sex and intimacy, mismatched desire, painful intercourse, wondering "is this normal?" and more. With advanced training in relationship and sex therapy, I’ll help you to identify your needs and goals, build skills and knowledge, and improve connection, trust, empathy, and intimacy in your life and relationships.
(312) 766-7025 View (312) 766-7025
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Emily Reynoso
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, LCPC, NCC
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60640
I utilize a holistic approach to providing support in these areas, including person centered, emotionally focused, cognitive, and trauma-informed therapies.
I believe that therapy should be a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space, that offers the opportunity to process and make sense of emotions and experiences, and move towards deeper sense of self understanding. I am dedicated to helping people identify how certain thoughts, feelings and behaviors contribute to distress, and creating a collaborative path to change. My passion for providing therapy comes from the belief that we are inherently aware of what we need to be successful and are capable of making the changes necessary to move in a positive direction.
I utilize a holistic approach to providing support in these areas, including person centered, emotionally focused, cognitive, and trauma-informed therapies.
I believe that therapy should be a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space, that offers the opportunity to process and make sense of emotions and experiences, and move towards deeper sense of self understanding. I am dedicated to helping people identify how certain thoughts, feelings and behaviors contribute to distress, and creating a collaborative path to change. My passion for providing therapy comes from the belief that we are inherently aware of what we need to be successful and are capable of making the changes necessary to move in a positive direction.
(773) 570-7693 View (773) 570-7693
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Alexia Evangelodimos
Counselor, MA, LCPC, PMH-C
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60625  (Online Only)
I work together with clients to cater our treatment approach to your unique individual needs and rely on a number of theoretical orientations to do so, including emotionally focused therapy (EFT), person-centered, trauma focused, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
I bring a down-to-earth, approachable presence to therapy and place the utmost importance on fostering a warm and friendly, yet professional relationship with my clients. It is from that foundation of a strong therapeutic rapport that I work with my clients to explore pathways towards healing and experiencing a happier, more fulfilling life.
I work together with clients to cater our treatment approach to your unique individual needs and rely on a number of theoretical orientations to do so, including emotionally focused therapy (EFT), person-centered, trauma focused, and cognitive behavioral therapy.
I bring a down-to-earth, approachable presence to therapy and place the utmost importance on fostering a warm and friendly, yet professional relationship with my clients. It is from that foundation of a strong therapeutic rapport that I work with my clients to explore pathways towards healing and experiencing a happier, more fulfilling life.
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Lucas Byron Swenink
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CADC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60640
Lucas has advanced clinical training in working with trauma survivors, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).
Lucas specializes in working with individuals and couples who identify as part of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer population. Within the LGBTQ population, he has further expertise in working with those who wish to address the implications of their trauma history, HIV/AIDS-related health and wellness, Depression, Anxiety, issues related to Aging and Substance Abuse and Dependance related disorders.
Lucas has advanced clinical training in working with trauma survivors, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).
Lucas specializes in working with individuals and couples who identify as part of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer population. Within the LGBTQ population, he has further expertise in working with those who wish to address the implications of their trauma history, HIV/AIDS-related health and wellness, Depression, Anxiety, issues related to Aging and Substance Abuse and Dependance related disorders.
(872) 221-6391 View (872) 221-6391
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Kari Harrison
Counselor, MA, LCPC, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60613
I am an emotionally focused sex and relational therapist with over 10 years of experience in both individual and relational work.
I believe that each client has a story to share, stemming from a diverse and unique background - and seek to hold clients in a safe, nurturing space that is truly their own. My conviction is that it is the relationship between the therapist and the client that is ultimately what heals, and when it works, it is immensely powerful. I am passionate about exploring ways to help clients discover their own resiliency and live more authentically in order to create the mental and emotional space to reach their fullest potential.
I am an emotionally focused sex and relational therapist with over 10 years of experience in both individual and relational work.
I believe that each client has a story to share, stemming from a diverse and unique background - and seek to hold clients in a safe, nurturing space that is truly their own. My conviction is that it is the relationship between the therapist and the client that is ultimately what heals, and when it works, it is immensely powerful. I am passionate about exploring ways to help clients discover their own resiliency and live more authentically in order to create the mental and emotional space to reach their fullest potential.
(773) 839-4563 View (773) 839-4563
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Katie Bell Catalano
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60601
I have worked with individuals of all ages who are experiencing various stressors such as adults experiencing depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, trauma, relationship issues, career discernment, struggles with identity and substance abuse problems. I have also worked with teenagers and adolescents who are having difficulties with school, peer pressure, and/or a history of trauma. I enjoy working with couples and families, as well. I am also interested in the intersection between physical health and mental health as I believe in a holistic therapeutic approach.
I have worked with individuals of all ages who are experiencing various stressors such as adults experiencing depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, trauma, relationship issues, career discernment, struggles with identity and substance abuse problems. I have also worked with teenagers and adolescents who are having difficulties with school, peer pressure, and/or a history of trauma. I enjoy working with couples and families, as well. I am also interested in the intersection between physical health and mental health as I believe in a holistic therapeutic approach.
(312) 554-3861 View (312) 554-3861
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Maria Alejandra Ramirez
Pre-Licensed Professional, PhD
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60622  (Online Only)
Evidence based practices that inform my practice include: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Mindfulness based treatment, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT for couples), Attachment, Regulation, and Competency (ARC) model, and Child Parent Psychotherapy (CPP).
My therapeutic approach is to fosters a space where the past, present, and future intersect in a way that healing, empowerment, and clear direction can flourish. I understand that life can at times be challenging, change can be destabilizing, and loss will cause pain. Through these life transitions one may at times need a safe space to cultivate hope and grow. I employ evidence based practices, cultural sensitivity and awareness to assist you in achieving your therapeutic goals.
Evidence based practices that inform my practice include: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Mindfulness based treatment, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT for couples), Attachment, Regulation, and Competency (ARC) model, and Child Parent Psychotherapy (CPP).
My therapeutic approach is to fosters a space where the past, present, and future intersect in a way that healing, empowerment, and clear direction can flourish. I understand that life can at times be challenging, change can be destabilizing, and loss will cause pain. Through these life transitions one may at times need a safe space to cultivate hope and grow. I employ evidence based practices, cultural sensitivity and awareness to assist you in achieving your therapeutic goals.
(872) 231-3776 View (872) 231-3776
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Laura Gossin
Marriage & Family Therapist, MSMFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60602  (Online Only)
I am a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), trained in Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and a graduate of The Family Institute at Northwestern University,.
I am a relational, systemic therapist who works with individual adults and couples. I believe most clients seek therapy because their approach to improving their lives is not working. They feel stuck and without direction. I help individuals and couples develop new strategies to improve their relationships, cope with significant pain and loss, and live more fulfilled and satisfying lives. My approach is empathetic, honest, interactive, and direct. I value client insight and recognize the importance of a trusting and open therapeutic relationship to bring about healing.
I am a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), trained in Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and a graduate of The Family Institute at Northwestern University,.
I am a relational, systemic therapist who works with individual adults and couples. I believe most clients seek therapy because their approach to improving their lives is not working. They feel stuck and without direction. I help individuals and couples develop new strategies to improve their relationships, cope with significant pain and loss, and live more fulfilled and satisfying lives. My approach is empathetic, honest, interactive, and direct. I value client insight and recognize the importance of a trusting and open therapeutic relationship to bring about healing.
(312) 257-3505 View (312) 257-3505
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Gabrielle Soe
Pre-Licensed Professional, MS
Verified Verified
Chicago, IL 60657
My therapeutic approach is collaborative and draws from various models, including emotionally focused, experiential, trauma-informed, and somatic-based.
I believe that we all have the right to find safety, empowerment, and acceptance in our own lives and in the relationships we value. My work begins with genuine curiosity, and continues toward leading clients into creating their own meanings from lived experiences. Working together, we can build up self-advocacy and allow for self-love to flow through so that you may choose how to begin creating practices of care and support.
My therapeutic approach is collaborative and draws from various models, including emotionally focused, experiential, trauma-informed, and somatic-based.
I believe that we all have the right to find safety, empowerment, and acceptance in our own lives and in the relationships we value. My work begins with genuine curiosity, and continues toward leading clients into creating their own meanings from lived experiences. Working together, we can build up self-advocacy and allow for self-love to flow through so that you may choose how to begin creating practices of care and support.
(872) 259-5275 View (872) 259-5275
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Mialauni Griggs
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60601
It is not always easy to reach out to a stranger for help, yet you know you are ready to make a change in your life. My focus is on helping clients by understanding systemic or external factors that may impact your relationship with yourself and others. With that understanding we then work together to use that understanding to influence how we treat ourselves and engage the world around us.
It is not always easy to reach out to a stranger for help, yet you know you are ready to make a change in your life. My focus is on helping clients by understanding systemic or external factors that may impact your relationship with yourself and others. With that understanding we then work together to use that understanding to influence how we treat ourselves and engage the world around us.
(312) 262-2537 View (312) 262-2537
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Gigi Sappenfield
Licensed Professional Counselor, LCPC
Verified Verified
Homewood, IL 60430
Trauma certified, Reiki, Brainspotting and EFT trained, i practice incorporating somatic experiences and the mind body connection to heal, create change, improve relationships and one's quality of life.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, specializing in relationships, personal healing and trauma. I create safe caring spaces where we can join together while facing difficulties. Counseling with me is affirming and interactive. You will learn to identify and release problematic beliefs and behaviors, that have become barriers to your wellbeing. You will gain new perspectives and acceptance to help you heal, while discovering insights to the power and strength within you.
Trauma certified, Reiki, Brainspotting and EFT trained, i practice incorporating somatic experiences and the mind body connection to heal, create change, improve relationships and one's quality of life.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, specializing in relationships, personal healing and trauma. I create safe caring spaces where we can join together while facing difficulties. Counseling with me is affirming and interactive. You will learn to identify and release problematic beliefs and behaviors, that have become barriers to your wellbeing. You will gain new perspectives and acceptance to help you heal, while discovering insights to the power and strength within you.
(708) 365-4179 View (708) 365-4179
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Tina M Sprague
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
Skokie, IL 60077  (Online Only)
Utilizing Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, we’ll break negative interaction patterns while fostering a safe, respectful, and loving bond for you and your partner.
When you look at your husband, you still see a glimmer of that person you fell in love with all those years ago. But, with each day, that spark fades further away. It’s as though somewhere along the way you forgot how to speak the same language. Now, you feel lonely even when you’re together. Every conversation turns into an argument, so you’ve begun to avoid each other. You want to repair things, but every attempt you’ve made has proven futile. You’re running out of options and don’t know where to go from here. It feels like all you can do is stand by and helplessly watch as this relationship disintegrates before your eyes.
Utilizing Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, we’ll break negative interaction patterns while fostering a safe, respectful, and loving bond for you and your partner.
When you look at your husband, you still see a glimmer of that person you fell in love with all those years ago. But, with each day, that spark fades further away. It’s as though somewhere along the way you forgot how to speak the same language. Now, you feel lonely even when you’re together. Every conversation turns into an argument, so you’ve begun to avoid each other. You want to repair things, but every attempt you’ve made has proven futile. You’re running out of options and don’t know where to go from here. It feels like all you can do is stand by and helplessly watch as this relationship disintegrates before your eyes.
(224) 212-1523 View (224) 212-1523
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Amber J Dalton
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
Arlington Heights, IL 60005  (Online Only)
Using EFT with a holistic and trauma-informed approach, I bring my knowledge and training into the session, just as the client brings their life experiences with them.
I understand that the decision to participate in therapy can be uncomfortable and daunting for many people, so creating a genuine client-therapist relationship and a safe space is a priority of mine. I strive to make the therapeutic process as stress-free and enjoyable as possible. I view therapy as a collaborative process that is founded on the individual’s strengths and goals and respect that each client is unique in their experiences and situations. I am passionate about working with couples, and client's struggling with anxiety, personal identity, and helping to challenge and change negative thoughts and behaviors.
Using EFT with a holistic and trauma-informed approach, I bring my knowledge and training into the session, just as the client brings their life experiences with them.
I understand that the decision to participate in therapy can be uncomfortable and daunting for many people, so creating a genuine client-therapist relationship and a safe space is a priority of mine. I strive to make the therapeutic process as stress-free and enjoyable as possible. I view therapy as a collaborative process that is founded on the individual’s strengths and goals and respect that each client is unique in their experiences and situations. I am passionate about working with couples, and client's struggling with anxiety, personal identity, and helping to challenge and change negative thoughts and behaviors.
(773) 729-1894 View (773) 729-1894
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Sandra Angelie Stevens
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Oak Park, IL 60301
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who works with adults and couples in a person-centered approach and have training in emotionally-focused therapy, attachment theory, EMDR, and psychodrama. I also have a fine arts, music, dance, and psychodrama background. I utilize an eclectic approach to accommodate what works best for each individual, seeking to foster a safe, comfortable environment to help each client fulfill their treatment goals. I have experience working with range of issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, divorce, extramarital affairs, relationship challenges, premarital, men's issues, and life adjustments.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who works with adults and couples in a person-centered approach and have training in emotionally-focused therapy, attachment theory, EMDR, and psychodrama. I also have a fine arts, music, dance, and psychodrama background. I utilize an eclectic approach to accommodate what works best for each individual, seeking to foster a safe, comfortable environment to help each client fulfill their treatment goals. I have experience working with range of issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, divorce, extramarital affairs, relationship challenges, premarital, men's issues, and life adjustments.
(708) 762-8276 View (708) 762-8276
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Sarah A. Schroeder
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MS, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201  (Online Only)
Modalities include play-based therapy, psychodynamic treatment, attachment-based therapy, emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness.
It's important that you find a therapist that is a right fit for you. I strive to create a safe holding environment where clients feel understood and encouraged to take their next step. I utilize a developmental framework and family systems approach, while viewing each client as a unique individual. I specialize in working with young children and families, providing individual, family, couples, and group treatment.
Modalities include play-based therapy, psychodynamic treatment, attachment-based therapy, emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness.
It's important that you find a therapist that is a right fit for you. I strive to create a safe holding environment where clients feel understood and encouraged to take their next step. I utilize a developmental framework and family systems approach, while viewing each client as a unique individual. I specialize in working with young children and families, providing individual, family, couples, and group treatment.
(872) 244-6873 View (872) 244-6873
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Jessica Love Burnside
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Chicago, IL 60618
Drawing from my training in EFT, TF-CBT, and IFS I offer a diverse range of techniques that are tailored to you.
All my clients are on a journey towards wellness and healing, wherever they may be. I have worked with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families who have encountered various situations ranging from surviving family and community trauma, domestic violence, housing insecurity, and discrimination to experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, life transitions, parenting special needs, and terminally ill children. I take pleasure in assisting individuals and couples with their relationships and navigating the intricate complexities involved.
Drawing from my training in EFT, TF-CBT, and IFS I offer a diverse range of techniques that are tailored to you.
All my clients are on a journey towards wellness and healing, wherever they may be. I have worked with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families who have encountered various situations ranging from surviving family and community trauma, domestic violence, housing insecurity, and discrimination to experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, life transitions, parenting special needs, and terminally ill children. I take pleasure in assisting individuals and couples with their relationships and navigating the intricate complexities involved.
(773) 322-1407 View (773) 322-1407

Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.