Emotionally Focused Therapists in Farmington, CT

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Kristen Gaedeke
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
I love to work with Couples utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy, which I am based trained in.
Are you seeking to live more authentically? Just by being here, is the first step to making this change within your life. I would be happy to be the clinician to join you on that journey. I might be a Marriage and Family therapist, who believes in the power of systemic thinking, but you are the expert on your life. Together we can combine our strengths to best support you reach your goals.
I love to work with Couples utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy, which I am based trained in.
Are you seeking to live more authentically? Just by being here, is the first step to making this change within your life. I would be happy to be the clinician to join you on that journey. I might be a Marriage and Family therapist, who believes in the power of systemic thinking, but you are the expert on your life. Together we can combine our strengths to best support you reach your goals.
(860) 579-1066 View (860) 579-1066
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Katie Campochiaro - New World Journeys Llc
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, BSc, MA, LMFTA
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
I use CBT, EFT, Somatic experiencing and mindfulness techniques so that both thoughts and emotions can shift.
Life is full of chaos and uncertainty right now. It may have brought you stress, anxiety, worries, sadness or grief. You may have had to deal with many life changes, some that you want and some that you don't. It makes sense to feel off, overwhelmed, and like you lost your footing. Wouldn't it be great to take a moment to breathe, regroup and learn how to adapt to life’s challenges? Clients come to me to feel seen, heard and sort through what is happening for them. They have overcome challenges in life and now want to find peace and healing. They want to be confident, calm, and true to themselves.
I use CBT, EFT, Somatic experiencing and mindfulness techniques so that both thoughts and emotions can shift.
Life is full of chaos and uncertainty right now. It may have brought you stress, anxiety, worries, sadness or grief. You may have had to deal with many life changes, some that you want and some that you don't. It makes sense to feel off, overwhelmed, and like you lost your footing. Wouldn't it be great to take a moment to breathe, regroup and learn how to adapt to life’s challenges? Clients come to me to feel seen, heard and sort through what is happening for them. They have overcome challenges in life and now want to find peace and healing. They want to be confident, calm, and true to themselves.
(940) 289-6658 View (940) 289-6658
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Austin James Heffernan
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
No matter what challenges we face, I believe that everyone has the capacity for change and that the answers are just waiting to be discovered. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 11 years of clinical experience in the field, I can help you find those answers to restore peace and balance to your life. My ultimate goal in treatment is to support you in developing skills and insights that make long-lasting impacts.
No matter what challenges we face, I believe that everyone has the capacity for change and that the answers are just waiting to be discovered. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 11 years of clinical experience in the field, I can help you find those answers to restore peace and balance to your life. My ultimate goal in treatment is to support you in developing skills and insights that make long-lasting impacts.
(860) 362-3017 View (860) 362-3017
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Catherine Ponziani
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032  (Online Only)
Recognizing you need an outlet for your mental health is the scariest part of beginning therapy, so give yourself a pat on the back! I am here to utilize cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance commitment therapy, and others to assist you in finding the proper coping skills and resources. Working with teens and adults with anxiety/depression is my passion and together we will cultivate the proper balance for your mental health to be at the best place possible. I cannot wait for us to get started!
Recognizing you need an outlet for your mental health is the scariest part of beginning therapy, so give yourself a pat on the back! I am here to utilize cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance commitment therapy, and others to assist you in finding the proper coping skills and resources. Working with teens and adults with anxiety/depression is my passion and together we will cultivate the proper balance for your mental health to be at the best place possible. I cannot wait for us to get started!
(860) 854-3642 View (860) 854-3642
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Kionna Whitehead
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
When life brings us challenges, It’s nice to have someone who can offer the support you need when you need it the most. The one thing we can all count on in life is unavoidable change. Sometimes these life changes can be overwhelming and, it’s hard to see a way out of the impact, it has on your mental health and well-being. Are you looking for support? Are you ready to find solutions? Are you looking for a therapist to connect with?
When life brings us challenges, It’s nice to have someone who can offer the support you need when you need it the most. The one thing we can all count on in life is unavoidable change. Sometimes these life changes can be overwhelming and, it’s hard to see a way out of the impact, it has on your mental health and well-being. Are you looking for support? Are you ready to find solutions? Are you looking for a therapist to connect with?
(860) 292-0187 View (860) 292-0187
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Christine Elizabeth Mullin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032  (Online Only)
Life can be unbearably difficult and challenging. . Are you looking to have peace of mind and lower the level of stress in your life? Life’s worries and stressors make us feel overwhelmed , disheartened and tired. Personal freedom and happiness are possible and within your reach. This is extremely difficult today with all the demands and responsibilities there are on a daily basis. Make that decision to help improve your life. I can help you find peace and help guide you to reach your life’s desires with a solution focused approach.
Life can be unbearably difficult and challenging. . Are you looking to have peace of mind and lower the level of stress in your life? Life’s worries and stressors make us feel overwhelmed , disheartened and tired. Personal freedom and happiness are possible and within your reach. This is extremely difficult today with all the demands and responsibilities there are on a daily basis. Make that decision to help improve your life. I can help you find peace and help guide you to reach your life’s desires with a solution focused approach.
(860) 485-7423 View (860) 485-7423
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Farmington Psychotherapy Center, INC
Psychologist, PsyD, MSN, CST
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
Whatever your issues - stress, anxiety relating to the COVID-19 crisis, depression, or relationship problems, I'm here to help. In addition to being a certified expert in sex therapy, I am a highly experienced clinical psychologist with decades of experience with thousands of clients. I offer cognitive-behavioral therapy, IFS, and an integrated approach for you or your partner. Most individuals are a bit stressed seeing a therapist. I can assure you that your comfort and safety is my primary focus. There is no "one size fits all approach". There is no shaming or blaming in my office. We are a team and we work together.
Whatever your issues - stress, anxiety relating to the COVID-19 crisis, depression, or relationship problems, I'm here to help. In addition to being a certified expert in sex therapy, I am a highly experienced clinical psychologist with decades of experience with thousands of clients. I offer cognitive-behavioral therapy, IFS, and an integrated approach for you or your partner. Most individuals are a bit stressed seeing a therapist. I can assure you that your comfort and safety is my primary focus. There is no "one size fits all approach". There is no shaming or blaming in my office. We are a team and we work together.
(959) 207-1996 View (959) 207-1996
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Lucia Nazzaro
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, MSW, CWC, CPC, LCSW
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
If you are facing a challenge, a change or transition, or trying to break free from something in your past causing you pain, I am so glad you are reaching out. With a wide range of experience, I know you will find a safe and collaborative space where we can work together to help you heal & grow in the areas you need. With expertise in multiple methods, I offer a strength based, compassionate, holistic approach w/ a special focus in working with anxiety/stress, relationships, life transitions and challenges including: relationships/divorce, addiction/food related issues, chronic health, grief/loss & school/career related changes.
If you are facing a challenge, a change or transition, or trying to break free from something in your past causing you pain, I am so glad you are reaching out. With a wide range of experience, I know you will find a safe and collaborative space where we can work together to help you heal & grow in the areas you need. With expertise in multiple methods, I offer a strength based, compassionate, holistic approach w/ a special focus in working with anxiety/stress, relationships, life transitions and challenges including: relationships/divorce, addiction/food related issues, chronic health, grief/loss & school/career related changes.
(860) 269-0214 View (860) 269-0214
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Bryon T Remo
Marriage & Family Therapist, MEd, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
As a marriage and family therapist, I am uniquely trained to identify, track and break patterns between couples & families in conflict. I work toward helping individuals,couples and families take an active role in creating the kind of change they desire. Marriages are not meant to merely SURVIVE, but rather to THRIVE. In couples counseling I help parties develop greater insight into their relationship and maintain a mindfulness toward its growth. Through focusing on action steps, I actively challenge individuals and couples to take accountability for their own thoughts and behavior as opposed to assessing their partner's.
As a marriage and family therapist, I am uniquely trained to identify, track and break patterns between couples & families in conflict. I work toward helping individuals,couples and families take an active role in creating the kind of change they desire. Marriages are not meant to merely SURVIVE, but rather to THRIVE. In couples counseling I help parties develop greater insight into their relationship and maintain a mindfulness toward its growth. Through focusing on action steps, I actively challenge individuals and couples to take accountability for their own thoughts and behavior as opposed to assessing their partner's.
(203) 405-5657 View (203) 405-5657
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Celeste Emelia Mattingly
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
Are you anxious, sad, angry, or confused about life? If so, let me introduce you to Celestial Empowerment Quantum Healthcare with Celestial Psychology. You will learn skills to powerfully advance your ultimate transformation. Developed over 24 yrs in practice, combining standard psychotherapy with state-of-the-art quantum/energy medicine, including Reiki, Reconnective Healing, and Tachyon technology. By treating the whole person - body, mind, and spirit - I have helped thousands of clients increase their confidence, exceed their goals, and vastly improve their quality of life.
Are you anxious, sad, angry, or confused about life? If so, let me introduce you to Celestial Empowerment Quantum Healthcare with Celestial Psychology. You will learn skills to powerfully advance your ultimate transformation. Developed over 24 yrs in practice, combining standard psychotherapy with state-of-the-art quantum/energy medicine, including Reiki, Reconnective Healing, and Tachyon technology. By treating the whole person - body, mind, and spirit - I have helped thousands of clients increase their confidence, exceed their goals, and vastly improve their quality of life.
(860) 269-0265 View (860) 269-0265
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James Andersen
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
I treat trauma, PTSD, phobias, grief and loss, and anxiety disorders of all kinds, even OCD. I help people who are having challenges in their relationships; people who are struggling with depression or substance abuse; people who want to feel more confident, motivated, fulfilled, or connected; or who simply want to be more at peace in the world.
I treat trauma, PTSD, phobias, grief and loss, and anxiety disorders of all kinds, even OCD. I help people who are having challenges in their relationships; people who are struggling with depression or substance abuse; people who want to feel more confident, motivated, fulfilled, or connected; or who simply want to be more at peace in the world.
(860) 542-2316 View (860) 542-2316
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Jessica Smith
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032  (Online Only)
As a licensed therapist with two decades of experience, I specialize in therapeutic coaching services with a focus on guiding those who wish to call themselves and their lives back into alignment. Combining traditional therapeutic approaches with the practical aspect of coaching offers an optimal space for true expansion. I aim to help individuals align their actions with their core values, cultivate self-awareness, and nurture self-compassion.  When we learn to embrace the discomfort that is inherent being human, we open ourselves up to immense transformation because just beyond the edge of fear is what’s possible.
As a licensed therapist with two decades of experience, I specialize in therapeutic coaching services with a focus on guiding those who wish to call themselves and their lives back into alignment. Combining traditional therapeutic approaches with the practical aspect of coaching offers an optimal space for true expansion. I aim to help individuals align their actions with their core values, cultivate self-awareness, and nurture self-compassion.  When we learn to embrace the discomfort that is inherent being human, we open ourselves up to immense transformation because just beyond the edge of fear is what’s possible.
(860) 483-3507 View (860) 483-3507
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Laurie A. Cersosimo
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MEd
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
Within my experience, whether it is individual or couples therapy I am confident to provide a superior level of care and treatment to a wide range of mental health issues. I strongly believe in treating each individual as a whole rather than focusing on specific diagnosis. When working with individuals and couples, the focus is geared towards establishing a positive dynamic along with healthy communication. I specialize in LGBTQ+, Anxiety, Trauma and Life transitions. I primarily use CBT and maintain a rational and humanistic approach towards treatment.
Within my experience, whether it is individual or couples therapy I am confident to provide a superior level of care and treatment to a wide range of mental health issues. I strongly believe in treating each individual as a whole rather than focusing on specific diagnosis. When working with individuals and couples, the focus is geared towards establishing a positive dynamic along with healthy communication. I specialize in LGBTQ+, Anxiety, Trauma and Life transitions. I primarily use CBT and maintain a rational and humanistic approach towards treatment.
(860) 269-6094 View (860) 269-6094
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Marie Goodine
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families. Reaching out to a “stranger” to enter your life is the hard part, my goal is to provide a safe environment where you can explore and enhance your strengths that will empower you to find strategies that support you through life’s challenges. Focus on allowing you to become the “captain” of your voyage in life and joining you in various parts of this journey. I encourage open communication and connection with those I work with. I utilize various modalities and fit the experience to each unique individual.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families. Reaching out to a “stranger” to enter your life is the hard part, my goal is to provide a safe environment where you can explore and enhance your strengths that will empower you to find strategies that support you through life’s challenges. Focus on allowing you to become the “captain” of your voyage in life and joining you in various parts of this journey. I encourage open communication and connection with those I work with. I utilize various modalities and fit the experience to each unique individual.
(860) 831-3267 x102 View (860) 831-3267 x102
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Dr. Sandra Scantling, Loving Better, Living Better
Psychologist, PsyD, MSN, CST, DipST, CIFST
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
Whatever your issue -- anxiety, trauma, depression or relationship concerns, I'm here to help you. In addition to being an experienced Clinical Psychologist, I am also a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Master's prepared psychiatric nurse, and a Certified IFS Therapist (see ifs-institute.com). I address a variety of sexual and intimacy problems including: desire, orgasm, ejaculation, pelvic pain, ED, or distress about infidelity, divorce, or separation. I am committed to helping you live a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
Whatever your issue -- anxiety, trauma, depression or relationship concerns, I'm here to help you. In addition to being an experienced Clinical Psychologist, I am also a Certified Diplomate in Sex Therapy, a Master's prepared psychiatric nurse, and a Certified IFS Therapist (see ifs-institute.com). I address a variety of sexual and intimacy problems including: desire, orgasm, ejaculation, pelvic pain, ED, or distress about infidelity, divorce, or separation. I am committed to helping you live a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
(860) 967-0402 View (860) 967-0402
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Meaghan M Gorman
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032  (Online Only)
Do you feel constrained in a relationship where you struggle to be heard? Or feel ‘stuck’ in the same old patterns? Do you ever feel like you are not living the life that is authentically meant for you? Do you find yourself overwhelmed with anger, worry, fear, or feelings of inadequacy or self-blame? Addressing these questions and concerns in a therapeutic context can open up room to repair relationships with oneself and with significant others. As a partner in facilitating change, I will work with you and/or your loved-ones to creatively and collaboratively discover new solutions that can help you move beyond emotional and relational stumbling blocks. Having worked in the field of mental- health for many years, I have shared in helping many clients find their way through to wellness from places of high-risk, grief/loss, trauma and conflict in their families. Drawing from a variety of therapeutic modalities, I work with adults, teens, couples and parents/families to help develop and utilize new coping skills that are rooted in your yet- discovered strengths. I am here to listen. Change is possible.
Do you feel constrained in a relationship where you struggle to be heard? Or feel ‘stuck’ in the same old patterns? Do you ever feel like you are not living the life that is authentically meant for you? Do you find yourself overwhelmed with anger, worry, fear, or feelings of inadequacy or self-blame? Addressing these questions and concerns in a therapeutic context can open up room to repair relationships with oneself and with significant others. As a partner in facilitating change, I will work with you and/or your loved-ones to creatively and collaboratively discover new solutions that can help you move beyond emotional and relational stumbling blocks. Having worked in the field of mental- health for many years, I have shared in helping many clients find their way through to wellness from places of high-risk, grief/loss, trauma and conflict in their families. Drawing from a variety of therapeutic modalities, I work with adults, teens, couples and parents/families to help develop and utilize new coping skills that are rooted in your yet- discovered strengths. I am here to listen. Change is possible.
(860) 324-6681 View (860) 324-6681
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Joshua Cohen
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032
Feeling down, overwhelmed, anxious, or not like yourself? Are you feeling stuck and would you like to improve your relationship? Is your kid experiencing emotional, social, academic, or other issues? If so, I can help. I use short-term and research-based treatment with individuals, couples, and families. My therapy sessions help to heal painful issues, overcome presenting problems, and provide clients with insight and coping skills to handle all of life's obstacles.
Feeling down, overwhelmed, anxious, or not like yourself? Are you feeling stuck and would you like to improve your relationship? Is your kid experiencing emotional, social, academic, or other issues? If so, I can help. I use short-term and research-based treatment with individuals, couples, and families. My therapy sessions help to heal painful issues, overcome presenting problems, and provide clients with insight and coping skills to handle all of life's obstacles.
(860) 499-4671 View (860) 499-4671
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Live by the Sun Feel by the Moon
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
Hello! I am Gina Goldstein. Here is some information and a description of services provided; regarding my Counseling Therapy and Reiki/Integrated Energy Therapy practice, “Live by the Sun Feel by the Moon”, in Farmington, CT where I am proud to be a sole proprietor of for nearly eight years. My office is conveniently located a few minutes off of CT-4/Main Street in Farmington, CT. The office is located in the Canal House; which is on the Farmington River located in a historic, peaceful, serene, beautiful, quiet, relaxing and tranquil setting on Garden Street in a historic 1800’s canal house located on the Freedom Trail.
Hello! I am Gina Goldstein. Here is some information and a description of services provided; regarding my Counseling Therapy and Reiki/Integrated Energy Therapy practice, “Live by the Sun Feel by the Moon”, in Farmington, CT where I am proud to be a sole proprietor of for nearly eight years. My office is conveniently located a few minutes off of CT-4/Main Street in Farmington, CT. The office is located in the Canal House; which is on the Farmington River located in a historic, peaceful, serene, beautiful, quiet, relaxing and tranquil setting on Garden Street in a historic 1800’s canal house located on the Freedom Trail.
(860) 404-6704 View (860) 404-6704
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Center for Divorce and Healing
Verified Verified
Farmington, CT 06032
HELP is here. Divorce is confusing and the unknown is frightening; Legal Process, Parenting Plans, Custody, Home/Property Division, Retirement. I offer 25+ years of experience as a Mediator working with individuals, couples, and families. If you are struggling with the decision to divorce (need COUPLES work to SAVE your marriage), OR you are in the legal entanglements of divorce, AND even if it is well after your divorce - I can help YOU. Transition well with the information and resources you need to move forward with success. No more sleepless nights. Mediation, not litigation. Skilled at working with male/female narcissists. CALL
HELP is here. Divorce is confusing and the unknown is frightening; Legal Process, Parenting Plans, Custody, Home/Property Division, Retirement. I offer 25+ years of experience as a Mediator working with individuals, couples, and families. If you are struggling with the decision to divorce (need COUPLES work to SAVE your marriage), OR you are in the legal entanglements of divorce, AND even if it is well after your divorce - I can help YOU. Transition well with the information and resources you need to move forward with success. No more sleepless nights. Mediation, not litigation. Skilled at working with male/female narcissists. CALL
(860) 406-7484 View (860) 406-7484
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Kimberly Sue Newcombe
Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Farmington, CT 06032  (Online Only)
Reaching out and asking for help can be difficult but shows tremendous courage and strength. Are you a woman struggling with overwhelming anxiety? Are you a newly pregnant or postpartum mom that is struggling to keep your head above water in this difficult transition? Maybe you’re struggling with the massive invisible load of womanhood or motherhood. I have been in those trenches. You don’t have to manage these difficult moments alone. If you’ve ever thought that seeking out counseling could be helpful or beneficial to you, you’ve already taken the first step!
Reaching out and asking for help can be difficult but shows tremendous courage and strength. Are you a woman struggling with overwhelming anxiety? Are you a newly pregnant or postpartum mom that is struggling to keep your head above water in this difficult transition? Maybe you’re struggling with the massive invisible load of womanhood or motherhood. I have been in those trenches. You don’t have to manage these difficult moments alone. If you’ve ever thought that seeking out counseling could be helpful or beneficial to you, you’ve already taken the first step!
(860) 544-5810 View (860) 544-5810
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.