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Sean Berkshire
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
I utilize a combination of Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, and Humanistic approaches.
Each and every one of us possess the inherent ability to create positive change within ourselves. Whether you’re looking to alter patterns of behavior, strengthen relationships, or foster healthy development within your children, I would love the opportunity to work with you as you explore, understand, and grow. Therapy is a different journey for each individual and this is why I believe an integrated therapeutic approach tailored to YOU is essential in effective therapy. Based on your strengths, we will work together to create a personal and unique treatment plan, allowing you time to heal, grow, and reach your fullest potential.
I utilize a combination of Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, and Humanistic approaches.
Each and every one of us possess the inherent ability to create positive change within ourselves. Whether you’re looking to alter patterns of behavior, strengthen relationships, or foster healthy development within your children, I would love the opportunity to work with you as you explore, understand, and grow. Therapy is a different journey for each individual and this is why I believe an integrated therapeutic approach tailored to YOU is essential in effective therapy. Based on your strengths, we will work together to create a personal and unique treatment plan, allowing you time to heal, grow, and reach your fullest potential.
(760) 227-2831 View (760) 227-2831
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Morgan Betterton
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024
I skillfully blend Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with The Gottman Method to help couples successfully navigate conflict and foster more emotional intimacy.
I love working with married or dating couples who want to strengthen their relationship. These couples may love each other very much, but struggle with communication and often feel disconnected, frustrated, criticized, rejected, lonely or disappointed. They yearn for more emotional and physical intimacy, yet fall into negative patterns that create more distance. They often want to rekindle their romantic spark and cultivate more playfulness, curiosity, exploration and fun in their sexual relationship. These couples want to heal from past hurts to nurture a safe and secure relationship built on trust, commitment and mutual respect.
I skillfully blend Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with The Gottman Method to help couples successfully navigate conflict and foster more emotional intimacy.
I love working with married or dating couples who want to strengthen their relationship. These couples may love each other very much, but struggle with communication and often feel disconnected, frustrated, criticized, rejected, lonely or disappointed. They yearn for more emotional and physical intimacy, yet fall into negative patterns that create more distance. They often want to rekindle their romantic spark and cultivate more playfulness, curiosity, exploration and fun in their sexual relationship. These couples want to heal from past hurts to nurture a safe and secure relationship built on trust, commitment and mutual respect.
(760) 387-5143 View (760) 387-5143
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Ava Shakib
Associate Clinical Social Worker, ASW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
And in relationship/couples sessions, I am guided by Emotion-focused therapy (EFT).
I help you assess your relationships and surroundings, to help make life feel more pleasurable, manageable, and fulfilling. Together we'll work to expand your support systems, explore your values, and find your voice. I value your personal histories, cultures, and social environments and prioritize this while we explore your mental, physical, and sexual well-being together.
And in relationship/couples sessions, I am guided by Emotion-focused therapy (EFT).
I help you assess your relationships and surroundings, to help make life feel more pleasurable, manageable, and fulfilling. Together we'll work to expand your support systems, explore your values, and find your voice. I value your personal histories, cultures, and social environments and prioritize this while we explore your mental, physical, and sexual well-being together.
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Cristina Catherine Trette
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, PMH-C
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I specialize in helping couples strengthen their relationship. I also provide therapy to parents and families. Our work together may include enhancing communication skills, overcoming conflict, developing partnership, healing the past, increasing trust, and learning how to navigate difficult moments with compassion and grace. Many of my clients find therapy to be a safe place to communicate about their struggles with marriage, parenting and mental health. I focus on helping my clients create the relationships, family, and personal wellbeing they truly desire.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I specialize in helping couples strengthen their relationship. I also provide therapy to parents and families. Our work together may include enhancing communication skills, overcoming conflict, developing partnership, healing the past, increasing trust, and learning how to navigate difficult moments with compassion and grace. Many of my clients find therapy to be a safe place to communicate about their struggles with marriage, parenting and mental health. I focus on helping my clients create the relationships, family, and personal wellbeing they truly desire.
(760) 359-9501 View (760) 359-9501
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Deborah Mori
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, SEP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
My approach is understanding and compassionate by utilizing EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and DBT for great results.
Life doesn't always go as planned and sometimes it can be a real struggle. If you are experiencing anxiety / depression / overwhelm and unsure where to turn ... I can help! As human beings we naturally go through a wide range of emotions but that doesn't mean we have to suffer... we all have the power of change within us! I can help you believe in yourself, embrace confidence and self-assertion to take back your life. In my practice, I help people struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, loss, food/body issues, dissociation, codependency, and relationship problems.
My approach is understanding and compassionate by utilizing EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and DBT for great results.
Life doesn't always go as planned and sometimes it can be a real struggle. If you are experiencing anxiety / depression / overwhelm and unsure where to turn ... I can help! As human beings we naturally go through a wide range of emotions but that doesn't mean we have to suffer... we all have the power of change within us! I can help you believe in yourself, embrace confidence and self-assertion to take back your life. In my practice, I help people struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, loss, food/body issues, dissociation, codependency, and relationship problems.
(619) 458-3663 View (619) 458-3663
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Elana Remas Zagorsky
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
I have specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy; a highly effective model for both couples and individuals.
In life, challenges arise — relationship conflict, life transitions, fertility struggles and complicated pregnancies, postpartum anxiety, depression, anger. What do you do? Even the most supportive and loving relationships face difficulties. Many couples and individuals ignore the issues, assuming “things will work themselves out on their own,” and continue to suffer in silence. But you deserve to feel heard and understood. The ability to turn adversity into strength is an empowering skill available to everyone, with the right tools. I offer teletherapy as well as in-person therapy, for your convenience.
I have specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy; a highly effective model for both couples and individuals.
In life, challenges arise — relationship conflict, life transitions, fertility struggles and complicated pregnancies, postpartum anxiety, depression, anger. What do you do? Even the most supportive and loving relationships face difficulties. Many couples and individuals ignore the issues, assuming “things will work themselves out on their own,” and continue to suffer in silence. But you deserve to feel heard and understood. The ability to turn adversity into strength is an empowering skill available to everyone, with the right tools. I offer teletherapy as well as in-person therapy, for your convenience.
(619) 319-9924 View (619) 319-9924
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Connie Glenn
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92023
I am an experienced EMDR therapist with training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Energy Psychology, Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness.
Using an intuitive, strengths-based approach, I guide my clients on their journey of healing and thriving as they manage stress, anxiety, trauma, and/or addictions. I work with adults and children to help calm their nervous systems, turn down distress and anxiety, release the pain and trauma from past experiences, and let go of behaviors they no longer wish to engage in. As a certified EMDR therapist I can help individuals recover from traumatic experiences or relationships, whether recent or from the past, and find the tools to live their best lives today.
I am an experienced EMDR therapist with training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Energy Psychology, Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness.
Using an intuitive, strengths-based approach, I guide my clients on their journey of healing and thriving as they manage stress, anxiety, trauma, and/or addictions. I work with adults and children to help calm their nervous systems, turn down distress and anxiety, release the pain and trauma from past experiences, and let go of behaviors they no longer wish to engage in. As a certified EMDR therapist I can help individuals recover from traumatic experiences or relationships, whether recent or from the past, and find the tools to live their best lives today.
(760) 205-5824 View (760) 205-5824
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Barbara Benavidez
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
When working with couples I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and/or Gottman Therapy.
I believe the most important component to successful therapy is trust and connection between the client and his or her therapist. It is my intention to build a trusting relationship and to embark on a collaborative journey with each client. My passion is working with people to help them overcome obstacles, to enable them to reach and maintain goals to live a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life. I am an empathetic listener, compassionate and sincere in my desire to be of service by creating a safe environment for clients to explore ideas, to feel empowered and to practice new skills.
When working with couples I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and/or Gottman Therapy.
I believe the most important component to successful therapy is trust and connection between the client and his or her therapist. It is my intention to build a trusting relationship and to embark on a collaborative journey with each client. My passion is working with people to help them overcome obstacles, to enable them to reach and maintain goals to live a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life. I am an empathetic listener, compassionate and sincere in my desire to be of service by creating a safe environment for clients to explore ideas, to feel empowered and to practice new skills.
(760) 362-8088 View (760) 362-8088
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Dr. Erin Clark
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024
My treatment is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I strive to create a safe, empathic and nurturing environment for all my clients. I believe the key to personal growth involves trust and safety within the therapeutic relationship. I specialize in the areas of Depression, Anxiety, Relationship issues, Couples Communication Issues, Trauma, Girl's and Teen Issues, Women's Issues, Parent/Child Issues, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss Recovery, and Personal Growth. Together we will explore your thoughts and feelings while creating a treatment plan that addresses your specific needs. My therapy style can be described as relaxed and empathic because I offer both therapeutic safety with results.
My treatment is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I strive to create a safe, empathic and nurturing environment for all my clients. I believe the key to personal growth involves trust and safety within the therapeutic relationship. I specialize in the areas of Depression, Anxiety, Relationship issues, Couples Communication Issues, Trauma, Girl's and Teen Issues, Women's Issues, Parent/Child Issues, Self-Esteem Issues, Grief and Loss Recovery, and Personal Growth. Together we will explore your thoughts and feelings while creating a treatment plan that addresses your specific needs. My therapy style can be described as relaxed and empathic because I offer both therapeutic safety with results.
(760) 642-2614 View (760) 642-2614
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Sarah Herring
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92023
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is an evidence based couples therapy that has shown effectiveness in helping couples for over 25 years of clinical research.
Do you ever feel like you are repeating the same viscous cycle in your relationship? Do you and your partner feel like you find yourselves arguing over the same issues? Do you feel disconnected from your partner and even at times feel like you do not matter to them? You are not alone. Couples can create rigid patterns that can develop into a blame/withdraw cycle that creates negative emotions that each individual absorbs. The cycle continues to repeat itself in different context (i.e. household duties, parenting responsibilities, intimacy) and then creates an unsafe emotional connection which can feel isolating.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is an evidence based couples therapy that has shown effectiveness in helping couples for over 25 years of clinical research.
Do you ever feel like you are repeating the same viscous cycle in your relationship? Do you and your partner feel like you find yourselves arguing over the same issues? Do you feel disconnected from your partner and even at times feel like you do not matter to them? You are not alone. Couples can create rigid patterns that can develop into a blame/withdraw cycle that creates negative emotions that each individual absorbs. The cycle continues to repeat itself in different context (i.e. household duties, parenting responsibilities, intimacy) and then creates an unsafe emotional connection which can feel isolating.
(442) 239-6234 View (442) 239-6234
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Jaclyn D. Deilgat
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
My therapeutic approach is non-judgmental, empathetic, understanding, compassionate, and accepting. I provide therapy that does not shame you, but inspires you to grow into the person you want to become. I specialize in providing therapy for people who want to improve their quality of life, decrease distress, enhance relationships, resolve family conflict, better cope with life, and break free from unhealthy patterns. I've worked with clients who struggle with: depression, anxiety, addiction, grief, relationships, & unresolved conflict from childhood. I also provide affirmative therapy for adults and teens in the LGBTQIA+ community.
My therapeutic approach is non-judgmental, empathetic, understanding, compassionate, and accepting. I provide therapy that does not shame you, but inspires you to grow into the person you want to become. I specialize in providing therapy for people who want to improve their quality of life, decrease distress, enhance relationships, resolve family conflict, better cope with life, and break free from unhealthy patterns. I've worked with clients who struggle with: depression, anxiety, addiction, grief, relationships, & unresolved conflict from childhood. I also provide affirmative therapy for adults and teens in the LGBTQIA+ community.
(619) 375-0529 View (619) 375-0529
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Hope, Growth & Healing Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
Life provides happiness as well as its share of challenges. I believe individuals and couples are capable of navigating life but sometimes need a little extra help and compassion. Therapy can be that place where a person can discuss, learn and work through any past or present challenges that may be getting in the way of living a happy and hopeful life.
Life provides happiness as well as its share of challenges. I believe individuals and couples are capable of navigating life but sometimes need a little extra help and compassion. Therapy can be that place where a person can discuss, learn and work through any past or present challenges that may be getting in the way of living a happy and hopeful life.
(619) 776-3039 View (619) 776-3039
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Michelle Dexter
PsyD, NLPCC
Not Verified Not Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
Life can be challenging at times, and it can be good to know that someone is on your side. If you are looking for love, but it seems impossible to find, if you are having trouble in your romantic relationship, if you are dealing with a difficult ex-partner, or you are experiencing sexual challenges, my passion is to help you experience your best life.
Life can be challenging at times, and it can be good to know that someone is on your side. If you are looking for love, but it seems impossible to find, if you are having trouble in your romantic relationship, if you are dealing with a difficult ex-partner, or you are experiencing sexual challenges, my passion is to help you experience your best life.
(619) 350-2440 View (619) 350-2440
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Ashley Mullica
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
Are you tired of feeling stuck, lost, anxious or depressed? Have you experienced a recent loss or are you struggling with relationship difficulties? Are you feeling overwhelmed by anxiety or trauma? I provide a safe, non-judgmental, and compassionate environment where a healthy therapeutic relationship is built so that you can work towards overcoming these obstacles and move on with life! I will collaborate with you to help achieve your goals and provide honest feedback and practical, straightforward, and effective interventions. I view each client as unique and adapt my approach to meet your individualized needs.
Are you tired of feeling stuck, lost, anxious or depressed? Have you experienced a recent loss or are you struggling with relationship difficulties? Are you feeling overwhelmed by anxiety or trauma? I provide a safe, non-judgmental, and compassionate environment where a healthy therapeutic relationship is built so that you can work towards overcoming these obstacles and move on with life! I will collaborate with you to help achieve your goals and provide honest feedback and practical, straightforward, and effective interventions. I view each client as unique and adapt my approach to meet your individualized needs.
(760) 407-2827 View (760) 407-2827
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The Halliday Center for Psychotherapy & Wellness
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024
Seeking a therapist can be a daunting task. Our therapists strive to help our clients achieve the personal growth and healing goals that they are reaching for, and to provide a warm, safe, and supportive atmosphere for that growth and healing to occur. Clarity, centeredness, and happiness are realistic goals to strive for. Our therapists are dedicated to helping people understand the causes of their problems and, to either solve those problems or, to come to peace with them. We work with children, adolescents, adults, and seniors struggling with a wide variety of issues and concerns.
Seeking a therapist can be a daunting task. Our therapists strive to help our clients achieve the personal growth and healing goals that they are reaching for, and to provide a warm, safe, and supportive atmosphere for that growth and healing to occur. Clarity, centeredness, and happiness are realistic goals to strive for. Our therapists are dedicated to helping people understand the causes of their problems and, to either solve those problems or, to come to peace with them. We work with children, adolescents, adults, and seniors struggling with a wide variety of issues and concerns.
(760) 635-3310 View (760) 635-3310
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Jenifer Finkelstein
Counselor, MEd, LPCC 44, NCC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92023  (Online Only)
New Moms - I’m happy to talk with you about transitioning to parenthood, growing your family, and how these early days, weeks, months, and even years can bring so many challenges and even emotional pain. Being responsible for a new little human can feel overwhelming. It’s not your fault, you can do this, and you don’t need to go at it alone. There may be other relationships to manage with a partner or other children, a lack of sleep, and lots of self-doubt fed by the opinions of others and contradictory information to untangle. Let’s figure things out in a way that puts you on a path to parenting success that is just right for you.
New Moms - I’m happy to talk with you about transitioning to parenthood, growing your family, and how these early days, weeks, months, and even years can bring so many challenges and even emotional pain. Being responsible for a new little human can feel overwhelming. It’s not your fault, you can do this, and you don’t need to go at it alone. There may be other relationships to manage with a partner or other children, a lack of sleep, and lots of self-doubt fed by the opinions of others and contradictory information to untangle. Let’s figure things out in a way that puts you on a path to parenting success that is just right for you.
(760) 417-7285 View (760) 417-7285
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Shelli Jackson
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
Dr. Shelli Jackson is a licensed psychologist with experience working in a crisis house and two inpatient hospital settings. She works with adult populations on a wide array of topics, most involving some level of depression, anxiety, and feeling unwanted or unlovable. She has experience working with patients experiencing mood disorders, ADHD, Aspergers, as well as the stigma these populations often experience. She also specializes in how mental health challenges can negatively effect weight loss and fitness goals.
Dr. Shelli Jackson is a licensed psychologist with experience working in a crisis house and two inpatient hospital settings. She works with adult populations on a wide array of topics, most involving some level of depression, anxiety, and feeling unwanted or unlovable. She has experience working with patients experiencing mood disorders, ADHD, Aspergers, as well as the stigma these populations often experience. She also specializes in how mental health challenges can negatively effect weight loss and fitness goals.
(442) 259-8088 x112 View (442) 259-8088 x112
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Porta Verum Psychotherapy Services
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Encinitas, CA 92024  (Online Only)
Porta Verum Psychotherapy Services provides comprehensive psychotherapy services for individuals, couples, and families so they can heal through traumas and overcome their mental, emotional, psychological, and interpersonal challenges so that they can experience a life worth living with joy, connection, empowerment, and love. We are a group of experienced, passionate, and dedicated therapists who are committed to an exceptional quality of care, and utilizing a range of best practice modalities to facilitate transformation in people’s lives. We offer psychotherapy services to children of all ages, adults, families, and couples.
Porta Verum Psychotherapy Services provides comprehensive psychotherapy services for individuals, couples, and families so they can heal through traumas and overcome their mental, emotional, psychological, and interpersonal challenges so that they can experience a life worth living with joy, connection, empowerment, and love. We are a group of experienced, passionate, and dedicated therapists who are committed to an exceptional quality of care, and utilizing a range of best practice modalities to facilitate transformation in people’s lives. We offer psychotherapy services to children of all ages, adults, families, and couples.
(760) 299-7964 View (760) 299-7964
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Monica Melchor Alvarez
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92024
Taking the first step to seek support and find healing can be incredibly challenging. I want to validate the fact that you have made it this far! In this space, you belong, and I am here to listen, to guide and support you. Building a healthy and positive relationship with my clients is an important key to therapy. The space that we create is one that will allow for identity exploration, growth and aid in developing a healthy relationship with yourself and those around you. My approach to therapy is through a strength-based, client-centered and trauma-informed lens.
Taking the first step to seek support and find healing can be incredibly challenging. I want to validate the fact that you have made it this far! In this space, you belong, and I am here to listen, to guide and support you. Building a healthy and positive relationship with my clients is an important key to therapy. The space that we create is one that will allow for identity exploration, growth and aid in developing a healthy relationship with yourself and those around you. My approach to therapy is through a strength-based, client-centered and trauma-informed lens.
(760) 452-9845 View (760) 452-9845
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Keri Green
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Encinitas, CA 92023  (Online Only)
We all have a story to tell. Our lives are full of hopes and dreams, fears and struggles. No matter if the client in front of me is a twenty year old struggling with their gender or sexual identity, a couple in their 40's experiencing mismatched desire, or a sixty year old with sexual dysfunction concerns, we all need someone to listen and support us. I consider myself to be an empathetic therapist. I want to support my client as best. I also know that it isn't easy to go to therapy and I want to be someone who starts with where the client is at, but also know that I can be direct at times if needed, and softer at other times.
We all have a story to tell. Our lives are full of hopes and dreams, fears and struggles. No matter if the client in front of me is a twenty year old struggling with their gender or sexual identity, a couple in their 40's experiencing mismatched desire, or a sixty year old with sexual dysfunction concerns, we all need someone to listen and support us. I consider myself to be an empathetic therapist. I want to support my client as best. I also know that it isn't easy to go to therapy and I want to be someone who starts with where the client is at, but also know that I can be direct at times if needed, and softer at other times.
(442) 264-1036 View (442) 264-1036
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.