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Matty Phelps
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
I draw on Narrative Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy to consider how the stories we tell ourselves and the quality of our relationships can be two guiding lights as we consider how we want to live.
Maybe you are at sea amidst big change. Perhaps your relationship with sex and your body has become complicated by a limiting belief or a cultural message that is no longer serving you. In my own life, giving space to understand, without judgment, what is happening on an emotional level has given me space to grow with more acceptance and gentleness. I try and offer such a space to the people with whom I work and I believe it starts with a simple but often neglected truth: we are all deserving of care, from ourselves and from those we trust. I specialize in sex and relationship therapy.
I draw on Narrative Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy to consider how the stories we tell ourselves and the quality of our relationships can be two guiding lights as we consider how we want to live.
Maybe you are at sea amidst big change. Perhaps your relationship with sex and your body has become complicated by a limiting belief or a cultural message that is no longer serving you. In my own life, giving space to understand, without judgment, what is happening on an emotional level has given me space to grow with more acceptance and gentleness. I try and offer such a space to the people with whom I work and I believe it starts with a simple but often neglected truth: we are all deserving of care, from ourselves and from those we trust. I specialize in sex and relationship therapy.
(720) 605-0657 View (720) 605-0657
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Aaron Eigler - Affordable Sex | Relational Therapist
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, MFTC, LPCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
I have couples therapy training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method, and I am supervised by master sex therapist, Dr.
Nurturing relationships are essential to our survival. And, they require work. That's where I come in! Whether you’re in a relationship or single, deep connection is at the foundation of a meaningful life. Let's collaborate to design a life you can truly feel proud of. Whatever your individual or relational issue is (sexual functioning, better communication, sexual compulsivity/sex addiction, discrepancies in desire, etc), they're all related at the end of the day. I specialize in working with men and intimacy-related issues, and I'm excited to work with you to create a stronger, happier, and more vibrant relationship.
I have couples therapy training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method, and I am supervised by master sex therapist, Dr.
Nurturing relationships are essential to our survival. And, they require work. That's where I come in! Whether you’re in a relationship or single, deep connection is at the foundation of a meaningful life. Let's collaborate to design a life you can truly feel proud of. Whatever your individual or relational issue is (sexual functioning, better communication, sexual compulsivity/sex addiction, discrepancies in desire, etc), they're all related at the end of the day. I specialize in working with men and intimacy-related issues, and I'm excited to work with you to create a stronger, happier, and more vibrant relationship.
(720) 707-2398 View (720) 707-2398
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Auburn Meisner
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
I have a solution-focused and strengths-based approach that integrates a variety of modalities such as mindfulness, narrative therapy, attachment focused, and emotionally focused.
I use a strengths based approach that integrates whole self wellness with an emphasis on mind, body and relationship. I help clients identify unhelpful patterning and create a vision of sexual and relational health through embodiment, presence and cognitive restructuring. I specialize in the intersection of sex, love, pleasure, relationships, identity, communication, and empowerment.
I have a solution-focused and strengths-based approach that integrates a variety of modalities such as mindfulness, narrative therapy, attachment focused, and emotionally focused.
I use a strengths based approach that integrates whole self wellness with an emphasis on mind, body and relationship. I help clients identify unhelpful patterning and create a vision of sexual and relational health through embodiment, presence and cognitive restructuring. I specialize in the intersection of sex, love, pleasure, relationships, identity, communication, and empowerment.
(720) 619-2490 View (720) 619-2490
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Allison Kalivas
Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate, MFTC
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
In addition to a specialty in couples therapy using Emotionally-Focused Couples therapy (EFT), I specialize in trauma and eating disorders.
My passion is helping individuals and couples develop the tools to thrive. So often, we feel pressure to shrink ourselves to fit into external expectations. Therapy is a place to break free from those expectations and explore all aspects of yourself. We focus on how your past and present experiences impact your emotional wellness. By drawing connections between your emotions, thoughts, and experiences, one can learn how they impact your life and move towards healing and a meaningful life. Specific to couples therapy, I enjoy helping couples discover the underlying emotions driving discomfort and disconnection, leading to change.
In addition to a specialty in couples therapy using Emotionally-Focused Couples therapy (EFT), I specialize in trauma and eating disorders.
My passion is helping individuals and couples develop the tools to thrive. So often, we feel pressure to shrink ourselves to fit into external expectations. Therapy is a place to break free from those expectations and explore all aspects of yourself. We focus on how your past and present experiences impact your emotional wellness. By drawing connections between your emotions, thoughts, and experiences, one can learn how they impact your life and move towards healing and a meaningful life. Specific to couples therapy, I enjoy helping couples discover the underlying emotions driving discomfort and disconnection, leading to change.
(720) 675-7123 View (720) 675-7123
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Virginia (Gini) Gardner
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
Do you find that you and your partner can't seem to communicate? Are fighting too much? Just aren't feeling close to one another? I specialize in working with such couples. If you're committed to your relationship and willing to work hard, I can help you break the negative patterns of interaction causing your distress and create new patterns enabling you to be more loving, compassionate and emotionally engaged with one another. I'm an experienced practitioner of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), which has been validated as highly effective for improving relationships.
Do you find that you and your partner can't seem to communicate? Are fighting too much? Just aren't feeling close to one another? I specialize in working with such couples. If you're committed to your relationship and willing to work hard, I can help you break the negative patterns of interaction causing your distress and create new patterns enabling you to be more loving, compassionate and emotionally engaged with one another. I'm an experienced practitioner of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), which has been validated as highly effective for improving relationships.
(720) 513-2332 View (720) 513-2332
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Pam Goodfriend
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CAC III
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
I specialize in treating anxiety. Side effects include depression, insomnia, fears, worries, relationship problems and more. We work to relieve these issues through EMDR, EFT, and couples therapy, as well as teaching you skills to improve your self talk to eliminate triggers you can control. My training in Psychology and the teachings of of Buddhism, Hinduism and A Course in Miracles, gives me an east-west vantage point to meet you wherever you are. I have over 30 years of meditation and mindfulness practice and over 20 years working in mental health which translates to proven and effective benefits and powerful change in you.
I specialize in treating anxiety. Side effects include depression, insomnia, fears, worries, relationship problems and more. We work to relieve these issues through EMDR, EFT, and couples therapy, as well as teaching you skills to improve your self talk to eliminate triggers you can control. My training in Psychology and the teachings of of Buddhism, Hinduism and A Course in Miracles, gives me an east-west vantage point to meet you wherever you are. I have over 30 years of meditation and mindfulness practice and over 20 years working in mental health which translates to proven and effective benefits and powerful change in you.
(303) 732-6212 View (303) 732-6212
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Kelly Wiepking
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
I have over 15 years of experience as a therapist and offer evidence based therapies including EMDR, EFT and IFS.
Are your emotions feeling out of your control? Are you struggling to feel contentment and enjoyment? Are you wanting to change personal or generational patterns of coping? The answers to these questions can affect how you feel about yourself resulting in symptoms of anxiety, PTSD and depression. I help my clients understand what is causing their distress or stagnation so they can discover healing and more flexibility in the present. This process help free my clients from the constraints that keep them stuck. If you feel ready to find more answers for yourself, I am here to help you explore in a safe, supportive and inclusive space.
I have over 15 years of experience as a therapist and offer evidence based therapies including EMDR, EFT and IFS.
Are your emotions feeling out of your control? Are you struggling to feel contentment and enjoyment? Are you wanting to change personal or generational patterns of coping? The answers to these questions can affect how you feel about yourself resulting in symptoms of anxiety, PTSD and depression. I help my clients understand what is causing their distress or stagnation so they can discover healing and more flexibility in the present. This process help free my clients from the constraints that keep them stuck. If you feel ready to find more answers for yourself, I am here to help you explore in a safe, supportive and inclusive space.
(720) 907-8977 View (720) 907-8977
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Jessie Briegel
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
I understand how difficult it can be to find the right therapist who knows how to create a safe and comfortable place for you to open up, be honest and to be curious about the challenges you are facing. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples identify the patterns in their lives that lead to all types of disconnection. I know how to help you rebuild the emotional connection that is necessary to safely and effectively explore sex and sexuality in a way that leads to greater joy for you and those you chose to share it with.
I understand how difficult it can be to find the right therapist who knows how to create a safe and comfortable place for you to open up, be honest and to be curious about the challenges you are facing. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples identify the patterns in their lives that lead to all types of disconnection. I know how to help you rebuild the emotional connection that is necessary to safely and effectively explore sex and sexuality in a way that leads to greater joy for you and those you chose to share it with.
(720) 573-0957 View (720) 573-0957
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Jenny Acuna Brandt
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, MFTC, LPCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
When love doesn't work, it hurts. Getting our relationships right with the people we love is crucial to our overall well-being. But getting it “right” is not always easy, in fact, sometimes it is REALLY hard. Chances are, you have tried to address the difficulties. If you're struggling to communicate, feel stuck in a cycle of arguments, or have a trauma history impacting your relationship(s), I am here to guide you towards greater connection and intimacy. Using what research has shown to be the most effective form of couples therapy (Emotionally Focused Therapy), we will work on better communication and greater emotional intimacy.
When love doesn't work, it hurts. Getting our relationships right with the people we love is crucial to our overall well-being. But getting it “right” is not always easy, in fact, sometimes it is REALLY hard. Chances are, you have tried to address the difficulties. If you're struggling to communicate, feel stuck in a cycle of arguments, or have a trauma history impacting your relationship(s), I am here to guide you towards greater connection and intimacy. Using what research has shown to be the most effective form of couples therapy (Emotionally Focused Therapy), we will work on better communication and greater emotional intimacy.
(720) 782-2148 View (720) 782-2148
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Mara Richman
Registered Psychotherapist, PhD, Psych
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
Drawing from evidence-based modalities such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), CBT, DBT, & EFT, I empower individuals to process and integrate their past traumas, paving the way for profound transformation.
My style is a unique blend of warmth, empathy, and clinical proficiency, which can help for me to be a trusted guide for individuals and couples navigating through life's challenges. With a deep understanding of the intricacies of trauma, I provide a safe and nurturing space for her clients to explore their emotions and experiences. I use personalized treatment plans tailored to each client's unique needs, which equips clients with practical tools and coping strategies to navigate life's challenges with resilience and strength.
Drawing from evidence-based modalities such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), CBT, DBT, & EFT, I empower individuals to process and integrate their past traumas, paving the way for profound transformation.
My style is a unique blend of warmth, empathy, and clinical proficiency, which can help for me to be a trusted guide for individuals and couples navigating through life's challenges. With a deep understanding of the intricacies of trauma, I provide a safe and nurturing space for her clients to explore their emotions and experiences. I use personalized treatment plans tailored to each client's unique needs, which equips clients with practical tools and coping strategies to navigate life's challenges with resilience and strength.
(720) 807-6898 View (720) 807-6898
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Aj Grovert
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
I love working with individuals struggling with of trauma, depression, anxiety, and perinatal/postpartum issues. I specialize in treating first responders, medical providers, or others who experience trauma in their profession. I deeply enjoy working with veterans and specialize in treating female service members who experienced sexual trauma while serving. I have special interest in working with artists and creators to help address creative blocks as well as perfectionism. I also have specialty experience with emerging adults and college students in transition.
I love working with individuals struggling with of trauma, depression, anxiety, and perinatal/postpartum issues. I specialize in treating first responders, medical providers, or others who experience trauma in their profession. I deeply enjoy working with veterans and specialize in treating female service members who experienced sexual trauma while serving. I have special interest in working with artists and creators to help address creative blocks as well as perfectionism. I also have specialty experience with emerging adults and college students in transition.
(720) 675-7123 View (720) 675-7123
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Dr. Joshua Bock
Pre-Licensed Professional, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
Whether you are in a bit of a rut or are looking to do some deep soul searching work, you have come to the right place. I see each client as a whole person rather than as a collection of symptoms and want to work with you to understand how you got to where you are and how to get to where you’d like to be. I specialize in working with LGBTQIA+ related issues, Anxiety, OCD, GAD, Agoraphobia, Panic Disorder, ADHD, ASD, and Depression. I am also currently accepting clients in search of Gender Affirming Care Evaluation for Gender Affirming Surgery (GAS) and Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
Whether you are in a bit of a rut or are looking to do some deep soul searching work, you have come to the right place. I see each client as a whole person rather than as a collection of symptoms and want to work with you to understand how you got to where you are and how to get to where you’d like to be. I specialize in working with LGBTQIA+ related issues, Anxiety, OCD, GAD, Agoraphobia, Panic Disorder, ADHD, ASD, and Depression. I am also currently accepting clients in search of Gender Affirming Care Evaluation for Gender Affirming Surgery (GAS) and Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
(720) 664-2827 View (720) 664-2827
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Minaret Therapeutic Services LLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, ADDC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
Finding a therapist to aid in your mental health journey is a big step, so I am proud that you made it here. Minaret Therapeutic Services strives to provide a safe space for individuals from various backgrounds and communities to process what they have going on in their lives because it can be immensely difficult to manage all of those thoughts, emotions, relationships and issues alone. Minaret's main goal is to provide quality mental health services to individuals/couples experiencing anxiety, relationship issues, addictions, life adjustments, and more. Experience positive, therapeutic impacts from a therapist that understands.
Finding a therapist to aid in your mental health journey is a big step, so I am proud that you made it here. Minaret Therapeutic Services strives to provide a safe space for individuals from various backgrounds and communities to process what they have going on in their lives because it can be immensely difficult to manage all of those thoughts, emotions, relationships and issues alone. Minaret's main goal is to provide quality mental health services to individuals/couples experiencing anxiety, relationship issues, addictions, life adjustments, and more. Experience positive, therapeutic impacts from a therapist that understands.
(720) 513-2472 View (720) 513-2472
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Leila Boytler
Counselor, MA, LMHC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
I believe that one of the most important components to good therapy is a safe, attuned environment where you can receive strategic support in hearing your own voice. Often, we dismiss our voice or intuition. Therapy can be a place to allow our true emotions to be expressed, enabling us to hear what we may not be listening to in our everyday life. Together, we will uncover the often unspoken and align with your true values. My approach to counseling is collaborative and strengths-based.
I believe that one of the most important components to good therapy is a safe, attuned environment where you can receive strategic support in hearing your own voice. Often, we dismiss our voice or intuition. Therapy can be a place to allow our true emotions to be expressed, enabling us to hear what we may not be listening to in our everyday life. Together, we will uncover the often unspoken and align with your true values. My approach to counseling is collaborative and strengths-based.
(206) 309-1218 View (206) 309-1218
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Libby Korell
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
As a dedicated trauma therapist, I have special training and expertise in working with children (4-11) and families that have experienced trauma. I also have extensive experience in working with families whose children are facing end-of-life situations, life-limiting illnesses, and chronic health issues. I believe that children and parents are the experts in their lives and view my role as a catalyst for greater connection, attachment, healing, and meaningful change. As a clinical social worker, I recognize the impact systems and institutions can have on children and families and will be your advocate as you navigate these systems
As a dedicated trauma therapist, I have special training and expertise in working with children (4-11) and families that have experienced trauma. I also have extensive experience in working with families whose children are facing end-of-life situations, life-limiting illnesses, and chronic health issues. I believe that children and parents are the experts in their lives and view my role as a catalyst for greater connection, attachment, healing, and meaningful change. As a clinical social worker, I recognize the impact systems and institutions can have on children and families and will be your advocate as you navigate these systems
(720) 675-7123 View (720) 675-7123
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Lori Morse
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
Do you or a loved one struggle with trauma, grief/loss, depression/anxiety, or disturbing memories? I would be honored to join with you on your journey toward healing by together, developing a deeper awareness of life’s issues, guide you into your body with kindness and awareness, teach you how to be mindful and live in the present moment, establish effective coping skills, and move beyond all forms of trauma. I would love the opportunity to show you how strength based holistic counseling, neurofeedback, somatic therapy and EMDR, can help remove barriers to healing and move towards Inner Peace. The power of healing lies from within.
Do you or a loved one struggle with trauma, grief/loss, depression/anxiety, or disturbing memories? I would be honored to join with you on your journey toward healing by together, developing a deeper awareness of life’s issues, guide you into your body with kindness and awareness, teach you how to be mindful and live in the present moment, establish effective coping skills, and move beyond all forms of trauma. I would love the opportunity to show you how strength based holistic counseling, neurofeedback, somatic therapy and EMDR, can help remove barriers to healing and move towards Inner Peace. The power of healing lies from within.
(303) 647-9312 View (303) 647-9312
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Martha Carter
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209  (Online Only)
Do you find yourself stuck in the past or hijacked by the future? Have you lost yourself through chronic people pleasing? Do you feel anxious around food, social events, or dating? If this sounds like you, you've come to the right place! I help adults discover life beyond the struggle of severe anxiety through an embodied, somatic approach. During our work together you will learn to tune into yourself, practice grounding and mindfulness, and ultimately leave each session feeling better than how you showed up.
Do you find yourself stuck in the past or hijacked by the future? Have you lost yourself through chronic people pleasing? Do you feel anxious around food, social events, or dating? If this sounds like you, you've come to the right place! I help adults discover life beyond the struggle of severe anxiety through an embodied, somatic approach. During our work together you will learn to tune into yourself, practice grounding and mindfulness, and ultimately leave each session feeling better than how you showed up.
(720) 807-9397 View (720) 807-9397
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Margot Mellon
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LMHC
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209  (Online Only)
Life can be tough, and you don't have to face its challenges alone. I'm Margot Mellon, a licensed professional counselor in MA and CO, holding a Master's degree in Mental Health Counseling from Boston College. With a foundation of knowledge, experience, and compassion, I am here to help you navigate whatever difficulties life has thrown your way. I firmly believe in the inherent capacity for growth and resilience within everyone. Together, we'll explore the core of who you are, what you want, and identify any factors hindering your potential for happiness, meaning, and satisfaction.
Life can be tough, and you don't have to face its challenges alone. I'm Margot Mellon, a licensed professional counselor in MA and CO, holding a Master's degree in Mental Health Counseling from Boston College. With a foundation of knowledge, experience, and compassion, I am here to help you navigate whatever difficulties life has thrown your way. I firmly believe in the inherent capacity for growth and resilience within everyone. Together, we'll explore the core of who you are, what you want, and identify any factors hindering your potential for happiness, meaning, and satisfaction.
(720) 459-9732 View (720) 459-9732
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Angela Shelley - Affordable Couples Therapy
Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate, MS, MFTC
Verified Verified
10 Endorsed
Denver, CO 80209
My specialty is with Individuals and Couples working through their relational and intimacy issues. I am passionate about helping couples and individuals find or re-discover their fire in their relationship. Do you have trouble in relationships? Do you have conflict in your marriage? Does one partner have a different libido or desire than another? Do you want to open up your relationship and explore different polyamorous lifestyle options? Do you or your partner have different fantasies or desires you would like to explore? Is there shame or pain related to sex? These are all areas where I specialize in treatment.
My specialty is with Individuals and Couples working through their relational and intimacy issues. I am passionate about helping couples and individuals find or re-discover their fire in their relationship. Do you have trouble in relationships? Do you have conflict in your marriage? Does one partner have a different libido or desire than another? Do you want to open up your relationship and explore different polyamorous lifestyle options? Do you or your partner have different fantasies or desires you would like to explore? Is there shame or pain related to sex? These are all areas where I specialize in treatment.
(720) 753-4394 View (720) 753-4394
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Kate Boyle
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Denver, CO 80209
I view therapy as a collaborative and supportive process. I'm here to help you set goals that will lead you to live a more fulfilling life. I am a licensed clinical social worker specializing in anxiety, depression, eating disorders, life transitions, relationships, and burnout. I hope to provide you a safe space to heal and grow as an individual.
I view therapy as a collaborative and supportive process. I'm here to help you set goals that will lead you to live a more fulfilling life. I am a licensed clinical social worker specializing in anxiety, depression, eating disorders, life transitions, relationships, and burnout. I hope to provide you a safe space to heal and grow as an individual.
(720) 526-3248 View (720) 526-3248
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.