Emotionally Focused Therapists in 27626
Gwen Borcyk
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Raleigh, NC 27626
You might be seeking therapy because you feel like no one has your back, that you just can't handle how much crap keeps pilling up on you, because you doubt your ability to manage the craziness of life, the heaviness of it, the complications of family that you love, but who don't always treat you with love and care, you feel weighed down by "failures" and unable to see your strength and successes despite surviving one hard thing after another, and often with limited or poor support. Or maybe you just feel broken and that no one else cares. The truth is most people aren't broken. They may have hearts or minds that have been sprained, but with the right treatment, they can heal. When people come to see me who feel that "no one cares about them" I'm always reminded of how important it is that AT LEAST ONE PERSON cares...and the fact that they got to my office tells me that the MOST important person they can have rooting for them in their life CARES - THEY CARE. They care enough to get the support they need. And that's the first step to widening that circle to create healthy connections so that they don't have to carry that care alone.
You might be seeking therapy because you feel like no one has your back, that you just can't handle how much crap keeps pilling up on you, because you doubt your ability to manage the craziness of life, the heaviness of it, the complications of family that you love, but who don't always treat you with love and care, you feel weighed down by "failures" and unable to see your strength and successes despite surviving one hard thing after another, and often with limited or poor support. Or maybe you just feel broken and that no one else cares. The truth is most people aren't broken. They may have hearts or minds that have been sprained, but with the right treatment, they can heal. When people come to see me who feel that "no one cares about them" I'm always reminded of how important it is that AT LEAST ONE PERSON cares...and the fact that they got to my office tells me that the MOST important person they can have rooting for them in their life CARES - THEY CARE. They care enough to get the support they need. And that's the first step to widening that circle to create healthy connections so that they don't have to carry that care alone.
Trish Burkert
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Raleigh, NC 27626 (Online Only)
I work well with clients who have previously found therapy to be lacking. While my clients typically find sessions enjoyable, I also push for each person with whom I work to utilize learned skills throughout the week! Life changes require effort but I also understand that it's hard to make significant changes when every moment feels like slogging through molasses. I tend to be more involved as a therapist than some, which is a choice born out of my own life experiences. Sometimes people don't have a fully-developed support system to help support them as they begin to make healthier choices. If that's the case for you, get in touch.
I work well with clients who have previously found therapy to be lacking. While my clients typically find sessions enjoyable, I also push for each person with whom I work to utilize learned skills throughout the week! Life changes require effort but I also understand that it's hard to make significant changes when every moment feels like slogging through molasses. I tend to be more involved as a therapist than some, which is a choice born out of my own life experiences. Sometimes people don't have a fully-developed support system to help support them as they begin to make healthier choices. If that's the case for you, get in touch.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.