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Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
(571) 624-2098
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Elayne Smith, LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT

Verified by Psychology Today Verified by Psychology Today
Alexandria, VA 22301
(571) 624-2098
Let's Connect (571) 624-2098
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I work with people who long for deeper, more reciprocal relationships, a life that actually fits, and a way of being that doesn’t require so much effort to maintain. You know how to hold it all together. You show up, take care of others, work hard, and keep moving, regardless of what you need. Externally, all looks well, but internally, you feel stuck in patterns that leave you feeling drained, unseen, weighed down by pain, burned out, or always chasing. I specialize in working with high-performers, perfectionists, people pleasers, or anxious attachers who seek greater satisfaction, connection, peace, and balance in their life.
Together, we explore the hidden architecture of your identity — the beliefs, roles, unmet needs, hurts, and relational blueprints you developed to survive, succeed, protect, and feel valued. You may have learned to get what you need by overfunctioning and now notice these earlier adaptations are limiting connection, vitality, rest, and your sense of worth.
We explore how life and relationships have shaped your nervous system, emotions, boundaries, and map for connection. If you’re ready for therapy that is deep, human, and transformative, going beneath symptom relief to the roots of your struggles, I’m honored to work with you. You deserve a satisfying life, connected relationships, and authentic self-worth.
Call or Elayne Smith, LMFT now for a free 15 minute consultation - (571) 624-2098

Practice at a Glance

Available both in-person and online

Owner, The Center for Connection, Healing & Change

Alexandria, VA 22301

(571) 624-2098

Arlington, VA 22205

Website
Accepting new clients. To schedule a free phone consultation, go to: www.cchc.as.me
I specialize in Relationship Issues, Life Transitions and Self Esteem 
$325 Per Session  
I see couples and groups  
Let's Connect (571) 624-2098
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT

Practice at a Glance

Available both in-person and online

Owner, The Center for Connection, Healing & Change

Alexandria, VA 22301

(571) 624-2098

Arlington, VA 22205

Website
Accepting new clients. To schedule a free phone consultation, go to: www.cchc.as.me
I specialize in Relationship Issues, Life Transitions and Self Esteem 
$325 Per Session  
I see couples and groups  

Finances

Fees

  • Individual Sessions $325

Payment Methods

American Express, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Paypal, Visa

Insurance

  • Out of Network
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I am an out-of-network provider and can provide superbills for submission to insurance for reimbursement. I work with Thrizer Billing, who can submit insurance claims on your behalf on a session-to-session basis. I accept HSA and FSA cards and offer a military discount.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098
"
I am an out-of-network provider and can provide superbills for submission to insurance for reimbursement. I work with Thrizer Billing, who can submit insurance claims on your behalf on a session-to-session basis. I accept HSA and FSA cards and offer a military discount.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098

Qualifications

    Marriage & Family Therapist: Elayne Smith
  • Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of Virginia / 0717001367 Elayne Smith

    • Education and Years In Practice

  • In Practice for 24 years
  • Attended University of Southern Mississippi, MS Marriage and Family Therapy

    • Additional Credentials

  • Certificate from Intergenerational Healing, Attachment-based Leadership, Self-of-the Therapist, Financial Therapy
  • Certificate from Emotionally Focused Individual, Couples and Family Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Therapy
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I am a highly skilled, effective, warm, and creative therapist. I work to help you get to the origins of your struggles and release them. I ground myself in evidence-based maps for lasting change, a profound belief in the human capacity to grow, and ongoing engagement in Self-of-the-Therapist work.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098
"
I am a highly skilled, effective, warm, and creative therapist. I work to help you get to the origins of your struggles and release them. I ground myself in evidence-based maps for lasting change, a profound belief in the human capacity to grow, and ongoing engagement in Self-of-the-Therapist work.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

  • Relationship Issues
  • Life Transitions
  • Self Esteem

Expertise

  • Anxiety
  • Career Counseling
  • Chronic Illness
  • Codependency
  • Coping Skills
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Emotional Disturbance
  • Family Conflict
  • First Responders
  • Grief
  • Infidelity
  • Marital and Premarital
  • Men's Issues
  • Peer Relationships
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Spirituality
  • Stress
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Veterans
  • Women's Issues
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I am a systemic therapist skilled in working with the complex interplay between previous life experiences and current struggles. I work to demystify patterns, heal old pain, and guide transformation. I am also a group private practice owner, clinical supervisor, and specialize in the process of professional and personal growth/reaching potential for therapists.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098
"
I am a systemic therapist skilled in working with the complex interplay between previous life experiences and current struggles. I work to demystify patterns, heal old pain, and guide transformation. I am also a group private practice owner, clinical supervisor, and specialize in the process of professional and personal growth/reaching potential for therapists.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098

Client Focus

Age

Adults , 
Elders (65+)

Participants

Couples , 
Group

Communities

Queer Allied , 
Racial Justice Allied

Ethnicity

Other Racial or Ethnic Background

Age

Adults , 
Elders (65+)

Participants

Couples , 
Group

Communities

Queer Allied , 
Racial Justice Allied

Ethnicity

Other Racial or Ethnic Background

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

  • Attachment-based
  • Attachment-Based Leadership, Self-of-the-Therapist
  • Clinical Supervision and Licensed Supervisors
  • Culturally Sensitive
  • Emotionally Focused
  • Family / Marital
  • Family Systems
  • Humanistic
  • Intergenerational Cycle Breaking Financial Therapy
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational
  • Somatic
  • Strength-Based
  • Trauma Focused
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I lean into family systems, attachment, emotion, trauma, and somatic models of therapy. These approaches allow me to help clients (and therapists!) organize their current maps for self and others, identify and heal the issues that cause pain, burnout, or limitation, and move toward their potential. My approach is human, directive, engaging, purposeful, and goal-focused.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098
"
I lean into family systems, attachment, emotion, trauma, and somatic models of therapy. These approaches allow me to help clients (and therapists!) organize their current maps for self and others, identify and heal the issues that cause pain, burnout, or limitation, and move toward their potential. My approach is human, directive, engaging, purposeful, and goal-focused.
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (571) 624-2098

Location

Primary Location

Owner, The Center for Connection, Healing & Change

Alexandria, VA 22301

(571) 624-2098

Email us

Website

Additional Location

Arlington, VA 22205

(571) 624-2098

Nearby Areas

Cities

Counties

Zips

Neighborhoods

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Accepting new clients. To schedule a free phone consultation, go to: www.cchc.as.me
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call for a free consultation now - (571) 624-2098
"
Accepting new clients. To schedule a free phone consultation, go to: www.cchc.as.me
Photo of Elayne Smitharl - Elayne Smith, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Elayne Smith, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Call for a free consultation now - (571) 624-2098