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Lily Tolhurst LPC: Licensed Psychotherapist
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, LLC, MA, MS, NBCC
Verified Verified
Tucson, AZ 85716  (Online Only)
I offer intensive therapy for individuals and couples, far reaching in scope and purpose, for those eager to integrate, release, & heal early or later-formed wounds & defenses: self-parts that were resiliently born as protection from confusing, challenging, or painful relational experiences, but parts that now block a BIG home-run. Love and Work and also our relationship with the world around us, our health too, is a decisive part of therapy. My work also comprises Transformative Coach; Professor: Hunter College City University of New York, New York University, University of Arizona; Psychic; Medium; Published Author.
I offer intensive therapy for individuals and couples, far reaching in scope and purpose, for those eager to integrate, release, & heal early or later-formed wounds & defenses: self-parts that were resiliently born as protection from confusing, challenging, or painful relational experiences, but parts that now block a BIG home-run. Love and Work and also our relationship with the world around us, our health too, is a decisive part of therapy. My work also comprises Transformative Coach; Professor: Hunter College City University of New York, New York University, University of Arizona; Psychic; Medium; Published Author.
(917) 746-5722 View (917) 746-5722
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Sydney Arkowitz
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Tucson, AZ 85716
It's not easy to seek therapy. I am so interested in those initial steps. My experience has led me to appreciate that some traumatic experience generally is part of the presenting problem. Many clients are surprised to discover this. Because I have spent pro bono time evaluating asylum seekers, I have learned a great deal about the varieties of how trauma haunts. I also have come to respect how strengths and capacities nevertheless endure. This is what I bring to my work---to help sort it all out so that pain is diminished and individuality flourishes.
It's not easy to seek therapy. I am so interested in those initial steps. My experience has led me to appreciate that some traumatic experience generally is part of the presenting problem. Many clients are surprised to discover this. Because I have spent pro bono time evaluating asylum seekers, I have learned a great deal about the varieties of how trauma haunts. I also have come to respect how strengths and capacities nevertheless endure. This is what I bring to my work---to help sort it all out so that pain is diminished and individuality flourishes.
(520) 350-9710 View (520) 350-9710
Divorce Therapists

How does therapy for people affected by a divorce work?

Individuals may feel a number of emotions following a divorce, such as shock, guilt, grief, anger, and fear. Therapists offer a non-judgmental space for individuals to talk about what they’ve experienced and process their emotions. Therapists will help clients develop coping strategies. They can also help a client rebuild their sense of self and self-worth and talk about what a happier future might look like.

What’s the most common type of therapy following a divorce?

There are several types of therapy that may be useful for divorce, including cognitive behavioral, acceptance and commitment, solution-focused brief, and mindfulness-based therapies. Many therapy types are talk-therapy based, which is typically the most popular option for individuals dealing with divorce. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a widely-used talk therapy, however, there’s no specific therapy type that’s designed to help people with divorce, and different types will work depending on the person.

When should an individual seek help due to a divorce?

When the feelings of a divorced individual, or an individual going through the process of divorce, begin to disrupt healthy daily functioning, it may be a good time to look into therapy. If a person finds that they are not performing at work due to problems with anxiety or motivation, if they’re no longer seeing friends due to feelings of shame, or if they’re not properly taking care of themselves as a result of depression, speaking to a professional could help.

How do you encourage someone to go to therapy due to a divorce?

It’s helpful to express concern and love for the individual while framing therapy as a tool for improving their life. Sharing how the individual appears to be suffering, and what effects it has on them or on their children, should be done with compassion and empathy. It may be useful to devise a game plan—breaking the process down into parts, such as finding a therapist, making appointments, and looking into insurance coverage.