As you maneuver through growing pains, as an adult you may have felt, "nobody knows what I have been through, walked in my shoes," Situations are often so tied into one another that its like a knot in a shoelace, you get on one knee, using one hand trying to get it a loose but the more you mess with it, the more tangled it becomes as you juggle other stuff. At some point we realize, I have to sit down for this, take time. Both hands are needed to pinch that knot just right. Yet, some of us don't have two hands, or time to sit down. We are worn out, and our environment and/or life's demands don't allow us to unravel our stuff safely.