Darlene Lancer, MA, JD, MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica
Relationships can bring happiness, but also create longing and loneliness. They can preoccupy us and destroy our sense of safety and self-respect. If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, afraid, or lost, or are unable to decide about staying or leaving, have resolvable conflicts, unmet needs, or feel devalued, I can help, particularly around issues of codependency, trauma, communication, intimacy, and self-esteem. You'll gain awareness in your first session, then quickly see changes in handling emotions, conflict, and boundaries. Whether seeking individual or couple counseling, you'll find solutions, feel more empowered, and an improved sense of well-being.
My approach is individual and intuitive to make you feel comfortable. Along with advanced training, for 30 years I've helped individuals and couples affected by low self-esteem, codependency, abuse, anxiety, trauma, conflict, and addiction. I draw on extensive personal experience and professional training in using powerful healing techniques.
As a relationship and self-esteem expert, I wrote "Codependency for Dummies," "Conquering Shame and Codependency," and ebooks: "10 Steps to Self-Esteem," "How to Speak Your Mind," "Spiritual Transformation in the Twelve Steps." Call for phone coaching or therapy. Visit my website for FREE "14 Tips for Letting Go."
Call or Email Darlene Lancer for a free phone consultation now - (310) 421-8996


  • Years in Practice: 20+ Years
  • School: Antioch University (M.A.), U.C.L.A. (J.D.)
  • Year Graduated: 1989
  • License No. and State: MFC 27909 California


  • Avg Cost (per session): $160 - $180
  • Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepted Payment Methods: Cash, Check, Mastercard, Paypal, Visa

Accepted Insurance Plans

  • Out of Network

Additional Credentials

  • Certificate: American Institute of NLP / Certified Life Coach
  • Certificate Date: 2012
  • Certificate: American Inst. of Hypnotherapy / Certificate of Training
  • Certificate Date: 2004


  • Relationship Issues
  • Self Esteem
  • Codependency


  • Addiction
  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic Pain
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Domestic Abuse
  • Domestic Violence
  • Dual Diagnosis
  • Emotional Disturbance
  • Family Conflict
  • Grief
  • Life Coaching
  • Life Transitions
  • Marital and Premarital
  • Marriage, Career, Stress, Panic Attacks
  • Narcissistic Personality
  • Parenting
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Sleep or Insomnia
  • Spirituality
  • Stress
  • Substance Abuse
  • Trauma and PTSD

Mental Health

  • Mood Disorders
  • Personality Disorders


  • Gay
  • Lesbian

Client Focus

Ethnicity: African-American and Asian


  • Adults
  • Elders (65+)


  • Bisexual Clients
  • Gay Clients
  • Heterosexual Clients
  • Lesbian Clients
  • Transgender Clients

Treatment Approach

Treatment Orientation

  • Coaching
  • Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
  • EFT, Voice Dialogue
  • Family / Marital
  • Family Systems
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Interpersonal
  • Jungian
  • Mindfulness-based (MBCT)
  • Psychoanalytic
  • Transpersonal


  • Individuals
  • Couples
Last Modified: 09 Nov 2017
Darlene Lancer, MA, JD, MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica

Darlene Lancer

Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, JD, MFT