Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in Hamden, CT
My clients often come to me feeling overwhelmed, like they're out of their depth, or finding themselves locked in patterns that they just can't seem to break. I work to understand the complexity of your situation and where you're coming from, and then pairing that with evidence-based strategies that are designed to address and overcome those challenges you're facing and patterns that no longer serve you. My goal is for you to leave our meetings feeling understood and empowered with a plan or strategy to put into practice in the week ahead. My clients describe my style as authentic, candid & warm, and I frequently incorporate humor!
My clients often come to me feeling overwhelmed, like they're out of their depth, or finding themselves locked in patterns that they just can't seem to break. I work to understand the complexity of your situation and where you're coming from, and then pairing that with evidence-based strategies that are designed to address and overcome those challenges you're facing and patterns that no longer serve you. My goal is for you to leave our meetings feeling understood and empowered with a plan or strategy to put into practice in the week ahead. My clients describe my style as authentic, candid & warm, and I frequently incorporate humor!
I love to work with clients who are open to growing, gaining a deeper understanding of who they are, and discovering a better version of themselves.
I love to work with clients who are open to growing, gaining a deeper understanding of who they are, and discovering a better version of themselves.
No, you're not faking it. No one chooses to wrestle with who they are. You've carried these questions for years, until they twist into a knot of fear, confusion, hope, and desire. Every time you think you've finally arrived at some certainty, the doubt creeps back. What if I'm wrong? What if I lose everything? So you try to hide again. But that small voice, sometimes a scream, won't stop trying to be heard, trying to be expressed, trying to live. You don't have the words yet. Everyone else seems to just know, and you don't. And still that voice keeps reaching for the truth of who you are.
No, you're not faking it. No one chooses to wrestle with who they are. You've carried these questions for years, until they twist into a knot of fear, confusion, hope, and desire. Every time you think you've finally arrived at some certainty, the doubt creeps back. What if I'm wrong? What if I lose everything? So you try to hide again. But that small voice, sometimes a scream, won't stop trying to be heard, trying to be expressed, trying to live. You don't have the words yet. Everyone else seems to just know, and you don't. And still that voice keeps reaching for the truth of who you are.
Sommer R. Cook
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-C , LCSW
1 Endorsed
Hamden, CT 06518
Waitlist for new clients
If you are reaching out for support, you are already ahead of the game. You know yourself better than anyone and I am here to support you in your growth journey. I believe every behavior is a coping strategy and I can help you identify effective strategies to manage symptoms, to become the best version of you!
If you are reaching out for support, you are already ahead of the game. You know yourself better than anyone and I am here to support you in your growth journey. I believe every behavior is a coping strategy and I can help you identify effective strategies to manage symptoms, to become the best version of you!
Are you experiencing a personal crisis in your life right now? If you need someone to help you regain your balance and direction in your life, perhaps I can help. Together we can chart a new direction or get you back on track. Call me. Listed below you will find that I have recently been certified in Divorce mediation and that I am working towards sex therapy certification. If either of these areas of concern are of interest to you, please call and ask about how I may help you.
Are you experiencing a personal crisis in your life right now? If you need someone to help you regain your balance and direction in your life, perhaps I can help. Together we can chart a new direction or get you back on track. Call me. Listed below you will find that I have recently been certified in Divorce mediation and that I am working towards sex therapy certification. If either of these areas of concern are of interest to you, please call and ask about how I may help you.
Are you ready to explore what’s going on beneath the surface?
Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed by trauma, navigating a big life transition, or burned out from juggling too many roles. Or maybe your child is struggling to express big emotions, and you’re looking for support that actually meets them where they are.
Therapy with me is a space where you don’t have to mask, perform, or pretend. Together, we focus on helping you feel grounded, empowered, and more connected to who you are—while honoring the passions, creativity, and quirks that make you you.
I work with children, adolescents, and adults, with a special focus on:
Are you ready to explore what’s going on beneath the surface?
Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed by trauma, navigating a big life transition, or burned out from juggling too many roles. Or maybe your child is struggling to express big emotions, and you’re looking for support that actually meets them where they are.
Therapy with me is a space where you don’t have to mask, perform, or pretend. Together, we focus on helping you feel grounded, empowered, and more connected to who you are—while honoring the passions, creativity, and quirks that make you you.
I work with children, adolescents, and adults, with a special focus on:
Come find relief for mind, body, and soul and release what no longer serves you. We would be developing discussion of dreams goals of what needs to happen immediately, challenges to the immediate, what is imagined at 6 months, one year, and for the lifespan! With time, we resource and strengthen self esteem and self-love. Come find out what no longer serves you in life and let my skills help you bravely face and leave behind those thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that keep you from what you truly you want out your life.
Come find relief for mind, body, and soul and release what no longer serves you. We would be developing discussion of dreams goals of what needs to happen immediately, challenges to the immediate, what is imagined at 6 months, one year, and for the lifespan! With time, we resource and strengthen self esteem and self-love. Come find out what no longer serves you in life and let my skills help you bravely face and leave behind those thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that keep you from what you truly you want out your life.
I am called to SERVE. I have worked as a clinician for almost two decades and have had the pleasure of working with clients of all genders, from all racial backgrounds with various ages and needs. I meet my clients where they are emotionally with the goal of getting them to where they want to be in life by working through life's challenges and roadblocks. The 7 years of training I received as a clinician and supervisor at the Yale Child Study Center have influenced my attention to detail, assessment, and collaboration. I encourage you to take this amazing journey of self-discovery and healing from inside and out with me.
I am called to SERVE. I have worked as a clinician for almost two decades and have had the pleasure of working with clients of all genders, from all racial backgrounds with various ages and needs. I meet my clients where they are emotionally with the goal of getting them to where they want to be in life by working through life's challenges and roadblocks. The 7 years of training I received as a clinician and supervisor at the Yale Child Study Center have influenced my attention to detail, assessment, and collaboration. I encourage you to take this amazing journey of self-discovery and healing from inside and out with me.
Life can feel overwhelming at times, whether you're struggling with anxiety, depression, ADHD, relationship challenges, self-esteem concerns, or navigating a major life transition. You don’t have to face those challenges alone.
As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I provide therapy adolescents, adults, and families in a warm, supportive, and nonjudgmental environment. My goal is to help clients feel heard, understood, and empowered as they work toward meaningful change and emotional well-being.
Life can feel overwhelming at times, whether you're struggling with anxiety, depression, ADHD, relationship challenges, self-esteem concerns, or navigating a major life transition. You don’t have to face those challenges alone.
As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I provide therapy adolescents, adults, and families in a warm, supportive, and nonjudgmental environment. My goal is to help clients feel heard, understood, and empowered as they work toward meaningful change and emotional well-being.
Feeling stuck on autopilot or burned out? Ready to deepen your self-awareness and explore the parts of yourself that don’t fit neatly into the box? My practice offers a safe, nonjudgmental space to heal and grow — rooted in curiosity, acceptance, and possibility.
Feeling stuck on autopilot or burned out? Ready to deepen your self-awareness and explore the parts of yourself that don’t fit neatly into the box? My practice offers a safe, nonjudgmental space to heal and grow — rooted in curiosity, acceptance, and possibility.
My work is grounded in neurodivergent-affirming, sex-positive, anti-racist, and gender-inclusive care.
Life can feel overwhelming when anxiety won’t quiet down, intrusive thoughts keep looping, or painful memories continue to carry weight. Maybe change feels disorienting or you’re exhausted from trying to “hold it together.” In our work together, we’ll focus on what’s within reach so you can move toward becoming your favorite version of yourself.
As a neurodivergent-affirming counselor, I take a holistic approach that honors your lived experience while exploring the systems, identities, and pressures shaping your life, including supporting neurodivergent adults navigating masking, burnout, identity, and authenticity.
My work is grounded in neurodivergent-affirming, sex-positive, anti-racist, and gender-inclusive care.
Life can feel overwhelming when anxiety won’t quiet down, intrusive thoughts keep looping, or painful memories continue to carry weight. Maybe change feels disorienting or you’re exhausted from trying to “hold it together.” In our work together, we’ll focus on what’s within reach so you can move toward becoming your favorite version of yourself.
As a neurodivergent-affirming counselor, I take a holistic approach that honors your lived experience while exploring the systems, identities, and pressures shaping your life, including supporting neurodivergent adults navigating masking, burnout, identity, and authenticity.
Are you and your partner arguing what seems like too often, and you're not sure what to do next? Are you questioning staying or leaving the relationship? Many individuals struggle with these questions about their relationships, and find themselves in a difficult position. Whether your motivating factor is financial, religious, emotional, or even safety, I am here to tell you that you are not alone in this struggle.
Are you and your partner arguing what seems like too often, and you're not sure what to do next? Are you questioning staying or leaving the relationship? Many individuals struggle with these questions about their relationships, and find themselves in a difficult position. Whether your motivating factor is financial, religious, emotional, or even safety, I am here to tell you that you are not alone in this struggle.
As a directive, sex-positive therapist, I am highly trained and offer a direct, kind, positive approach.
I specialize in meeting my clients in the context of who and where they are and working together for growth and change. I have availability Wednesday evenings at 9pm and 10pm EST presently.
As a directive, sex-positive therapist, I am highly trained and offer a direct, kind, positive approach.
I specialize in meeting my clients in the context of who and where they are and working together for growth and change. I have availability Wednesday evenings at 9pm and 10pm EST presently.
You’re the reliable one. The high achiever.
But you’re tired and you feel like you're hanging by a thread.
If you grew up with emotionally immature or narcissistic parents, you likely learned to perform instead of feel. You may over-function in your relationships, people-please in your friendships, and are a perfectionist at work. Now, you're ready to let go of the pressure. It's time to just be you.
I specialize in working with individuals who were never given emotional permission to rest, to need, or to be soft. If you're navigating burnout, anxiety, or relationship struggles you don't have to do it alone.
You’re the reliable one. The high achiever.
But you’re tired and you feel like you're hanging by a thread.
If you grew up with emotionally immature or narcissistic parents, you likely learned to perform instead of feel. You may over-function in your relationships, people-please in your friendships, and are a perfectionist at work. Now, you're ready to let go of the pressure. It's time to just be you.
I specialize in working with individuals who were never given emotional permission to rest, to need, or to be soft. If you're navigating burnout, anxiety, or relationship struggles you don't have to do it alone.
Effective therapy looks different for each person, whether it is having a safe space to express things you have long held inside, building insight into destructive patterns in your life, or learning specific skills to improve your mood or navigate daily stressors. My goal is to meet my clients where they are now and work together toward improving their quality of life, addressing past traumas and adverse experiences that continue to affect their life in the present, and helping them identify and take steps toward their goals. I have found therapy to be hugely healing in my own life, and I hope always to do the same for my clients.
Effective therapy looks different for each person, whether it is having a safe space to express things you have long held inside, building insight into destructive patterns in your life, or learning specific skills to improve your mood or navigate daily stressors. My goal is to meet my clients where they are now and work together toward improving their quality of life, addressing past traumas and adverse experiences that continue to affect their life in the present, and helping them identify and take steps toward their goals. I have found therapy to be hugely healing in my own life, and I hope always to do the same for my clients.
You look like you have it all together—but inside, your mind never seems to slow down. You're constantly overthinking conversations, second-guessing yourself, trying to meet everyone's expectations, and wondering why you still don't feel "good enough." Whether you're navigating anxiety, ADHD, relationship challenges, OCD, the transition into motherhood, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself, therapy can help you make sense of the patterns that keep you feeling stuck.I specialize in working with women who are ready to stop surviving on autopilot and start feeling more confident, grounded, and authentic.
You look like you have it all together—but inside, your mind never seems to slow down. You're constantly overthinking conversations, second-guessing yourself, trying to meet everyone's expectations, and wondering why you still don't feel "good enough." Whether you're navigating anxiety, ADHD, relationship challenges, OCD, the transition into motherhood, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself, therapy can help you make sense of the patterns that keep you feeling stuck.I specialize in working with women who are ready to stop surviving on autopilot and start feeling more confident, grounded, and authentic.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Nationally Certified Counselor and owner of Aligned Wellness in the state of Connecticut. I have worked in various clinical settings including but not limited to in-home, community, private practice and outpatient settings. As a Counselor, I have several years of experience providing counseling services to individuals with varying ages and diagnoses. I specialize in offering culturally responsive care that focuses on, Trauma processing, Anxiety, and Stress Management. I would describe my practice as one that is built upon the belief that people begin to heal at the moment, they feel heard.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Nationally Certified Counselor and owner of Aligned Wellness in the state of Connecticut. I have worked in various clinical settings including but not limited to in-home, community, private practice and outpatient settings. As a Counselor, I have several years of experience providing counseling services to individuals with varying ages and diagnoses. I specialize in offering culturally responsive care that focuses on, Trauma processing, Anxiety, and Stress Management. I would describe my practice as one that is built upon the belief that people begin to heal at the moment, they feel heard.
I have extensive experience working with adults struggling with substance use, dual diagnosis, anxiety, depression, and life transitions. I've been particularly successful in helping patients develop relapse-prevention strategies by identifying triggers, recognizing warning signs, and building coping skills that support long-term recovery and emotional wellness. I also work with patients on improving time management, daily routines, and overall mental health awareness. I help them better understand their symptoms, develop practical life skills, and create achievable goals that promote stability, personal growth, and lasting change.
I have extensive experience working with adults struggling with substance use, dual diagnosis, anxiety, depression, and life transitions. I've been particularly successful in helping patients develop relapse-prevention strategies by identifying triggers, recognizing warning signs, and building coping skills that support long-term recovery and emotional wellness. I also work with patients on improving time management, daily routines, and overall mental health awareness. I help them better understand their symptoms, develop practical life skills, and create achievable goals that promote stability, personal growth, and lasting change.
I offer compassionate, evidence-based therapy to adults and adolescents navigating PTSD, anxiety, depression, and major life transitions — within a space that is genuinely LGBTQIA+ affirming, anti-oppressive, and free of judgment. At Chroma Wellness, you don’t have to shrink yourself to fit the therapy. The therapy fits you.
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over a decade of experience across a range of clinical settings, including four years in private practice. I earned my MSW from Southern Connecticut State University and hold specialized training in Trans-affirming and gender-affirming care.
I offer compassionate, evidence-based therapy to adults and adolescents navigating PTSD, anxiety, depression, and major life transitions — within a space that is genuinely LGBTQIA+ affirming, anti-oppressive, and free of judgment. At Chroma Wellness, you don’t have to shrink yourself to fit the therapy. The therapy fits you.
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over a decade of experience across a range of clinical settings, including four years in private practice. I earned my MSW from Southern Connecticut State University and hold specialized training in Trans-affirming and gender-affirming care.
The path to sexual fulfillment can be grueling to navigate alone, and I am happy to explore whatever is on your mind regarding your sexuality, be it pleasure challenges, trauma, sexual or gender identity, non-monogamy, kink, addiction, and everything in between.
Research shows that members of the Queer community experience more trauma, anxiety, depression, and successful suicide attempts than the larger heteronormative society. As a lesbian passionate about trauma healing and helping find congruency with one’s sexual self, I am here to help you find your voice and inner strength wherever you are in your journey.
The path to sexual fulfillment can be grueling to navigate alone, and I am happy to explore whatever is on your mind regarding your sexuality, be it pleasure challenges, trauma, sexual or gender identity, non-monogamy, kink, addiction, and everything in between.
Research shows that members of the Queer community experience more trauma, anxiety, depression, and successful suicide attempts than the larger heteronormative society. As a lesbian passionate about trauma healing and helping find congruency with one’s sexual self, I am here to help you find your voice and inner strength wherever you are in your journey.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialized knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organizations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognize a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognize a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.