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Julie Adler
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MAEd
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
Together we will strive to create a relationship that will help you to process these feelings and to enable you feel safe as we do.
Much like the character Hamlet says to his friend in the play by William Shakespeare “there is more in heaven and earth than is dreamt of in our philosophy”. There is so much about life and living, loving and losing than we can possibly understand. Whatever philosophical ideas we hold, there is so much that remains unknowable. Because it resonates with my own respect for and curiosity about the mystery of being alive, my clinical practice is informed by existential thinking. Why is this happening? How can I survive? What does it mean? These are the questions underlying our reactions to and feelings about our lives.
Together we will strive to create a relationship that will help you to process these feelings and to enable you feel safe as we do.
Much like the character Hamlet says to his friend in the play by William Shakespeare “there is more in heaven and earth than is dreamt of in our philosophy”. There is so much about life and living, loving and losing than we can possibly understand. Whatever philosophical ideas we hold, there is so much that remains unknowable. Because it resonates with my own respect for and curiosity about the mystery of being alive, my clinical practice is informed by existential thinking. Why is this happening? How can I survive? What does it mean? These are the questions underlying our reactions to and feelings about our lives.
(773) 569-3902 View (773) 569-3902
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Tara Parker
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, ALMFT, C-IAYT, RYT-500, MA
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
My specialties include life transitions, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.
Are you going through a life transition or have anxiety, depression, or relationship issues? Whatever your reason(s) for entering therapy, I will work with you to find your way forward. As a psychodynamic therapist, I'll help you to get to the roots of issues, so you can begin to shift outworn mindsets and habits to help you move towards the person you want to be and having the kind of life and relationships you want to have. Therapy offers a safe space to gain new insights, perspectives and tools, for your own growth and self-empowerment. I see myself as your companion and guide in therapy.
My specialties include life transitions, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.
Are you going through a life transition or have anxiety, depression, or relationship issues? Whatever your reason(s) for entering therapy, I will work with you to find your way forward. As a psychodynamic therapist, I'll help you to get to the roots of issues, so you can begin to shift outworn mindsets and habits to help you move towards the person you want to be and having the kind of life and relationships you want to have. Therapy offers a safe space to gain new insights, perspectives and tools, for your own growth and self-empowerment. I see myself as your companion and guide in therapy.
(224) 435-5775 View (224) 435-5775
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Annie Felice
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), certified IFS therapist (level 3 trained), and certified IFS clinical consultant who provides individual and couples therapy and consultation. I understand that it takes a lot of courage to begin the process of therapy, so I work to create a safe and non-judgmental space for my clients to explore their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. I appreciate the uniqueness of each client's experience and strive to meet each client where they are at. I collaborate with them to create a treatment approach that is flexible, effective, and aligned with their goals for change and healing.
I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), certified IFS therapist (level 3 trained), and certified IFS clinical consultant who provides individual and couples therapy and consultation. I understand that it takes a lot of courage to begin the process of therapy, so I work to create a safe and non-judgmental space for my clients to explore their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. I appreciate the uniqueness of each client's experience and strive to meet each client where they are at. I collaborate with them to create a treatment approach that is flexible, effective, and aligned with their goals for change and healing.
(224) 344-2466 View (224) 344-2466
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Barbara Weiner
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091  (Online Only)
I work with adults from college through retirement who are experiencing anxiety, depression, loss and grief, career and life transitions, and other stressors. I am a warm, inspiring presence ready to partner with you with a style that is both intuitive and solution focused. I am client centered and can help you clarify issues; work through long-standing problems; develop strategies for living with more fulfillment; become a more effective communicator, and less self-critical. I also work with clients experiencing unexplained infertility, hoarding disorder, and chronic insomnia. I currently do telephone or video sessions.
I work with adults from college through retirement who are experiencing anxiety, depression, loss and grief, career and life transitions, and other stressors. I am a warm, inspiring presence ready to partner with you with a style that is both intuitive and solution focused. I am client centered and can help you clarify issues; work through long-standing problems; develop strategies for living with more fulfillment; become a more effective communicator, and less self-critical. I also work with clients experiencing unexplained infertility, hoarding disorder, and chronic insomnia. I currently do telephone or video sessions.
(224) 757-0255 View (224) 757-0255
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Tricia Louise Nolan
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091  (Online Only)
Tricia uses a holistic approach to healing and has extensive training in many different modalities including Reiki, IET (Integrative Energy Therapy), Yoga/Meditation, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and mindfulness training. In using the Contextual Change Model, she incorporates these various modalities depending on the needs of the client. She approaches the therapeutic relationship in a collaborative way, focusing on the client’s strengths, helping the client to deepen agency and self-awareness, emphasizing compassion and empathy throughout treatment. Tricia is currently teaching yoga/meditation at her home in Wilmette.
Tricia uses a holistic approach to healing and has extensive training in many different modalities including Reiki, IET (Integrative Energy Therapy), Yoga/Meditation, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and mindfulness training. In using the Contextual Change Model, she incorporates these various modalities depending on the needs of the client. She approaches the therapeutic relationship in a collaborative way, focusing on the client’s strengths, helping the client to deepen agency and self-awareness, emphasizing compassion and empathy throughout treatment. Tricia is currently teaching yoga/meditation at her home in Wilmette.
(224) 808-4973 View (224) 808-4973
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Christopher Chroniak
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
Hello, I'm Dr. Chris Chroniak. For 38 years I have assisted individuals struggling with depression, stress and anxiety, trauma, grief and loss, divorce, OCD, a relationship or lack of one, as well as numerous other psychological and emotional issues. I begin therapy by developing a warm and genuine relationship with my client. We then work together to explore and work through the underlying issues that block growth and cause pain or discomfort. I also teach my clients practical and effective tools that help them deal with painful and troubling thoughts and feelings, as they occur, moment by moment.
Hello, I'm Dr. Chris Chroniak. For 38 years I have assisted individuals struggling with depression, stress and anxiety, trauma, grief and loss, divorce, OCD, a relationship or lack of one, as well as numerous other psychological and emotional issues. I begin therapy by developing a warm and genuine relationship with my client. We then work together to explore and work through the underlying issues that block growth and cause pain or discomfort. I also teach my clients practical and effective tools that help them deal with painful and troubling thoughts and feelings, as they occur, moment by moment.
(773) 219-2056 View (773) 219-2056
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Judith L Franklin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
I am a seasoned therapist who, like my clients, is in an evolving journey of making sense of life and its challenges. I spent the first part of my career specializing in the treatment of adolescents and families. For the past two decades, my practice has come to include a great deal of work with individual adults and couples who are struggling with issues related to mental health, self-esteem, trauma, relationship difficulties, and life stage concerns. I enjoy working with the challenges of emerging adults as well as those in mid-life and beyond.
I am a seasoned therapist who, like my clients, is in an evolving journey of making sense of life and its challenges. I spent the first part of my career specializing in the treatment of adolescents and families. For the past two decades, my practice has come to include a great deal of work with individual adults and couples who are struggling with issues related to mental health, self-esteem, trauma, relationship difficulties, and life stage concerns. I enjoy working with the challenges of emerging adults as well as those in mid-life and beyond.
(224) 347-7418 View (224) 347-7418
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Layla Byrnes
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LSW
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
Her expertise extends to Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, where she navigates the complexities of attachment needs within these unique relationship dynamics.
Layla Byrnes is a compassionate Licensed Social Worker based in Illinois, bringing a wealth of experience and a unique perspective to her practice. With a journey that began in Philosophy, Layla holds a Bachelor of Arts and furthered her education with a Master of Social Work and a Master of Arts in Public Policy. Since obtaining her license in 2018, Layla has dedicated herself to creating a safe and inclusive space for individuals seeking growth, self-discovery, and authentic connections. Layla is proud to declare her practice as Queer- and Kink-friendly, fostering an environment that embraces diversity .
Her expertise extends to Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, where she navigates the complexities of attachment needs within these unique relationship dynamics.
Layla Byrnes is a compassionate Licensed Social Worker based in Illinois, bringing a wealth of experience and a unique perspective to her practice. With a journey that began in Philosophy, Layla holds a Bachelor of Arts and furthered her education with a Master of Social Work and a Master of Arts in Public Policy. Since obtaining her license in 2018, Layla has dedicated herself to creating a safe and inclusive space for individuals seeking growth, self-discovery, and authentic connections. Layla is proud to declare her practice as Queer- and Kink-friendly, fostering an environment that embraces diversity .
(224) 219-0428 View (224) 219-0428
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Michelle Kane
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, Coach
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091  (Online Only)
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am extensively trained to work with individuals of every age and stage of development, along with additional specialized training for couples and families. I apply a systemic perspective and strength-based and resilience approach with clients, while blending evidence-based theory into practice. I work with life stage transitions, marital satisfaction and intimacy issues, high conflict, anxiety, depression, divorced or remarried or blended families, anger management, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, multi-cultural communication, stress management, family of origin issues, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), trauma, spiritual development, and work/life balance.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am extensively trained to work with individuals of every age and stage of development, along with additional specialized training for couples and families. I apply a systemic perspective and strength-based and resilience approach with clients, while blending evidence-based theory into practice. I work with life stage transitions, marital satisfaction and intimacy issues, high conflict, anxiety, depression, divorced or remarried or blended families, anger management, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, multi-cultural communication, stress management, family of origin issues, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), trauma, spiritual development, and work/life balance.
(619) 438-0527 View (619) 438-0527
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Martin McCarthy Jr.
Psychologist
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
All of us -- women and men, young and old, poor, middle class and upscale folks, minorities and majorities -- have to deal with complexity. As a therapist I help heal hurts from the past, assist clients in managing present challenges, and work collaboratively to create more satisfying future lives. The people who see me for individual, couples and family therapy represent a culturally diverse group. Their difficulties range from anxiety and depression, to stress disorders, OCD/OCPD, relationship problems, employment issues, and bereavement. Many of these women and men report quick progress in better managing their personal, family, academic, and work lives.
All of us -- women and men, young and old, poor, middle class and upscale folks, minorities and majorities -- have to deal with complexity. As a therapist I help heal hurts from the past, assist clients in managing present challenges, and work collaboratively to create more satisfying future lives. The people who see me for individual, couples and family therapy represent a culturally diverse group. Their difficulties range from anxiety and depression, to stress disorders, OCD/OCPD, relationship problems, employment issues, and bereavement. Many of these women and men report quick progress in better managing their personal, family, academic, and work lives.
(847) 562-5895 View (847) 562-5895
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Tari N Mack
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091  (Online Only)
I specialize in psychotherapy with adults with a wide range of issues including: relationship issues, depression, anxiety, self-esteem, women's issues, lesbian/gay/bisexual and transgender issues, men's issues, life transitions, family dysfunction, and helping clients identify and modify problematic life patterns.
My style is relational and humanistic and my goal is to help each client tap into and achieve his/her true potential. I work interactively with clients to help foster clarity about what is truly desired and help to identify and modify problematic patterns and themes that stand in the way of increased self, life and relationship satisfaction. Growth, change and helping clients move toward their own vision of peace, fulfillment and happiness is always the goal. I take a holistic approach to psychological wellness and honor the client's work life, family traditions, sexual orientation, cultural & spiritual beliefs.
I specialize in psychotherapy with adults with a wide range of issues including: relationship issues, depression, anxiety, self-esteem, women's issues, lesbian/gay/bisexual and transgender issues, men's issues, life transitions, family dysfunction, and helping clients identify and modify problematic life patterns.
My style is relational and humanistic and my goal is to help each client tap into and achieve his/her true potential. I work interactively with clients to help foster clarity about what is truly desired and help to identify and modify problematic patterns and themes that stand in the way of increased self, life and relationship satisfaction. Growth, change and helping clients move toward their own vision of peace, fulfillment and happiness is always the goal. I take a holistic approach to psychological wellness and honor the client's work life, family traditions, sexual orientation, cultural & spiritual beliefs.
(224) 269-8701 View (224) 269-8701
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Ellen Kraemer
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
My clinical specialties include: anxiety and depression, social and emotional difficulties, school and work stress, relationship and marital issues, spiritual issues, self-esteem, communication difficulties, grief and loss, trauma, cancer-related issues, identity development, family conflict, parenting challenges, therapeutic reunification, and psychological/neuropsychological evaluations.
When life becomes difficult or overwhelming, reaching out for professional support can be intimidating, but worth it in the end! I'd love to be able to walk with you through this challenging time in your life. As a therapist, I am relational and tailor treatment to your unique needs. I have years of experience working with adults, couples, adolescents and children. As a Licensed Clinical Psychologist I have been in practice since 1998. I earned my doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology, and trained at University of Chicago Hospitals and Northwestern Memorial Hospital.
My clinical specialties include: anxiety and depression, social and emotional difficulties, school and work stress, relationship and marital issues, spiritual issues, self-esteem, communication difficulties, grief and loss, trauma, cancer-related issues, identity development, family conflict, parenting challenges, therapeutic reunification, and psychological/neuropsychological evaluations.
When life becomes difficult or overwhelming, reaching out for professional support can be intimidating, but worth it in the end! I'd love to be able to walk with you through this challenging time in your life. As a therapist, I am relational and tailor treatment to your unique needs. I have years of experience working with adults, couples, adolescents and children. As a Licensed Clinical Psychologist I have been in practice since 1998. I earned my doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology, and trained at University of Chicago Hospitals and Northwestern Memorial Hospital.
(847) 686-3081 View (847) 686-3081
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Dan Gordon Gill
Counselor, LCPC, MSMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
My work years ago with adolescents led naturally to working more closely with parents, who often struggle themselves during this turbulent time for their children. A third of my practice is with adolescents (anxiety, depression, academic underachievement, identity issues), another third with parents and couples/marriage (with or without children), and the other third with individual adults (anxiety, depression, issues of generativity in personal and/or professional lives).
My work years ago with adolescents led naturally to working more closely with parents, who often struggle themselves during this turbulent time for their children. A third of my practice is with adolescents (anxiety, depression, academic underachievement, identity issues), another third with parents and couples/marriage (with or without children), and the other third with individual adults (anxiety, depression, issues of generativity in personal and/or professional lives).
(847) 513-9660 View (847) 513-9660
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Brandon Michael Arbuckle
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091
Working from an integrated Solution Focused/Narrative Therapy framework, you can expect that I will adjust my approach to help you wade through and resolve conflicts, emotional paralysis, betrayal and other relational problems, with a newfound sense of agency, hope and courage. While the problems that bring couples in for therapy may seem daunting, perhaps even feeling insurmountable to some, my work builds on the notion that problems are given their greatest opportunity for resolution by cultivating safe, loving, and secure relational attachments.
Working from an integrated Solution Focused/Narrative Therapy framework, you can expect that I will adjust my approach to help you wade through and resolve conflicts, emotional paralysis, betrayal and other relational problems, with a newfound sense of agency, hope and courage. While the problems that bring couples in for therapy may seem daunting, perhaps even feeling insurmountable to some, my work builds on the notion that problems are given their greatest opportunity for resolution by cultivating safe, loving, and secure relational attachments.
(773) 664-0686 View (773) 664-0686
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M Chet Mirman
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
The most important ingredient in a successful therapy experience is the therapy relationship itself. The clients who benefit the most are those who feel understood, respected and cared about, and so are better able to be more genuine and more fully engaged in the process. A basic tenet of my approach is that our fears and hurts inhibit the natural tendency within us all to grow and move toward healthier ways of functioning. Individuals who feel safe enough in therapy to face their fears can begin to "digest" their unfinished business and take back control of their lives.
The most important ingredient in a successful therapy experience is the therapy relationship itself. The clients who benefit the most are those who feel understood, respected and cared about, and so are better able to be more genuine and more fully engaged in the process. A basic tenet of my approach is that our fears and hurts inhibit the natural tendency within us all to grow and move toward healthier ways of functioning. Individuals who feel safe enough in therapy to face their fears can begin to "digest" their unfinished business and take back control of their lives.
(847) 209-1515 View (847) 209-1515
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Robert Benson Sanoshy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
My ideal style of therapy is suited to clients who believe that the relationship between therapist and client is paramount to the ability to change. I believe that change happens at the crossroads of challenge and non-judgement and this is the primary focus of my treatment- creating a safe environment in which clients believe they can present their issues and have them challenged in a supportive and non-judgemental way. I firmly believe that all clients have the ability to heal and grow regardless of personal, historical, professional and relational challenges.
My ideal style of therapy is suited to clients who believe that the relationship between therapist and client is paramount to the ability to change. I believe that change happens at the crossroads of challenge and non-judgement and this is the primary focus of my treatment- creating a safe environment in which clients believe they can present their issues and have them challenged in a supportive and non-judgemental way. I firmly believe that all clients have the ability to heal and grow regardless of personal, historical, professional and relational challenges.
(773) 570-7904 View (773) 570-7904
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Thomas Hammerman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MLIS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
My primary specialty is helping couples who love each other be nurtured and fulfilled by their relationship.
My mission is helping people with their problems. I customize my therapy to my clients' needs and goals. I will work with you to find out what is the best way for you to achieve your goals and accomplish your dreams. I take a practical approach to therapy because I understand that you want results. Whether you are unsatisfied in your relationships or struggle in your everyday life, you don't need to suffer alone. I am here to help.
My primary specialty is helping couples who love each other be nurtured and fulfilled by their relationship.
My mission is helping people with their problems. I customize my therapy to my clients' needs and goals. I will work with you to find out what is the best way for you to achieve your goals and accomplish your dreams. I take a practical approach to therapy because I understand that you want results. Whether you are unsatisfied in your relationships or struggle in your everyday life, you don't need to suffer alone. I am here to help.
(847) 607-1070 View (847) 607-1070
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David Hauser
Psychologist, PhD, LCP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
I have over a decade of clinical experience and training with adults in transition, children and adolescents, families and couples, as well as young adults.
I believe that healing relationships, with others and with one's self, is the core ingredient for change in therapy. I feel that the optimal therapeutic approach with any person must be tailored to the needs of the particular individual and/or client system. Therapy should be approachable and create an environment of acceptance and self-love. In understanding human behavior, it is not so much about "good" or "bad" behavior, but trying to understand why we do what we do and to make sure our behaviors are constructive for ourselves and the relationships important to us.
I have over a decade of clinical experience and training with adults in transition, children and adolescents, families and couples, as well as young adults.
I believe that healing relationships, with others and with one's self, is the core ingredient for change in therapy. I feel that the optimal therapeutic approach with any person must be tailored to the needs of the particular individual and/or client system. Therapy should be approachable and create an environment of acceptance and self-love. In understanding human behavior, it is not so much about "good" or "bad" behavior, but trying to understand why we do what we do and to make sure our behaviors are constructive for ourselves and the relationships important to us.
(847) 565-1540 View (847) 565-1540
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Amy Fayazrad & Associates, PC
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wilmette, IL 60091
I am a firm believer therapy can assist individuals, couples, and families achieve personal success when a safe and consistent environment is provided and when therapeutic interventions and techniques are tailored. I have a variety of clinical experience working with children, adolescents, and adults from diverse populations in settings such as a crisis center, college counseling centers, inpatient psychiatric hospital, community mental health centers, forensic outpatient program, and private practice. With that said, I continue to love assisting others in their journey and feel honored in witnessing growth and transformation occur.
I am a firm believer therapy can assist individuals, couples, and families achieve personal success when a safe and consistent environment is provided and when therapeutic interventions and techniques are tailored. I have a variety of clinical experience working with children, adolescents, and adults from diverse populations in settings such as a crisis center, college counseling centers, inpatient psychiatric hospital, community mental health centers, forensic outpatient program, and private practice. With that said, I continue to love assisting others in their journey and feel honored in witnessing growth and transformation occur.
(760) 389-1370 View (760) 389-1370
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Stephanie Evans
Counselor, MA, NCC, LCPC
Verified Verified
Wilmette, IL 60091  (Online Only)
I use a feminist relational model for trauma to assist in reframing connections, a systems framework, especially with couples.
If you are ready to find ways to be your truest self, move through your grief, anxiety, trauma or depressive symptoms either long held or recent, I may be a good fit for you. As a former Naprapath, now therapist, my understanding of the connection between the mind and body has proved powerful to clients trying to understand the inner relationship between these two parts of ourselves. I often hear words like, 'stuck,' 'numb,' 'confused,' 'alone,' 'outsider.' Trying to put words to what ones experience is can be daunting at best. Giving voice to experiences is transforming.
I use a feminist relational model for trauma to assist in reframing connections, a systems framework, especially with couples.
If you are ready to find ways to be your truest self, move through your grief, anxiety, trauma or depressive symptoms either long held or recent, I may be a good fit for you. As a former Naprapath, now therapist, my understanding of the connection between the mind and body has proved powerful to clients trying to understand the inner relationship between these two parts of ourselves. I often hear words like, 'stuck,' 'numb,' 'confused,' 'alone,' 'outsider.' Trying to put words to what ones experience is can be daunting at best. Giving voice to experiences is transforming.
(773) 669-6926 View (773) 669-6926
Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.