Therapists in Santa Rosa, CA

Hi, I welcome and look forward to meeting you. I enjoy working with individuals and couples and believe we all have great capacity to heal ourselves and our relationships. As a therapist, I am interactive, compassionate, intuitive and humorous. I offer a safe, supportive and non-judgmental environment and what is important to you is important to me.

Is it easier for you to give than to receive? Are you a nurse, therapist, teacher, or in another "helping profession"? Are you tired of struggling with the daily life grind, while longing for a rich and vibrant life? Do you wonder why you often feel so depleted, while others are enjoying life? Are you in a relationship but are struggling with the same issues and can't find your way to a better way of relating? You are not alone! You deserve to be happy and fulfilled. You can heal and learn new ways of living! I hold the space in which a full and rewarding life is possible for you, even if you cannot yet imagine it for yourself.

If you are feeling overwhelmed with life and experiencing fear, shame, stress, anxiety or depression, it may be difficult to reach out and ask for the help you want and deserve. Perhaps it seems that these feelings are so deeply painful nothing could possibly change them. Maybe you are wondering how or even if therapy will help. I want to reassure you that feeling doubtful is normal. Especially when life is feeling so hard.

Sexual issues can - and do - happen to anyone. Perhaps there is an aspect of your sexuality that is confusing to you; perhaps you struggle to experience the pleasure of sexuality and eroticism; perhaps you or your partner have a sexual dysfunction like painful intercourse or erectile dysfunction; perhaps you are in a low sex/no sex relationship; or perhaps you're reeling from learning of your partner's betrayal. In our shame-based culture, these are difficult issues to talk about. I am here to help. After all, everyone has the right to a healthy and happy sex life.

If you are feeling disconnected from yourself, your partner, or from others, that the weight of the past is becoming too heavy to carry on your own, or that your life is missing flavor or joy, I would like to work with you to support the change you seek.

The word “heal” comes from “to make whole.” Psychotherapy, more aptly psyche-therapy, is a sacred process of tending to the soul wound and waking more fully to one’s aliveness and inherent wholeness. I am deeply passionate about supporting you in healing the fragmented and disowned parts of self that hinder you from living a life of meaningful connections, purposeful self-agency and joy. We work collaboratively to creatively transform unconscious and limiting belief structures, access your resiliencies, welcome emerging truths, skillfully navigate adversity with new tools, and integrate insights for profound and evolving change.

I believe we are all doing the very best we know how to do, and that people seek therapy to learn new ways, ways that help make their lives and relationships work better. It is my honor to support people that are in pain and confusion to learn a better way. I am here to serve as a mirror and a guide so that you can find who you really are and how to more fully express that. I have been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT 29699) since 1997 and practicing in a variety of settings ever since, including Private Practice, County Behavioral Health and Non-profit agencies.

Are you experiencing frustrating patterns of relational conflict? Do you have pervasive feelings of anxiety, worry, and dread? Do you want to understand yourself and your choices more clearly and in greater depth? Perhaps you sense that your past is impacting your current wellbeing, but you aren't quite sure how. One thing is certain: you want to feel better. You may want to feel more confidant, more connected, and more alive in your relationships. You may long to breathe deeply and move through your days with increased ease, relaxation, and personal agency. Therapy can help, and we can do it together!

I provide guidance towards building trust and balance, by forming a growing alliance with you. Together, we find a pathway to renew your mind/body/spirit connection. We access your inner resources, to create a unified sense of self. If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, fear, isolation, anger, trauma, we pay attention to these signals. We meet vulnerability with a gentle rhythm, so the heart can release these emotions. Our intent is to nurture a relationship to yourself, based on self acceptance, honor and respect. Our focus is to create a feeling of safety within yourself, security in the world, and an opening to wholeness.

Do you need help for anxiety, a challenging inner critic, panic attacks, finding direction in life, dealing with interpersonal conflict, and exploring sexual orientation and/or gender identity? I offer ways to explore finding a sense of greater ease and well-being in relationship with yourself. For couples/relationships, I facilitate and assist in communication and exploration with each other and offer a holding space for underlying disharmony to arise. I am proudly queer-, poly-, and kink-affirming.

What is most important in therapy is that you feel deeply supported and understood. Finding a therapist who shares your LGBTQ+ identity is one less obstacle to being understood. My approach to therapy is collaborative and interactive, where we work together to reach your goals in a safe and supportive environment. Together we can find new ways to uncover your strengths and resources and make changes that leave you more balanced, happy, and authentic. My style is warm and curious and I seek to create relationships attuned to each client.

As you read these words, you may be having second thoughts about contacting a therapist. That is understandable. Even as we struggle with personal problems, or work to solve problems with a relationship, it's natural to have questions about reaching out for help. You may wonder whether you will feel comfortable with the person you call, and may be uncertain about how therapy can help.

Making that first call to a therapist can be frightening. Feelings of pride embarrassment, shame and or financial issues can get in the way of living a more fulfilled life. My focus is to provide a welcoming and safe environment and to lend support to couples, individuals and families who are facing life's many challenges. My specialty is in working with couples and relationships. I strongly believe that providing an opportunity for one to experience intense emotions along with the ability to communicate these feelings in a non destructive and respectful mannor is the first step in healing and strengthening a relationship.

I accept you as you are, and believe in your ability to heal and to grow. You may be feeling overwhelmed or stuck, needing help to make new personal changes in your life. I offer nonjudgmental support as I assist you to deepen in self awareness and in building coping skills while facing challenges, personal identity issues, dysfunctional relationship patterns, and stage-of-life transitions.

Welcome. My participation in helping families in crisis has provided me with a deep understanding of systems, culture, patterns, trauma, substance abuse, and relational dynamics. I'm fully bilingual (Spanish) and bicultural and have worked with people from diverse backgrounds.

Do you want to feel more connected to yourself and others? Do you feel like your potential Self is clouded with overwhelm, worries, doubts, old patterns, or a lack of motivation? I can help you sort through the mire and feel your way to more fulfillment in peer relationships, love life and career. I work with each client to cultivate resilience, encourage healthy self-expression, build self-esteem, access creativity, develop positive relational patterns and communication skills, heal from trauma, and grieve loss. Call to schedule your free 1/2 hour in person consultation. Visit LaniLeeMFT.com for more information.

If issues of anger, anxiety, depression or grief are barriers to achieving your personal goals or changing behaviors, I would be honored to provide guidance in addressing these issues. My many years of life experience and different careers working with diverse populations have assisted me in developing insight, sensitivity, and compassion toward the struggles along life's path. Allow me to help you process past/current traumas, losses, and resolve your relationship challenges as a couple or family system.

Welcome! I believe in reducing emotional pain, resolving relationship struggles, and improving coping skills. I offer both long-term modalities as well as brief, solution-oriented approaches - and am confident that all therapy can be pleasurable, precise, and quickly effective. I use straight-talk, playfulness, curiosity... and I am intuitive, non-judgmental and compassionate with a strong background in both body-centered and transpersonal modalities. I am highly effective in connecting with clients who recognize their desire for personal benefit but dislike and/or mistrust therapists or traditional talk therapy. LGBTQ friendly!

Sonoma County Counseling provides exceptional personalized counseling services for clients of all ages. Sonoma County Counseling was founded with an eye on providing supportive cutting edge therapeutic counseling services to individuals and families, in a professional, welcoming, mindful, inclusive, and enriched environment. We welcome individuals, couples, and families. Sonoma County Counseling specializes in child therapy services that help children (ages 3 - 12), teenagers, and families, as well as adults who are living with acute or chronic mental health challenges.