Couples Counseling Therapists in West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA

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Phyllis S Shulman
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MFT
Not Verified Not Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
*With couples and families: improving communication; establishing boundaries; awareness of the impact of original families on current relationships.
My approach to psychotherapy stems from a passionate commitment to the process of self-discovery. It entails working to create a space with each person in which feelings and worries can be named and articulated; deeply held troubles--traumatic histories and conflicts--can come to light, be examined and explored; and hope along with ideas for change can be generated. Through attuned listening, fragmented bits can be woven into lines of thought which over time become the shape of a personal and useful story. Treatment combines developing insights into unconsciously held beliefs and finding strategies for coping with life stresses.
*With couples and families: improving communication; establishing boundaries; awareness of the impact of original families on current relationships.
My approach to psychotherapy stems from a passionate commitment to the process of self-discovery. It entails working to create a space with each person in which feelings and worries can be named and articulated; deeply held troubles--traumatic histories and conflicts--can come to light, be examined and explored; and hope along with ideas for change can be generated. Through attuned listening, fragmented bits can be woven into lines of thought which over time become the shape of a personal and useful story. Treatment combines developing insights into unconsciously held beliefs and finding strategies for coping with life stresses.
(415) 823-5048 View (415) 823-5048
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Elaine Shelub
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LCSW
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
Having a safe and supportive space where one can talk openly, is so very important. Feeling understood and listened to promotes growth and change. I am warm and understanding as well as insightful and objective, bringing experience and honesty to my work. Together we will talk about what’s going on now, past events and relationships, and how they might be affecting you. I will work to develop a trusting, supportive relationship to more clearly understand what is troubling you. My clients have enjoyed success in overcoming anxiety and depression, connecting with others, defining and attaining goals, and increasing self-esteem.
Having a safe and supportive space where one can talk openly, is so very important. Feeling understood and listened to promotes growth and change. I am warm and understanding as well as insightful and objective, bringing experience and honesty to my work. Together we will talk about what’s going on now, past events and relationships, and how they might be affecting you. I will work to develop a trusting, supportive relationship to more clearly understand what is troubling you. My clients have enjoyed success in overcoming anxiety and depression, connecting with others, defining and attaining goals, and increasing self-esteem.
(415) 682-6708 View (415) 682-6708
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Lisa Lund at A Couple's Place
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT, CRC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I use evidence based methods because I believe too much of couples therapy has been based on someone’s opinion of what a good relationship looks like, rather than on what research with real couples tells us works.
My passion is helping couples repair their relationships. I’ve been a psychotherapist for 25 years and have worked with many populations but I find couple’s work to be most rewarding. I like the energy and the challenge of holding two differing points of view without judgment (and teaching couples to do the same). I enjoy debunking the common myth that conflict is a predictor of divorce. Conflict is normal in close relationships and not an index that something is wrong. Disagreements are full of existential meaning and the opportunity to know one another better, but couples need to know how to make these conversations safe.
I use evidence based methods because I believe too much of couples therapy has been based on someone’s opinion of what a good relationship looks like, rather than on what research with real couples tells us works.
My passion is helping couples repair their relationships. I’ve been a psychotherapist for 25 years and have worked with many populations but I find couple’s work to be most rewarding. I like the energy and the challenge of holding two differing points of view without judgment (and teaching couples to do the same). I enjoy debunking the common myth that conflict is a predictor of divorce. Conflict is normal in close relationships and not an index that something is wrong. Disagreements are full of existential meaning and the opportunity to know one another better, but couples need to know how to make these conversations safe.
(628) 400-0191 View (628) 400-0191
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Pauline Wakeham
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, SEP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
Are you having trouble getting over a past shock or trauma? Are you frequently in overwhelm/collapse? Are you constantly bracing against danger, ready to fight or run away? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I can help. I specialize in working with people who have experienced being overwhelmed by events and experiences that have shaken their very foundations. I take time to assess your personal stress/trauma history and provide guidance and support to assist you in your recovery. I also help couples create sustained improvement in their relationship, creating more effective communication and fulfilling relationships.
Are you having trouble getting over a past shock or trauma? Are you frequently in overwhelm/collapse? Are you constantly bracing against danger, ready to fight or run away? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I can help. I specialize in working with people who have experienced being overwhelmed by events and experiences that have shaken their very foundations. I take time to assess your personal stress/trauma history and provide guidance and support to assist you in your recovery. I also help couples create sustained improvement in their relationship, creating more effective communication and fulfilling relationships.
(510) 377-1082 View (510) 377-1082
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Peggy Burns
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
Therapy can help you remove unwanted behaviors and restore joy and fulfillment to your life. Do you struggle with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, relationship issues or impact from trauma? I provide a non-judgmental, active, caring environment to enable you to make positive changes. COUPLES: Do you feel stuck in the "crazy cycle"? Communication issues are often at the core of relationships. Therapy can help you master the art of communication. My therapeutic approach is supported by the most recent research and discoveries from experts in the psychology field. I have witnessed many couples flourish and transform.
Therapy can help you remove unwanted behaviors and restore joy and fulfillment to your life. Do you struggle with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, relationship issues or impact from trauma? I provide a non-judgmental, active, caring environment to enable you to make positive changes. COUPLES: Do you feel stuck in the "crazy cycle"? Communication issues are often at the core of relationships. Therapy can help you master the art of communication. My therapeutic approach is supported by the most recent research and discoveries from experts in the psychology field. I have witnessed many couples flourish and transform.
(415) 322-1563 View (415) 322-1563
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Virginia Powers
Pre-Licensed Professional, MFT, PCC, intern
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
We will create a therapeutic relationship built on trust, empathy, and respect, where you feel valued and supported.
Welcome! Thank you for taking the time to visit my page. My name is Virginia Powers, and I am a Therapist Trainee working to become a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Clinical Counselor. I am working under the supervision of Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT 102308, at Family and Children Counseling Services. I provide therapy sessions in English or Spanish.
We will create a therapeutic relationship built on trust, empathy, and respect, where you feel valued and supported.
Welcome! Thank you for taking the time to visit my page. My name is Virginia Powers, and I am a Therapist Trainee working to become a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Clinical Counselor. I am working under the supervision of Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT 102308, at Family and Children Counseling Services. I provide therapy sessions in English or Spanish.
(415) 949-4143 View (415) 949-4143
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Aimee Evnin
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94112
Are you finding it challenging to connect intimately with yourself or your partner? Does your relationship with your body feel a bit distant these days? Perhaps you're yearning for a deeper, more satisfying understanding of your own sexuality? Does it seem like your desires for intimacy differ from those of your partner? Rest assured, you're not alone in these feelings and concerns. Most clients I support deal with these challenging narratives and begin to heal once they find a warm, welcoming, collaborative environment to learn, open up and connect to their inner selves.
Are you finding it challenging to connect intimately with yourself or your partner? Does your relationship with your body feel a bit distant these days? Perhaps you're yearning for a deeper, more satisfying understanding of your own sexuality? Does it seem like your desires for intimacy differ from those of your partner? Rest assured, you're not alone in these feelings and concerns. Most clients I support deal with these challenging narratives and begin to heal once they find a warm, welcoming, collaborative environment to learn, open up and connect to their inner selves.
(415) 326-1882 View (415) 326-1882
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Donna Fraser
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
Psychotherapy is a journey toward healing that we take together. I believe you have all the resources you need within you. Psychotherapy is designed to awaken and mobilize them. My clients frequently report that in addition to resolving the problems that brought them into therapy - a depression has lifted, a work conflict or relationship difficulty worked through - what has changed is the way they feel about themselves. They feel stronger, more connected to themselves at a core level and capable of achieving their vision of what they want their lives to be.
Psychotherapy is a journey toward healing that we take together. I believe you have all the resources you need within you. Psychotherapy is designed to awaken and mobilize them. My clients frequently report that in addition to resolving the problems that brought them into therapy - a depression has lifted, a work conflict or relationship difficulty worked through - what has changed is the way they feel about themselves. They feel stronger, more connected to themselves at a core level and capable of achieving their vision of what they want their lives to be.
(415) 800-1395 View (415) 800-1395
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Shirley Ailsworth
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
Congratulations on taking this FIRST step. Life’s challenges can leave you feeling defeated, exhausted, anxious and depressed. All of these feelings can take a toll on our daily lives, sense of self and relationships. However with the right therapeutic support those feelings can decrease or become easier and more manageable. I also have a special interest in supporting individuals and couples who have breast cancer or have experienced breast cancer and its lasting impacts. I’m an out-of-network provider.
Congratulations on taking this FIRST step. Life’s challenges can leave you feeling defeated, exhausted, anxious and depressed. All of these feelings can take a toll on our daily lives, sense of self and relationships. However with the right therapeutic support those feelings can decrease or become easier and more manageable. I also have a special interest in supporting individuals and couples who have breast cancer or have experienced breast cancer and its lasting impacts. I’m an out-of-network provider.
(628) 262-8962 View (628) 262-8962
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Lisa Marie Tannehill
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
I can help you to heal from your trauma as well as help you build a healthier relationship with yourself and your loved ones.
Hi! I'm so glad you're here. Welcome to my profile. Many of the clients I've worked with have experienced a sense of feeling stuck in some area of their life whether it's in their relationships with themselves or with others. They desire for their life to look different, but are at a loss of how to create the change they're longing for and only end up feeling anxious, depressed, or attempting to fill the void or distract from the feelings of overwhelm that a different way of life is possible.
I can help you to heal from your trauma as well as help you build a healthier relationship with yourself and your loved ones.
Hi! I'm so glad you're here. Welcome to my profile. Many of the clients I've worked with have experienced a sense of feeling stuck in some area of their life whether it's in their relationships with themselves or with others. They desire for their life to look different, but are at a loss of how to create the change they're longing for and only end up feeling anxious, depressed, or attempting to fill the void or distract from the feelings of overwhelm that a different way of life is possible.
(626) 247-3306 View (626) 247-3306
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Susan Berzon
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
As a psychodynamic therapist, I work with individuals, couples, and families with varying issues and goals. Certified in EMDR, I specialize in trauma assessment on the premise of shame within the human condition. Through a holistic practice, I use evidence-based treatments such as Attachment style, CBT, Narrative, Solution Focused, and Strengths-based therapy with experience in clinical settings such as partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient, substance rehabilitation, and schools.
As a psychodynamic therapist, I work with individuals, couples, and families with varying issues and goals. Certified in EMDR, I specialize in trauma assessment on the premise of shame within the human condition. Through a holistic practice, I use evidence-based treatments such as Attachment style, CBT, Narrative, Solution Focused, and Strengths-based therapy with experience in clinical settings such as partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient, substance rehabilitation, and schools.
(619) 848-0970 View (619) 848-0970
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Diana To
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MBA, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
I found my calling to become a psychotherapist out of a desire to help people live happier, healthier and more fulfilling lives. I work with individuals, couples and families to help them resolve the impact of abuse and trauma, as well as problems of depression, anxiety, anger, grief, couples' discord, family conflicts, behavioral issues, low self-esteem, and life transitions. I am passionate about helping my clients who feel lost about their life directions with career exploration and identity development. As a Christian, I also love integrating spirituality with psychological well-being with clients for whom spirituality is relevant.
I found my calling to become a psychotherapist out of a desire to help people live happier, healthier and more fulfilling lives. I work with individuals, couples and families to help them resolve the impact of abuse and trauma, as well as problems of depression, anxiety, anger, grief, couples' discord, family conflicts, behavioral issues, low self-esteem, and life transitions. I am passionate about helping my clients who feel lost about their life directions with career exploration and identity development. As a Christian, I also love integrating spirituality with psychological well-being with clients for whom spirituality is relevant.
(650) 419-4581 View (650) 419-4581
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Carla L Durkin
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I am good at helping individuals and couples to create more awareness of and clarity about their needs, wants and painful experience; and to improve their capacity to be how they wish to be and to feel worthy; and to communicate and negotiate skillfully with the people they care about.
Over 17 years practicing has affirmed my belief that most of the emotional wounding and on-going pain, difficulties, confusion and “stuckness” plaguing individuals, and the relational problems of couples can move and improve significantly in psychotherapy with a warm, intelligent, highly attuned, interactive, and skilled psychotherapist. I work hard at creating a safe, reliable and connected therapeutic relationship, in which the client feels comfortable, seen, understood and accepted for who they are, communicated with honestly and directly, and free to drive the focus, pace and intensity as feels right to them.
I am good at helping individuals and couples to create more awareness of and clarity about their needs, wants and painful experience; and to improve their capacity to be how they wish to be and to feel worthy; and to communicate and negotiate skillfully with the people they care about.
Over 17 years practicing has affirmed my belief that most of the emotional wounding and on-going pain, difficulties, confusion and “stuckness” plaguing individuals, and the relational problems of couples can move and improve significantly in psychotherapy with a warm, intelligent, highly attuned, interactive, and skilled psychotherapist. I work hard at creating a safe, reliable and connected therapeutic relationship, in which the client feels comfortable, seen, understood and accepted for who they are, communicated with honestly and directly, and free to drive the focus, pace and intensity as feels right to them.
(650) 605-3981 View (650) 605-3981
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Donna Blethen
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
I know it is hard to be in a relationship.
Do you wish your mate listened to you and understood you better? Do you sometimes feel angry that he/she is too controlling and unwilling to compromise? It doesn't have to be this way. Let me help. Loving behaviors are learned. I can teach you to build a stronger and more loving connection. I would love to teach you the simple but powerful skills with which to improve your relationship. Do know that all relationships start with the self. How we treat ourselves internally is often what we allow externally. Let me help you work the inside job and the relationship with other job.
I know it is hard to be in a relationship.
Do you wish your mate listened to you and understood you better? Do you sometimes feel angry that he/she is too controlling and unwilling to compromise? It doesn't have to be this way. Let me help. Loving behaviors are learned. I can teach you to build a stronger and more loving connection. I would love to teach you the simple but powerful skills with which to improve your relationship. Do know that all relationships start with the self. How we treat ourselves internally is often what we allow externally. Let me help you work the inside job and the relationship with other job.
(650) 385-8844 View (650) 385-8844
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Melissa Foster
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an Art Therapist. I help clients create healthier patterns in life and improve relationships. Services available for adults, couples, families and children. My areas of emphasis include abuse, trauma, anxiety, depression, divorce, grief, parenting support, self-esteem, and personal growth. I am also trained in EMDR.
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an Art Therapist. I help clients create healthier patterns in life and improve relationships. Services available for adults, couples, families and children. My areas of emphasis include abuse, trauma, anxiety, depression, divorce, grief, parenting support, self-esteem, and personal growth. I am also trained in EMDR.
(415) 799-9445 View (415) 799-9445
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Stephanie J Wong
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
In a safe and non-judgmental space, we can begin to talk about your concerns in individual or couples therapy.
Hi I'm Dr. Stephanie J. Wong! I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast (colorofsuccesspodcast.com), and an Asian American therapist who was recently quoted as a mental health expert in Forbes, Us News & World Report, and Shondaland. Specialties include mood, cultural, relationship, and career/leadership concerns, and working with veterans and ethnic minority clients.
In a safe and non-judgmental space, we can begin to talk about your concerns in individual or couples therapy.
Hi I'm Dr. Stephanie J. Wong! I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast (colorofsuccesspodcast.com), and an Asian American therapist who was recently quoted as a mental health expert in Forbes, Us News & World Report, and Shondaland. Specialties include mood, cultural, relationship, and career/leadership concerns, and working with veterans and ethnic minority clients.
(650) 830-0511 View (650) 830-0511
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Michelle Takemoto
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
My experience in every type of setting and academic training in many approaches has given me the wisdom to partner with you on your journey.
Therapy will open new doors for you, allow you to gain insight into your struggles, and create movement toward healing. I specialize in supporting women, families, and couples through difficult times such as parenting, chronic illness, marriage conflicts, grief and loss, parenting children with disabilities, cultural loss and trauma, anxiety/depression, and work-related stressors. Recovery and leading a life of fulfillment is truly possible. Take the first step toward finding hope and leading an authentic, love-filled life.
My experience in every type of setting and academic training in many approaches has given me the wisdom to partner with you on your journey.
Therapy will open new doors for you, allow you to gain insight into your struggles, and create movement toward healing. I specialize in supporting women, families, and couples through difficult times such as parenting, chronic illness, marriage conflicts, grief and loss, parenting children with disabilities, cultural loss and trauma, anxiety/depression, and work-related stressors. Recovery and leading a life of fulfillment is truly possible. Take the first step toward finding hope and leading an authentic, love-filled life.
(707) 532-2360 View (707) 532-2360
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Chrystal Rahmani
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I believe in creating a collaborative therapeutic relationship that is rooted in empathy, respect, humor, and curiosity in order to understand one's self in relation to others and to facilitate growth.
Life can be rough. Perhaps you are wondering if things will ever get better. Perhaps you want to learn more about yourself and the patterns that are linked to your unhappiness. Perhaps you want to explore your relationships, or work life. Whatever the challenge, psychotherapy can serve as powerful means to get curious and institute the growth and change you are seeking.
I believe in creating a collaborative therapeutic relationship that is rooted in empathy, respect, humor, and curiosity in order to understand one's self in relation to others and to facilitate growth.
Life can be rough. Perhaps you are wondering if things will ever get better. Perhaps you want to learn more about yourself and the patterns that are linked to your unhappiness. Perhaps you want to explore your relationships, or work life. Whatever the challenge, psychotherapy can serve as powerful means to get curious and institute the growth and change you are seeking.
(424) 297-5698 View (424) 297-5698
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Jim Oakley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT, MDiv
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I love helping my clients not just survive, but thrive. Whether or not you've tried therapy before, deciding to get experienced support is the first step to a better life. While some of my clients initially reach out in moments of crisis or great need, others are doing fine or even "thriving" (in the eyes of peers and loved ones) but feel like they can build greater happiness and meaning with a regular therapeutic relationship. You'll gain personal insight, a stronger confidence in your choices and greater resiliency in navigating life and relationship challenges.
I love helping my clients not just survive, but thrive. Whether or not you've tried therapy before, deciding to get experienced support is the first step to a better life. While some of my clients initially reach out in moments of crisis or great need, others are doing fine or even "thriving" (in the eyes of peers and loved ones) but feel like they can build greater happiness and meaning with a regular therapeutic relationship. You'll gain personal insight, a stronger confidence in your choices and greater resiliency in navigating life and relationship challenges.
(415) 484-3455 View (415) 484-3455
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Dan Sussman
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
West Of Twin Peaks, San Francisco, CA 94127
I also help my clients work through major life transitions—launching into adulthood, navigating relationship problems and intimacy, taking on new roles in life, and grappling with the challenges of love, work, and aging.
Welcome! I know that life can sometimes get messy and stressful. Maybe you’re feeling anxious or depressed, struggling with relationships, work, parenting, aging, a fast-changing world, or just want to talk to someone who’ll listen and be there for you. Change can be hard and humbling before you get to where you want to go. If you’d like to become a happier, more fulfilled you, please schedule a free consultation by going to my website, www.dansussmanphd.com, send me an email, or give me a call. I'm here to help.
I also help my clients work through major life transitions—launching into adulthood, navigating relationship problems and intimacy, taking on new roles in life, and grappling with the challenges of love, work, and aging.
Welcome! I know that life can sometimes get messy and stressful. Maybe you’re feeling anxious or depressed, struggling with relationships, work, parenting, aging, a fast-changing world, or just want to talk to someone who’ll listen and be there for you. Change can be hard and humbling before you get to where you want to go. If you’d like to become a happier, more fulfilled you, please schedule a free consultation by going to my website, www.dansussmanphd.com, send me an email, or give me a call. I'm here to help.
(310) 905-8775 View (310) 905-8775

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Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.