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Lianne de la Pena
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
Redondo Beach, CA 90277
Therapy provides a safe, accepting relationship, through which fear, anger, and pain lose their stronghold and are replaced with truth and confidence.
I offer professional focus on balancing life during COVID, anxiety, depression, anger management, difficulty functioning, domestic violence, trauma, history of sexual and physical abuse, guilt and shame, family addictions and codependence, self-harm, grief and loss, multi-generational family reconciliation, phase of life transitions, multi-cultural issues, parenting skills, and forgiveness. Individual, couple and family sessions are available. My approach to therapy embraces the premise that people are inherently worthy and share a common, basic need to feel heard and validated in their relationships.
Therapy provides a safe, accepting relationship, through which fear, anger, and pain lose their stronghold and are replaced with truth and confidence.
I offer professional focus on balancing life during COVID, anxiety, depression, anger management, difficulty functioning, domestic violence, trauma, history of sexual and physical abuse, guilt and shame, family addictions and codependence, self-harm, grief and loss, multi-generational family reconciliation, phase of life transitions, multi-cultural issues, parenting skills, and forgiveness. Individual, couple and family sessions are available. My approach to therapy embraces the premise that people are inherently worthy and share a common, basic need to feel heard and validated in their relationships.
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Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.