Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in California
With both clinical and lived experience, I can help guide you on that road from a sex positive, trauma informed perspective.
As a sex positive trauma therapist, I use EMDR, 4 Blinks, IFS and Somatic Psychotherapy to help decrease your pain. I use the PACT model with couples to transform the conflict cycle in your relationship, and incorporate EDSE's sex education principles to establish or enhance a connection to your own sexual energy.
With both clinical and lived experience, I can help guide you on that road from a sex positive, trauma informed perspective.
As a sex positive trauma therapist, I use EMDR, 4 Blinks, IFS and Somatic Psychotherapy to help decrease your pain. I use the PACT model with couples to transform the conflict cycle in your relationship, and incorporate EDSE's sex education principles to establish or enhance a connection to your own sexual energy.
This includes queer and trans individuals, parents and partners of LGBTQ+ individuals, practitioners of ethical non-monogamy, and those involved in kink.
I offer therapy to individuals exploring various aspects of gender (transgender, cisgender, and gender diverse) and sexuality (LGBTQ+, ENM/Poly) as well as general mental health. My goal is to create a supportive environment where we can tackle challenges related to sexuality, relationships, personal growth, and overall mental health. Together, we’ll engage in empathetic, nonjudgmental conversations to identify areas for growth and celebrate your achievements. I’ll customize our sessions using diverse therapeutic techniques to meet your unique needs, values, and goals, helping you define your journey in life and relationships.
This includes queer and trans individuals, parents and partners of LGBTQ+ individuals, practitioners of ethical non-monogamy, and those involved in kink.
I offer therapy to individuals exploring various aspects of gender (transgender, cisgender, and gender diverse) and sexuality (LGBTQ+, ENM/Poly) as well as general mental health. My goal is to create a supportive environment where we can tackle challenges related to sexuality, relationships, personal growth, and overall mental health. Together, we’ll engage in empathetic, nonjudgmental conversations to identify areas for growth and celebrate your achievements. I’ll customize our sessions using diverse therapeutic techniques to meet your unique needs, values, and goals, helping you define your journey in life and relationships.
Looking for a therapist who understands poly/ENM relationships, LGBTQIA+ identities, and BDSM/ kink?
I specialize in sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, poly/ENM-friendly, & BDSM/ kink-knowledgeable therapy because I know how important it is to be able to talk about these parts of your identity. We’ll work together in individual or couples/relationship sessions to process, heal, reduce anxiety, and help you find confidence in yourself and your relationships.
Looking for a therapist who understands poly/ENM relationships, LGBTQIA+ identities, and BDSM/ kink?
I specialize in sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, poly/ENM-friendly, & BDSM/ kink-knowledgeable therapy because I know how important it is to be able to talk about these parts of your identity. We’ll work together in individual or couples/relationship sessions to process, heal, reduce anxiety, and help you find confidence in yourself and your relationships.
Whether you're exploring gender identity, experiencing desire discrepancy or other relationship issues, struggling with body image, or delving into kink, my goal is to create a space where you can speak openly, honestly, and without shame.
Do you feel like yourself when you move through the world, or is something off? Are your relationships supportive and loving, or do you feel invisible to those closest to you? Gender and sexuality are a huge part of what makes us human, and the repression of these identities can cause enormous suffering. The roles and expectations that others have for us can make us feel anxious, depressed, and trapped- but it doesn't have to be that way.
Whether you're exploring gender identity, experiencing desire discrepancy or other relationship issues, struggling with body image, or delving into kink, my goal is to create a space where you can speak openly, honestly, and without shame.
Do you feel like yourself when you move through the world, or is something off? Are your relationships supportive and loving, or do you feel invisible to those closest to you? Gender and sexuality are a huge part of what makes us human, and the repression of these identities can cause enormous suffering. The roles and expectations that others have for us can make us feel anxious, depressed, and trapped- but it doesn't have to be that way.
I am passionate about attuning to and embracing all parts of the self and exploring the fullness of your identity, expression, and experience with the therapeutic relationship being at the heart of our work together. My practice intends to create a space of safety and depth as we explore and move through complex emotions and experiences toward your goals throughout this collaborative process. My style is curious, playful, and direct, while you and I use the therapeutic relationship as a laboratory within which to facilitate the meaningful changes that will reconnect you with yourself, with life, and with the people around you.
I am passionate about attuning to and embracing all parts of the self and exploring the fullness of your identity, expression, and experience with the therapeutic relationship being at the heart of our work together. My practice intends to create a space of safety and depth as we explore and move through complex emotions and experiences toward your goals throughout this collaborative process. My style is curious, playful, and direct, while you and I use the therapeutic relationship as a laboratory within which to facilitate the meaningful changes that will reconnect you with yourself, with life, and with the people around you.
I am a sexologist as well as a sex therapist in private practice for over 25 years. I can help you with any aspect of your sexuality. I conduct most of my sessions over the telephone, so I have clients around the world, as well as around the block. I'm also the bestselling author of several books including Advertising for Love, The 10 Commandments of Pleasure, Being a Woman and The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure.
I am a sexologist as well as a sex therapist in private practice for over 25 years. I can help you with any aspect of your sexuality. I conduct most of my sessions over the telephone, so I have clients around the world, as well as around the block. I'm also the bestselling author of several books including Advertising for Love, The 10 Commandments of Pleasure, Being a Woman and The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure.
I work with a diverse group of clients addressing challenges of identity, sexuality/ kink/fetish, anxiety, intimacy and relationships.
My work aims to help you to dismantle the sex-negativity or social bias that prevents you from moving forward. I am psychodynamic and trauma-informed therapist with experience working with diverse populations. I create a safe and supportive space that acknowledges your unique background and life experience, building your health and strength to allow you to explore and develop paradigms and beliefs to support your goals and aspirations.
I work with a diverse group of clients addressing challenges of identity, sexuality/ kink/fetish, anxiety, intimacy and relationships.
My work aims to help you to dismantle the sex-negativity or social bias that prevents you from moving forward. I am psychodynamic and trauma-informed therapist with experience working with diverse populations. I create a safe and supportive space that acknowledges your unique background and life experience, building your health and strength to allow you to explore and develop paradigms and beliefs to support your goals and aspirations.
Many also navigate kink, BDSM, or ethical non-monogamy and need a space where all of who they are is welcome.
I offer affirming, direct therapy for late diagnosed autistic adults navigating identity, relationships, and emotional regulation. I specialize in kink, BDSM, and ethical non-monogamy, and I bring ten years of lived experience in these communities alongside my clinical training. Fully online, individuals and couples, across California.
Many also navigate kink, BDSM, or ethical non-monogamy and need a space where all of who they are is welcome.
I offer affirming, direct therapy for late diagnosed autistic adults navigating identity, relationships, and emotional regulation. I specialize in kink, BDSM, and ethical non-monogamy, and I bring ten years of lived experience in these communities alongside my clinical training. Fully online, individuals and couples, across California.
My ideal client would be an individual/client motivated and dedicated to change, who is an active participant with their goals and progress.
My ideal client would be an individual/client motivated and dedicated to change, who is an active participant with their goals and progress.
As a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and someone who has lived and thrived in polyamorous relationships for the past eight years, I provide a compassionate and affirming space for individuals, couples, and polycules exploring or navigating polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. My personal experience, combined with professional expertise, allows me to deeply understand the unique joys and challenges that come with consensual non-monogamous relationships.
As a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and someone who has lived and thrived in polyamorous relationships for the past eight years, I provide a compassionate and affirming space for individuals, couples, and polycules exploring or navigating polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. My personal experience, combined with professional expertise, allows me to deeply understand the unique joys and challenges that come with consensual non-monogamous relationships.
Are you struggling with intimacy, codependency, and disconnection or carrying the weight of old trauma while stuck in painful patterns? You might be longing for a more genuine connection, but are overwhelmed by anxiety or low-self esteem that leaves you feeling isolated and lonely. Whether you are single, dating, or in a long term relationship, perhaps you are ready to feel more connected and empowered to become your truest self. For couples, this often looks like rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, and creating a more secure and fulfilling relationship for both of you.
Are you struggling with intimacy, codependency, and disconnection or carrying the weight of old trauma while stuck in painful patterns? You might be longing for a more genuine connection, but are overwhelmed by anxiety or low-self esteem that leaves you feeling isolated and lonely. Whether you are single, dating, or in a long term relationship, perhaps you are ready to feel more connected and empowered to become your truest self. For couples, this often looks like rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, and creating a more secure and fulfilling relationship for both of you.
I work collaboratively with clients navigating the complexities of identity; offering guidance, sex positive support and validation.
I am a dedicated therapist specializing in trauma informed care using EMDR, sex & gender affirmative therapy and addiction & recovery support. With a passion for helping individuals navigate the complexities of their experiences, I bring a unique blend of empathy, expertise, and compassion to my practice. I have honed my skills in trauma therapy, providing a safe and supportive environment for my clients to process their past experiences and find healing. I understand the profound impact of trauma and I’m committed to empowering individuals to reclaim their sense of self, and move forward with resilience.
I work collaboratively with clients navigating the complexities of identity; offering guidance, sex positive support and validation.
I am a dedicated therapist specializing in trauma informed care using EMDR, sex & gender affirmative therapy and addiction & recovery support. With a passion for helping individuals navigate the complexities of their experiences, I bring a unique blend of empathy, expertise, and compassion to my practice. I have honed my skills in trauma therapy, providing a safe and supportive environment for my clients to process their past experiences and find healing. I understand the profound impact of trauma and I’m committed to empowering individuals to reclaim their sense of self, and move forward with resilience.
“The core of human suffering lies in the resistance to what is.” – John J. Prendergast
Life can move at a relentless pace, leaving little room to slow down, listen inward, and tend to what is asking for care. Therapy offers a grounded, confidential space to pause where we can gently turn toward your experience with honesty, compassion, and curiosity.
I work with individuals and couples navigating anxiety, relational distress, life transitions, and disconnection from self or meaning. Together, we explore the layers of your relational patterns, emotional landscape, and the ways your history lives in your body and nervous system.
“The core of human suffering lies in the resistance to what is.” – John J. Prendergast
Life can move at a relentless pace, leaving little room to slow down, listen inward, and tend to what is asking for care. Therapy offers a grounded, confidential space to pause where we can gently turn toward your experience with honesty, compassion, and curiosity.
I work with individuals and couples navigating anxiety, relational distress, life transitions, and disconnection from self or meaning. Together, we explore the layers of your relational patterns, emotional landscape, and the ways your history lives in your body and nervous system.
My ideal clients are self-aware, growth-oriented individuals who feel ready for more—more alignment, more expression, and more ease. I often work with artists, athletes, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are navigating high performance, creativity, and visibility. Many of my clients are neurodivergent and experience both intensity and excitement for life’s possibilities. They may come in feeling overwhelmed, blocked, or disconnected from themselves or their relationships, while also knowing there is a deeper level of clarity, confidence, and fulfillment available to them.
My ideal clients are self-aware, growth-oriented individuals who feel ready for more—more alignment, more expression, and more ease. I often work with artists, athletes, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are navigating high performance, creativity, and visibility. Many of my clients are neurodivergent and experience both intensity and excitement for life’s possibilities. They may come in feeling overwhelmed, blocked, or disconnected from themselves or their relationships, while also knowing there is a deeper level of clarity, confidence, and fulfillment available to them.
Maybe you’re navigating non-monogamy, kink, or exploring parts of yourself that don’t fit into traditional boxes and you want a therapist who actually gets it.
I’m kink, BDSM, and ENM-affirming, and I create a space where you don’t have to educate your therapist or filter yourself. At the same time, you don’t have to have it all figured out to start, curiosity is enough.
Maybe you’re navigating non-monogamy, kink, or exploring parts of yourself that don’t fit into traditional boxes and you want a therapist who actually gets it.
I’m kink, BDSM, and ENM-affirming, and I create a space where you don’t have to educate your therapist or filter yourself. At the same time, you don’t have to have it all figured out to start, curiosity is enough.
I work with gay couples, queer couples, and people in non-traditional relationships (triads, open relationships, kink and power-exchange dynamics) in person, in the Castro.
For couples, I offer skill-building in communication, conflict, vulnerability, and intimacy, as part of a developmental framework that acknowledges how relationships move through stages over time. For individuals, we'll work on the patterns underneath presenting issues, how they impact you and the people closest to you, and what can be done to shift them.
I work with gay couples, queer couples, and people in non-traditional relationships (triads, open relationships, kink and power-exchange dynamics) in person, in the Castro.
For couples, I offer skill-building in communication, conflict, vulnerability, and intimacy, as part of a developmental framework that acknowledges how relationships move through stages over time. For individuals, we'll work on the patterns underneath presenting issues, how they impact you and the people closest to you, and what can be done to shift them.
I center agency and humanity in my work with clients. My approach is deeply relational and I want to know what you need to feel safe and seen to co-create our work around your goals. As a biracial, bisexual, genderqueer therapist grounded in liberation and narrative therapy, I see healing as a process of remembering yourself and finding meaning in what you’ve survived. In learning to move with it, not against it we reclaim your voice, agency, and the possibility of living with greater freedom, connection, and truth.
I center agency and humanity in my work with clients. My approach is deeply relational and I want to know what you need to feel safe and seen to co-create our work around your goals. As a biracial, bisexual, genderqueer therapist grounded in liberation and narrative therapy, I see healing as a process of remembering yourself and finding meaning in what you’ve survived. In learning to move with it, not against it we reclaim your voice, agency, and the possibility of living with greater freedom, connection, and truth.
Dr. Nik views therapy as a collaborative and creative process to help clients become their best selves, improve adaptive patterns, and navigate difficult environments. We can often get stuck in patterns that are only partially successful and need more effective tools to improve our health and well-being. He believes therapy works best when there is a trusting and supportive relationship, clear goals, and hope for the future.
Dr. Nik views therapy as a collaborative and creative process to help clients become their best selves, improve adaptive patterns, and navigate difficult environments. We can often get stuck in patterns that are only partially successful and need more effective tools to improve our health and well-being. He believes therapy works best when there is a trusting and supportive relationship, clear goals, and hope for the future.
Couples, thruples, situationships, all are welcome! My passion is to help you to love first, for yourself and those around you. I help clients find balance and inner healing while navigating an unjust world. Our work together will be guided by your unique journey and perspective. All needs are welcome. No experience necessary, you don't need to know how to "do" therapy. Each step towards where you want to go can be as long or as short as is helpful.
Couples, thruples, situationships, all are welcome! My passion is to help you to love first, for yourself and those around you. I help clients find balance and inner healing while navigating an unjust world. Our work together will be guided by your unique journey and perspective. All needs are welcome. No experience necessary, you don't need to know how to "do" therapy. Each step towards where you want to go can be as long or as short as is helpful.
I also work with folks exploring their sexuality; I am sex-positive and provide counsel on kink and ENM relationships.
The pace of the world today can feel overwhelming, leaving you anxious, depressed, or unsure of how to move forward. These struggles create distance from yourself and from the people who matter most. Therapy, with me, offers a space to slow down and look inside. My approach is collaborative and down-to-earth. Healing doesn't have to be heavy all the time, we'll make space for humor, curiosity, and even joy along the way.
I also work with folks exploring their sexuality; I am sex-positive and provide counsel on kink and ENM relationships.
The pace of the world today can feel overwhelming, leaving you anxious, depressed, or unsure of how to move forward. These struggles create distance from yourself and from the people who matter most. Therapy, with me, offers a space to slow down and look inside. My approach is collaborative and down-to-earth. Healing doesn't have to be heavy all the time, we'll make space for humor, curiosity, and even joy along the way.
