Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in California
I am a sexologist as well as a sex therapist in private practice for over 25 years. I can help you with any aspect of your sexuality. I conduct most of my sessions over the telephone, so I have clients around the world, as well as around the block. I'm also the bestselling author of several books including Advertising for Love, The 10 Commandments of Pleasure, Being a Woman and The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure.
I am a sexologist as well as a sex therapist in private practice for over 25 years. I can help you with any aspect of your sexuality. I conduct most of my sessions over the telephone, so I have clients around the world, as well as around the block. I'm also the bestselling author of several books including Advertising for Love, The 10 Commandments of Pleasure, Being a Woman and The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure.
Hello! I'm Nathan Aish, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker living in California, with 28 years of healthcare leadership experience, including 10 years providing therapy to individuals, couples, and families. I hold a Master of Public Health (MPH) degree from The Ohio State University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from San Diego State University. I am also certified to work as a K-12 school social worker. My core values are servitude and continuous improvement, and my approach to care integrates person-centered, trauma-informed, strength-based, harm-reduction, gender-responsive, and cultural humility practices.
Hello! I'm Nathan Aish, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker living in California, with 28 years of healthcare leadership experience, including 10 years providing therapy to individuals, couples, and families. I hold a Master of Public Health (MPH) degree from The Ohio State University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from San Diego State University. I am also certified to work as a K-12 school social worker. My core values are servitude and continuous improvement, and my approach to care integrates person-centered, trauma-informed, strength-based, harm-reduction, gender-responsive, and cultural humility practices.
You’ve read all the books and did all the research, but being in an open relationship is more complicated than it sounded. You thought you had it all figured out, but it turns out you’re just as lost as before. It was supposed to be an exciting time to explore and spice things up, but right now you’re overwhelmed with anxiety and fear. You’re scared this will ruin your relationship and jealousy has become a familiar presence. Something has to change.
You’ve read all the books and did all the research, but being in an open relationship is more complicated than it sounded. You thought you had it all figured out, but it turns out you’re just as lost as before. It was supposed to be an exciting time to explore and spice things up, but right now you’re overwhelmed with anxiety and fear. You’re scared this will ruin your relationship and jealousy has become a familiar presence. Something has to change.
I specialize in relationship issues, non-monogamy, kink, sexuality, and trauma, and I offer a warm, engaged, nonjudgmental space where clients can heal old wounds, strengthen self-trust, and create more honest, connected, and fulfilling lives and relationships.
My work goes beyond traditional talk therapy. Depending on your needs, I may integrate EMDR, somatic therapy, Internal Parts Work, mindfulness, guided visualization, and, when appropriate, ketamine-assisted therapy to help you heal and create lasting change.
I specialize in relationship issues, non-monogamy, kink, sexuality, and trauma, and I offer a warm, engaged, nonjudgmental space where clients can heal old wounds, strengthen self-trust, and create more honest, connected, and fulfilling lives and relationships.
My work goes beyond traditional talk therapy. Depending on your needs, I may integrate EMDR, somatic therapy, Internal Parts Work, mindfulness, guided visualization, and, when appropriate, ketamine-assisted therapy to help you heal and create lasting change.
We offer telehealth and in-person therapy for queer and gender-diverse, kinky, nonmonogamous, and neurodiverse folks across California. While these aren’t the only topics we explore, they are areas where we bring deep, lived-experience expertise. That means you don’t have to explain your identity, define your terms, or worry about judgment. We’re here to see you as you are, support you in reaching your goals, and celebrate every step along the way.
We offer telehealth and in-person therapy for queer and gender-diverse, kinky, nonmonogamous, and neurodiverse folks across California. While these aren’t the only topics we explore, they are areas where we bring deep, lived-experience expertise. That means you don’t have to explain your identity, define your terms, or worry about judgment. We’re here to see you as you are, support you in reaching your goals, and celebrate every step along the way.
Do you feel disconnected from your desire, your body, or your sense of self in relationships?
Whether you're navigating relationship dissatisfaction, shame around sex, compulsive behavior, intimacy struggles, or the aftermath of abuse and trauma, you deserve support that goes beneath the surface.
I specialize in sex therapy and relational healing for individuals and partners. My work centers on the places where sexuality, identity, and attachment intersect: including dating difficulties, low self-worth, people-pleasing patterns, and the ways early wounds show up in your closest relationships.
Do you feel disconnected from your desire, your body, or your sense of self in relationships?
Whether you're navigating relationship dissatisfaction, shame around sex, compulsive behavior, intimacy struggles, or the aftermath of abuse and trauma, you deserve support that goes beneath the surface.
I specialize in sex therapy and relational healing for individuals and partners. My work centers on the places where sexuality, identity, and attachment intersect: including dating difficulties, low self-worth, people-pleasing patterns, and the ways early wounds show up in your closest relationships.
My training specializes in human sexuality, gender exploration, and kink or ethical non-monogamy curiosity.
Sexual liberation and exploration can help uncover psychosomatic healing and self empowerment. My priority is to offer a nurturing, non-judgmental and collaborative space where I support my clients integrate pleasure and autonomy into their lives. My services include, but aren't limited to, navigating desire discrepancies, processing sexual and relational trauma, releasing shame related to sexuality, supporting parents of LGBTQIA+ children and management of anxiety or depression. I work with individuals, couples, ENM configurations, sex workers, queer, trans or neurodivergent individuals.
My training specializes in human sexuality, gender exploration, and kink or ethical non-monogamy curiosity.
Sexual liberation and exploration can help uncover psychosomatic healing and self empowerment. My priority is to offer a nurturing, non-judgmental and collaborative space where I support my clients integrate pleasure and autonomy into their lives. My services include, but aren't limited to, navigating desire discrepancies, processing sexual and relational trauma, releasing shame related to sexuality, supporting parents of LGBTQIA+ children and management of anxiety or depression. I work with individuals, couples, ENM configurations, sex workers, queer, trans or neurodivergent individuals.
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or depression, navigating complex relationships, working through past experiences, or simply looking to better understand yourself, I’m here to support you. I support clients navigating these areas and exploring their identities, values, creativity, and connections, particularly those in ethically non-monogamous relationships and the LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent communities.
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or depression, navigating complex relationships, working through past experiences, or simply looking to better understand yourself, I’m here to support you. I support clients navigating these areas and exploring their identities, values, creativity, and connections, particularly those in ethically non-monogamous relationships and the LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent communities.
I specialize in couples work, non-monogamy/polyamory, LGBTQIA and kink related care.
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I aim to meet clients with compassion and curiosity, creating an intentional, present, and client-centered space for growth. I am passionate about offering non-judgmental support and helping people live more authentically.
My approach is warm and often attachment-centered. I want to empower clients through open communication and a deep respect for their lived experience.
I specialize in couples work, non-monogamy/polyamory, LGBTQIA and kink related care.
Hi there!
I aim to meet clients with compassion and curiosity, creating an intentional, present, and client-centered space for growth. I am passionate about offering non-judgmental support and helping people live more authentically.
My approach is warm and often attachment-centered. I want to empower clients through open communication and a deep respect for their lived experience.
I am a queer, non-binary artist, plant and animal lover! I work with a diverse clientele, including musicians, actors, comedians and artists. I specialize in the the LGBTQIA+ community and I offer gender affirming therapy. I also support those in open, polyamorous and non-traditional relationships. My main focus is to be a catalyst for my clients in their individualized development of new core capacities. Some of these core capacities include empathy, vulnerability, self-awareness, accountability and courage.
I am a queer, non-binary artist, plant and animal lover! I work with a diverse clientele, including musicians, actors, comedians and artists. I specialize in the the LGBTQIA+ community and I offer gender affirming therapy. I also support those in open, polyamorous and non-traditional relationships. My main focus is to be a catalyst for my clients in their individualized development of new core capacities. Some of these core capacities include empathy, vulnerability, self-awareness, accountability and courage.
Hello, and welcome! I am an individual therapist and I specialize in helping patients working through difficult trauma, sex therapy issues, complex relationship issues, and the impacts of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on relationships. I work closely with individuals struggling with different forms of mental disorders and help my clients forge a new path forward toward healing and wholeness. My passion is in therapy, and I am humbled and grateful when people invite me to play a meaningful role in their lives.
Hello, and welcome! I am an individual therapist and I specialize in helping patients working through difficult trauma, sex therapy issues, complex relationship issues, and the impacts of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on relationships. I work closely with individuals struggling with different forms of mental disorders and help my clients forge a new path forward toward healing and wholeness. My passion is in therapy, and I am humbled and grateful when people invite me to play a meaningful role in their lives.
Whether you’re curious about or actively practicing ethical non-monogamy, interested in exploring kink or simply seeking deeper connection, I provide a safe, nonjudgmental space to talk openly about your needs, desires and challenges so as to find what truly works for you.
My approach is collaborative: you are the expert on your own life, and I bring expertise in helping people navigate emotional struggles, shift unhelpful patterns and overcome relationship roadblocks. Together, we’ll challenge limiting beliefs, expand your options, and create new ways of relating—to yourself and to others—that feel authentic and fulfilling.
Whether you’re curious about or actively practicing ethical non-monogamy, interested in exploring kink or simply seeking deeper connection, I provide a safe, nonjudgmental space to talk openly about your needs, desires and challenges so as to find what truly works for you.
My approach is collaborative: you are the expert on your own life, and I bring expertise in helping people navigate emotional struggles, shift unhelpful patterns and overcome relationship roadblocks. Together, we’ll challenge limiting beliefs, expand your options, and create new ways of relating—to yourself and to others—that feel authentic and fulfilling.
It can be hard to resolve sexual differences like mismatched libidos, kink differences or non-monogamy differences because talking about it can unfortunately lead to arguments.
I am here to help! I'm a therapist turned coach with 20 years of experience. Detecting psychological and relationship patterns is what I do best. I start by assessing the emotional dynamics that are happening and identifying any areas that could use improvement. Then we work together through coaching and supplemental resources to get you to your goals.
It can be hard to resolve sexual differences like mismatched libidos, kink differences or non-monogamy differences because talking about it can unfortunately lead to arguments.
I am here to help! I'm a therapist turned coach with 20 years of experience. Detecting psychological and relationship patterns is what I do best. I start by assessing the emotional dynamics that are happening and identifying any areas that could use improvement. Then we work together through coaching and supplemental resources to get you to your goals.
Sarah at Foothills Mental Health L.C.S.W.P.C.
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
2 Endorsed
Online Only
How do we show up for ourselves when the world feels so overwhelming? How do we show up for our friends, family, communities when everything is so heavy? How do we trust when we're learning so much about hidden prejudices carried by those around us? Expand your care network with someone who understands.
How do we show up for ourselves when the world feels so overwhelming? How do we show up for our friends, family, communities when everything is so heavy? How do we trust when we're learning so much about hidden prejudices carried by those around us? Expand your care network with someone who understands.
Dexter
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, ABS, CHT
23 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94132
Waitlist for new clients
When was the last time you felt TRULY happy? Are you feeling overwhelmed by life? Have past traumas left you feeling stressed and anxious? Or maybe you're on a journey to better understand yourself and find lasting happiness. If any of this resonates with you, I can help. As a Taiwanese American who immigrated to the United States at a young age, I know firsthand the struggles faced by individuals from AAPI and immigrant communities. I also recognize the unique challenges the LGBTQ+ community faces, and I'm committed to creating a safe and inclusive environment for all my clients.
When was the last time you felt TRULY happy? Are you feeling overwhelmed by life? Have past traumas left you feeling stressed and anxious? Or maybe you're on a journey to better understand yourself and find lasting happiness. If any of this resonates with you, I can help. As a Taiwanese American who immigrated to the United States at a young age, I know firsthand the struggles faced by individuals from AAPI and immigrant communities. I also recognize the unique challenges the LGBTQ+ community faces, and I'm committed to creating a safe and inclusive environment for all my clients.
I'm ENM, Poly, LS/BDSM/ Kink aligned.
Are you longing for a deeper sense of self and struggling to identify or voice your own needs? Falling back into old patterns of thinking or behaving that derails your relationships or trigger diminished feelings of self worth? Are you struggling to connect intimately with your partner and can't find the words to talk it about it without shame, blame or conflict? Do you struggle to feel connected to people in your life, feel isolated, or overly anxious? When trauma or past experiences are the building blocks of unhelpful core beliefs, it's time to get to know and decenter the parts of you that hold you back from being truly self-led
I'm ENM, Poly, LS/BDSM/ Kink aligned.
Are you longing for a deeper sense of self and struggling to identify or voice your own needs? Falling back into old patterns of thinking or behaving that derails your relationships or trigger diminished feelings of self worth? Are you struggling to connect intimately with your partner and can't find the words to talk it about it without shame, blame or conflict? Do you struggle to feel connected to people in your life, feel isolated, or overly anxious? When trauma or past experiences are the building blocks of unhelpful core beliefs, it's time to get to know and decenter the parts of you that hold you back from being truly self-led
My practice is grounded in racial sensitivity, cultural humility, and kink-affirming care.
I have a passion for working with couples at all stages of the life cycle. Premaritals, cohabiting couples, couples with young children seeking to balance parenting with time for self and partner, couples needing support around sexuality and infidelity.
My practice is grounded in racial sensitivity, cultural humility, and kink-affirming care.
I have a passion for working with couples at all stages of the life cycle. Premaritals, cohabiting couples, couples with young children seeking to balance parenting with time for self and partner, couples needing support around sexuality and infidelity.
Are you navigating open relationships, polyamory, or kink and finding that the emotional terrain is harder than expected?
I use CBT with a systemic lens — meaning we look at both your thought patterns and the relational dynamics shaping them. Sessions are direct, non-judgmental, and structured around building emotional awareness and communication skills. I specialize in nontraditional dynamics and sexual health. No explaining your lifestyle here.
Are you navigating open relationships, polyamory, or kink and finding that the emotional terrain is harder than expected?
I use CBT with a systemic lens — meaning we look at both your thought patterns and the relational dynamics shaping them. Sessions are direct, non-judgmental, and structured around building emotional awareness and communication skills. I specialize in nontraditional dynamics and sexual health. No explaining your lifestyle here.
Hello, and welcome! I am an individual therapist and I specialize in helping individuals working through difficult trauma, sex therapy issues, complex relationship issues, and the impacts of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on relationships. I work closely with individuals struggling with different forms of mental disorders and help my clients forge a new path forward toward healing and wholeness. My passion is in therapy, and I am humbled and grateful when people invite me to play a meaningful role in their lives.
Hello, and welcome! I am an individual therapist and I specialize in helping individuals working through difficult trauma, sex therapy issues, complex relationship issues, and the impacts of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on relationships. I work closely with individuals struggling with different forms of mental disorders and help my clients forge a new path forward toward healing and wholeness. My passion is in therapy, and I am humbled and grateful when people invite me to play a meaningful role in their lives.
I work collaboratively with clients navigating the complexities of identity; offering guidance, sex positive support and validation.
I am a dedicated therapist specializing in trauma informed care using EMDR, sex & gender affirmative therapy and addiction & recovery support. With a passion for helping individuals navigate the complexities of their experiences, I bring a unique blend of empathy, expertise, and compassion to my practice. I have honed my skills in trauma therapy, providing a safe and supportive environment for my clients to process their past experiences and find healing. I understand the profound impact of trauma and I’m committed to empowering individuals to reclaim their sense of self, and move forward with resilience.
I work collaboratively with clients navigating the complexities of identity; offering guidance, sex positive support and validation.
I am a dedicated therapist specializing in trauma informed care using EMDR, sex & gender affirmative therapy and addiction & recovery support. With a passion for helping individuals navigate the complexities of their experiences, I bring a unique blend of empathy, expertise, and compassion to my practice. I have honed my skills in trauma therapy, providing a safe and supportive environment for my clients to process their past experiences and find healing. I understand the profound impact of trauma and I’m committed to empowering individuals to reclaim their sense of self, and move forward with resilience.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialized knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organizations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognize a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognize a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.