Couples Counseling Therapists in Santa Rosa, CA

I have specialized training and experience in couples therapy. If you are stuck in a painfully destructive relationship pattern, I can help you. I have worked with couples for over 27 years. EFT, Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples , is by far the most effective way to work with relationship problems. EFT is one of the only empirically validated couples therapy approaches, and has been shown to out-perform all other modalities in follow-up studies, tracking couples after therapy has ended. EFT has dramatically increased my ability to help couples transform painful relationship patterns into deeply fulfilling and enduring bonds.

I work in a warm and collaborative way, creating a safe space for you to understand yourself better. I can help you to identify and remove obstacles blocking you from living a full and rewarding life. Our relationship is important to me, and together we can deepen your understanding of patterns that may be holding you back from creating and enjoying the connection that you long for. I have 10 years of experience helping people decrease anxiety and increase joy and connection with themselves and others. I support people through life transitions and I also work with couples .

I believe we are all doing the very best we know how to do, and that people seek therapy to learn new ways, ways that help make their lives and relationships work better. It is my honor to support people that are in pain and confusion to learn a better way. I am here to serve as a mirror and a guide so that you can find who you really are and how to more fully express that. I have been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT 29699) since 1997 and practicing in a variety of settings ever since, including Private Practice, County Behavioral Health and Non-profit agencies.

Has life dropped an unwanted change in your lap? Or perhaps a change is what you want to achieve. I offer guidance to support you in coping with the realities of life, and in creating new ways of being in life. I bring compassion and commitment to my work. My clients find that I am gentle but also direct and responsive. Your sense of emotional safety - that you feel heard, understood, and accepted - is the foundation of our relationship .

Are you feeling stuck, lost, overwhelmed, scared, in pain, in conflict? Perhaps you're a couple who've lost your connection, you're arguing all the time, or feeling betrayed or let down. I have helped many couples find the love, trust, respect and affection they used to share, and build a stronger, healthier foundation on which to continue growing. Perhaps you're an individual in crisis, or in a life transition, or lonely, depressed, anxious, or desperate for change. Together we will uncover your inner strength, recalibrate your direction, and open doors to a rewarding future. Maybe you have a child or teen in need of support.

You just want to feel better, I get it, I've been there too! Maybe you are struggling with trauma from a recent event, childhood, or an abusive relationship ? It may have you depressed, anxious, panicked, wondering who this person is, and finding relationships hard to manage. Maybe you have tried some things on your own or therapy in the past but it did work, we can dig deep together to find the root cause of these issues and strategize a plan that works for you. This may be traditional talk therapy, body therapy, attachment work, or EMDR. Through these techniques we'll work to free you from distress, pain, anger and grief.

Thank you for your interest in working with me. I am now accepting individual clients for in person, ongoing, depth psychotherapy and couples who want to work through longstanding mental health and relational issues and renew their romantic relationship . I love working with diverse ages, sexual orientations and gender identities. My clients are adults who deeply connect with their therapist and therapy, and their goals are greater self awareness and self actualization. I enjoy working with young adults and have served many to transition from living at home to living on their own, and succeeding at work, college and beyond.

At times in life we experience suffering and struggle. Therapists can help navigate the complexities of life, our patterns, struggles, and pains. I can help clients find balance and relief as well as a sense of hope and purpose in life. For thirty-five years I've helped many find their curious and awake mind, and the wisdom of the body experience. The process of unraveling struggle, reprocessing trauma, learning skills, and awakening is a beautiful life-affirming one. I use ancient traditions such as mindfulness, and current findings to help my clients find their vitality, awareness, and well-being.

I enjoy working with couples . The areas of upset often are a map, pointing us to possibilities of potential growth. Your difficulties can become a catalyst for increased intimacy. It's easy for any couple to get off track in efforts to communicate - slipping into blaming or power struggles, rather than your true communications, which can bring you closer and into deeper intimacy and trust. My job is to work together with you to help you develop skills that help reclaim happiness - communication skills, skills in understanding yourself and your partner , skills for building and rebuilding the life you want .

Do your efforts to get close to your partner end in fights--or distance? I use EFT, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples , to help you transform your destructive couple patterns into a safe, secure and loving bond. EFT gets to the root causes of conflict and disconnection, counteracts blame and guilt, and creates a sound foundation for a lifetime of growth in intimacy. Results have been clinically shown to be extremely effective and to continue improving after treatment ends. I also use AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) for individuals to create a new experience of secure attachment.

In life we all have opportunities for growth and change, and no one person or challenge is the same. Therapy can be a place to gain awareness, insight, and most importantly find the confidence and personal power to make changes. I work to help clients identify and acknowledge what is not working for them as well as find their own path toward solutions.

People come to me when there is something not working right in their lives, or they want help getting out of a place that feels stuck to them. They may have anxiety, depression, feel unhappy in their lives, and not certain what to do next, or how to change this. Some people may have experienced traumatic events in their lives that they need to move past, to be able to feel more peaceful, in sync with life and not fighting an internal conflict with themselves. Others may have relationship issues, with a family member, a partner , spouse , friend, and want help resolving this so they can enjoy their lives more fully.

Life can be difficult, but you shouldn't have to take on its challenges alone. I'd like to provide a safe, supportive space for you to deal with those challenges, so that life feels manageable and even beautiful.

I see my work as that of a consultant to your life situation. The primary task is to understand how our emotions, & the emotions of those we love & interact with, informs the quality of our relational life. In other words, to gain greater emotional intelligence. And what does that mean? To gain a greater understanding of ourselves, & those we love, by learning about inner life and how best to express what we feel, need and want from each other. Better communication makes for better partnering, parenting & family membership.

Do you long to become yourself? Do you seek a greater sense of purpose and meaning, belonging and aliveness, and truer, deeper bonds with those you love? As a depth therapist, I work with these human needs and desires. Fears, anxieties, compulsions and trauma interfere with vital, heartfelt living. Examining and facing such difficulties is the important work of therapy. It is a journey of healing and discovery that can transform your life. My orientation is Jungian, psychodynamic and transpersonal. Soul, heart, mind and body are all included in my perspective on well-being.

Individual and couples psychotherapy to resolve current and long standing issues that compromise personal happiness and success.