Narcissistic Personality (NPD) Therapists in San Ramon, CA
Treehouse Family Counseling Services
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, MFT, NCC, RPT-S
2 Endorsed
San Ramon, CA 94583
Led by Mary Ruth Cross, LMFT, RPT-S, a nationally recognized counselor-educator and play therapy supervisor, sandtray and narcissistic abuse specialist.
The staff at Treehouse Family Counseling Services is a one stop office for counseling all members of a family. Our staff have advanced training in: Trauma Recovery, EMDR, Play Therapy, Sandtray, behavior management, sensory processing issues, divorce, parenting, attachment problems, as well as other issues to encourage growth.
Led by Mary Ruth Cross, LMFT, RPT-S, a nationally recognized counselor-educator and play therapy supervisor, sandtray and narcissistic abuse specialist.
The staff at Treehouse Family Counseling Services is a one stop office for counseling all members of a family. Our staff have advanced training in: Trauma Recovery, EMDR, Play Therapy, Sandtray, behavior management, sensory processing issues, divorce, parenting, attachment problems, as well as other issues to encourage growth.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who emphasizes a systems approach and works to gain a deeper understanding of my client's family of origin and current dynamic. I also utilize an array of Cognitive Behavioral tools to allow the client to change their thinking and behavior pattern. I emphasize a collaborative approach, wherein I work together with the client to help them become invested in their treatment and achieve the results that they want. I do this while creating a compassionate, positive environment. I am passionate about helping my clients and specialize in sensitive clients of all ages and circumstances.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who emphasizes a systems approach and works to gain a deeper understanding of my client's family of origin and current dynamic. I also utilize an array of Cognitive Behavioral tools to allow the client to change their thinking and behavior pattern. I emphasize a collaborative approach, wherein I work together with the client to help them become invested in their treatment and achieve the results that they want. I do this while creating a compassionate, positive environment. I am passionate about helping my clients and specialize in sensitive clients of all ages and circumstances.
Hello! It is my honor and passion to help bring about meaningful, positive change in your life. My approach coalesces research-based practices and psychological insight, drawing from attachment, internal family systems, gestalt, and somatic psychology. I value collaboration and partnership in the therapeutic process in order to instill a sense of agency and empowerment that you innately possess. As your therapist, I am empathic, compassionate, non-judgmental, patient, and open. My focus is to help you process and heal from life’s challenges and transgressions; you deserve to live a fulfilling, peaceful life.
Hello! It is my honor and passion to help bring about meaningful, positive change in your life. My approach coalesces research-based practices and psychological insight, drawing from attachment, internal family systems, gestalt, and somatic psychology. I value collaboration and partnership in the therapeutic process in order to instill a sense of agency and empowerment that you innately possess. As your therapist, I am empathic, compassionate, non-judgmental, patient, and open. My focus is to help you process and heal from life’s challenges and transgressions; you deserve to live a fulfilling, peaceful life.
In the thirtyplus years I have been in practice I have learned a great deal from my clients. This in turn has inspired me to enrich and expand my scope of focus, and to strive for authenticity, thus creating a true therapeutic bond. I feel competent in treating numerous disorders, and am commited to helping my clients improve their coping skills and altering their mindset. Therein lies my primary theoretical approach of cognitive behavioral therapy.
In the thirtyplus years I have been in practice I have learned a great deal from my clients. This in turn has inspired me to enrich and expand my scope of focus, and to strive for authenticity, thus creating a true therapeutic bond. I feel competent in treating numerous disorders, and am commited to helping my clients improve their coping skills and altering their mindset. Therein lies my primary theoretical approach of cognitive behavioral therapy.
Are you the “strong one” in your family? The responsible one? The high-achiever? The one who keeps it together even when you feel exhausted inside? I can help.
Many of my clients are successful professionals who are privately struggling with anxiety, people-pleasing, burnout, guilt and shame, and complicated family dynamics. If you grew up balancing cultural expectations with your own needs, that tension can show up in relationships, career decisions, and even your sense of identity.
I provide a supportive space where your cultural context is understood and not something you have to explain or defend. I "get it".
Are you the “strong one” in your family? The responsible one? The high-achiever? The one who keeps it together even when you feel exhausted inside? I can help.
Many of my clients are successful professionals who are privately struggling with anxiety, people-pleasing, burnout, guilt and shame, and complicated family dynamics. If you grew up balancing cultural expectations with your own needs, that tension can show up in relationships, career decisions, and even your sense of identity.
I provide a supportive space where your cultural context is understood and not something you have to explain or defend. I "get it".
You might not believe it now, but YOU have the answers to your problems within you. Together we can discover your own inner resources to tackle ANY problem, create your health story, develop joyful and fulfilling relationships, turn family discord into harmony, and learn to deal with difficult people. I find results-focused therapy based on a client-centered philosophy to be truly effective and can help you achieve your life goals with the least resistance.
You might not believe it now, but YOU have the answers to your problems within you. Together we can discover your own inner resources to tackle ANY problem, create your health story, develop joyful and fulfilling relationships, turn family discord into harmony, and learn to deal with difficult people. I find results-focused therapy based on a client-centered philosophy to be truly effective and can help you achieve your life goals with the least resistance.
With over 21 years of experience with crisis intervention, interpersonal violence, trauma, grief, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder through work as a Rape Crisis and Domestic Violence Counselor, Crime Victim’s Advocate within the criminal court system, a Director of a sexual assault and violence prevention program on a college campus, and primary therapist at an outpatient eating disorder treatment center, I am skilled at creating a safe space for clients. I see clients who need support in various stages of life, who are experiencing difficult situations and transitions.
With over 21 years of experience with crisis intervention, interpersonal violence, trauma, grief, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder through work as a Rape Crisis and Domestic Violence Counselor, Crime Victim’s Advocate within the criminal court system, a Director of a sexual assault and violence prevention program on a college campus, and primary therapist at an outpatient eating disorder treatment center, I am skilled at creating a safe space for clients. I see clients who need support in various stages of life, who are experiencing difficult situations and transitions.
My focus is on working with you to address current challenges, process past difficulties, and develop tools to overcome hurdles in daily life and relationships. I work with individuals going through life changes, those experiencing anxiety, depression, and trauma, and couples navigating a variety of relationship concerns. Additionally, I work with neurodivergent individuals, including those with ADHD and autism, and parents, including parents of children with disabilities.
My focus is on working with you to address current challenges, process past difficulties, and develop tools to overcome hurdles in daily life and relationships. I work with individuals going through life changes, those experiencing anxiety, depression, and trauma, and couples navigating a variety of relationship concerns. Additionally, I work with neurodivergent individuals, including those with ADHD and autism, and parents, including parents of children with disabilities.
Are you emotionally exhausted, stressed & unable to recognize yourself? Is it a struggle communicating with loved ones? Ordinary tasks feel burdensome and you're too tired to do anything. If any of these even partially describe your situation it's important to recognize that you aren't alone.... it doesn't have to stay this way. Often the most trying and somber moments in our lives drive us to a journey of self-discovery. As your therapist it will be my goal to provide support and empower you, as you move beyond that pain. Genuine health and happiness are within grasp.
Are you emotionally exhausted, stressed & unable to recognize yourself? Is it a struggle communicating with loved ones? Ordinary tasks feel burdensome and you're too tired to do anything. If any of these even partially describe your situation it's important to recognize that you aren't alone.... it doesn't have to stay this way. Often the most trying and somber moments in our lives drive us to a journey of self-discovery. As your therapist it will be my goal to provide support and empower you, as you move beyond that pain. Genuine health and happiness are within grasp.
With over a decade working in the Gerontology field; individuals facing isolation in today's remote work culture, to couples/families facing distress in the home, to transition into our silver years and beyond. Specializing in end of life care and support. Depression, anxiety; let's learn some new strategies and coping skills, exploring and resolving the why together.
Life is like the ocean, with highs and lows. You are the captain, and I am just here to help navigate. Congratulations, you've already taken the first step.
With over a decade working in the Gerontology field; individuals facing isolation in today's remote work culture, to couples/families facing distress in the home, to transition into our silver years and beyond. Specializing in end of life care and support. Depression, anxiety; let's learn some new strategies and coping skills, exploring and resolving the why together.
Life is like the ocean, with highs and lows. You are the captain, and I am just here to help navigate. Congratulations, you've already taken the first step.
If you feel defeated in your personal chaos, or LOST in a relational situation, I CAN help. I commit to provide you SAFE space, full of compassion, ZERO judgment! I will engage WITH YOU so that TOGETHER, we stimulate thinking, ideas & feelings. INTERACTIVE, not NOTES! I'd be honored to support you. As your Coach, I'm "in it" with you. I'm by your side & I'll have your back! The painful state you are in MUST seem like GRIDLOCK. Too big to shift? I CAN HELP. We CAN shift this & I'm saying ..to an amazing STATE! To choose a stranger (PSY TODAY) to help you, now that's HARD! PLZ stay BRAVE & let me prove how great this can get!
If you feel defeated in your personal chaos, or LOST in a relational situation, I CAN help. I commit to provide you SAFE space, full of compassion, ZERO judgment! I will engage WITH YOU so that TOGETHER, we stimulate thinking, ideas & feelings. INTERACTIVE, not NOTES! I'd be honored to support you. As your Coach, I'm "in it" with you. I'm by your side & I'll have your back! The painful state you are in MUST seem like GRIDLOCK. Too big to shift? I CAN HELP. We CAN shift this & I'm saying ..to an amazing STATE! To choose a stranger (PSY TODAY) to help you, now that's HARD! PLZ stay BRAVE & let me prove how great this can get!
Debbie Thomas
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
Not accepting new clients
Working with couples my approach integrates CBT, Psychodynamic, Solution Focused therapies and Mindfulness. Couples can count on learning and practicing effective communication skills, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness. Practicing these skills will help deepen your connection, intimacy, and emotional-attunement with your partner to build the relationship you really want. My work with individuals focuses on support and strategies during times of grief and loss, relationship struggles, and life transitions.
Working with couples my approach integrates CBT, Psychodynamic, Solution Focused therapies and Mindfulness. Couples can count on learning and practicing effective communication skills, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness. Practicing these skills will help deepen your connection, intimacy, and emotional-attunement with your partner to build the relationship you really want. My work with individuals focuses on support and strategies during times of grief and loss, relationship struggles, and life transitions.
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I specialize in early trauma, complex trauma, and narcissistic abuse recovery.
Together, we will gently work through the hurt, learning to listen to your body as we find our rhythm, so that you can heal without being retraumatized. We will build safety all along the way as we work toward healing using effective and non-rigid tools to honor and support all of your parts.
I specialize in early trauma, complex trauma, and narcissistic abuse recovery.
Together, we will gently work through the hurt, learning to listen to your body as we find our rhythm, so that you can heal without being retraumatized. We will build safety all along the way as we work toward healing using effective and non-rigid tools to honor and support all of your parts.
I have worked in various mental health settings for over 20 years, and have found that a warm, compassionate, direct, and well-boundaried approach works best in the narcissistic world we're living in.
Do you feel you have it all/have enough, but do not feel satisfied, content, happy, or at peace? Do you want to find meaning and purpose in your life? Do you want to examine the root causes of your emotional suffering instead of putting a bandaid on your symptoms? If so, I invite you to schedule a 20-minute consultation with me to begin exploring your healing and transformation. I can help you to learn to trust yourself, discern what you have and don't have control/responsibility over, and find your center/ true north, which you can utilize to make decisions more effectively and flow through life's ups and downs with more ease.
I have worked in various mental health settings for over 20 years, and have found that a warm, compassionate, direct, and well-boundaried approach works best in the narcissistic world we're living in.
Do you feel you have it all/have enough, but do not feel satisfied, content, happy, or at peace? Do you want to find meaning and purpose in your life? Do you want to examine the root causes of your emotional suffering instead of putting a bandaid on your symptoms? If so, I invite you to schedule a 20-minute consultation with me to begin exploring your healing and transformation. I can help you to learn to trust yourself, discern what you have and don't have control/responsibility over, and find your center/ true north, which you can utilize to make decisions more effectively and flow through life's ups and downs with more ease.
To many of the people in your life, you look like you are excelling. Yet when it comes to yourself, you don't feel good. You feel like an impostor. If someone asks you how you are doing, you say fine, but you are not fine. How do you even start to answer a question like this? You'd welcome help, but you don't have much hope. Despite your outward successes this is a problem you haven't been able to solve on your own. Life does not have to be this hard. There is help, but you have to take a risk and ask for it.
To many of the people in your life, you look like you are excelling. Yet when it comes to yourself, you don't feel good. You feel like an impostor. If someone asks you how you are doing, you say fine, but you are not fine. How do you even start to answer a question like this? You'd welcome help, but you don't have much hope. Despite your outward successes this is a problem you haven't been able to solve on your own. Life does not have to be this hard. There is help, but you have to take a risk and ask for it.
As a child I was always very sensitive and curious about the world that surrounded me. It came natural to help people and I knew that I wanted to give back to the world at large. Just like you I suffered from some childhood wounds. My parents did the best they could with the tools they had. But due to their struggles I became a very codependent child wanting to save and fix my parents to simply gain the love I desired. Later on I would be able to understand these cycles and break many of the patterns I lived out. Including people pleasing, losing myself in toxic relationships and not fully loving that little girl inside of me.
As a child I was always very sensitive and curious about the world that surrounded me. It came natural to help people and I knew that I wanted to give back to the world at large. Just like you I suffered from some childhood wounds. My parents did the best they could with the tools they had. But due to their struggles I became a very codependent child wanting to save and fix my parents to simply gain the love I desired. Later on I would be able to understand these cycles and break many of the patterns I lived out. Including people pleasing, losing myself in toxic relationships and not fully loving that little girl inside of me.
Feeling Lost? Wondering, “Where do I go from here?”
My clients are individuals navigating life after toxic relationships, major transitions, or motherhood who feel overwhelmed, disconnected, and stuck in patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, and self-doubt. They often say, “I don’t feel like myself” or “I keep ending up in the same situations.” We use a trauma-informed, DBT-based approach to help you regulate emotions, set boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and break unhealthy cycles—so you can feel grounded, confident, and like yourself again.
Feeling Lost? Wondering, “Where do I go from here?”
My clients are individuals navigating life after toxic relationships, major transitions, or motherhood who feel overwhelmed, disconnected, and stuck in patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, and self-doubt. They often say, “I don’t feel like myself” or “I keep ending up in the same situations.” We use a trauma-informed, DBT-based approach to help you regulate emotions, set boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and break unhealthy cycles—so you can feel grounded, confident, and like yourself again.
You're in the chaos right now - relationship just ended, porn use spiraling, recovering from a narcissistic ex, or stuck in anxious-avoidant dating patterns.
I'm attachment-focused and heavy on psychoeducation and grief work. My approach is direct and unfiltered - I love dark humor, don't shy from awkward topics, and I'm not here to tiptoe around what needs to be said. I'm a gay, liberal, Hispanic, male veteran who is ready to help you figure out your situation.
You're in the chaos right now - relationship just ended, porn use spiraling, recovering from a narcissistic ex, or stuck in anxious-avoidant dating patterns.
I'm attachment-focused and heavy on psychoeducation and grief work. My approach is direct and unfiltered - I love dark humor, don't shy from awkward topics, and I'm not here to tiptoe around what needs to be said. I'm a gay, liberal, Hispanic, male veteran who is ready to help you figure out your situation.
Therapy is not about helping you. It's about helping you to help yourself. It's about empowerment. At times, we all feel disempowered by life, by loss, by feelings of anxiety and depression, etc. Life is a journey, and sometimes it is difficult to move forward. If you are reading this, maybe I am meant to be a part of your journey and you are meant to be a part of mine. Wherever you are in your journey, whatever difficulty you are facing, there are "...plans to give you a hope and a future (Jer 29:11)."
Therapy is not about helping you. It's about helping you to help yourself. It's about empowerment. At times, we all feel disempowered by life, by loss, by feelings of anxiety and depression, etc. Life is a journey, and sometimes it is difficult to move forward. If you are reading this, maybe I am meant to be a part of your journey and you are meant to be a part of mine. Wherever you are in your journey, whatever difficulty you are facing, there are "...plans to give you a hope and a future (Jer 29:11)."
I also work closely with these who are victims of narcissistic abuse.
Everyone is unique. Your thoughts, feelings and needs are shaped by your own background, family history, past interpersonal encounters and other significant events, including early child trauma. Psychotherapy is an emotional process. As we discuss your concerns, it will surface unexamined parts of your life of which you may not be aware or want to experience. My central role as your therapist is to help you talk about and understand more fully these unexamined thoughts, feelings, and needs in the context of your past, develop greater tolerance and acceptance of them, and to bring changes to your current situation.
I also work closely with these who are victims of narcissistic abuse.
Everyone is unique. Your thoughts, feelings and needs are shaped by your own background, family history, past interpersonal encounters and other significant events, including early child trauma. Psychotherapy is an emotional process. As we discuss your concerns, it will surface unexamined parts of your life of which you may not be aware or want to experience. My central role as your therapist is to help you talk about and understand more fully these unexamined thoughts, feelings, and needs in the context of your past, develop greater tolerance and acceptance of them, and to bring changes to your current situation.
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Narcissistic Personality (NPD) Therapists
What type of therapy is best for narcissistic personality disorder?
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is best treated with talk therapy, which could involve cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, schema therapy, gestalt therapy, or similar approaches. A therapist will help a patient uncover the feelings that may drive their behavior and discover how to engage with themselves and those around them with greater empathy and understanding, fewer demands, and less defensiveness, with the goal of developing a more authentic sense of self that enables healthier relationships.
How do therapists treat NPD?
By developing a strong therapeutic relationship, and continually focusing patients on relationships, community, and connection, a therapist, through talk therapy, may be able to help someone with NPD change. In sessions, a therapist will help an individual achieve relief from their current stressors, including the treatment of co-occurring conditions such as anxiety or depression. A therapist may also help an individual to recognize unhealthy coping mechanisms, learn new ways of interacting with others, and eventually become able to feel and display empathy.
Can a narcissist be cured with therapy?
Therapy can be effective. After a serious setback or great loss, someone with NPD may be forced to recognize that they are not immune to life’s challenges. That can spur feelings of melancholy and depression that lead them to seek professional help. Once an individual decides to seek help, they have already taken a step that the majority of those with NPD never will. Still, people with NPD often quit therapy as they naturally resist feeling vulnerable, being challenged, or admitting to flaws.
How can you get narcissistic personality disorder treatment for someone?
It is notoriously difficult to convince someone with NPD to seek help. With their feelings of superiority, they may be unlikely to recognize or acknowledge that they have a problem, or that their problem is narcissism. Sometimes, they are aware that they are arrogant and that others resent them but they don’t see it as a problem because they are convinced of their superiority. People with NPD have trouble maintaining relationships, but family members and others who do feel close to them, and whose presence they value, may be able to encourage them to seek therapy.