Sex Therapists in San Jose, CA

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Lauren Consul - Sex And Relationship Therapist
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, JD
Verified Verified
12 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95120  (Online Only)
I help people have better sex and relationships.
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you struggling with sexual intimacy? Are you wondering if you can actually heal from infidelity or past hurts? Are you curious about non-monogamy or expanding your sexual horizons? You’re not alone. You deserve to feel seen and heard in your relationships. You deserve a sex life in alignment with your desires. Navigating the complexities of relationships and sexuality can feel overwhelming, as we carry the weight of past experiences and personal narratives. You don’t have to stay stuck. You can break free from unhelpful patterns and blocks that are holding you back.
I help people have better sex and relationships.
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you struggling with sexual intimacy? Are you wondering if you can actually heal from infidelity or past hurts? Are you curious about non-monogamy or expanding your sexual horizons? You’re not alone. You deserve to feel seen and heard in your relationships. You deserve a sex life in alignment with your desires. Navigating the complexities of relationships and sexuality can feel overwhelming, as we carry the weight of past experiences and personal narratives. You don’t have to stay stuck. You can break free from unhelpful patterns and blocks that are holding you back.
(562) 247-3114 View (562) 247-3114
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Salvador R Resendez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95110  (Online Only)
I offer a space to help you reflect and gain insight integrated with learning active coping skills and goal setting to treat a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, addictions, out of control sexual behavior, sexuality, and trauma, to foster a positive sense of self and gain confidence.
My approach to therapy is to help men foster a safe, caring therapeutic relationship to help them thrive. I bring compassion and empathy from my own recovery to support healing and growth. Before becoming an LCSW, I worked in media, and living in the Bay Area and New York City provides me an understanding of the stressors working people encounter when trying to find balance in frenetic and competitive environments. My style is active and I will collaborate with you to tap into your identity, strengths, values, and interests in our work together to help you achieve your goals.
I offer a space to help you reflect and gain insight integrated with learning active coping skills and goal setting to treat a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, addictions, out of control sexual behavior, sexuality, and trauma, to foster a positive sense of self and gain confidence.
My approach to therapy is to help men foster a safe, caring therapeutic relationship to help them thrive. I bring compassion and empathy from my own recovery to support healing and growth. Before becoming an LCSW, I worked in media, and living in the Bay Area and New York City provides me an understanding of the stressors working people encounter when trying to find balance in frenetic and competitive environments. My style is active and I will collaborate with you to tap into your identity, strengths, values, and interests in our work together to help you achieve your goals.
(408) 539-4793 View (408) 539-4793
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Kate Sutton
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95120
Let’s talk about sex and relationships! I am here to help you feel comfortable working through the hard stuff, and sex and relationship issues can be some of the hardest stuff for people to talk about. Together, we’ll create a comfortable, judgment-free space to explore your wants and needs, improve communication with others in your life, and promote intimate, meaningful, and healthy (sexual) relationships. My aim is to help you, and any potentially involved partner(s), to reach your full personal, relationship, and sexual potential in order to lead your happiest and most fulfilling life.
Let’s talk about sex and relationships! I am here to help you feel comfortable working through the hard stuff, and sex and relationship issues can be some of the hardest stuff for people to talk about. Together, we’ll create a comfortable, judgment-free space to explore your wants and needs, improve communication with others in your life, and promote intimate, meaningful, and healthy (sexual) relationships. My aim is to help you, and any potentially involved partner(s), to reach your full personal, relationship, and sexual potential in order to lead your happiest and most fulfilling life.
(833) 922-1505 View (833) 922-1505
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Amanda Walters
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
10 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95131  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I specialize in sex therapy, which means that I enjoy working with individuals and people in relationships who may be struggling with any sex-related issues. The types of issues that people tend to see me for include sexual dysfunctions (like problems with orgasm, erection, or sexual pain), intimate relationship concerns, sexual orientation or gender identity, and sexual trauma. I also see folks who are dealing with other issues, such as anxiety or depression. Some of the people I work with have a very specific goal for treatment, while others need more ongoing treatment for deeper, more lifelong concerns.
I specialize in sex therapy, which means that I enjoy working with individuals and people in relationships who may be struggling with any sex-related issues. The types of issues that people tend to see me for include sexual dysfunctions (like problems with orgasm, erection, or sexual pain), intimate relationship concerns, sexual orientation or gender identity, and sexual trauma. I also see folks who are dealing with other issues, such as anxiety or depression. Some of the people I work with have a very specific goal for treatment, while others need more ongoing treatment for deeper, more lifelong concerns.
(408) 317-1302 View (408) 317-1302
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Bryna Barsky
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95123  (Online Only)
I also specialize in sex therapy and help couples and individuals struggling with: low desire, desire discrepancy, sexual trauma, difficulty with arousal/orgasm, painful sex, inability to accomplish penetration, and erection/ejaculation problems.
Welcome to my practice. I have over 30 years of experience providing therapy to individuals and couples from very diverse backgrounds with regards to ethnicity, religion, age, country of origin, and sexual orientation. The therapy I do tends to be short-term, "here-and-now" focused, goal oriented, and skills based. I believe my clients want to change their behaviors, and not just "talk" about what's going wrong. My therapeutic style is collaborative, non-judgmental, warm and compassionate. I'm not a "one size fits all" therapist because every client is unique. I offer a Good Faith Estimate at the client's request.
I also specialize in sex therapy and help couples and individuals struggling with: low desire, desire discrepancy, sexual trauma, difficulty with arousal/orgasm, painful sex, inability to accomplish penetration, and erection/ejaculation problems.
Welcome to my practice. I have over 30 years of experience providing therapy to individuals and couples from very diverse backgrounds with regards to ethnicity, religion, age, country of origin, and sexual orientation. The therapy I do tends to be short-term, "here-and-now" focused, goal oriented, and skills based. I believe my clients want to change their behaviors, and not just "talk" about what's going wrong. My therapeutic style is collaborative, non-judgmental, warm and compassionate. I'm not a "one size fits all" therapist because every client is unique. I offer a Good Faith Estimate at the client's request.
(510) 730-3704 View (510) 730-3704
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Ellen Noon
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT, CEMDR
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95126  (Online Only)
I am a sex therapist and couples counselor. I provide expert care for couples’ issues, intimacy struggles, sexual struggles, infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction and trauma. My goal is to create an intimate space where both partners can share their experience and feelings. I also work with individuals on their relationship issues. My intention is to share a journey that will allow you to unlock the whatever it is that is keeping you from having a happy, fulfilling life. The work that you do now can positively impact you and your partner for a life time. If you are serious about change deep transformation is possible.
I am a sex therapist and couples counselor. I provide expert care for couples’ issues, intimacy struggles, sexual struggles, infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction and trauma. My goal is to create an intimate space where both partners can share their experience and feelings. I also work with individuals on their relationship issues. My intention is to share a journey that will allow you to unlock the whatever it is that is keeping you from having a happy, fulfilling life. The work that you do now can positively impact you and your partner for a life time. If you are serious about change deep transformation is possible.
(669) 254-3007 View (669) 254-3007
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Stephanie Flood
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95129  (Online Only)
I counsel couples and individuals for both relationship therapy and sex therapy.
Are you having trouble expressing your needs in the intimacy department of your relationship? Does it feel you and your partner are not on the same page? Are you struggling do you end up in a fight or ignoring the problem? Have you tried to solve the problems in your life on your own and realized you need help from someone else? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you have made the right choice by being here. And I know this is hard. You've likely been debating seeking help for months, if not years. But I'm so glad you found me and have taken the courageous step of being here.
I counsel couples and individuals for both relationship therapy and sex therapy.
Are you having trouble expressing your needs in the intimacy department of your relationship? Does it feel you and your partner are not on the same page? Are you struggling do you end up in a fight or ignoring the problem? Have you tried to solve the problems in your life on your own and realized you need help from someone else? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you have made the right choice by being here. And I know this is hard. You've likely been debating seeking help for months, if not years. But I'm so glad you found me and have taken the courageous step of being here.
(408) 706-2527 View (408) 706-2527
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Grace Lee
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95124
My approach to therapy is rooted in modern research on the brain, trauma and attachment. I work with clients who struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, relationships and their sexuality. I am experienced working with couples, adult individuals as well as children. I am LGBTQQA and kink friendly.
My approach to therapy is rooted in modern research on the brain, trauma and attachment. I work with clients who struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, relationships and their sexuality. I am experienced working with couples, adult individuals as well as children. I am LGBTQQA and kink friendly.
(650) 273-9823 View (650) 273-9823
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Holly Osment
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPCC, CST
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95126
I teach two graduate-level class on Sexuality in the Counseling Psychology Department of Santa Clara University.
Life is complex at all ages, but we know that...right? Yet knowing this does not necessarily help or give us direction. In my work, I try to help guide people through this murky life, examine choices and explore options, personal history, and experience. I have a deep respect for my clients, for their wisdom and their struggles. I provide an encouraging and non-judgmental space to look at each unique concern and situation. I often explore the role of meaning and choice in our lives, and how both powerfully (but often invisibly) affect how we live our days.
I teach two graduate-level class on Sexuality in the Counseling Psychology Department of Santa Clara University.
Life is complex at all ages, but we know that...right? Yet knowing this does not necessarily help or give us direction. In my work, I try to help guide people through this murky life, examine choices and explore options, personal history, and experience. I have a deep respect for my clients, for their wisdom and their struggles. I provide an encouraging and non-judgmental space to look at each unique concern and situation. I often explore the role of meaning and choice in our lives, and how both powerfully (but often invisibly) affect how we live our days.
(408) 550-5101 View (408) 550-5101
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Connie Kay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95125
Do you find yourself having the same conversation with your partner and getting nowhere? Do you have changes you want to make but don't know where to start? Do you have addictions or patterns of behavior that you would like to change? Are you down, frustrated, tired, depressed, angry, sad? Are you in transition and need help sorting things out? Do you need help in communicating with a family member or friend? Are you unhappy with your initmate relationship, or want to explore new things? Do you experience shame or guilt related to your sexuality and unspoken desires? Are you wondering "Is there more to life?"
Do you find yourself having the same conversation with your partner and getting nowhere? Do you have changes you want to make but don't know where to start? Do you have addictions or patterns of behavior that you would like to change? Are you down, frustrated, tired, depressed, angry, sad? Are you in transition and need help sorting things out? Do you need help in communicating with a family member or friend? Are you unhappy with your initmate relationship, or want to explore new things? Do you experience shame or guilt related to your sexuality and unspoken desires? Are you wondering "Is there more to life?"
(408) 868-5498 View (408) 868-5498
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Cynthia Haartman: Psychotherapy, Sex Therapy, EMDR
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
13 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95118  (Online Only)
I am a Certified Sex Therapist, and also Certified in EMDR Therapy. My primary focus includes: intimacy and sexuality concerns, pelvic pain, fear and anxiety around intimacy, stress, trauma, anxiety, self worth, guilt and shame, neurodivergence - ADHD and high masking Autism, chronic pain and chronic illness, as well as medical trauma, and manifestation of stress physically in the body. I am kink affirming and knowledgable, LGBTQ+/sexual and gender minority inclusive, and a sex positive provider.
I am a Certified Sex Therapist, and also Certified in EMDR Therapy. My primary focus includes: intimacy and sexuality concerns, pelvic pain, fear and anxiety around intimacy, stress, trauma, anxiety, self worth, guilt and shame, neurodivergence - ADHD and high masking Autism, chronic pain and chronic illness, as well as medical trauma, and manifestation of stress physically in the body. I am kink affirming and knowledgable, LGBTQ+/sexual and gender minority inclusive, and a sex positive provider.
(408) 478-3890 View (408) 478-3890
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Carmen Martin
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95101
Sexuality.
Life is an ongoing journey of growth and learning. It involves ups and downs, and ruptures do happen. Do we know how to heal and repair those ruptures? Whether processing grief or trauma, or wondering if intimacy and trust can ever happen, or wondering why we stay stuck in unhealthy patterns that just aren't working, I will help you uncover what it is you really want for yourself and then support you in committing to a path forward. I also welcome the challenge of helping partners listen and feel heard as separate individuals, so that they can collaborate on a shared vision that works for all involved. You deserve more joy!
Sexuality.
Life is an ongoing journey of growth and learning. It involves ups and downs, and ruptures do happen. Do we know how to heal and repair those ruptures? Whether processing grief or trauma, or wondering if intimacy and trust can ever happen, or wondering why we stay stuck in unhealthy patterns that just aren't working, I will help you uncover what it is you really want for yourself and then support you in committing to a path forward. I also welcome the challenge of helping partners listen and feel heard as separate individuals, so that they can collaborate on a shared vision that works for all involved. You deserve more joy!
(831) 920-4318 View (831) 920-4318
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Lakshmi Jaiprakash
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95123  (Online Only)
I specialize in exploring issues related to sex/intimacy, sexuality, alternative lifestyles/relationships (open/poly/non-monogamous), kink/BDSM, sexual shame, and sexual abuse/trauma.
Hi, I'm Lakshmi and my pronouns are she/her. As a member of the LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities, I hope to support you on your journey of exploration and self-discovery by creating a therapeutic atmosphere of warmth, safety, and curiosity. I work with individuals, couples/partnerships, and families of every ability, age, gender, national origin, race/ethnicity, religious affiliation, and sexual orientation. My therapeutic style is eclectic, guided by your life goals and utilizing techniques that resonate with you. My practice is grounded in feminist, multicultural, anti-oppression, and anti-capitalist frameworks.
I specialize in exploring issues related to sex/intimacy, sexuality, alternative lifestyles/relationships (open/poly/non-monogamous), kink/BDSM, sexual shame, and sexual abuse/trauma.
Hi, I'm Lakshmi and my pronouns are she/her. As a member of the LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities, I hope to support you on your journey of exploration and self-discovery by creating a therapeutic atmosphere of warmth, safety, and curiosity. I work with individuals, couples/partnerships, and families of every ability, age, gender, national origin, race/ethnicity, religious affiliation, and sexual orientation. My therapeutic style is eclectic, guided by your life goals and utilizing techniques that resonate with you. My practice is grounded in feminist, multicultural, anti-oppression, and anti-capitalist frameworks.
(760) 274-0469 View (760) 274-0469
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Lyndsey Motarefi
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95101  (Online Only)
{CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS} Do you find yourself wanting to break free from unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you have goals of improving your relationship emotionally and/or physically? Would you like to heal the wounds of past attachments? Do you feel curious about exploring your sexual identity? Are there sex specific concerns that you would like to obtain more clarity on? If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, please know that you are not alone. Even the healthiest of relationships need a check-up at times.
{CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS} Do you find yourself wanting to break free from unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you have goals of improving your relationship emotionally and/or physically? Would you like to heal the wounds of past attachments? Do you feel curious about exploring your sexual identity? Are there sex specific concerns that you would like to obtain more clarity on? If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, please know that you are not alone. Even the healthiest of relationships need a check-up at times.
(323) 458-5470 View (323) 458-5470
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Bella Vida Therapy with Molly Papp
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT, MS, MPH
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95103
I am a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor, CSAT.
You deserve to live 'la bella vida:' a beautiful life. But sometimes life doesn’t always feel beautiful. If it's hard to get close to people, you have been shockingly betrayed, or you feel you have an unhealthy relationship with sex, I can help you. You are not alone. I will be your advocate and guide. I currently can hold teletherapy sessions in California and Vermont. I'm sex positive, trauma-informed and try to offer a safe, supportive place for processing so my clients can move forward in their lives with grace and self-respect.
I am a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor, CSAT.
You deserve to live 'la bella vida:' a beautiful life. But sometimes life doesn’t always feel beautiful. If it's hard to get close to people, you have been shockingly betrayed, or you feel you have an unhealthy relationship with sex, I can help you. You are not alone. I will be your advocate and guide. I currently can hold teletherapy sessions in California and Vermont. I'm sex positive, trauma-informed and try to offer a safe, supportive place for processing so my clients can move forward in their lives with grace and self-respect.
(562) 379-6774 View (562) 379-6774
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Sexual Addiction Sex Misbehavior Infidelity Expert
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, SOTS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95128
Absolute sexual addiction elite level expert 27 years + 45,000 hours sexual misbehavior specialist psychotherapy provided, Together we will use evidence based research oriented methods on your Infidelity / Cheating /Affairs, Prostitution Use, "Seeking Arrangements", Sugar Daddy, Sex Apps, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, Sex Misconduct, Certified Specialist. I created government funded sexual misbehavior programs utilizing highly effective clinical models. You and I will use the most up to date understanding to have you change your thinking and end your self destructive actions, have you love yourself, and the great life you have.
Absolute sexual addiction elite level expert 27 years + 45,000 hours sexual misbehavior specialist psychotherapy provided, Together we will use evidence based research oriented methods on your Infidelity / Cheating /Affairs, Prostitution Use, "Seeking Arrangements", Sugar Daddy, Sex Apps, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, Sex Misconduct, Certified Specialist. I created government funded sexual misbehavior programs utilizing highly effective clinical models. You and I will use the most up to date understanding to have you change your thinking and end your self destructive actions, have you love yourself, and the great life you have.
(415) 639-5474 View (415) 639-5474
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Ellen Hersam
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95126  (Online Only)
It takes great courage to recognize when you need help and even more to ask for it. Even the strongest and most healthy need a trusted mentor, healer, and guide in their life at some point. Do you find yourself asking questions about sex, sexual health, sexual relationships, or intimacy within your relationship? Do you feel you have a place to ask and explore sexual topics and understand your sexual body? Understanding this part of yourself is an important part of your ability to relate and interact with yourself AND to connect, relate, and interact with others throughout your life. Here is a space for you.
It takes great courage to recognize when you need help and even more to ask for it. Even the strongest and most healthy need a trusted mentor, healer, and guide in their life at some point. Do you find yourself asking questions about sex, sexual health, sexual relationships, or intimacy within your relationship? Do you feel you have a place to ask and explore sexual topics and understand your sexual body? Understanding this part of yourself is an important part of your ability to relate and interact with yourself AND to connect, relate, and interact with others throughout your life. Here is a space for you.
(408) 547-2354 View (408) 547-2354
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Misty Johnson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW, WGS
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95126
Challenges with communication? Struggles with sex and intimacy? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and sexuality? I am here to support you and offer you tools and a place to process your current experience. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience.
Challenges with communication? Struggles with sex and intimacy? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and sexuality? I am here to support you and offer you tools and a place to process your current experience. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience.
(408) 583-5606 View (408) 583-5606
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Jose Pinal
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95155  (Online Only)
Providing individual therapy and couple's therapy, I address complex issues related to sex, sexuality, mismatched sexual desires, and sexual dysfunctions. My approach is deeply rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a modality I've embraced to help couples break free from negative patterns and forge stronger, more intimate bonds. Through this method, I guide couples in acknowledging and addressing their emotional needs, ensuring both partners feel seen, heard, and deeply connected.
Providing individual therapy and couple's therapy, I address complex issues related to sex, sexuality, mismatched sexual desires, and sexual dysfunctions. My approach is deeply rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a modality I've embraced to help couples break free from negative patterns and forge stronger, more intimate bonds. Through this method, I guide couples in acknowledging and addressing their emotional needs, ensuring both partners feel seen, heard, and deeply connected.
(209) 219-2306 View (209) 219-2306
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Michelle Cherry
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95130
In Person Sessions Available. I provide Couples Therapy, including; Marital, Infidelity, relationship sexual concerns, and Individual Therapy for Anxiety, PMDD and PME. I help couples deepen their intimacy, improve communication, and resolve long standing conflicts. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman, Sex Therapy Informed, and 3rd wave Behavioral Approaches (DBT, ACT).
In Person Sessions Available. I provide Couples Therapy, including; Marital, Infidelity, relationship sexual concerns, and Individual Therapy for Anxiety, PMDD and PME. I help couples deepen their intimacy, improve communication, and resolve long standing conflicts. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman, Sex Therapy Informed, and 3rd wave Behavioral Approaches (DBT, ACT).
(408) 539-7634 View (408) 539-7634
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Sex Therapy

Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.