Emotionally Focused Therapists in San Jose, CA
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Monica Gonzalez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LCSW
Verified
Verified
I whole heartedly subscribe to the attachment theory that supports my preferred treatment modality,
emotionally focused
therapy (
EFT
).
I feel very humbled when people allow me into their most personal and sacred relationships. Whether it is your partner, spouse, child, or parent, my goal is to enhance the emotional connection in these crucial relationships. After all, despite today's technological advances, we have actually become more socially isolated. Any social scientist will attest to the threat that this poses to us, given that our relationships are the single greatest predictors of our happiness and wellbeing. Therefore, I strive to help people minimize their relationship fears, effectively communicate their needs, and help loved ones respond more compassionately.
Not accepting new clients
Dalia Sileem-Naguib
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
1 Endorsed
Verified
1 Endorsed
Having lived around the world and drawing on the tools of
Emotionally Focused
Therapy, I know the universal languages of love and connection that we yearn for.
Do you and your partner feel like you've been living worlds apart? It's quiet, cold, and worst of all...lonely. Like you're not quite the same team that you once were. Barely talking, or when you do it's only to fight. You wonder, how did we ever get this way? How did the most important person in my life ...the person that once made me feel like HOME...how did they somehow turn into a total stranger sitting across the table from me? And you ask yourself...does this just happen to all couples over time?
Irit Broner
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
Verified
I use evidence-based therapy approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Emotional Focus Therapy (
EFT
).
Welcome, I am offering you a safe place to explore your thoughts and feelings and learn new ways to cope with life challenges. I am a bilingual therapist providing therapy in both English and Hebrew. I provide psychotherapy to individuals, families, couples, and children. My approach to therapy is humanistic based on empathy, acceptance, and collaboration.
Waitlist for new clients
Lauren Consul
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, JD
Verified
9 Endorsed
Verified
9 Endorsed
I have advanced training in
Emotionally Focused
Therapy (
EFT
) and am working towards my certification as a Sex Therapist.
You deserve to feel seen, heard, and to know you matter in your relationships. Connection is key to good mental health. Connection with ourselves, our romantic partner(s), our family, and our friends. Many of our issues stem from our relationships. Whether it is a current relationship or trauma hanging around from childhood or past experiences. I want to help you achieve the relationship you deserve whether that is with your partner(s), self or, family, grieving the loss of a relationship, breaking negative patterns, deciding to stay or go, dating, or exploring your relationship orientation or structure.
Grace Kim- Hur
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA , LMFT
Verified
Verified
I'm a licensed psychotherapist with a background specializing in severe behavioral issues and relationship issues. I work with a variety of approaches from CBT,
EFT
to Psychodynamic approach depending on my patient's needs and what I feel is most effective. In addition I create individual treatment plans to match my patient's goals. Together we can create a safe space and begin your journey in understanding your current issues or concerns. Explore where they may have stemmed from, and how they are currently effecting your life. I believe anyone's goal in therapy would be to heal and ignite awareness to live a more fulfilling life.
Ruth Nevo
Psychologist, PhD
Verified
Verified
My work with couples is based on the
EFT
model (Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples) in which I have advanced level training.
Therapy is a wonderful opportunity for personal growth. It is also helpful in overcoming common symptoms such as anxiety and depression, for improving relationships and for changing behaviors that may hinder quality of life. It is common to experience hesitation or ambivalence when starting therapy, much like many other new beginnings. I encourage you to try. People frequently report feeling better just by taking the first step of calling and making a first appointment. I view therapy as a collaborative process in which, together, we will explore, understand and conquer the obstacles you have encountered in your journey.
Jennifer Gray
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Verified
I work with couples utilizing
Emotionally Focused
Therapy (
EFT
) and with individuals utilizing
Emotionally Focused
Individual Therapy (EFIT).
EFT
has been demonstrated to be highly effective in helping couples change unhelpful patterns, repair trust, and create a more secure bond.
EFT
is based on the premise that what humans crave most is love and security. It would make sense that when we feel our love connection is threatened (often triggered by issues related to money, sex, parenting, in-laws, etc) we might either pursue our partner, desperately trying to “fix” the relationship, or defend ourselves by withdrawing.
Ellen Noon
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT, CEMDR
Verified
1 Endorsed
Verified
1 Endorsed
Additionally, I have extensive training as a couples counselor including
EFT
, Gottman, the Developmental Model and the PACT method.
I am a sex therapist and couples counselor. I provide expert care for couples’ issues, intimacy struggles, sexual struggles, infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction and trauma. My goal is to create an intimate space where both partners can share their experience and feelings. I also work with individuals on their relationship issues. My intention is to share a journey that will allow you to unlock the whatever it is that is keeping you from having a happy, fulfilling life. The work that you do now can positively impact you and your partner for a life time. If you are serious about change deep transformation is possible.
Jennifer Gray
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified
1 Endorsed
Verified
1 Endorsed
I work with couples utilizing
Emotionally Focused
Therapy (
EFT
) and with individuals utilizing
Emotionally Focused
Individual Therapy (EFIT).
EFT
has been demonstrated to be highly effective in helping couples change unhelpful patterns, repair trust, and create a more secure bond.
EFT
is based on the premise that what humans crave most is love and security. It would make sense that when we feel our love connection is threatened (often triggered by issues related to money, sex, parenting, in-laws, etc) we might either pursue our partner, desperately trying to “fix” the relationship, or defend ourselves by withdrawing.
Bryan Cafferky
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MDiv, CFLE
Verified
7 Endorsed
Verified
7 Endorsed
I use an eclectic approach, employing several modalities (TRM, Bowen,
EFT
, IFS, etc.
Here you will find a compassionate & authentic space in which you learn to more deeply connect with yourself (and others), so you can finally discover what's behind your typical “knee-jerk reactions” & why your “go to” coping strategies seem to cause more distress than the original problems! Then we'll make meaningful shifts to uncover new and healthier ways to approach life and relationships. Clients often come to me for help with a broad range of concerns, like: trauma, anxiety, depression, pain, existential malaise, creative blocks, infertility challenges, grief, & family/relationship drama and communication difficulties.
Vani Hariharan
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified
5 Endorsed
Verified
5 Endorsed
I use EMDR, structural family therapy, attachment,
EFT
, play therapy, sand tray, expressive art therapy modalities.
I believe that people are resilient and resourceful, capable of overcoming difficulties. Sometimes we get entangled in personal and relational patterns that can overwhelm our resources. I help clients identify these problematic patterns and empower them to break free from patterns that do not serve them well. I focus on my client's interpersonal relationships and relationships with larger social systems. I have experience working with children, teens, families, and couples on several issues, including family and couple distress, trauma, and various presentations of anxiety and depression through a systemic and attachment-based lens.
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Iris Cohen
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
Verified
My focus is on easing your stress, worries, and challenges that you are facing. Together we will work on finding better ways to communicate at home and at work. I am offering tele-therapy through video and/or phone to all who want to be seen.I enjoy working with couples and individuals. When dealing with negative thoughts, I work on finding more coping thoughts, while using different approaches, such as CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy), and family systems. With couples I often use
EFT
(emotional focus therapy). My therapy style is nurturing and empowering. Your happiness is my first priority!
Grace Tang
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MS, LMFT
Verified
4 Endorsed
Verified
4 Endorsed
I am a Certified
Emotionally Focused
Couples Therapist, and have successfully helped many couples rebuild intimate relationships.
Unhappy with your relationship? Sad, stressed or overwhelmed? Seeing a professional can really help. I am a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist committed to serve couples, families and individual adults. I believe that each life problem provides an opportunity for growth, and you have the potential to rise above adversity and live a more fulfilling life.
Lia Kozuki Huynh
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, MFT, PPS
Verified
Verified
I have training in
EFT
(Emotion Focused Therapy) which boasts a 75% success rate.
(Click on the "website" tab to watch my short 3-minute intro video!) My specialty is couples and individuals with relationship issues. Being in a relationship can be hard work and the stresses of career, children, in-laws, finances, chores, etc. don't make it any easier. Maybe you're feeling like you're having more conflict than love in your relationship and the communication is just not working. Or maybe you are fresh off of a breakup and wanting more clarity about what happened, or single wanting to work through some issues so you can be your best self for a future partner.
Cynthia Heier
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
1 Endorsed
Verified
1 Endorsed
For couples I am trained in
EFT
(
Emotionally Focused
Therapy).
During this time of corona virus and shelter-in-place, it is common for people to struggle emotionally. Many of us feel distress with what is unknown; we are used to staying busy to avoid difficult feelings. Anxiety, depression, isolation, loneliness, relationship challenges, worries, fears, the inner critic, childhood memories, past failures, feeling helpless, among others, can all feel overwhelming. During this time our most vulnerable selves are exposed. What we often miss with a crisis, is the opportunity for growth that is possible. I am here to help you not only survive, but thrive.
Hypnotherapy & Reiki @ Natural Health Center
BS, CCHT, Reiki
1 Endorsed
1 Endorsed
Seeking solutions that bring balance and calm in your life? I offer guided mind body healing therapies such as Hypnotherapy and
EFT
, that empower you to find solutions for the following issues: PAIN, INSOMNIA, GRIEF, WEIGHT, ANXIETY, STRESS, TRAUMA, HABITS, CRAVINGS, RELATIONSHIPS, or PAST LIVES. Hypnotherapy can be effective in building a bridge between the conscious mind and subconscious mind in order to explore the source and solutions of emotional, mental, and physical issues. This expanded state of consciousness allows for genuine realizations and the motivation to implement lasting transformations.
Not accepting new clients
Sharon Mead
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
3 Endorsed
Verified
3 Endorsed
I am a Certified
Emotionally Focused
Therapist (
EFT
).
I work mostly in couple therapy because I believe in the power of romantic connection to bring happiness, fulfillment, and comfort to life. If you are not getting along with your partner, you may be frustrated, lonely, angry, or sad. I can help you find the friendship and love you once had. I offer premarital counseling and remarriage counseling to help you realize the dreams you have of your life together. If you are still looking for a special someone, I can help you remove the roadblocks that may stand in your way.
Waitlist for new clients
Peter Cellarius
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, SEP
Verified
6 Endorsed
Verified
6 Endorsed
FOR ALL: Because no single approach is right for everyone, I have trained in a range of approaches including Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT),
Emotionally Focused
Therapy (
EFT
) for Couples, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprogramming (EMDR), and Ericksonian Hypnosis.
Are you having the same painful arguments, again and again? Does it feel like nothing will ever change? I specialize in couples counseling, and in working with trauma. If things have gotten hard I can help. Let's talk.
Yes To Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, LPCC, LCSW
Verified
Verified
Therapists at Yes To Therapy offer many different specialties, including treating trauma (Brainspotting, IFS, and EMDR), couples (Gottman and
EFT
), art therapy, play therapy, CBT, DBT, and many more modalities.
At Yes To Therapy, we provide therapeutic services to a wide variety of ages, genders, cultures, and populations. We pride ourselves on creating a warm, welcoming environment for each and every client who walks through our doors. We have therapists that reflect an array of different genders, ethnic backgrounds, and specialties, as we aim to meet the needs of our clients and match each person with a therapist that truly feels like the right fit.
Lisa Holden
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified
2 Endorsed
Verified
2 Endorsed
I practice an integrated, trauma-Informed approach using evidence-based practices such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), EMDR, emotional freedom technique (
EFT
), neurolinguistic programming (NLP), and motivational interviewing.
Life presents unexpected challenges which can cause anxiety, depression, hopelessness, difficulties with relationships and problems with self esteem. These unresolved issues can derail us with feelings of being overwhelmed. Therapy can help you learn to manage trauma in order to deal with stressors and move through challenges with confidence so you can get back on track with your life.
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Emotionally Focused Therapists
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.