Codependency Therapists in San Jose, CA

If you are struggling with relationships, codependency or anger, let's talk. Codependent behaviors like people pleasing, low self-esteem and giving too much create unhealthy, one-sided relationships. Maybe you're already in recovery but need more individualized help. You can change these patterns at your own pace and get relief. Anger management is another area where I can help. Whether you explode or stuff your anger, learn how to handle emotions in healthy way. Relationships and self-esteem improve when you have the skills it takes to take care of yourself and communicate effectively. You're not alone!
If you are struggling with relationships, codependency or anger, let's talk. Codependent behaviors like people pleasing, low self-esteem and giving too much create unhealthy, one-sided relationships. Maybe you're already in recovery but need more individualized help. You can change these patterns at your own pace and get relief. Anger management is another area where I can help. Whether you explode or stuff your anger, learn how to handle emotions in healthy way. Relationships and self-esteem improve when you have the skills it takes to take care of yourself and communicate effectively. You're not alone!

Are you experiencing anxiety, depression or feeling lost? Are feelings of codependency, addiction or preoccupation crippling your ability to live your life to the fullest? Are you feeling overwhelmed and cannot currently identify your emotions? I am here to support you in self discovery and finding a way together to explore what may be blocking you from living your most authentic life.
Are you experiencing anxiety, depression or feeling lost? Are feelings of codependency, addiction or preoccupation crippling your ability to live your life to the fullest? Are you feeling overwhelmed and cannot currently identify your emotions? I am here to support you in self discovery and finding a way together to explore what may be blocking you from living your most authentic life.

I use an integrated approach, including but not limited to Psychodynamic Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy, Interpersonal Therapy (IPT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Humanistic Therapy, and Family and Couples Therapy.
I work on codependency, relationship issues, separation,
depression, low self-worth,
feeling of emptiness,
shame & guilt, anxiety & fear,
coping with uncertainty,
stress, perfectionism, low motivation & procrastination,
I use an integrated approach, including but not limited to Psychodynamic Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy, Interpersonal Therapy (IPT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Humanistic Therapy, and Family and Couples Therapy.
I work on codependency, relationship issues, separation,
depression, low self-worth,
feeling of emptiness,
shame & guilt, anxiety & fear,
coping with uncertainty,
stress, perfectionism, low motivation & procrastination,

Hi there, I'm David! I have over eight years of experience working in a number of mental health settings from emergency rooms to inpatient acute hospitals to outpatient clinics. I generally work with clients who suffer from depression, anxiety, relationship issues, behavioral issues, codependency, and life transitions. I typically practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Interviewing, and individualize my approach based on clients' needs. In my experience helping others, I have come to believe that therapy can truly be a transformative experience for those who want to make a change in their lives.
Hi there, I'm David! I have over eight years of experience working in a number of mental health settings from emergency rooms to inpatient acute hospitals to outpatient clinics. I generally work with clients who suffer from depression, anxiety, relationship issues, behavioral issues, codependency, and life transitions. I typically practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Interviewing, and individualize my approach based on clients' needs. In my experience helping others, I have come to believe that therapy can truly be a transformative experience for those who want to make a change in their lives.

Anthony Medaro
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, BCD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95124
The most common issues that people seek help with include: feelings of sadness or depression, excessive worry, fear or anxiety, drug and alcohol abuse, codependency, enhancing and fine tuning one’s recovery program, relationship issues, grief and loss of a loved one, surviving trauma, life change or transition decisions, cyber addiction, dealing with other’s substance abuse, social anxiety and conflict at work.
The most common issues that people seek help with include: feelings of sadness or depression, excessive worry, fear or anxiety, drug and alcohol abuse, codependency, enhancing and fine tuning one’s recovery program, relationship issues, grief and loss of a loved one, surviving trauma, life change or transition decisions, cyber addiction, dealing with other’s substance abuse, social anxiety and conflict at work.

I specialize in: Adult relationships, family relationships, codependency, work burnout, and finding your true self/voice.
Virtual Only at this Time! Are you having trouble with relationships? Adult Family Relationships, friendship relationships, work relationships? Do you feel like you need to yell to be heard? Are you having trouble with friendships not respecting your boundary? Are you wanting more respectful relationships, wanting to communicate your needs in a healthy way? Are you finding yourself reacting to things more than is justified for the situation? Do you put others before you at the cost of yourself? Feeling depressed and anxious because you end up in the same relationships over and over again?
I specialize in: Adult relationships, family relationships, codependency, work burnout, and finding your true self/voice.
Virtual Only at this Time! Are you having trouble with relationships? Adult Family Relationships, friendship relationships, work relationships? Do you feel like you need to yell to be heard? Are you having trouble with friendships not respecting your boundary? Are you wanting more respectful relationships, wanting to communicate your needs in a healthy way? Are you finding yourself reacting to things more than is justified for the situation? Do you put others before you at the cost of yourself? Feeling depressed and anxious because you end up in the same relationships over and over again?

Ed Gresick
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CSAT, LAADC, EMDR(C), CSOTP
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124
My ideal client is motivated to engage in the change process and is willing to follow suggestions and direction that will result in real second order change that is truly life changing. I am uniquely qualified in treating various addictions including alcohol and drug abuse, sex addictions and compulsive behaviors, problem gambling and the many underlying issues involved. I am very effective in getting to and helping my clients resolve the root causes of their addictions. I am very effective in helping clients resolve addiction related issues including self-esteem, codependency, anxiety, anger and trauma using CBT, EMDR and FSAP.
My ideal client is motivated to engage in the change process and is willing to follow suggestions and direction that will result in real second order change that is truly life changing. I am uniquely qualified in treating various addictions including alcohol and drug abuse, sex addictions and compulsive behaviors, problem gambling and the many underlying issues involved. I am very effective in getting to and helping my clients resolve the root causes of their addictions. I am very effective in helping clients resolve addiction related issues including self-esteem, codependency, anxiety, anger and trauma using CBT, EMDR and FSAP.

Persons who might be experiencing anxiety and/or depression, struggling with interpersonal and social skills, relational skills, codependency, and trauma.
My name is Barbara Davis. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I enjoy empowering people to find the power within to heal, change thinking, and become the best version of themself. I love creative expression and use it as a tool in therapy. I have worked with children and parents to help them understand why behaviors happen and help the children learn coping skills to reduce or alleviate negative behaviors.
Persons who might be experiencing anxiety and/or depression, struggling with interpersonal and social skills, relational skills, codependency, and trauma.
My name is Barbara Davis. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I enjoy empowering people to find the power within to heal, change thinking, and become the best version of themself. I love creative expression and use it as a tool in therapy. I have worked with children and parents to help them understand why behaviors happen and help the children learn coping skills to reduce or alleviate negative behaviors.

I help individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, codependency, compulsivity, pornography/sexual addiction, and trauma.
I offer individual therapy to treat pornography/sexual addiction, anxiety, depression, impulse control, and other symptoms. I provide couples therapy for betrayal/infidelity, marital problems, adjustment issues, communication and intimacy issues, and other relationship struggles. I am currently accepting new clients. I offer free consultation.
I help individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, codependency, compulsivity, pornography/sexual addiction, and trauma.
I offer individual therapy to treat pornography/sexual addiction, anxiety, depression, impulse control, and other symptoms. I provide couples therapy for betrayal/infidelity, marital problems, adjustment issues, communication and intimacy issues, and other relationship struggles. I am currently accepting new clients. I offer free consultation.

Hi! My name is Michael Southerland, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist working in the Los Angeles, CA area. This means I focus primarily on relationships, be it individuals having difficulty with rough spots in life, couples, children, and families. I am comfortable working with almost any problem. However, my specialties include depression, anxiety, substance abuse and addiction, codependency, ADHD, and especially LGBT + engender identity. Don't hesitate to reach out to me and ask me if I have experience in working with clients like you. I'm looking forward to hearing.
Hi! My name is Michael Southerland, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist working in the Los Angeles, CA area. This means I focus primarily on relationships, be it individuals having difficulty with rough spots in life, couples, children, and families. I am comfortable working with almost any problem. However, my specialties include depression, anxiety, substance abuse and addiction, codependency, ADHD, and especially LGBT + engender identity. Don't hesitate to reach out to me and ask me if I have experience in working with clients like you. I'm looking forward to hearing.

My specialties include complex trauma, childhood abuse/neglect, healing from narcissistic/abusive relationships, codependency and relationship problems, substance use disorders, masculinity and men's issues, parenting, and working with Asian American/minority issues such as family conflict, intergenerational trauma, cultural identity & racism.
Though I work with most issues, I specialize in helping people recover from complex trauma. People with narcissistic, abusive, or neglectful parents or partners sometimes develop issues with trusting themselves, have difficulty maintaining close relationships, struggle with an inner critic, vacillate often between depression and anxiety, lack a solid sense of identity, or feel a sense of emptiness when their lives seem great on paper. Sometimes that trauma can even become part of one's identity - I work with clients to build insight, boundaries, self-compassion, and acceptance to free themselves from it & live more fulfilling lives.
My specialties include complex trauma, childhood abuse/neglect, healing from narcissistic/abusive relationships, codependency and relationship problems, substance use disorders, masculinity and men's issues, parenting, and working with Asian American/minority issues such as family conflict, intergenerational trauma, cultural identity & racism.
Though I work with most issues, I specialize in helping people recover from complex trauma. People with narcissistic, abusive, or neglectful parents or partners sometimes develop issues with trusting themselves, have difficulty maintaining close relationships, struggle with an inner critic, vacillate often between depression and anxiety, lack a solid sense of identity, or feel a sense of emptiness when their lives seem great on paper. Sometimes that trauma can even become part of one's identity - I work with clients to build insight, boundaries, self-compassion, and acceptance to free themselves from it & live more fulfilling lives.
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Dr. Rob Grellman - Relationship And Stress Expert
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95124
My experience in mental health began in 1981 as a residential therapist with youth in group homes and since then I have worked extensively with youth, families, couples, individual men and women - I have worked extensively around issues of emotional dis-regulation, family dysfunction, addictions of various sorts, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, codependency, and some dissociative disorders as well - I consider treatment very paradoxical, I believe it is important how to gain Freedom from has had Harmful Affect & Control over one's life and Learn how to Live Realistically and yet with Meaning & Purpose !!
My experience in mental health began in 1981 as a residential therapist with youth in group homes and since then I have worked extensively with youth, families, couples, individual men and women - I have worked extensively around issues of emotional dis-regulation, family dysfunction, addictions of various sorts, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, codependency, and some dissociative disorders as well - I consider treatment very paradoxical, I believe it is important how to gain Freedom from has had Harmful Affect & Control over one's life and Learn how to Live Realistically and yet with Meaning & Purpose !!

Kristin Carney
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LPCC
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95128
Waitlist for new clients
I work with issues such as childhood trauma, codependency, parenting, boundaries, grief and loss, and couples issues.
As you consider working with a therapist, you are taking a step towards improving your life, examining what needs to be changed and building upon what is already working. Life can get better and you have the power to change it. During difficult times, it is important to either develop healthy support systems or utilize the ones that we already have. Seeking therapy is one piece of a healthy support system. You are acknowledging that some aspects of your life may not be going well and need to be changed. Therapy can help put life in perspective.
I work with issues such as childhood trauma, codependency, parenting, boundaries, grief and loss, and couples issues.
As you consider working with a therapist, you are taking a step towards improving your life, examining what needs to be changed and building upon what is already working. Life can get better and you have the power to change it. During difficult times, it is important to either develop healthy support systems or utilize the ones that we already have. Seeking therapy is one piece of a healthy support system. You are acknowledging that some aspects of your life may not be going well and need to be changed. Therapy can help put life in perspective.

Katherine Cheung
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT, APCC
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95119
Katherine is Associate Marriage & Family Therapist (AMFT 136591) and Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC 12963). Through her healing journey from parental divorce, depression, codependency, addiction, and shame, she felt called to extend God’s love through pursuing a career in counseling. She is passionate about walking alongside with her clients. She believes hope and healing is always possible. She welcomes all populations and has strong interest working with young adults, couples, and immigrant families.
Katherine is Associate Marriage & Family Therapist (AMFT 136591) and Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC 12963). Through her healing journey from parental divorce, depression, codependency, addiction, and shame, she felt called to extend God’s love through pursuing a career in counseling. She is passionate about walking alongside with her clients. She believes hope and healing is always possible. She welcomes all populations and has strong interest working with young adults, couples, and immigrant families.

Welcome. My name is Lynnell Holtby, MFT 41129. My approach to therapy focuses on connecting with and meeting you from a heart-centered space and in union creating desired personal and life changes. I focus on the "whole" person, integrating spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional forms of well-being to help you develop a deeper understanding on all levels. I work with adults experiencing anxiety, depression, codependency, self-worth, grief, and relational issues.
Welcome. My name is Lynnell Holtby, MFT 41129. My approach to therapy focuses on connecting with and meeting you from a heart-centered space and in union creating desired personal and life changes. I focus on the "whole" person, integrating spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional forms of well-being to help you develop a deeper understanding on all levels. I work with adults experiencing anxiety, depression, codependency, self-worth, grief, and relational issues.

We can identify coping skills that can assist in codependency, relationship anxiety, and avoidance of intimacy.
Do you struggle with depression, anxiety, and trauma? Do you experience difficulties managing family and relationship issues? I believe that healing happens when we pay attention to all the parts that make us whole—our mind, body, and soul. The subconscious mind controls most of our reality and choices, so building awareness and active presence can improve the quality of daily living and assist in not only surviving, but thriving through life. As an intuitive & holistic therapist, I will assist you in strengthening your inner psyche and developing new tools to manage negative feelings and thoughts.
We can identify coping skills that can assist in codependency, relationship anxiety, and avoidance of intimacy.
Do you struggle with depression, anxiety, and trauma? Do you experience difficulties managing family and relationship issues? I believe that healing happens when we pay attention to all the parts that make us whole—our mind, body, and soul. The subconscious mind controls most of our reality and choices, so building awareness and active presence can improve the quality of daily living and assist in not only surviving, but thriving through life. As an intuitive & holistic therapist, I will assist you in strengthening your inner psyche and developing new tools to manage negative feelings and thoughts.

I also specialize in addiction and codependency, grief and loss, and childhood trauma.
Do you find yourself feeling anxious, depressed, angry, and overwhelmed? Do you continue to repeat the same patterns of being in unhealthy relationships, engaging in harmful behaviors that are not serving you in a good way, and continuously trying to find a way to numb the pain? I am a process-oriented and trauma-informed therapist who meets clients where they are at. I draw from the psychodynamic approach focusing on bringing the unconscious to the conscious to get to the root of the issue and explore defense mechanisms that have been adapted along the way.
I also specialize in addiction and codependency, grief and loss, and childhood trauma.
Do you find yourself feeling anxious, depressed, angry, and overwhelmed? Do you continue to repeat the same patterns of being in unhealthy relationships, engaging in harmful behaviors that are not serving you in a good way, and continuously trying to find a way to numb the pain? I am a process-oriented and trauma-informed therapist who meets clients where they are at. I draw from the psychodynamic approach focusing on bringing the unconscious to the conscious to get to the root of the issue and explore defense mechanisms that have been adapted along the way.

Hello, my name is Elisabeth T. White, LMFT. I have been working in the world of mental and behavioral health for nearly 20 years. I focus on the use of DBT skills and somatic psychology to navigate areas such as substance use, depression, anxiety, and codependency. I tend to work with older teens, young adults, and adults struggling with anxiety, depression, substance use, as well as other addictive patterns, and relational conflict. I work very hard at being transparent, mindful, and steady. I tend to build strong relationships with my clients because, in the end, the relationship is curative.
Hello, my name is Elisabeth T. White, LMFT. I have been working in the world of mental and behavioral health for nearly 20 years. I focus on the use of DBT skills and somatic psychology to navigate areas such as substance use, depression, anxiety, and codependency. I tend to work with older teens, young adults, and adults struggling with anxiety, depression, substance use, as well as other addictive patterns, and relational conflict. I work very hard at being transparent, mindful, and steady. I tend to build strong relationships with my clients because, in the end, the relationship is curative.

Are you experiencing relationship issues with your partner or family members? I’m passionate about helping people have healthier relationships within themselves and with others. I work with couples and families who are stuck in conflict, seeking better communication, healing from past wounds, bridging cultural gaps, or adjusting to life transitions. I also provide individual therapy to support those affected by relational issues. We can work on managing anxiety, processing trauma, overcoming people-pleasing habits, improving emotional regulation, working through codependency, and embarking on a journey of healing and well-being.
Are you experiencing relationship issues with your partner or family members? I’m passionate about helping people have healthier relationships within themselves and with others. I work with couples and families who are stuck in conflict, seeking better communication, healing from past wounds, bridging cultural gaps, or adjusting to life transitions. I also provide individual therapy to support those affected by relational issues. We can work on managing anxiety, processing trauma, overcoming people-pleasing habits, improving emotional regulation, working through codependency, and embarking on a journey of healing and well-being.

OPEN - Now Accepting NEW Clients via Telehealth!
Ready for a change? Caught in a cycle of low self worth, lack of connection, and numbing out can make it seem like nothing will change. There are patterns in your relationship with yourself and with others (i.e. people-pleasing, perfectionism, defensiveness, fear of abandonment, codependency, challenges with communication). The louder your negative self-talk becomes, the further your goal of happiness seem to slip out of reach. But this old story isn't you. You can break this cycle and build something new, you just need the right support.
OPEN - Now Accepting NEW Clients via Telehealth!
Ready for a change? Caught in a cycle of low self worth, lack of connection, and numbing out can make it seem like nothing will change. There are patterns in your relationship with yourself and with others (i.e. people-pleasing, perfectionism, defensiveness, fear of abandonment, codependency, challenges with communication). The louder your negative self-talk becomes, the further your goal of happiness seem to slip out of reach. But this old story isn't you. You can break this cycle and build something new, you just need the right support.
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Codependency Therapists
What therapy types help with codependency problems?
Both couples and family therapy and cognitive and behavioral therapy (CBT) can help with the relationship difficulties referred to as codependency. Such problems typically include inappropriate feelings of responsibility for a loved one’s destructive behavior, irrational patterns of thinking about such behavior, and family interaction patterns in which the needs of one troubled member override the needs of others in a household.
What happens in therapy for codependency?
Spouses and family members learn and practice how to interact and support each other in a healthy way without sacrificing their own needs or well-being. They learn the limits of their responsibility for their loved ones and correct faulty patterns of thinking and feeling that underlie codependent behavior. Individuals may be encouraged to nurture an array of social relationships and to cultivate their own talents and interests so that they develop a healthy sense of self outside the family.
How does therapy help a person or couple overcome codependency?
Therapy helps people establish healthy ways of being in a relationship. Spouses and family members learn how to nurture and support one another without sacrificing their own needs or allowing the needs of one person to dominate the dynamic. Individuals learn how to say no and set boundaries, and how to maintain their own identity and self-esteem. Therapy helps people understand that they are not responsible for the feelings and actions of others. It also helps individuals deal with the turbulence that can come from living with a person suffering from such conditions as substance abuse and mental illness.
What is the goal of therapy for codependency?
One goal of therapy for codependency is to alleviate feelings of responsibility for and correct irrational patterns of thinking about loved ones whose behavioral problems override the needs of others in a household. Therapy helps people establish healthy boundaries of behavior and speak up for their own needs in a relationship. In addition, people learn how to maintain a healthy relationship, one in which both parties give and receive equally and are able to retain their own identity.