Sex Therapists in San Diego, CA

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Dr. Eric van der Voort
Psychologist, PsyD, CST
10 Endorsed
Online Only
Are you distracted by insecurities or unhelpful thoughts during sex?
As a Certified Sex Therapist, I help men & women across the sexuality spectrum to overcome performance anxieties, sexual guilt & shame, communication issues, and infidelity. Whether you’re kinky, non-monogamous, or neither, I’ll help you embrace your fantasies, resolve relationship conflicts, create practical relationship agreements, and enjoy better sex.
Are you distracted by insecurities or unhelpful thoughts during sex?
As a Certified Sex Therapist, I help men & women across the sexuality spectrum to overcome performance anxieties, sexual guilt & shame, communication issues, and infidelity. Whether you’re kinky, non-monogamous, or neither, I’ll help you embrace your fantasies, resolve relationship conflicts, create practical relationship agreements, and enjoy better sex.
(619) 649-8427 View (619) 649-8427
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Jaclyn E. Jacobs
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, LPCC, CST
1 Endorsed
Online Only
As a trauma-informed certified sex therapist, I'm here to offer you a safe and nonjudgmental space to explore all the things you've been afraid to say out loud.
Many of my clients come to me feeling disconnected - from themselves, their bodies, their relationships, or their true desires. Often this disconnection stems from past trauma, anxiety, or the pressures of performance and perfectionism that weigh heavily on our systems. People bring me things they might not feel safe talking about with other providers or even friends, such as body image issues, erectile dysfunction, childhood abuse, and identity concerns. I specialize in working with queer, nonmonogamous, and kinky folks, though I'm happy to show up for anyone who is ready to nurture a deeper sense of connection in their lives.
As a trauma-informed certified sex therapist, I'm here to offer you a safe and nonjudgmental space to explore all the things you've been afraid to say out loud.
Many of my clients come to me feeling disconnected - from themselves, their bodies, their relationships, or their true desires. Often this disconnection stems from past trauma, anxiety, or the pressures of performance and perfectionism that weigh heavily on our systems. People bring me things they might not feel safe talking about with other providers or even friends, such as body image issues, erectile dysfunction, childhood abuse, and identity concerns. I specialize in working with queer, nonmonogamous, and kinky folks, though I'm happy to show up for anyone who is ready to nurture a deeper sense of connection in their lives.
(858) 330-1960 View (858) 330-1960
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Sex Therapy San Diego, Dr Silbert RN,CNS,PH.D.
Psychologist, RN, CNS, PhD, FAACS
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
" Sex Therapy, Sex Addiction, Sex Compulsion, Pornography Addiction, Betrayal, Infidelity, Escort Addiction, Happy Endings Addiction, Extramarital Affairs, Secrets, Cheating are Problems that can be corrected.
Cognitive/behavioral/psychodynamic therapy is recognizing and analyzing inner thoughts and feelings for awareness and understanding. Change takes place when one recognizes and deletes the false stories, allowing for expression of the authentic self. The more trustworthy self promotes satisfying interactions in personal, professional and sexual relationships.
" Sex Therapy, Sex Addiction, Sex Compulsion, Pornography Addiction, Betrayal, Infidelity, Escort Addiction, Happy Endings Addiction, Extramarital Affairs, Secrets, Cheating are Problems that can be corrected.
Cognitive/behavioral/psychodynamic therapy is recognizing and analyzing inner thoughts and feelings for awareness and understanding. Change takes place when one recognizes and deletes the false stories, allowing for expression of the authentic self. The more trustworthy self promotes satisfying interactions in personal, professional and sexual relationships.
(858) 863-6986 View (858) 863-6986
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Nick Fager - Sex Therapy
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, LPCC, LMHC, ST
San Diego, CA 92104
Whether you're wanting to work through a particular sexual issue, or wanting to generally expand your sexuality and capacity for pleasure, I can open up a safe and non-judgmental space to explore topics that may have felt very difficult to discuss in other settings.
Sexuality is an area where we've all experienced a lot of isolation and questioning. My therapist training is primarily emotion-focused and experiential, meaning that I primarily work by inviting emotion into the room and working through shame and overwhelm to improve your nervous system health and build up capacity for connection and vulnerability.
Whether you're wanting to work through a particular sexual issue, or wanting to generally expand your sexuality and capacity for pleasure, I can open up a safe and non-judgmental space to explore topics that may have felt very difficult to discuss in other settings.
Sexuality is an area where we've all experienced a lot of isolation and questioning. My therapist training is primarily emotion-focused and experiential, meaning that I primarily work by inviting emotion into the room and working through shame and overwhelm to improve your nervous system health and build up capacity for connection and vulnerability.
(619) 648-2780 View (619) 648-2780
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Natalie Coates
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
I integrate discussions about sex into therapy, recognizing its role in emotional connection and relationship satisfaction.
I am a bilingual (Spanish-English) Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has had the privilege of being immersed in two different cultures and ways of living since childhood. This unique background has broadened my understanding of human behavior and relationships. I am passionate about working with couples and guiding individuals as they navigate relational challenges and foster healthy interactions. I strongly believe that healing and growth are possible through safe and nurturing relationships.
I integrate discussions about sex into therapy, recognizing its role in emotional connection and relationship satisfaction.
I am a bilingual (Spanish-English) Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has had the privilege of being immersed in two different cultures and ways of living since childhood. This unique background has broadened my understanding of human behavior and relationships. I am passionate about working with couples and guiding individuals as they navigate relational challenges and foster healthy interactions. I strongly believe that healing and growth are possible through safe and nurturing relationships.
(619) 586-6375 View (619) 586-6375
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Harry Dixon
Counselor, LPCC, LMHC, LPC, CST
5 Endorsed
Online Only
Do you have mental health, culture, sexuality, kinks, and/or relationship concerns that you have never been able to talk to a therapist about?
As a minority therapist, I understand and speak directly to your unique perspectives. I understand how culture and sexuality intersect with mental health, and I can help you bring more fulfillment to your life. We can work towards solutions and lasting change. The highest compliment a client can give me is "you get me".
Do you have mental health, culture, sexuality, kinks, and/or relationship concerns that you have never been able to talk to a therapist about?
As a minority therapist, I understand and speak directly to your unique perspectives. I understand how culture and sexuality intersect with mental health, and I can help you bring more fulfillment to your life. We can work towards solutions and lasting change. The highest compliment a client can give me is "you get me".
(619) 514-4174 View (619) 514-4174
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Jennifer Konzen
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT, CST, CCDC
Online Only
I am a Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Chemical Dependency Counselor.
I have specialized training in Sex Therapy, Chemical Dependency and Addiction, Couples Therapy, Trauma, Eating Disorders, and Play Therapy.
I am a Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Chemical Dependency Counselor.
I have specialized training in Sex Therapy, Chemical Dependency and Addiction, Couples Therapy, Trauma, Eating Disorders, and Play Therapy.
(858) 217-4992 View (858) 217-4992
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Kink-Informed Sex Therapist Renee Santos
Counselor, MEd, LMHC, LPCC
2 Endorsed
Online Only
If needed, I’ll work with you from a sex-positive, kink-friendly perspective and can support you, no matter what you’re going through.
I offer a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. If you want to achieve greater self-awareness and understanding, and develop the skills and insights necessary to make positive changes in your life, then let’s talk. I’d love to help you live a fulfilling and satisfying life, free from fear of discrimination or stigma, while cultivating healthy and fulfilling relationships that align with your values and desires. Additionally, if you are a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I want to provide you with a safe and affirming space.
If needed, I’ll work with you from a sex-positive, kink-friendly perspective and can support you, no matter what you’re going through.
I offer a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. If you want to achieve greater self-awareness and understanding, and develop the skills and insights necessary to make positive changes in your life, then let’s talk. I’d love to help you live a fulfilling and satisfying life, free from fear of discrimination or stigma, while cultivating healthy and fulfilling relationships that align with your values and desires. Additionally, if you are a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I want to provide you with a safe and affirming space.
(619) 494-1944 View (619) 494-1944
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Glenn Allan Alexander
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CST
Online Only
I leverage my training and experience with issues regarding sex and sexuality.
I am passionate about helping clients find and explore their authentic selves in a judgment-free space. I am committed to helping you with challenging issues such as relationships, anxiety, depression, past hurts, life/religious transitions, personal growth, sexual health, or even unconscious obstacles that may hold you back. I assist my clients as they define their vision of psychological, emotional, and sexual health for themselves, their partner(s), and their families. Assisting clients to overcome the unique challenges they face in life by encouraging them to become their authentic selves.
I leverage my training and experience with issues regarding sex and sexuality.
I am passionate about helping clients find and explore their authentic selves in a judgment-free space. I am committed to helping you with challenging issues such as relationships, anxiety, depression, past hurts, life/religious transitions, personal growth, sexual health, or even unconscious obstacles that may hold you back. I assist my clients as they define their vision of psychological, emotional, and sexual health for themselves, their partner(s), and their families. Assisting clients to overcome the unique challenges they face in life by encouraging them to become their authentic selves.
(208) 391-7804 View (208) 391-7804
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Affirming Therapy Center
Marriage & Family Therapist
San Diego, CA 92123
Each member of the ATC team is a professionally-trained Psychotherapist qualified to address topics such as gender and identity, sex and sexual health, non-monogamy, trauma, out-of-control sexual behavior, BDSM, kink, and fetishes.
The core value of Affirming Therapy Center (ATC) is in our name. “Affirming” is both the nature and the goal of ATC’s work as a dedicated resource supporting Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD) in California. This core value is embodied by providing you with professional, open-minded care in a space that acknowledges and celebrates your unique personhood and distinct challenges. You are welcome and valued here.
Each member of the ATC team is a professionally-trained Psychotherapist qualified to address topics such as gender and identity, sex and sexual health, non-monogamy, trauma, out-of-control sexual behavior, BDSM, kink, and fetishes.
The core value of Affirming Therapy Center (ATC) is in our name. “Affirming” is both the nature and the goal of ATC’s work as a dedicated resource supporting Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD) in California. This core value is embodied by providing you with professional, open-minded care in a space that acknowledges and celebrates your unique personhood and distinct challenges. You are welcome and valued here.
(619) 404-5095 View (619) 404-5095
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Em Mitchell
Psychologist, PhD
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Struggling in your relationship or sex life?
I specialize in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), the leading evidence-based therapy for couple and relationship difficulties. I also have extensive expertise in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), and other well established sex therapies.
Struggling in your relationship or sex life?
I specialize in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), the leading evidence-based therapy for couple and relationship difficulties. I also have extensive expertise in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), and other well established sex therapies.
(858) 727-5898 View (858) 727-5898
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Scott D. Altamirano (San Diego)
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Online Only
Maybe you keep attracting narcissistic or borderline partners, or you’re battling sex or porn addiction in secret.
As an attachment-focused therapist, I work with those struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors, the fallout of abusive or manipulative relationships, and deep-rooted emotional pain that’s been ignored for too long. My approach is direct, unfiltered, and often infused with dark humor, because therapy should be real-not just polite conversation.
Maybe you keep attracting narcissistic or borderline partners, or you’re battling sex or porn addiction in secret.
As an attachment-focused therapist, I work with those struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors, the fallout of abusive or manipulative relationships, and deep-rooted emotional pain that’s been ignored for too long. My approach is direct, unfiltered, and often infused with dark humor, because therapy should be real-not just polite conversation.
(214) 617-1662 View (214) 617-1662
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Psychotherapy of San Diego, Dr Silbert RN,CNS,PHD
Psychologist, RN, CNS, PhD, FACCS
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
A therapeutic relationship develops to treat issues of attachment, angst in living, childhood abuse, betryal, infidelity, sex addiction.
Dr Silbert promotes healing and strengthening of the capable inner self. The individual is enhanced positively by a belief in the ability to cope with the human condition and the emotional upheaval exacerbated by the winding road of life's journey. From the initial consultation with Dr. Silbert she remains an active verbal participant in your treatment. She most emphatically "listens" and "sees" you in a genuine attempt to validate the importance and significance of what you say and how you are feeling. Evaluation of the problems and strategies for effective intervention are discussed with the individual from the first consult until completion of treatment.
A therapeutic relationship develops to treat issues of attachment, angst in living, childhood abuse, betryal, infidelity, sex addiction.
Dr Silbert promotes healing and strengthening of the capable inner self. The individual is enhanced positively by a belief in the ability to cope with the human condition and the emotional upheaval exacerbated by the winding road of life's journey. From the initial consultation with Dr. Silbert she remains an active verbal participant in your treatment. She most emphatically "listens" and "sees" you in a genuine attempt to validate the importance and significance of what you say and how you are feeling. Evaluation of the problems and strategies for effective intervention are discussed with the individual from the first consult until completion of treatment.
(858) 771-0252 View (858) 771-0252
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Donald W Welch
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MS, LMFT
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
(2002) and the Welch Family Therapy Institute (2022), a certified sex therapist, a veteran university professor, an ordained minister, all combined create an atmosphere by which Christian principles may be integrated during your therapeutic experience.
As a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the most meticulous therapy expertise will be utilized during your counseling sessions. I offer a problem solving Systemic approach to therapy including an understanding of your goals for treatment and working together to solve these problems in a focused, planned way. The treatment will look at the system in which you and your challenge exists including family, work, religion, society, etc., and seek to understand how these factors affect your situation. Potentially, this new understanding may lead the way to greater maturity and happiness as an individual, couple, or family.
(2002) and the Welch Family Therapy Institute (2022), a certified sex therapist, a veteran university professor, an ordained minister, all combined create an atmosphere by which Christian principles may be integrated during your therapeutic experience.
As a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the most meticulous therapy expertise will be utilized during your counseling sessions. I offer a problem solving Systemic approach to therapy including an understanding of your goals for treatment and working together to solve these problems in a focused, planned way. The treatment will look at the system in which you and your challenge exists including family, work, religion, society, etc., and seek to understand how these factors affect your situation. Potentially, this new understanding may lead the way to greater maturity and happiness as an individual, couple, or family.
(619) 377-8627 View (619) 377-8627
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Justyna Wawrzonek
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, DSW, LCSW, CST
Online Only
The Embodied Living Wellness Center is a trauma-informed, holistic sex therapy and integrative psychotherapy practice that centers whole-person wellness.
At the core of my work is the belief that healing is not just cognitive—it’s embodied, relational, and layered. Whether it’s exploring what your body is holding under the barbell, on the yoga mat, or in your relationships, this work supports you in reconnecting with your truth, power, and possibility.
The Embodied Living Wellness Center is a trauma-informed, holistic sex therapy and integrative psychotherapy practice that centers whole-person wellness.
At the core of my work is the belief that healing is not just cognitive—it’s embodied, relational, and layered. Whether it’s exploring what your body is holding under the barbell, on the yoga mat, or in your relationships, this work supports you in reconnecting with your truth, power, and possibility.
(619) 330-8152 View (619) 330-8152
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Robyn Buresh
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
3 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92127
Looking for a sex-positive therapist?
I am experienced working with individuals and couples in the areas of relationships, sexual health, and gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. I also come with an extensive background in trauma work utilizing a variety of approaches including EMDR.
Looking for a sex-positive therapist?
I am experienced working with individuals and couples in the areas of relationships, sexual health, and gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. I also come with an extensive background in trauma work utilizing a variety of approaches including EMDR.
(760) 652-9680 View (760) 652-9680
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Natalie Blair
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
San Diego, CA 92109
Waitlist for new clients
As a sex therapist, my mission is to empower others to explore and reclaim their sexuality.
My clinical expertise in sex therapy can help you to reduce the symptoms that are holding you back from living and loving authentically. Together we can work through feelings of guilt and shame that we've internalized based on messages received as women about our sexuality. I am LGBTQ+ affirming and have training in Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy.
As a sex therapist, my mission is to empower others to explore and reclaim their sexuality.
My clinical expertise in sex therapy can help you to reduce the symptoms that are holding you back from living and loving authentically. Together we can work through feelings of guilt and shame that we've internalized based on messages received as women about our sexuality. I am LGBTQ+ affirming and have training in Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy.
(619) 762-3318 View (619) 762-3318
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Cara Allen
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, MM, LCSW, CST
3 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
With over 20 years of experience providing therapy and AASECT certification as a sex therapist, you can talk with me about the things others are uncomfortable talking about.
While some clients make the choice to pursue working with a therapist because of a specific life event or situation, others make the choice because of a desire for self-growth and a general improvement in well-being. Regardless of your reason, I welcome you to contact me.
With over 20 years of experience providing therapy and AASECT certification as a sex therapist, you can talk with me about the things others are uncomfortable talking about.
While some clients make the choice to pursue working with a therapist because of a specific life event or situation, others make the choice because of a desire for self-growth and a general improvement in well-being. Regardless of your reason, I welcome you to contact me.
(619) 866-6219 View (619) 866-6219
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Kristin Zeising
Psychologist, PsyD, CST
4 Endorsed
Online Only
Wishing that your relationship or sex life felt less "meh" and was more connected, passionate and satisfying?
I encourage and support you in living an authentic lifestyle and finding an inner sense of purpose and direction. You don't have to have it all figured out- I'm here to offer clarity, hope, and insight to the difficult areas in your life. I provide tools to help you cope with immediate stressors and work toward deeper personal growth.
Wishing that your relationship or sex life felt less "meh" and was more connected, passionate and satisfying?
I encourage and support you in living an authentic lifestyle and finding an inner sense of purpose and direction. You don't have to have it all figured out- I'm here to offer clarity, hope, and insight to the difficult areas in your life. I provide tools to help you cope with immediate stressors and work toward deeper personal growth.
(858) 780-4823 View (858) 780-4823
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Hayden Dover
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT, CST
San Diego, CA 92116
I provide couples counseling, sex therapy and premarital counseling for couples because I believe that our intimate relationships are our best opportunities for deep connection, intimacy, support and pleasure.
I offer holistic, non-judgmental, solution focused approaches to help couples develop clear communication, effective conflict resolution skills and strategies to fulfill their emotional and sexual needs so that they can move forward with creating a more enriching relationship together.
I provide couples counseling, sex therapy and premarital counseling for couples because I believe that our intimate relationships are our best opportunities for deep connection, intimacy, support and pleasure.
I offer holistic, non-judgmental, solution focused approaches to help couples develop clear communication, effective conflict resolution skills and strategies to fulfill their emotional and sexual needs so that they can move forward with creating a more enriching relationship together.
(619) 717-1832 View (619) 717-1832

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Sex Therapy

Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.