Emotionally Focused Therapists in San Diego, CA

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Dr. Tri Nguyen
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
Waitlist for new clients
I use a combination of Gottman Method, EFT, solution-focused and CBT models.
People go to therapy for various reasons and there may be no "right time" to start. I realized the first step of reaching out for help can be intimidating and I strive to make that process as simple and transparent as possible. My practice is centered on the idea that behavioral change is possible and constant. With a combination of social support, personal agency and opportunities, people can flourish to their full potential. It would be my honor to be a part of your journey toward healing and growth.
I use a combination of Gottman Method, EFT, solution-focused and CBT models.
People go to therapy for various reasons and there may be no "right time" to start. I realized the first step of reaching out for help can be intimidating and I strive to make that process as simple and transparent as possible. My practice is centered on the idea that behavioral change is possible and constant. With a combination of social support, personal agency and opportunities, people can flourish to their full potential. It would be my honor to be a part of your journey toward healing and growth.
(619) 292-0435 View (619) 292-0435
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Melanie Wolf
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Grief Counseling, and Spiritual Direction and have completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Seeking therapy is a courageous step. Whether it is a desire for change, growth, or answers to your life’s pressing questions, sifting through your story is a brave and important task.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Grief Counseling, and Spiritual Direction and have completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Seeking therapy is a courageous step. Whether it is a desire for change, growth, or answers to your life’s pressing questions, sifting through your story is a brave and important task.
(619) 784-5422 View (619) 784-5422
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Christina L Thomas
Counselor, MS APCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92131
I work through the lens of Attachment theory utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, families and individuals.
We are made to be in a relationship with one another, however, there are times when those relationships can become fractured or go off course. Likewise, as individuals, we can also become fractured within and become off-course with ourselves. My passion is to work along side you to create meaningful and positive experiences leading to lasting and effective change.
I work through the lens of Attachment theory utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, families and individuals.
We are made to be in a relationship with one another, however, there are times when those relationships can become fractured or go off course. Likewise, as individuals, we can also become fractured within and become off-course with ourselves. My passion is to work along side you to create meaningful and positive experiences leading to lasting and effective change.
(858) 422-4018 View (858) 422-4018
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Ian Witter
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the only empirically proven therapeutic model for distressed relationships.
Relationships can be wonderful at the best of times, and downright painful at the worst of times. How well do you understand your reactions in these distressed moments? Your partner's? Do you feel out of control? Do you feel disconnected? These are just two ways that people can respond to relational distress. I can help you to slow down in these moments to help you express yourself in a way that is congruent, and most importantly, in a way that lets you be heard by your partner, family, co-workers, and yourself.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the only empirically proven therapeutic model for distressed relationships.
Relationships can be wonderful at the best of times, and downright painful at the worst of times. How well do you understand your reactions in these distressed moments? Your partner's? Do you feel out of control? Do you feel disconnected? These are just two ways that people can respond to relational distress. I can help you to slow down in these moments to help you express yourself in a way that is congruent, and most importantly, in a way that lets you be heard by your partner, family, co-workers, and yourself.
(619) 319-9749 View (619) 319-9749
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Kristin Flowers
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92128
With couples, I use emotionally focused therapy that identifies communication and behavior patterns that couples get stuck in.
Hi! My name is Kristin Flowers and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist here in beautiful California. I specialize in helping anxious people to heal and recover from perfectionism, gas lighting, and toxic relationships, as well as past events or memories that may still be impacting life in a negative way. I help people who are trying to be perfect and feel exhausted and wondering who they are anymore. The people I help are feeling anxious, lonely, and stressed out to the breaking point. Sleep is difficult if not impossible. Asking for help is so hard because you're so used to fixing everything yourself.
With couples, I use emotionally focused therapy that identifies communication and behavior patterns that couples get stuck in.
Hi! My name is Kristin Flowers and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist here in beautiful California. I specialize in helping anxious people to heal and recover from perfectionism, gas lighting, and toxic relationships, as well as past events or memories that may still be impacting life in a negative way. I help people who are trying to be perfect and feel exhausted and wondering who they are anymore. The people I help are feeling anxious, lonely, and stressed out to the breaking point. Sleep is difficult if not impossible. Asking for help is so hard because you're so used to fixing everything yourself.
(858) 201-5862 View (858) 201-5862
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One Life Therapy: Alice Wu-Cardona, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92117
I work from a trauma focused lens using Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) modalities.
Sometimes our best life can feel out of reach. A part of us feels stuck in cognitive or relational patterns that served us at one time, but do not serve us well anymore. We want to make some changes, but we find ourselves stuck. Poet Mary Oliver asked the question, "What will you do with this one wild and precious life?" I'm here to listen as you figure out how you want to answer this question, and to witness the work you need to do to get there. Our best selves, living our best lives, are within reach.
I work from a trauma focused lens using Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) modalities.
Sometimes our best life can feel out of reach. A part of us feels stuck in cognitive or relational patterns that served us at one time, but do not serve us well anymore. We want to make some changes, but we find ourselves stuck. Poet Mary Oliver asked the question, "What will you do with this one wild and precious life?" I'm here to listen as you figure out how you want to answer this question, and to witness the work you need to do to get there. Our best selves, living our best lives, are within reach.
(619) 554-0437 View (619) 554-0437
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Carolyn Gerard
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92101
Are you one who wants to talk your problems out? Or one who prefers to avoid fighting and shuts down? As an Emotionally Focused therapist and Trauma Specialist I help couples make sense of these challenges and restore a safe and loving connection.
My specialty is HELPING COUPLES IN CRISIS navigate through the pain of disconnection. If you've discovered infidelity or betrayal in your relationship, and not sure how to move forward, I can help. With trust completely off the table, I help couples create safe enough boundaries to make sense of how the relationship got off track. You don't have to suffer alone. Together we can restore honesty, trust and intimacy back to your relationship.
Are you one who wants to talk your problems out? Or one who prefers to avoid fighting and shuts down? As an Emotionally Focused therapist and Trauma Specialist I help couples make sense of these challenges and restore a safe and loving connection.
My specialty is HELPING COUPLES IN CRISIS navigate through the pain of disconnection. If you've discovered infidelity or betrayal in your relationship, and not sure how to move forward, I can help. With trust completely off the table, I help couples create safe enough boundaries to make sense of how the relationship got off track. You don't have to suffer alone. Together we can restore honesty, trust and intimacy back to your relationship.
(858) 367-3916 View (858) 367-3916
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Penelope Young Andrade
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92129
I offer a unique blend of mindfulness and body based, relational and emotionally focused therapy.
My ideal client is a person who doesn't want to give up on him/her/themself and the dream of a fulfilling life. I support clients to know the truth: they deserve love and success no matter what wounds they've experienced. I help people uncover the deep wisdom and restorative potential living within them. I do this gently in the present moment by reconnecting clients with healing, embodied emotional experience in safe connection with me. This gets vitality and intuition moving again I support people to take responsibility (but not blame) in any life/work/relationship upset because this is what works!
I offer a unique blend of mindfulness and body based, relational and emotionally focused therapy.
My ideal client is a person who doesn't want to give up on him/her/themself and the dream of a fulfilling life. I support clients to know the truth: they deserve love and success no matter what wounds they've experienced. I help people uncover the deep wisdom and restorative potential living within them. I do this gently in the present moment by reconnecting clients with healing, embodied emotional experience in safe connection with me. This gets vitality and intuition moving again I support people to take responsibility (but not blame) in any life/work/relationship upset because this is what works!
(858) 799-0079 View (858) 799-0079
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Alliant Couple and Family Clinic
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92131
Our San Diego clinic has been specializing In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) since 2010 EFT to address challenges in relationships, and our new Long Beach clinic utilizes a variety of client-centered approaches.
Welcome to Alliant Couple and Family Clinic! We offer mental health services to the community on a sliding fee scale. Services provided in-person in San Diego and Long Beach or virtually throughout California. Our team of pre-licensed therapists are available to treat mental health issues with individuals, couples, and families while receiving clinical supervision from highly experienced clinicians.
Our San Diego clinic has been specializing In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) since 2010 EFT to address challenges in relationships, and our new Long Beach clinic utilizes a variety of client-centered approaches.
Welcome to Alliant Couple and Family Clinic! We offer mental health services to the community on a sliding fee scale. Services provided in-person in San Diego and Long Beach or virtually throughout California. Our team of pre-licensed therapists are available to treat mental health issues with individuals, couples, and families while receiving clinical supervision from highly experienced clinicians.
(858) 422-3618 View (858) 422-3618
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Dr. Mark Gregory Karris
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, MDiv, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
Dr. Mark Gregory Karris, located in San Diego, is a marriage and family therapist renowned for his expertise in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) along with various other cutting-edge methods aimed at enhancing couple's connections and overcoming relational hurdles. Therapy is meticulously customized to the distinct needs of the couple, leveraging his broad background as a university professor, author, researcher, and workshop leader. Renowned for his exceptional skill in addressing complex relationship dynamics, Dr. Karris holds a stellar reputation in the field. Reach out to him today!
Dr. Mark Gregory Karris, located in San Diego, is a marriage and family therapist renowned for his expertise in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) along with various other cutting-edge methods aimed at enhancing couple's connections and overcoming relational hurdles. Therapy is meticulously customized to the distinct needs of the couple, leveraging his broad background as a university professor, author, researcher, and workshop leader. Renowned for his exceptional skill in addressing complex relationship dynamics, Dr. Karris holds a stellar reputation in the field. Reach out to him today!
(619) 492-3775 View (619) 492-3775
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Amanda Morales
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92122  (Online Only)
My approach combines EFT and the Gottman Method, focusing on emotional engagement, and understanding.
In my practice, I specialize in assisting couples navigating the emotional complexities of intimate relationships. These experiences, unique in their impact and intensity, require a sensitive and nuanced approach. Utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, I strive to create a supportive space where couples can explore their feelings, strengthen their connection, and develop resilience. These evidence-based methods not only help in understanding and processing emotions but also in building a deeper, more meaningful bond, paving the way for healing and growth.
My approach combines EFT and the Gottman Method, focusing on emotional engagement, and understanding.
In my practice, I specialize in assisting couples navigating the emotional complexities of intimate relationships. These experiences, unique in their impact and intensity, require a sensitive and nuanced approach. Utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, I strive to create a supportive space where couples can explore their feelings, strengthen their connection, and develop resilience. These evidence-based methods not only help in understanding and processing emotions but also in building a deeper, more meaningful bond, paving the way for healing and growth.
(858) 264-3384 View (858) 264-3384
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Kathryn Krane
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92110
I am an EMDR Certified Therapist, have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, ego state interventions, and CBT.
Do you feel like you and your partner are stuck in a place where you are misunderstood, out of synch, and angry- no matter how hard and how sincerely you try to connect? Does a part of you want to make positive choices and life improvements while another part of you feels stuck in pursuing activities that make you feel ashamed, lost, or numb? Or do you feel like the ways that you have coped for most of your life are no longer working or are getting in the way of you moving forward, but you aren’t sure how to change? This can feel so frustrating and confusing- you may not even feel like you can describe what it’s like for you!
I am an EMDR Certified Therapist, have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, ego state interventions, and CBT.
Do you feel like you and your partner are stuck in a place where you are misunderstood, out of synch, and angry- no matter how hard and how sincerely you try to connect? Does a part of you want to make positive choices and life improvements while another part of you feels stuck in pursuing activities that make you feel ashamed, lost, or numb? Or do you feel like the ways that you have coped for most of your life are no longer working or are getting in the way of you moving forward, but you aren’t sure how to change? This can feel so frustrating and confusing- you may not even feel like you can describe what it’s like for you!
(619) 639-1364 View (619) 639-1364
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Em Mitchell
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92109  (Online Only)
I specialize in evidence-based treatment for couple and relationship difficulties, working from Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) models.
Feeling stuck or frustrated? Tired of trying so hard with it just not working? I’m here to help you figure out what’s backfiring on you, and how to move forward from unhelpful patterns. If you want to understand and improve your relationships, intimacy, or emotional distress, I can help.
I specialize in evidence-based treatment for couple and relationship difficulties, working from Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) models.
Feeling stuck or frustrated? Tired of trying so hard with it just not working? I’m here to help you figure out what’s backfiring on you, and how to move forward from unhelpful patterns. If you want to understand and improve your relationships, intimacy, or emotional distress, I can help.
(858) 727-5898 View (858) 727-5898
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Maren Jorgensen
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92126  (Online Only)
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and attachment theory to build a framework, but am eclectic in nature-- meaning I use the approach that best suits your needs and is tailored to you as an individual.
Receiving therapy should no longer be a taboo. Confiding in others and receiving professional help is something we all do in many facets of our life. Most of us see a doctor or go get our car fixed when we have issues with our physical health or a tire is loose, so why not see a therapist to help improve our mental health? Therapy can also be preventative. Why wait before issues feel too far out of reach?
I use Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and attachment theory to build a framework, but am eclectic in nature-- meaning I use the approach that best suits your needs and is tailored to you as an individual.
Receiving therapy should no longer be a taboo. Confiding in others and receiving professional help is something we all do in many facets of our life. Most of us see a doctor or go get our car fixed when we have issues with our physical health or a tire is loose, so why not see a therapist to help improve our mental health? Therapy can also be preventative. Why wait before issues feel too far out of reach?
(858) 221-6961 View (858) 221-6961
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Merylee Robbins
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92117
For couples, I utilize emotionally focused therapy (EFT) to highlight the roots of persistent relationship difficulties and inspire lasting change.
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, confused, or hopeless? Transformation within yourself and your relationships is possible. To thrive in life, each of us needs connection, support, belonging, balance, and a sense of meaningful purpose - and therapy can help make these foundational goals a reality.
For couples, I utilize emotionally focused therapy (EFT) to highlight the roots of persistent relationship difficulties and inspire lasting change.
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, confused, or hopeless? Transformation within yourself and your relationships is possible. To thrive in life, each of us needs connection, support, belonging, balance, and a sense of meaningful purpose - and therapy can help make these foundational goals a reality.
(619) 566-1350 View (619) 566-1350
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Daniel Sharer
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92129
For couples I use the Gottman Method/Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hi there, I'm Daniel Sharer, LMFT89691. I pride myself on being non-judgmental and client centered. My goal is that a client feels a sense of hope that no matter the issue taking place that things can and will get better. I have experience working with adolescents 13 and older. However, I am comfortable working with adults at all ages.
For couples I use the Gottman Method/Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Hi there, I'm Daniel Sharer, LMFT89691. I pride myself on being non-judgmental and client centered. My goal is that a client feels a sense of hope that no matter the issue taking place that things can and will get better. I have experience working with adolescents 13 and older. However, I am comfortable working with adults at all ages.
(858) 463-4898 View (858) 463-4898
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Dave Fung
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
I utilize EFT, an attachment-based approach that focuses on how relationships influence us.
True story: I’ve gotten my truck stuck in the same sandy desert spot on TWO different occasions - both times, thinking I knew what to do. Nope. Both times I needed help. Like with my truck, the help I have received in my life has helped me understand who I am and now it inspires me to support others in their journey. I have the privilege of supporting numerous couples, teens, and individuals, and I take an approach that is warm, constructive, and collaborative. Our time is spent understanding who you are, what is getting you stuck, and exploring what it may take to get you where you want to be.
I utilize EFT, an attachment-based approach that focuses on how relationships influence us.
True story: I’ve gotten my truck stuck in the same sandy desert spot on TWO different occasions - both times, thinking I knew what to do. Nope. Both times I needed help. Like with my truck, the help I have received in my life has helped me understand who I am and now it inspires me to support others in their journey. I have the privilege of supporting numerous couples, teens, and individuals, and I take an approach that is warm, constructive, and collaborative. Our time is spent understanding who you are, what is getting you stuck, and exploring what it may take to get you where you want to be.
(619) 404-0468 View (619) 404-0468
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Kathy Parks
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Diego, CA 92108
My practice incorporates a variety of theoretical orientations; primary are Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I offer clients a supportive, caring environment to identify solutions for growth and well-being. Together we can identify specific problems and create common sense strategies that have high probabilities of success. The areas often discussed in therapy include relationships, substance abuse, career frustrations, illness and life transitions, and one's own experience of psychological symptoms, most commonly anxiety and depression. By approaching psychotherapy through a person-centered, solution-focused, skills based perspective, I can assist individuals from diverse backgrounds.
My practice incorporates a variety of theoretical orientations; primary are Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I offer clients a supportive, caring environment to identify solutions for growth and well-being. Together we can identify specific problems and create common sense strategies that have high probabilities of success. The areas often discussed in therapy include relationships, substance abuse, career frustrations, illness and life transitions, and one's own experience of psychological symptoms, most commonly anxiety and depression. By approaching psychotherapy through a person-centered, solution-focused, skills based perspective, I can assist individuals from diverse backgrounds.
(619) 304-0631 View (619) 304-0631
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Kim Kuskovsky
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92109  (Online Only)
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR to help you understand complex relational patterns, explore deeper emotions & how to use them to create a more positive relationship, and reprocess painful memories of the past that may be impacting your present .
Do you long to feel understood and more connected with your partner? Do you dream about being able to handle overwhelming feelings better? Do you wish you felt more in control of the past? When your relationship is challenged, it takes up all of your energy. You become triggered and overwhelmed with frustration, worry, and sadness, unsure how to handle it all. Maybe you feel helpless and out of control, haunted by the feeling that this pain is familiar from the past. You deserve to get out of these stuck patterns, feel confident in your ability to deal with challenges, & find peace in your relationships and with yourself.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR to help you understand complex relational patterns, explore deeper emotions & how to use them to create a more positive relationship, and reprocess painful memories of the past that may be impacting your present .
Do you long to feel understood and more connected with your partner? Do you dream about being able to handle overwhelming feelings better? Do you wish you felt more in control of the past? When your relationship is challenged, it takes up all of your energy. You become triggered and overwhelmed with frustration, worry, and sadness, unsure how to handle it all. Maybe you feel helpless and out of control, haunted by the feeling that this pain is familiar from the past. You deserve to get out of these stuck patterns, feel confident in your ability to deal with challenges, & find peace in your relationships and with yourself.
(619) 853-6259 View (619) 853-6259
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Tonia Ferguson
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, MFT, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Diego, CA 92108
I have been trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Polyvagal therapy.
If you’ve stumbled across this ad, you must be in need of some support. I am passionate about helping people work through life experiences that increase depression, anxiety, addiction, self-harm and suicidal thoughts. My focus is to decrease the symptoms that are impacting the quality of your life and improve your relationship with yourself and others. During my life, I have lived through many experiences that caused severe emotional distress. I tried, unsuccessfully, to manage the impact mental health symptoms had over my life that felt out of control. Something needed to change.
I have been trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Polyvagal therapy.
If you’ve stumbled across this ad, you must be in need of some support. I am passionate about helping people work through life experiences that increase depression, anxiety, addiction, self-harm and suicidal thoughts. My focus is to decrease the symptoms that are impacting the quality of your life and improve your relationship with yourself and others. During my life, I have lived through many experiences that caused severe emotional distress. I tried, unsuccessfully, to manage the impact mental health symptoms had over my life that felt out of control. Something needed to change.
(619) 566-7710 View (619) 566-7710
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.