Codependency Therapists in San Diego, CA
You’ve always been there for others, but giving yourself the same care feels harder. Maybe you say yes when you want to say no, feel guilty setting limits, or wonder if your needs really matter. You might be used to overfunctioning—taking on too much, striving to do everything right, or worrying how others will see you. You’ve been holding it all together but feel stretched thin, disconnected, or unsure who you are beyond everyone else’s expectations. You want to feel grounded, confident, and at ease—to trust yourself again and make space for what truly matters. Therapy can help you release old patterns and feel more like you.
You’ve always been there for others, but giving yourself the same care feels harder. Maybe you say yes when you want to say no, feel guilty setting limits, or wonder if your needs really matter. You might be used to overfunctioning—taking on too much, striving to do everything right, or worrying how others will see you. You’ve been holding it all together but feel stretched thin, disconnected, or unsure who you are beyond everyone else’s expectations. You want to feel grounded, confident, and at ease—to trust yourself again and make space for what truly matters. Therapy can help you release old patterns and feel more like you.
Tevin D., LPCC | Founder of TherapyNow
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MS, LPCC
Online Only
I work with clients facing trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, codependency, and major life transitions.
For as long as you can remember, life’s been a struggle. You learned early on that it was safest to stay small, quiet, and not make a fuss. As you got older, you found yourself repeating these same patterns in your relationships, enduring a string of toxic partners because you don’t believe you deserve any better. All the while, you keep a smile on your face. You take on more and more responsibility, spreading yourself perilously thin, hiding your feelings behind a successful facade. It’s exhausting, but it’s easier than facing the truth; that every day you feel more anxious, trapped, and disconnected. Something has to change.
I work with clients facing trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, codependency, and major life transitions.
For as long as you can remember, life’s been a struggle. You learned early on that it was safest to stay small, quiet, and not make a fuss. As you got older, you found yourself repeating these same patterns in your relationships, enduring a string of toxic partners because you don’t believe you deserve any better. All the while, you keep a smile on your face. You take on more and more responsibility, spreading yourself perilously thin, hiding your feelings behind a successful facade. It’s exhausting, but it’s easier than facing the truth; that every day you feel more anxious, trapped, and disconnected. Something has to change.
I work with issues like codependency, anxiety, emotional neglect, and attachment wounds—helping you understand your patterns, heal old pain, and build safer, more fulfilling relationships.
If you’ve spent years feeling unseen, unsafe, or disconnected—from yourself or others—you’re not alone. I work with adults in San Diego who are healing from childhood trauma, emotional neglect, or growing up in families affected by addiction, conflict, or instability. My approach is depth-oriented and relational, helping you understand how early experiences continue to shape your present. Together, we explore your inner world so you can move from survival to authentic connection—with yourself and those you love.
I work with issues like codependency, anxiety, emotional neglect, and attachment wounds—helping you understand your patterns, heal old pain, and build safer, more fulfilling relationships.
If you’ve spent years feeling unseen, unsafe, or disconnected—from yourself or others—you’re not alone. I work with adults in San Diego who are healing from childhood trauma, emotional neglect, or growing up in families affected by addiction, conflict, or instability. My approach is depth-oriented and relational, helping you understand how early experiences continue to shape your present. Together, we explore your inner world so you can move from survival to authentic connection—with yourself and those you love.
I specialize in navigating through codependency, boundaries, and low self-esteem in order to gain awareness and tools with the goal of creating a healthy relationship with yourself and others.
Self-esteem is the foundation of how you treat yourself. Without it your health and your relationships may deteriorate and life becomes a struggle.
Feeling stuck can lead to a host of destructive thoughts and emotions that if left unattended can greatly decrease your quality of life. If you are sad, anxious, unable to make decisions, or feel lost, there is help. You have the ability to learn about yourself and utilize the tools necessary to regain control of your life.
I specialize in navigating through codependency, boundaries, and low self-esteem in order to gain awareness and tools with the goal of creating a healthy relationship with yourself and others.
Self-esteem is the foundation of how you treat yourself. Without it your health and your relationships may deteriorate and life becomes a struggle.
Feeling stuck can lead to a host of destructive thoughts and emotions that if left unattended can greatly decrease your quality of life. If you are sad, anxious, unable to make decisions, or feel lost, there is help. You have the ability to learn about yourself and utilize the tools necessary to regain control of your life.
Have you tried to overcome obstacles and barriers to a healthy, happy life? Are you at a place where you want to be healthy and thrive in your life? Have you considered reaching out to someone else for help but struggle with being vulnerable and asking for help? You have taken the first step in recognizing that working through life’s challenges alone is not necessary. I have experience helping others through adjustment periods and struggles that often overwhelm and can at times debilitate and create stress, anxiety, depression and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.
Have you tried to overcome obstacles and barriers to a healthy, happy life? Are you at a place where you want to be healthy and thrive in your life? Have you considered reaching out to someone else for help but struggle with being vulnerable and asking for help? You have taken the first step in recognizing that working through life’s challenges alone is not necessary. I have experience helping others through adjustment periods and struggles that often overwhelm and can at times debilitate and create stress, anxiety, depression and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.
I support teens, couples, trauma survivors, individuals who have experienced intimate partner violence (IPV), those struggling with codependency and LGBTQ+ individuals—especially those navigating identity, faith, and family.
Using evidence-based techniques like Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), I help clients develop healthier coping strategies, strengthen emotional regulation skills, and gain deeper insight into their personal narratives. I may also provide homework to support learning practical tools that empower.
I support teens, couples, trauma survivors, individuals who have experienced intimate partner violence (IPV), those struggling with codependency and LGBTQ+ individuals—especially those navigating identity, faith, and family.
Using evidence-based techniques like Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), I help clients develop healthier coping strategies, strengthen emotional regulation skills, and gain deeper insight into their personal narratives. I may also provide homework to support learning practical tools that empower.
You didn’t get to where you are by accident—but you still don’t always trust your own judgment. You reach career goals, support others, and look like you’ve got it all together, yet still feel stuck in self-doubt, burnout, or emotional patterns you thought you outgrew. I help high-achieving women untangle the perfectionism that leads to overwhelm, the fear that blocks boundaries, and the relationship struggles that leave them feeling alone—even when they’re not. I have a special interest in helping women who are seeking to turn their adhd into a superpower rather than a saboteur.
You didn’t get to where you are by accident—but you still don’t always trust your own judgment. You reach career goals, support others, and look like you’ve got it all together, yet still feel stuck in self-doubt, burnout, or emotional patterns you thought you outgrew. I help high-achieving women untangle the perfectionism that leads to overwhelm, the fear that blocks boundaries, and the relationship struggles that leave them feeling alone—even when they’re not. I have a special interest in helping women who are seeking to turn their adhd into a superpower rather than a saboteur.
This includes and is not limited to trauma-informed therapy, such as EDMR, EFT, mindfulness, IFS (parts work), grounding, resourcing, neural retraining, coaching, Constructed Awareness, attachment theory, somatic therapy, codependency work, and tools, positive psychology, strengths-based therapy, and more :)
I specialize in chronic health conditions and trauma, which I understand first hand. Chronic medical conditions (i.e. dysautonomia POTS, EDS, Lyme disease, Bartonella, IBS, fibro, fatigue CFS, Hashimoto’s, mast cell MCAS, sickle cell disease, mold illness CIRS, etc.) often come with significant challenges, like fear, anxiety, grief, medical PTSD, and may interfere with relationships and daily function. I utilize various holistic evidence-based treatment modalities and practice-based evidence, contingent on each person’s needs and goals, with an added focus on mindfulness techniques, positive psychology, and strengths-based therapy.
This includes and is not limited to trauma-informed therapy, such as EDMR, EFT, mindfulness, IFS (parts work), grounding, resourcing, neural retraining, coaching, Constructed Awareness, attachment theory, somatic therapy, codependency work, and tools, positive psychology, strengths-based therapy, and more :)
I specialize in chronic health conditions and trauma, which I understand first hand. Chronic medical conditions (i.e. dysautonomia POTS, EDS, Lyme disease, Bartonella, IBS, fibro, fatigue CFS, Hashimoto’s, mast cell MCAS, sickle cell disease, mold illness CIRS, etc.) often come with significant challenges, like fear, anxiety, grief, medical PTSD, and may interfere with relationships and daily function. I utilize various holistic evidence-based treatment modalities and practice-based evidence, contingent on each person’s needs and goals, with an added focus on mindfulness techniques, positive psychology, and strengths-based therapy.
Learn how to feel more connected to yourself, others and the world around you. Therapy provides all the elements of intimacy: honest communication, vulnerability and trust. Good therapy is challenging yet warm, providing both structure and empathy for your unique experience.
Learn how to feel more connected to yourself, others and the world around you. Therapy provides all the elements of intimacy: honest communication, vulnerability and trust. Good therapy is challenging yet warm, providing both structure and empathy for your unique experience.
If you struggle with codependency, constantly find yourself in the same toxic relationships, totally frustrated by your trauma riddled past and the long lasting symptoms that come along with it, or have trouble managing your anger, I am the therapist for YOU!
I utilize multiple therapy modalities, but my favorites are Solution Focused and CBT as I feel these approaches help provide you the tools to an improved quality of life and get you to where you want to be faster. I am trained in EMDR and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), both trauma therapies designed to help clients heal and move on with their lives.
If you struggle with codependency, constantly find yourself in the same toxic relationships, totally frustrated by your trauma riddled past and the long lasting symptoms that come along with it, or have trouble managing your anger, I am the therapist for YOU!
I utilize multiple therapy modalities, but my favorites are Solution Focused and CBT as I feel these approaches help provide you the tools to an improved quality of life and get you to where you want to be faster. I am trained in EMDR and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), both trauma therapies designed to help clients heal and move on with their lives.
Are you a high achiever struggling with anxiety, overthinking, and feeling like you have to always have it together? I specialize in working with helping professionals and high achievers overcome burnout, imposter syndrome and unresolved trauma. I use EMDR and IFS approaches to help you address anxiety, depression, trauma, attachment wounds and relationship issues. As a survivor of the Las Vegas shooting I know first hand what it takes to heal through unthinkable events. Trauma does not need to be a life sentence and healing is absolutely possible.
Are you a high achiever struggling with anxiety, overthinking, and feeling like you have to always have it together? I specialize in working with helping professionals and high achievers overcome burnout, imposter syndrome and unresolved trauma. I use EMDR and IFS approaches to help you address anxiety, depression, trauma, attachment wounds and relationship issues. As a survivor of the Las Vegas shooting I know first hand what it takes to heal through unthinkable events. Trauma does not need to be a life sentence and healing is absolutely possible.
Thank you for taking the time to read my profile. I am an empathic and compassionate bilingual (Spanish-English) Licensed clinical social worker, LCSW. I am a genuine, caring, and culturally sensitive clinician. I have over 25 years in the Mental health field and 20 of those years in addiction medicine. I work with adults, couples, adolescents families, and blended families.
Thank you for taking the time to read my profile. I am an empathic and compassionate bilingual (Spanish-English) Licensed clinical social worker, LCSW. I am a genuine, caring, and culturally sensitive clinician. I have over 25 years in the Mental health field and 20 of those years in addiction medicine. I work with adults, couples, adolescents families, and blended families.
You’ve always been the one others rely on, thoughtful, capable, and deeply caring. But lately, something feels off. You’re tired of overthinking, overgiving, and feeling disconnected from yourself. You want space to explore your inner world, reconnect with what you want, and finally make choices that take care of you. You’re not here for surface-level fixes, you want depth, clarity, and alignment. Therapy with me is a space to unravel old patterns, come home to yourself, and build a life that reflects your authentic self and actually supports you.
You’ve always been the one others rely on, thoughtful, capable, and deeply caring. But lately, something feels off. You’re tired of overthinking, overgiving, and feeling disconnected from yourself. You want space to explore your inner world, reconnect with what you want, and finally make choices that take care of you. You’re not here for surface-level fixes, you want depth, clarity, and alignment. Therapy with me is a space to unravel old patterns, come home to yourself, and build a life that reflects your authentic self and actually supports you.
I deeply believe that healing and change are possible for everyone, even when it feels like nothing works or like we don't quite fit the mold. Through both life experience and therapeutic work, I've learned that sometimes it's less about "fixing" ourselves and more about understanding how we're wired, so we can discover what truly resonate and works for us.
My approach is both intuitive and integrative, meaning I blend evidence-based practices (like attachment theory, systems therapy, mindfulness, and somatic awareness) with deep, attuned listening to meet you where you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
I deeply believe that healing and change are possible for everyone, even when it feels like nothing works or like we don't quite fit the mold. Through both life experience and therapeutic work, I've learned that sometimes it's less about "fixing" ourselves and more about understanding how we're wired, so we can discover what truly resonate and works for us.
My approach is both intuitive and integrative, meaning I blend evidence-based practices (like attachment theory, systems therapy, mindfulness, and somatic awareness) with deep, attuned listening to meet you where you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Trauma, attachment wounds, and anxiety can shape the way you see yourself and the world, making it difficult to feel safe, connected, or at peace. You may find yourself stuck in patterns of self-doubt, fear, or emotional distress, unsure of how to break free. Since earning my LMFT degree from the University of La Verne in 2006, I have dedicated my career to helping individuals heal from these struggles, driven by a deep passion for supporting others through life’s challenges. Therapy offers a space to process past experiences, rebuild trust in yourself, and develop the tools to move forward with confidence.
Trauma, attachment wounds, and anxiety can shape the way you see yourself and the world, making it difficult to feel safe, connected, or at peace. You may find yourself stuck in patterns of self-doubt, fear, or emotional distress, unsure of how to break free. Since earning my LMFT degree from the University of La Verne in 2006, I have dedicated my career to helping individuals heal from these struggles, driven by a deep passion for supporting others through life’s challenges. Therapy offers a space to process past experiences, rebuild trust in yourself, and develop the tools to move forward with confidence.
I hold an MA in Counseling Psychology from Argosy University, San Francisco Bay Area (2018), and I support adults navigating codependency, trauma, and the unique stressors faced by LGBTQ+ individuals.
Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and mindfulness-based approaches, I help you notice what's no longer serving you and move toward choices that reflect your values. Our sessions can be a space to reconnect—with your emotions, your needs, and your sense of self.
I hold an MA in Counseling Psychology from Argosy University, San Francisco Bay Area (2018), and I support adults navigating codependency, trauma, and the unique stressors faced by LGBTQ+ individuals.
Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and mindfulness-based approaches, I help you notice what's no longer serving you and move toward choices that reflect your values. Our sessions can be a space to reconnect—with your emotions, your needs, and your sense of self.
Matthew H. Koch, Marriage & Family Therapist, Inc.
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
San Diego, CA 92123
Confronting the challenges that accompany our lives can be daunting and result in a deviation from the expectations we have of ourselves and those with whom we interact. I am here to assist you in the process to heighten awareness and gain more meaningful and fulfilling experiences in your life through psychotherapy. I utilize the DAFT (Depth & Freedom Therapy) approach that combines various counseling theories and techniques, philosophical tenets, and spiritual teachings to collaborate with clients in order to strengthen individual identity while considering the impact of past experiences, modern day socio-cultural influences, and current personal issues.
Confronting the challenges that accompany our lives can be daunting and result in a deviation from the expectations we have of ourselves and those with whom we interact. I am here to assist you in the process to heighten awareness and gain more meaningful and fulfilling experiences in your life through psychotherapy. I utilize the DAFT (Depth & Freedom Therapy) approach that combines various counseling theories and techniques, philosophical tenets, and spiritual teachings to collaborate with clients in order to strengthen individual identity while considering the impact of past experiences, modern day socio-cultural influences, and current personal issues.
You don’t have to pretend you’re “fine” anymore. So many of us are good at holding it all together — showing up at work, caring for others, keeping the routine moving — while inside feeling lonely, restless, or cut off from what really matters. Maybe it’s your relationship, your sex life, or simply how you feel in your own skin. You may be craving more — not just comfort, but intimacy and meaning that make each day feel worthwhile.
You don’t have to pretend you’re “fine” anymore. So many of us are good at holding it all together — showing up at work, caring for others, keeping the routine moving — while inside feeling lonely, restless, or cut off from what really matters. Maybe it’s your relationship, your sex life, or simply how you feel in your own skin. You may be craving more — not just comfort, but intimacy and meaning that make each day feel worthwhile.
Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed out or sad to the point that you can't live the life you want? Do you want to feel better & have a life worth living? Personal Evolution Psychotherapy (PEP) is a team of therapists that use Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to overcome social anxiety, depression, communication & relationship issues, family conflict, panic, excessive worry & depression. We provide much more than traditional talk therapy & help you get results to help control your emotions & your life. By doing this we can help more quickly.
Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed out or sad to the point that you can't live the life you want? Do you want to feel better & have a life worth living? Personal Evolution Psychotherapy (PEP) is a team of therapists that use Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to overcome social anxiety, depression, communication & relationship issues, family conflict, panic, excessive worry & depression. We provide much more than traditional talk therapy & help you get results to help control your emotions & your life. By doing this we can help more quickly.
Do you long for a sense of peace and freedom? Trauma, abuse, anxiety or depression can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and sometimes in cycles of exhaustion or disconnection. These feelings can impact how you relate to people you are close to, or find joy and meaning in your daily life. I'm here to help you navigate and heal from the wounds of the past, help you reclaim your sense of self, and build a more fulfilling future. Whether you’re coping with emotional wounds, divorce, relationship struggles, or unresolved pain, together we can work toward healing, clarity, and a future filled with connection and purpose.
Do you long for a sense of peace and freedom? Trauma, abuse, anxiety or depression can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and sometimes in cycles of exhaustion or disconnection. These feelings can impact how you relate to people you are close to, or find joy and meaning in your daily life. I'm here to help you navigate and heal from the wounds of the past, help you reclaim your sense of self, and build a more fulfilling future. Whether you’re coping with emotional wounds, divorce, relationship struggles, or unresolved pain, together we can work toward healing, clarity, and a future filled with connection and purpose.
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Codependency Therapists
What therapy types help with codependency problems?
Both couples and family therapy and cognitive and behavioral therapy (CBT) can help with the relationship difficulties referred to as codependency. Such problems typically include inappropriate feelings of responsibility for a loved one’s destructive behavior, irrational patterns of thinking about such behavior, and family interaction patterns in which the needs of one troubled member override the needs of others in a household.
What happens in therapy for codependency?
Spouses and family members learn and practice how to interact and support each other in a healthy way without sacrificing their own needs or well-being. They learn the limits of their responsibility for their loved ones and correct faulty patterns of thinking and feeling that underlie codependent behavior. Individuals may be encouraged to nurture an array of social relationships and to cultivate their own talents and interests so that they develop a healthy sense of self outside the family.
How does therapy help a person or couple overcome codependency?
Therapy helps people establish healthy ways of being in a relationship. Spouses and family members learn how to nurture and support one another without sacrificing their own needs or allowing the needs of one person to dominate the dynamic. Individuals learn how to say no and set boundaries, and how to maintain their own identity and self-esteem. Therapy helps people understand that they are not responsible for the feelings and actions of others. It also helps individuals deal with the turbulence that can come from living with a person suffering from such conditions as substance abuse and mental illness.
What is the goal of therapy for codependency?
One goal of therapy for codependency is to alleviate feelings of responsibility for and correct irrational patterns of thinking about loved ones whose behavioral problems override the needs of others in a household. Therapy helps people establish healthy boundaries of behavior and speak up for their own needs in a relationship. In addition, people learn how to maintain a healthy relationship, one in which both parties give and receive equally and are able to retain their own identity.