Sex Therapists in Palo Alto, CA
I work with adolescents and adults of all ages to address a range of mental health needs. Commonly voiced concerns might include depression, anxiety, OCD, navigating major life transitions, work-related stress, interpersonal problems, loneliness, difficulties with intimacy, sexual functioning concerns, and issues related to aspects of ones identity (e.g. age, race/ethnicity, spirituality, ability status, etc.) with particular specialization in the areas of gender and sexuality. In addition to individual therapy services I also provide Emotionally-Focused Therapy for couples.
I work with adolescents and adults of all ages to address a range of mental health needs. Commonly voiced concerns might include depression, anxiety, OCD, navigating major life transitions, work-related stress, interpersonal problems, loneliness, difficulties with intimacy, sexual functioning concerns, and issues related to aspects of ones identity (e.g. age, race/ethnicity, spirituality, ability status, etc.) with particular specialization in the areas of gender and sexuality. In addition to individual therapy services I also provide Emotionally-Focused Therapy for couples.
Gloria Saldana
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Palo Alto, CA 94306 (Online Only)
I have extensive training in ERP for OCD and Gottman and sex therapy for couples.
I get it, relationships can be hard even if it’s the one you have with yourself. Even more difficult sometimes is admitting it and talking to someone about it. That’s why I try my best to keep it real, open, and (when appropriate) fun while working on these tough parts of life. I’m here to support you in reaching your goals, whether that’s to have a stronger relationship with your partner, improve communication, get out of dating anxiety, or support with any sexual issues.
I have extensive training in ERP for OCD and Gottman and sex therapy for couples.
I get it, relationships can be hard even if it’s the one you have with yourself. Even more difficult sometimes is admitting it and talking to someone about it. That’s why I try my best to keep it real, open, and (when appropriate) fun while working on these tough parts of life. I’m here to support you in reaching your goals, whether that’s to have a stronger relationship with your partner, improve communication, get out of dating anxiety, or support with any sexual issues.
Member of the American Association of Sexuality, Education Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).
Wouldn't it be nice to become clear about how you want to live your life? The dynamic process of a patient and therapist working together so that troubling thoughts and feelings, unrealized dreams and hidden fears can emerge in the therapy session strengthens the ability to grow in meaningful ways, and in intimate relationships. Working with the concept of how individuals balance both the need for autonomy and the need for connection, I will help you sort out how to relate and hold on to yourself.
Member of the American Association of Sexuality, Education Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).
Wouldn't it be nice to become clear about how you want to live your life? The dynamic process of a patient and therapist working together so that troubling thoughts and feelings, unrealized dreams and hidden fears can emerge in the therapy session strengthens the ability to grow in meaningful ways, and in intimate relationships. Working with the concept of how individuals balance both the need for autonomy and the need for connection, I will help you sort out how to relate and hold on to yourself.
Lily Fray
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, EMDR, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Palo Alto, CA 94304
As a sex and relationships therapist, I support individuals and couples in working through communication challenges, discrepancy in desire, betrayal and lack of trust/infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual trauma, sexual inexperience, STI/STDs, sex therapy, ENM, sexual dysfunction such as erectile dysfunction and vaginismus, and more. I use a warm and nonjudgmental approach to support clients in releasing shame to get to the root of healing. I believe that all clients have the inner resources and tools with which to navigate life’s challenges and that it is my job to support clients in identifying and strengthening these tools.
As a sex and relationships therapist, I support individuals and couples in working through communication challenges, discrepancy in desire, betrayal and lack of trust/infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual trauma, sexual inexperience, STI/STDs, sex therapy, ENM, sexual dysfunction such as erectile dysfunction and vaginismus, and more. I use a warm and nonjudgmental approach to support clients in releasing shame to get to the root of healing. I believe that all clients have the inner resources and tools with which to navigate life’s challenges and that it is my job to support clients in identifying and strengthening these tools.
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
For individuals, I specialize in the treatment of trauma, PTSD, and sexual health concerns.
These are really tough times, aren't they? Existing issues feel bigger and it can be that much harder to cope. Therapy can heIp. I approach therapy in a warm and collaborative manner to help couples, individuals, and families identify new and adaptive ways to deal with life's challenges. In couples therapy, I use Emotion-Focused and Gottman approaches to help partners learn to manage and repair conflict, rebuild trust and intimacy, and build emotional connections. In family treatment, I'll work with your family to develop adaptive and healthy communication patterns, as well as address parenting concerns and behavioral issues.
For individuals, I specialize in the treatment of trauma, PTSD, and sexual health concerns.
These are really tough times, aren't they? Existing issues feel bigger and it can be that much harder to cope. Therapy can heIp. I approach therapy in a warm and collaborative manner to help couples, individuals, and families identify new and adaptive ways to deal with life's challenges. In couples therapy, I use Emotion-Focused and Gottman approaches to help partners learn to manage and repair conflict, rebuild trust and intimacy, and build emotional connections. In family treatment, I'll work with your family to develop adaptive and healthy communication patterns, as well as address parenting concerns and behavioral issues.
Bev Jewell Aasect Certified Sex Therapist
Counselor, LPCC
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94301 (Online Only)
I specialize in Sex Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, DBT, CBT, and use a Mindfulness approach for managing anxiety and emotions.
Are you experiencing: relationship issues, feeling overwhelmed, or stuck? Perhaps you are in a Neuro-Diverse relationship (you're wired differently) and stuggle to understand each other and get your needs met? Do you want to learn better commuication and problem-solving skills? Maybe you want a more fulfilling sex life - solo, or with your partner. There are many things that affect us and our sexuality over time - stress, age, life events, hormone changes... I can help you navigate these areas to find the answers you're looking for and get you to a better place!
I specialize in Sex Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, DBT, CBT, and use a Mindfulness approach for managing anxiety and emotions.
Are you experiencing: relationship issues, feeling overwhelmed, or stuck? Perhaps you are in a Neuro-Diverse relationship (you're wired differently) and stuggle to understand each other and get your needs met? Do you want to learn better commuication and problem-solving skills? Maybe you want a more fulfilling sex life - solo, or with your partner. There are many things that affect us and our sexuality over time - stress, age, life events, hormone changes... I can help you navigate these areas to find the answers you're looking for and get you to a better place!
My specialty focuses on relational health and the body's ability to manage stress, anxiety, rest, and be in healthy relationship with ourself/others -- relationship/ sexuality, trauma resolution ( sexual/physical abuse, early bonding issues, shock trauma), anxiety/stress, grief/loss.
When coping styles or life experiences challenge our ability to navigate the world, we often need a guide to help get a different perspective and learn new skills. Chronic distressful emotions/stress, burnout, negative inner dialogue, communication and relationship problems, problematic conflict styles, unmet needs/desires, trauma symptoms, and other difficulties lead to emotional distress and disease. Decode your emotions, manage stress/anxiety, cultivate wisdom, move from depression to finding your passion, resolve grief/trauma and help reclaim your joy, transform unhealthy habits, improve relationships while focusing on what's meaningful for a lifetime of self-awareness and acceptance.
My specialty focuses on relational health and the body's ability to manage stress, anxiety, rest, and be in healthy relationship with ourself/others -- relationship/ sexuality, trauma resolution ( sexual/physical abuse, early bonding issues, shock trauma), anxiety/stress, grief/loss.
When coping styles or life experiences challenge our ability to navigate the world, we often need a guide to help get a different perspective and learn new skills. Chronic distressful emotions/stress, burnout, negative inner dialogue, communication and relationship problems, problematic conflict styles, unmet needs/desires, trauma symptoms, and other difficulties lead to emotional distress and disease. Decode your emotions, manage stress/anxiety, cultivate wisdom, move from depression to finding your passion, resolve grief/trauma and help reclaim your joy, transform unhealthy habits, improve relationships while focusing on what's meaningful for a lifetime of self-awareness and acceptance.
Kim Williams
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94304 (Online Only)
I work extensively with couples and individuals seeking life-repair due to infidelity and compulsive sex.
Welcome! I specialize in helping couples and individuals overcome the roadblocks they face in the most intimate aspect of their relationship: the intersection of their humanity and their sexuality. In my years of work as a marriage and family therapist, I have found that sex is often about the full spectrum of life-issues which we encounter as human beings.
I work extensively with couples and individuals seeking life-repair due to infidelity and compulsive sex.
Welcome! I specialize in helping couples and individuals overcome the roadblocks they face in the most intimate aspect of their relationship: the intersection of their humanity and their sexuality. In my years of work as a marriage and family therapist, I have found that sex is often about the full spectrum of life-issues which we encounter as human beings.
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I am the founder of Mind & Body Garden Psychology Inc., a Mandarin-English-Cantonese multicultural group practice with 20+ bilingual therapists, psychiatrists, etc. We provide psychotherapy and neuropsychological assessment services, and we have offices in CA & NY. I have 3 specialties: sex therapy, sleep treatment, and child mental health. I see my role as a "gardener": when you have too many branches of mental blocks and bushes of stress in your life, what we can do is help you to be more aware of the branches and bushes that impact your quality of life, and then assist you to trim these parts, cope with stress, and live happily.
Yishan" YouTube ( sexual health); etc.
I am the founder of Mind & Body Garden Psychology Inc., a Mandarin-English-Cantonese multicultural group practice with 20+ bilingual therapists, psychiatrists, etc. We provide psychotherapy and neuropsychological assessment services, and we have offices in CA & NY. I have 3 specialties: sex therapy, sleep treatment, and child mental health. I see my role as a "gardener": when you have too many branches of mental blocks and bushes of stress in your life, what we can do is help you to be more aware of the branches and bushes that impact your quality of life, and then assist you to trim these parts, cope with stress, and live happily.
Dr. Melissa Risso
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, MA, CSE, CST
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
Palo Alto, CA 94304 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I’m not afraid of challenging and complicated relationship problems, especially when it comes to exploring sexuality and intimacy.
Are you tired of talking endlessly about the problems in your relationships and are ready to find solutions? Are you frustrated with all the general relationship advice out there and just really want a professional therapist to understand your unique situation and guide you through it? I’m Dr. Melissa Risso, and I can help. I am a Licensed MFT, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator with a passion for helping individuals and couples live better lives. My education, professional experience, and life experience have taught me how to listen to people without judgment.
I’m not afraid of challenging and complicated relationship problems, especially when it comes to exploring sexuality and intimacy.
Are you tired of talking endlessly about the problems in your relationships and are ready to find solutions? Are you frustrated with all the general relationship advice out there and just really want a professional therapist to understand your unique situation and guide you through it? I’m Dr. Melissa Risso, and I can help. I am a Licensed MFT, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator with a passion for helping individuals and couples live better lives. My education, professional experience, and life experience have taught me how to listen to people without judgment.
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Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, DHS, MPH
Verified Verified
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Palo Alto, CA 94301
We all want a therapist to "get us," especially when the topic is sex.
I'm here to help find fulfilling and lifelong sexual/intimate satisfaction, whether you are partnered or single, straight, gay, bi, poly, kinky, a sexual, furry or fandom. These days, so many of us are seeking less stress and more balance. The Bay Area is a worldly place, many come excited by its progressive sexual energy. Others may find sex confusing, challenging to talk about, or even perhaps, their worst nightmare. Most want better ways to communicate, especially about sex; to deepen love and connection or for a path to restore trust and find pleasure. Sex can be juicy and life-affirming, I am here to help you find that.
We all want a therapist to "get us," especially when the topic is sex.
I'm here to help find fulfilling and lifelong sexual/intimate satisfaction, whether you are partnered or single, straight, gay, bi, poly, kinky, a sexual, furry or fandom. These days, so many of us are seeking less stress and more balance. The Bay Area is a worldly place, many come excited by its progressive sexual energy. Others may find sex confusing, challenging to talk about, or even perhaps, their worst nightmare. Most want better ways to communicate, especially about sex; to deepen love and connection or for a path to restore trust and find pleasure. Sex can be juicy and life-affirming, I am here to help you find that.
Carmen Martin
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Palo Alto, CA 94301
Sexuality.
Life is an ongoing journey of growth and learning. It involves ups and downs, and ruptures do happen. Do we know how to heal and repair those ruptures? Whether processing grief or trauma, or wondering if intimacy and trust can ever happen, or wondering why we stay stuck in unhealthy patterns that just aren't working, I will help you uncover what it is you really want for yourself and then support you in committing to a path forward. I also welcome the challenge of helping partners listen and feel heard as separate individuals, so that they can collaborate on a shared vision that works for all involved. You deserve more joy!
Sexuality.
Life is an ongoing journey of growth and learning. It involves ups and downs, and ruptures do happen. Do we know how to heal and repair those ruptures? Whether processing grief or trauma, or wondering if intimacy and trust can ever happen, or wondering why we stay stuck in unhealthy patterns that just aren't working, I will help you uncover what it is you really want for yourself and then support you in committing to a path forward. I also welcome the challenge of helping partners listen and feel heard as separate individuals, so that they can collaborate on a shared vision that works for all involved. You deserve more joy!
Lakshmi Jaiprakash
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94307 (Online Only)
I specialize in exploring issues related to sex/intimacy, sexuality, alternative lifestyles/relationships (open/poly/non-monogamous), kink/BDSM, sexual shame, and sexual abuse/trauma.
Hi, I'm Lakshmi and my pronouns are she/her. As a member of the LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities, I hope to support you on your journey of exploration and self-discovery by creating a therapeutic atmosphere of warmth, safety, and curiosity. I work with individuals, couples/partnerships, and families of every ability, age, gender, national origin, race/ethnicity, religious affiliation, and sexual orientation. My therapeutic style is eclectic, guided by your life goals and utilizing techniques that resonate with you. My practice is grounded in feminist, multicultural, anti-oppression, and anti-capitalist frameworks.
I specialize in exploring issues related to sex/intimacy, sexuality, alternative lifestyles/relationships (open/poly/non-monogamous), kink/BDSM, sexual shame, and sexual abuse/trauma.
Hi, I'm Lakshmi and my pronouns are she/her. As a member of the LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities, I hope to support you on your journey of exploration and self-discovery by creating a therapeutic atmosphere of warmth, safety, and curiosity. I work with individuals, couples/partnerships, and families of every ability, age, gender, national origin, race/ethnicity, religious affiliation, and sexual orientation. My therapeutic style is eclectic, guided by your life goals and utilizing techniques that resonate with you. My practice is grounded in feminist, multicultural, anti-oppression, and anti-capitalist frameworks.
Lots of us work in teams at work, marriage, or other important areas in life, yet we feel like we have to work alone when it comes to our sex life and relationship.
Are you struggling with intimacy or sexual concerns and not sure how to improve the situation? Sex therapy is a form of therapy intended to help individuals and couples resolve sexual difficulties, such as performance anxiety or relationship problems. It’s normal for clients to feel anxious when seeing a sex therapist, especially for the first time. Many people have trouble talking about sex at all, so discussing it with me as a stranger may feel awkward. I provide a safe space in exploring your sexual concerns, reducing the pain, and reaching desirable goals. I am one of the few Asian American AASECT certified therapists across US.
Lots of us work in teams at work, marriage, or other important areas in life, yet we feel like we have to work alone when it comes to our sex life and relationship.
Are you struggling with intimacy or sexual concerns and not sure how to improve the situation? Sex therapy is a form of therapy intended to help individuals and couples resolve sexual difficulties, such as performance anxiety or relationship problems. It’s normal for clients to feel anxious when seeing a sex therapist, especially for the first time. Many people have trouble talking about sex at all, so discussing it with me as a stranger may feel awkward. I provide a safe space in exploring your sexual concerns, reducing the pain, and reaching desirable goals. I am one of the few Asian American AASECT certified therapists across US.
Christiane Dettinger
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CST, AASECT, PACT1
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94301
Waitlist for new clients
I am non-judgmental and sex-positive, my style is open and direct and I feel honored to work with my clients.
I work with individuals and partners from diverse backgrounds and life experiences. My areas of expertise are challenges with relationships and sexuality, communication, intimacy, desire differences, infidelity, sexual orientation, gender, and romantic and sexual lifestyles as well as self-discovery and sexuality through the life span. As a sex therapist I am trained to assist you with sensitivity and competence to address these issues. My goal is to support people in their self-discovery and self-realization as relational and sexual beings and to collaborate with you to strengthen your emotional, spiritual and physical well-being.
I am non-judgmental and sex-positive, my style is open and direct and I feel honored to work with my clients.
I work with individuals and partners from diverse backgrounds and life experiences. My areas of expertise are challenges with relationships and sexuality, communication, intimacy, desire differences, infidelity, sexual orientation, gender, and romantic and sexual lifestyles as well as self-discovery and sexuality through the life span. As a sex therapist I am trained to assist you with sensitivity and competence to address these issues. My goal is to support people in their self-discovery and self-realization as relational and sexual beings and to collaborate with you to strengthen your emotional, spiritual and physical well-being.
age, race/ethnicity, gender, sexuality, spirituality), and difficulties with interpersonal relationships.
Each person has unique strengths and needs that can change over the course of therapy. My approach is collaborative, emotion-focused, interpersonally-oriented, and culturally responsive. I believe that no matter the struggle or mental health challenge, everyone has the capacity to grow, change, and find a meaningful life. I value working with you to chart a path for therapy that draws on your lived experience and my expertise in evidence-based treatments, so that I can walk alongside you as you move courageously toward the life you want to live. My work includes individual psychotherapy, trauma treatment, and couple/family therapy.
age, race/ethnicity, gender, sexuality, spirituality), and difficulties with interpersonal relationships.
Each person has unique strengths and needs that can change over the course of therapy. My approach is collaborative, emotion-focused, interpersonally-oriented, and culturally responsive. I believe that no matter the struggle or mental health challenge, everyone has the capacity to grow, change, and find a meaningful life. I value working with you to chart a path for therapy that draws on your lived experience and my expertise in evidence-based treatments, so that I can walk alongside you as you move courageously toward the life you want to live. My work includes individual psychotherapy, trauma treatment, and couple/family therapy.
In the TV show " Sex and City" there is a line: " in this city ( New York) everyone is looking for something, a job, an apartment, or a partner. " Underline this, you can feel the anxiety and the need for certainty, comfort and connection. These are human existial needs and I can help you with: stress, anxiety, depression that are related to work, personal/intimate relationship, relationship with children, and developmental trauma. I believe in therapy is to help people to return to normal life, work and develop more enjoyable things.
In the TV show " Sex and City" there is a line: " in this city ( New York) everyone is looking for something, a job, an apartment, or a partner. " Underline this, you can feel the anxiety and the need for certainty, comfort and connection. These are human existial needs and I can help you with: stress, anxiety, depression that are related to work, personal/intimate relationship, relationship with children, and developmental trauma. I believe in therapy is to help people to return to normal life, work and develop more enjoyable things.
Bay Area Community Counseling
Psychologist, PsyD, LCSW, MFT, MFTI, PCCi
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94301
We make sure that you find a good fit with a therapist and we work with clients diverse in culture, race, religion, gender, sexuality, economic status, and ability.
At Bay Area Community Counseling, we provide therapy for children, teenagers, adults, and couples and are able to be flexible with clients' financial needs. Everyone can use some help now and then and at BACC we can provide you that help to get your life back on track. We work with various issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD/ADD, relationship problems, learning problems, and a number of other issues that get in the way of living a fulfilling life.
We make sure that you find a good fit with a therapist and we work with clients diverse in culture, race, religion, gender, sexuality, economic status, and ability.
At Bay Area Community Counseling, we provide therapy for children, teenagers, adults, and couples and are able to be flexible with clients' financial needs. Everyone can use some help now and then and at BACC we can provide you that help to get your life back on track. We work with various issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD/ADD, relationship problems, learning problems, and a number of other issues that get in the way of living a fulfilling life.
A Center for Growth - Peter Seimas, Ph.D.
Pastoral Counselor, PhD
Verified Verified
Palo Alto, CA 94306
Marriage Counseling, Conflict Resolution, Divorce Prevention/Mediation, Dealing with Marital and Relationship Issues, Depression, Anxiety, OCD: Scrupulosity OCD, Religious OCD, Sexual OCD & All Subtypes of OCD, Addiction Therapy, Partner Sexual Abuse Recovery, Being a true communicator- business, family, and friends, dealing with conflict.
Pastoral Counselor: Pastoral Marriage and Family Counselor, & Certified Conflict Resolution Mediator, Ph.D. in Pastoral Counseling - Atlantic Coast Seminary, Ph.D. in Theology - Atlantic Coast Seminary, MA in Counseling Psychology Marriage and Family Therapy - University of San Francisco, MDiv - St. Patrick’s Seminary & University, BA in Business Management - San Jose State University, Clinical Pastoral Counseling Training (CPE) - Stanford University Hospital and Clinics Conflict Resolution Mediation Certification - National Conflict Resolution Center Sex Addiction Training - American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT).
Marriage Counseling, Conflict Resolution, Divorce Prevention/Mediation, Dealing with Marital and Relationship Issues, Depression, Anxiety, OCD: Scrupulosity OCD, Religious OCD, Sexual OCD & All Subtypes of OCD, Addiction Therapy, Partner Sexual Abuse Recovery, Being a true communicator- business, family, and friends, dealing with conflict.
Pastoral Counselor: Pastoral Marriage and Family Counselor, & Certified Conflict Resolution Mediator, Ph.D. in Pastoral Counseling - Atlantic Coast Seminary, Ph.D. in Theology - Atlantic Coast Seminary, MA in Counseling Psychology Marriage and Family Therapy - University of San Francisco, MDiv - St. Patrick’s Seminary & University, BA in Business Management - San Jose State University, Clinical Pastoral Counseling Training (CPE) - Stanford University Hospital and Clinics Conflict Resolution Mediation Certification - National Conflict Resolution Center Sex Addiction Training - American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT).
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Sex Therapy
Who is sex therapy for?
Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.
Why do people need sex therapy?
Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.
What happens in sex therapy?
People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.
What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?
Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.