Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in Oakland, CA
Jessica Barnese, Somatic Therapy
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MA, LPC, LPCC
2 Endorsed
Oakland, CA 94610
I am LGBTQ, ENM, BIPOC, kink, and sex worker allied.
Are you navigating complex emotions or decisions, struggling in relationships, or needing to make sense of long-standing patterns that no longer serve you? I work with people in California and Oregon who want to change the stuck parts of their lives that feel impossible to shift—whether you're healing from childhood trauma, moving through a life transition, or longing to feel more connected to yourself and others. My approach is down-to-earth, trauma-informed, and grounded in the body. I integrate mindfulness, somatic therapy, and relational work to help you feel more whole and authentically embodied in who you are.
I am LGBTQ, ENM, BIPOC, kink, and sex worker allied.
Are you navigating complex emotions or decisions, struggling in relationships, or needing to make sense of long-standing patterns that no longer serve you? I work with people in California and Oregon who want to change the stuck parts of their lives that feel impossible to shift—whether you're healing from childhood trauma, moving through a life transition, or longing to feel more connected to yourself and others. My approach is down-to-earth, trauma-informed, and grounded in the body. I integrate mindfulness, somatic therapy, and relational work to help you feel more whole and authentically embodied in who you are.
LGBTQ+ individuals, allies, and members of kink and polyamorous communities are all warmly welcomed in my practice.
I partner with teens (12+) and adults to achieve mental health goals, strengthen relationships, and heal from past wounds. My practice centers on serving QTBIPOC individuals and neurodivergent communities, especially geeks, gamers, cosplayers, and furries. Currently training as a Certified Geek Therapist, I integrate therapeutic games, fandom elements, and visualization techniques to help you explore identity, enhance self-expression, and build confidence.
LGBTQ+ individuals, allies, and members of kink and polyamorous communities are all warmly welcomed in my practice.
I partner with teens (12+) and adults to achieve mental health goals, strengthen relationships, and heal from past wounds. My practice centers on serving QTBIPOC individuals and neurodivergent communities, especially geeks, gamers, cosplayers, and furries. Currently training as a Certified Geek Therapist, I integrate therapeutic games, fandom elements, and visualization techniques to help you explore identity, enhance self-expression, and build confidence.
I'm Poly, ENM, kink friendly, sex worker allied.
A safe space to be fully yourself—no explanations required.
I’m Rob Wolf, a queer-identified Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with advanced training in Trauma-Informed care and Sex Therapy. I specialize in working with LGBTQAI+ adults as well as Neurodivergent people. That being said, I welcome ALL types of people in my practice. I offer therapy from a holistic approach. Together we'll explore how your mind, body, and spirit are navigating the complex intersections of identity, relationships, trauma, and emotional wellbeing, shaping the way you live, love, and connect.
I'm Poly, ENM, kink friendly, sex worker allied.
A safe space to be fully yourself—no explanations required.
I’m Rob Wolf, a queer-identified Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with advanced training in Trauma-Informed care and Sex Therapy. I specialize in working with LGBTQAI+ adults as well as Neurodivergent people. That being said, I welcome ALL types of people in my practice. I offer therapy from a holistic approach. Together we'll explore how your mind, body, and spirit are navigating the complex intersections of identity, relationships, trauma, and emotional wellbeing, shaping the way you live, love, and connect.
LGBTQ, poly, and kink identities welcome.
As a clinician, I integrate relational mindfulness, somatic awareness skills, a sense of humor, and anti-oppression-focused narrative therapy frameworks. I will encourage you to deepen your mind-body awareness, listen to and respect signals you get from your body and question the beliefs underlying any repetitive negative emotional states.
LGBTQ, poly, and kink identities welcome.
As a clinician, I integrate relational mindfulness, somatic awareness skills, a sense of humor, and anti-oppression-focused narrative therapy frameworks. I will encourage you to deepen your mind-body awareness, listen to and respect signals you get from your body and question the beliefs underlying any repetitive negative emotional states.
I also work with sex positive and poly communities and create a safe space for the development of new paradigms and beliefs.
I am a couple’s therapist here to help you heal relationship stress that prevents you from moving further forward in your partnership. These emotions leave you feeling insecure, shameful, lonely, unworthy and stuck in unhealthy patterns of behavior. Trauma can have negative emotional and physical effects and can lead to family/relationship issues. I specialize in solution-focused brief therapy, motivational interviewing, mindfulness and CBT. These approaches allow me to work with the client to decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression and other health/behavioral issues.
I also work with sex positive and poly communities and create a safe space for the development of new paradigms and beliefs.
I am a couple’s therapist here to help you heal relationship stress that prevents you from moving further forward in your partnership. These emotions leave you feeling insecure, shameful, lonely, unworthy and stuck in unhealthy patterns of behavior. Trauma can have negative emotional and physical effects and can lead to family/relationship issues. I specialize in solution-focused brief therapy, motivational interviewing, mindfulness and CBT. These approaches allow me to work with the client to decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression and other health/behavioral issues.
I am passionate about working with all the letters (LGBTQIQA etc), as well as with those in open, poly, and kink relationships.
As a therapist, I am here to witness and support your process of transformation and growth. A large part of the benefit of therapy comes from your experience of the therapeutic relationship, for this reason I always strive to nurture, and explore this relationship with you through honest, open, and straightforward communication.
I am passionate about working with all the letters (LGBTQIQA etc), as well as with those in open, poly, and kink relationships.
As a therapist, I am here to witness and support your process of transformation and growth. A large part of the benefit of therapy comes from your experience of the therapeutic relationship, for this reason I always strive to nurture, and explore this relationship with you through honest, open, and straightforward communication.
I am a queer, polyamorous, and integrative transpersonal clinician; I specialize in the areas of polyamory, kink, navigating trauma, consent, and entheogenic integration.
You’re fumbling, feeling clunky, ashamed, lost in transition, and searching for answers. You’ve been told you’re too much, too scattered, and too picky, when in reality, you may very well know what you want and it seems others just can’t meet you there. Together we will explore and unfold acceptance and awareness around ALL of your parts, especially the most intense ones. What you’re searching for is out there, let’s take these next steps on your journey.
I am a queer, polyamorous, and integrative transpersonal clinician; I specialize in the areas of polyamory, kink, navigating trauma, consent, and entheogenic integration.
You’re fumbling, feeling clunky, ashamed, lost in transition, and searching for answers. You’ve been told you’re too much, too scattered, and too picky, when in reality, you may very well know what you want and it seems others just can’t meet you there. Together we will explore and unfold acceptance and awareness around ALL of your parts, especially the most intense ones. What you’re searching for is out there, let’s take these next steps on your journey.
My practice is trauma-informed, DBT-informed, feminist, body and sex positive, with a focus on somatic awareness and expressive arts.
Reaching out for support may feel difficult but you are totally worth it. I can provide you with a place where you will be listened to with compassion and understanding. Through our work together I will bring gentle curiosity to the areas of your life you want to explore. This can look like nurturing any tender wounds, fostering belonging for abandoned parts of yourself, embracing acceptance for things you can't change, and building skills needed for constructing the life and relationships you desire.
My practice is trauma-informed, DBT-informed, feminist, body and sex positive, with a focus on somatic awareness and expressive arts.
Reaching out for support may feel difficult but you are totally worth it. I can provide you with a place where you will be listened to with compassion and understanding. Through our work together I will bring gentle curiosity to the areas of your life you want to explore. This can look like nurturing any tender wounds, fostering belonging for abandoned parts of yourself, embracing acceptance for things you can't change, and building skills needed for constructing the life and relationships you desire.
Looking for nonjudgmental guidance navigating dynamics within polyamory and kink — not to mention managing all of this under capitalism.
I bring my lens as a queer, non-binary, poly, kinky, neurodivergent, radical, white, Jewish person. My style: A balance of light-hearted humor + direct challenge • Interactive, intuitive, & insightful • Resourced by practical skills, tools, & materials to learn from • Trauma-informed & grounded • Rooted in Internal Family Systems & somatics • Tailored to you
Looking for nonjudgmental guidance navigating dynamics within polyamory and kink — not to mention managing all of this under capitalism.
I bring my lens as a queer, non-binary, poly, kinky, neurodivergent, radical, white, Jewish person. My style: A balance of light-hearted humor + direct challenge • Interactive, intuitive, & insightful • Resourced by practical skills, tools, & materials to learn from • Trauma-informed & grounded • Rooted in Internal Family Systems & somatics • Tailored to you
I work from a poly-friendly, kink-knowledgeable, queer- and gender-affirming perspective, and I do not pathologize human sexuality.
Welcome! I offer psychotherapy to teens, adults, couples and other relationship configurations. I am a Certified Sex Therapist (CST) through AASECT and am also a gender specialist. I believe therapy is a collaborative process; you can think of me as a companion as we travel down the roads of your growth together. There is no need to go through the hard parts of life alone! If you have been thinking about starting therapy, I invite you to contact me. I am committed to helping my clients become the most authentic version of themselves. Take a look at my website for more about my work.
I work from a poly-friendly, kink-knowledgeable, queer- and gender-affirming perspective, and I do not pathologize human sexuality.
Welcome! I offer psychotherapy to teens, adults, couples and other relationship configurations. I am a Certified Sex Therapist (CST) through AASECT and am also a gender specialist. I believe therapy is a collaborative process; you can think of me as a companion as we travel down the roads of your growth together. There is no need to go through the hard parts of life alone! If you have been thinking about starting therapy, I invite you to contact me. I am committed to helping my clients become the most authentic version of themselves. Take a look at my website for more about my work.
I am passionate about serving queer and trans communities and am kink and poly affirming.
My practice is guided by a belief in the healing power of being with. I bring compassionate witness and a warm, collaborative, relational approach that is informed by psychodynamic, somatic, feminist, narrative, attachment, and trauma theories. A deep commitment to social justice, and attunement to the impacts of social and systemic oppression, grounds my work.
I am passionate about serving queer and trans communities and am kink and poly affirming.
My practice is guided by a belief in the healing power of being with. I bring compassionate witness and a warm, collaborative, relational approach that is informed by psychodynamic, somatic, feminist, narrative, attachment, and trauma theories. A deep commitment to social justice, and attunement to the impacts of social and systemic oppression, grounds my work.
I am very open to work with LGBTQ+ identified clients and am well versed in issues related to sexual identity, gender variance, transitions, coming out, school bullying, family conflict, non-monagamy/polyamory, BDSM/ kink, HIV, and other issues that touch the community.
I view therapy as a collaborative relationship, seeking to form a partnership to explore your struggles, moving towards growth and healing. I am experienced in working with anxiety, depression, substance issues, grief/loss, relationship difficulties, trauma, oppression, chronic medical conditions, sexuality, eating disorders, and adoption issues. In addition to individual therapy, I work with couples, and relationships of all configurations. I am especially interested in clients who would like to incorporate Somatic Experiencing into their therapy.
I am very open to work with LGBTQ+ identified clients and am well versed in issues related to sexual identity, gender variance, transitions, coming out, school bullying, family conflict, non-monagamy/polyamory, BDSM/ kink, HIV, and other issues that touch the community.
I view therapy as a collaborative relationship, seeking to form a partnership to explore your struggles, moving towards growth and healing. I am experienced in working with anxiety, depression, substance issues, grief/loss, relationship difficulties, trauma, oppression, chronic medical conditions, sexuality, eating disorders, and adoption issues. In addition to individual therapy, I work with couples, and relationships of all configurations. I am especially interested in clients who would like to incorporate Somatic Experiencing into their therapy.
Much but not all of my practice is LGBTQ+ and I am kink/poly/ENM savvy.
I work with individuals who are exploring a wide variety of challenges and goals. Some areas where I specialize are working with artists and with people seeking support with anxiety, depression, major life transitions, relationship challenges, gender and sexuality struggles and explorations, chronic illness/pain, and issues with food and body.
Much but not all of my practice is LGBTQ+ and I am kink/poly/ENM savvy.
I work with individuals who are exploring a wide variety of challenges and goals. Some areas where I specialize are working with artists and with people seeking support with anxiety, depression, major life transitions, relationship challenges, gender and sexuality struggles and explorations, chronic illness/pain, and issues with food and body.
Very Sex Positive
Making middle aged sexy again! I love supporting middle aged adults reclaim their vitality, wellness, and pleasure through the ups and downs of:
Divorces & Separations,
Adolescent Children,
Aging Parents,
Career Frustrations,
Grief about Not Having Children,
Changing Bodies,
Emerging Sexualities,
Re-entering the Dating Pool.
I believe that this middle aged time is a bit of an initiation. I don't think it is easy or without some sobering realizations and grieving. But I believe that it can be a time of honesty and clarity, creating new pathways toward the life we desire and toward more joy and pleasure!
Very Sex Positive
Making middle aged sexy again! I love supporting middle aged adults reclaim their vitality, wellness, and pleasure through the ups and downs of:
Divorces & Separations,
Adolescent Children,
Aging Parents,
Career Frustrations,
Grief about Not Having Children,
Changing Bodies,
Emerging Sexualities,
Re-entering the Dating Pool.
I believe that this middle aged time is a bit of an initiation. I don't think it is easy or without some sobering realizations and grieving. But I believe that it can be a time of honesty and clarity, creating new pathways toward the life we desire and toward more joy and pleasure!
I work from a holistic, strengths-based, somatically trained (connecting the mind body connection), sex positive, and LGBTQ+ affirmative perspective to support a sense of safety in sessions.
Now offering services for Teens, couples and individuals. Therapy is a process of growth and self-discovery. In our sessions we find old patterns that do not serve you and new growth that will offer new patterns to enjoy a more fulfilling life. I will use many methods with you exploring emotions, thoughts, body sensations and behavior. I work collaboratively with you to set goals and treatment that is personal to your needs and situation in a non-judgmental environment.
I work from a holistic, strengths-based, somatically trained (connecting the mind body connection), sex positive, and LGBTQ+ affirmative perspective to support a sense of safety in sessions.
Now offering services for Teens, couples and individuals. Therapy is a process of growth and self-discovery. In our sessions we find old patterns that do not serve you and new growth that will offer new patterns to enjoy a more fulfilling life. I will use many methods with you exploring emotions, thoughts, body sensations and behavior. I work collaboratively with you to set goals and treatment that is personal to your needs and situation in a non-judgmental environment.
My practice aligns with BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, empaths, healers, poly/ kink communities, artists, activists, and spiritual seekers.
I offer trauma-informed, somatic, mindfulness-based therapy grounded in spiritual and Buddhist wisdom to support a deeper call toward healing. I support people in reconnecting with their authentic selves, releasing trauma held in the body, and strengthening confidence and self-worth. My work fosters meaningful, embodied change rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the wisdom of the present moment. I help clients explore their interior landscape, cultivate inner resilience, and embrace all aspects of themselves. My space is inclusive, liberatory, and radically welcoming. My background as a Buddhist meditator and yogi informs my work.
My practice aligns with BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, empaths, healers, poly/ kink communities, artists, activists, and spiritual seekers.
I offer trauma-informed, somatic, mindfulness-based therapy grounded in spiritual and Buddhist wisdom to support a deeper call toward healing. I support people in reconnecting with their authentic selves, releasing trauma held in the body, and strengthening confidence and self-worth. My work fosters meaningful, embodied change rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the wisdom of the present moment. I help clients explore their interior landscape, cultivate inner resilience, and embrace all aspects of themselves. My space is inclusive, liberatory, and radically welcoming. My background as a Buddhist meditator and yogi informs my work.
I specialize in sex therapy, relationship work (including polyamory, kink, and relationship anarchy), and supporting LGBTQIA+ and QTBIPOC communities.
I believe in therapy as a space for healing, liberation, and deep connection. My work is rooted in liberation psychology, recognizing the ways systemic oppression impacts mental health and centering your agency in the healing process. I offer an affirming space where you can bring your full self—your joys, your struggles, your identities, and your truths—without fear of judgment.
I specialize in sex therapy, relationship work (including polyamory, kink, and relationship anarchy), and supporting LGBTQIA+ and QTBIPOC communities.
I believe in therapy as a space for healing, liberation, and deep connection. My work is rooted in liberation psychology, recognizing the ways systemic oppression impacts mental health and centering your agency in the healing process. I offer an affirming space where you can bring your full self—your joys, your struggles, your identities, and your truths—without fear of judgment.
I work with individuals and couples across many backgrounds, particularly within queer and trans community, kink and polyamory, and people who are in recovery and survivors.
Hi there, I’m glad you’re here. I know that looking for a therapist can be hard, especially when you’re hurting or feeling low. I may be able to help. You might feel lonely, anxious, or full of guilt…or you might not know what you feel. You may be confused about the choices you make in life, or you may feel frustrated with the unjust world you live in. Many critical thought patterns, painful feelings, and unwanted behaviors started out as survival strategies to protect us during difficult life experiences. These strategies helped us cope in the past, but can lead to conflict and suffering in the present.
I work with individuals and couples across many backgrounds, particularly within queer and trans community, kink and polyamory, and people who are in recovery and survivors.
Hi there, I’m glad you’re here. I know that looking for a therapist can be hard, especially when you’re hurting or feeling low. I may be able to help. You might feel lonely, anxious, or full of guilt…or you might not know what you feel. You may be confused about the choices you make in life, or you may feel frustrated with the unjust world you live in. Many critical thought patterns, painful feelings, and unwanted behaviors started out as survival strategies to protect us during difficult life experiences. These strategies helped us cope in the past, but can lead to conflict and suffering in the present.
I bring a queer-, poly-, kink-friendly lens into the room that is trauma-informed and supportive to help expand your awareness and horizons.
I love working with individuals, meeting you as you explore the inner workings of your mind and heart. I'm also excited about working with pairs of all kinds - romantic partners, parent-child, good friends, metamours, platonic life partners, co-parents, siblings, roommates, etc. I offer psychedelic integration, as well. Também ofereço terapia em português.
I bring a queer-, poly-, kink-friendly lens into the room that is trauma-informed and supportive to help expand your awareness and horizons.
I love working with individuals, meeting you as you explore the inner workings of your mind and heart. I'm also excited about working with pairs of all kinds - romantic partners, parent-child, good friends, metamours, platonic life partners, co-parents, siblings, roommates, etc. I offer psychedelic integration, as well. Também ofereço terapia em português.
I am LGBTQ affirming, sex positive, kink positive.
The transitions in relationships when inviting new life in is a passion I have been called upon to answer. For Pregnant and Postpartum Women, that is such a special and precious time that can also uproot your mind, body, and spirit. Support is necessary to find your balance again and I can help guide you through your journey of Motherhood. For the Polyamorous and Ethically Nonmonogamous community, I can offer you a safe space to navigate the challenges of connecting with multiple people as well as insight into the culture and community.
I am LGBTQ affirming, sex positive, kink positive.
The transitions in relationships when inviting new life in is a passion I have been called upon to answer. For Pregnant and Postpartum Women, that is such a special and precious time that can also uproot your mind, body, and spirit. Support is necessary to find your balance again and I can help guide you through your journey of Motherhood. For the Polyamorous and Ethically Nonmonogamous community, I can offer you a safe space to navigate the challenges of connecting with multiple people as well as insight into the culture and community.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialized knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organizations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognize a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognize a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.