Infidelity Therapists in Sawtelle, Los Angeles, CA

Specializing in recovery from infidelity for more than a decade, I see addicts, & partners, and those involved in single affairs . I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Woodland Hills, California. I LOVE to work with couples because I believe we heal & transform in healthy relationships! I run weekly groups for betrayed partners with a trauma model and personal empowerment approach. I am often called to teach or present locally and nationally about treating betrayal , problematic sexual behavior & creating secure functioning relationships. Fill out a form on my website and my assistant will schedule a time for us to talk!

"Life is not what it's supposed to be. It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference." I am a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist specializing in relationship and intimacy issues, sex therapy, infidelity , betrayal trauma and sex and porn addiction . I work collaboratively with my clients to facilitate recognition of their strengths so they can actualize self-growth, meet therapy goals, find peace and develop healthy relationships.

Whether you are looking to end an addiction, process complex trauma and shame, or overcome your self-limiting beliefs I am here to help. My extensive experience in the field, as well as my own personal work has led me to the understanding that there is a way out. I treat those with depression, anxiety, PTSD, bipolar disorder, ADHD, grief/loss, children of addict/alcoholics, borderline personality, betrayal trauma, sex/porn addiction, and other issues. Through the therapeutic process I can help you to better understand what you have been through and how to overcome your current struggles to live your fullest, best life.

We all face conflicts that at times become “too much.” When we feel overwhelmed there’s a natural tendency to want to restore balance in ourselves and our lives. Any conflict—in love, work, body image, physical symptoms—can lead to anxiety, shame and a sense of "going through the motions." Whether you’re dealing with current or long-standing difficulties, there are effective ways to understand and soften painful feelings. Life can be better when you open to new thinking, curb negativity and break repetitive cycles; you become kinder to yourself. You can find your own voice.

Families are greatly impacted by betrayal , infidelity and sex addiction. As parents struggle to orient themselves to a new reality in the face of betrayal , it can be overwhelming and painful for a parent to recognize the immediate and future impact on their children. Well meaning parents can unintentionally make serious mistakes in managing the family during this painful and confusing time. You may have questions at this time such as “How is the tension in the household affecting our child?" and “Is our child internalizing emotional pain that we can't see?”

Welcome to my practice! In our sessions, you will feel safe enough to be rigorously honest with me, without fear of judgement. I will meet you with the compassion and discernment you need in order to heal. I specialize in treating sex addiction, codependency, betrayal trauma, love addiction, substance abuse, partners of addicts and complex couples. We will work through the underlying emotional content (trauma, unresolved grief and abandonment wounds) that fuel the negative patterns. Together, we will restructure your internal landscape so you can achieve your goals and bring purpose to your life.

As a therapist specializing in sex therapy, I support clients in working through betrayal and lack of trust due to infidelity , sex and porn addiction, sexual trauma, discrepancy in desire in couples, sexual inexperience, lack of desire, healthy relationships, and sexual dysfunction such as erectile dysfunction and vaginismus. I use a warm and nonjudgmental approach to support clients in releasing shame to get to the root of healing. I believe that all clients have the inner resources and tools with which to navigate life’s challenges and that it is my job to support clients in identifying and strengthening these tools.

Fred Rogers said, “It’s the people we love the most who can make us feel the gladdest… and the maddest! Love and anger are such a puzzle! It’s hard for us, as adults, to understand and manage our angry feelings toward parents, spouses, and children, or to keep their anger toward us in perspective. It’s a different kind of anger from the kind we may feel toward strangers because it is so deeply intertwined with caring and attachment.” Does this statement resonate with you? If so, you are not alone.

Relationships are as important to us as food and water. They can strengthen us, like a vitamin, or weaken us, like the flu. You are only as good in relationships as the relationships you have been in. As your therapist, I can assist you in many ways. I can help you learn more about yourself, increase both self-compassion and compassion for others, and heal past trauma. Together, we can explore how to feel more connected to yourself, your values, and people you care about.

I specialize in helping individuals and couples find and maintain healthy and happy relationships. This includes: healing from sexual trauma, addiction/codependence recovery, sex/porn addiction, grief/repair from infidelity and/or betrayal , conflict resolution, communications skills, finding healthy partnerships, building healthy intimacy and sexuality in your relationship, and so on.

My clinical approach is multi-disciplinary and rooted in psychodynamic theory, existential psychology, mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I also have a background in integrative health and wellness, which can contribute to a more in-depth perspective on treatment. My style is collaborative, intuitive, direct, and non-judgemental, and I encourage clients to be true to themselves and transparent. Although treatment is based on an individual's needs and goals, principle themes in all treatment are to help one regain one’s confidence and strength and to reinforce one’s resiliency.

Modern Life has us facing increasingly difficult challenges. Anxiety, Depression, Relationship Challenges, and much more. When these challenges arise in your life, how do you navigate it? What tools do you use? One of the most powerful healing and growth practices is therapy. Give yourself the space to explore, heal, create and transform your Self, your relationships, your life. Modern living is multifaceted, chaotic, and creative. Taking time to really understand yourself, in your wholeness, is one of the best experiences you can have. A genuine connection w/ your therapist/coach is vital. Call to schedule a 20 min intro call.

I believe the most important element of effective therapy is the genuine connection between the patient and therapist. My approach to therapy is interactive, supportive, and empathic. I am experienced with working with a variety of concerns including anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, grief and loss, trauma, stress, and life transitions. l also work with people who are feeling stuck or unfulfilled in life. I have a special passion for helping couples rebuild and redevelop trust after an affair and have extensive experience working with firefighters and other first responders.

In need of sex therapy? Lack of desire? A sex-starved marriage? Sex/porn addiction? Just not on the same page as your partner? As a Sexuality Specialist and CSAT, I have successfully treated clients struggling with many different sexual problems (Men: erectile dysfunction, rapid/premature/delayed ejaculation. Women: low desire, painful intercourse, vaginismus/vulvadynia. Either: sexual inexperience, sexual anorexia, childhood sexual traumas including incest). I often use EMDR to resolve underlying traumas. I have researched and taught at UCLA, SMC, The University of Chicago, DePaul and have been a sexuality expert on NBC, ABC and KCAL 9 news.

I'm a board-certified couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles. For couples looking for a more effective way to navigate conflict, improve emotional connection, and rekindle intimacy - consider leveraging Gottman-Method Couples Therapy. It's an approach with 50+ years of empirical support and focuses on actionable steps you can take every day to improve and sustain a healthier love. For individuals, I provide CBT, PE, and CPT treatment for anxiety, depression, and PTSD.

Is your relationship hurting right now? It's so hard to keep the closeness and loving feelings when you're not communicating, or there's been hurt. Though you may be feeling discouraged, or even doubtful that you can repair, don't give up hope on your relationship. I will help you learn ways to talk without fighting and to start feeling heard. If there have been injuries to your trust, I will help you find healing together. Couples can create stronger and closer relationships than they ever thought possible. Call or schedule online your free initial consultation and start healing today!

Dr. Wendy M. O'Connor is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist as well as holds a doctorate in psychology and is in private practice in Brentwood & Encino California. She has worked in various settings with over seventeen years of experience in the community. Dr. Wendy O'Connor & Associates specialize in single adults, couples & teens.

Couples counseling is our specialty and what we offer exclusively at Well Marriage Center. We have 4 licensed, specialized couples therapists in the LA and surrounding areas who have committed their life's work to helping couples change the trajectory of their relationship with counseling and coaching techniques that heal trust, rekindle intimacy, and increase the positive aspects of your relationship. We listen intently but don't only listen; you get our thoughts, ideas, suggestions and feedback every step of the way. We're active with you in this process. Relationship dynamics are our specialty!

"In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety." - Abraham Maslow. Deciding to make changes in one's life takes courage, and you have taken the first step! My goal is to empower you to find relief from distress and to help you grow in concert with your goals. I specialize in treating a variety of concerns, such as posttraumatic stress disorder, addiction (substance and behavioral), eating disorders, body image issues, bipolar disorder, depression, and anxiety, as well as difficulties with anger management, relationships, interpersonal communication, recovery and relapse prevention.