Borderline Personality (BPD) Therapists in Dade City, FL

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Cara Soto
Pre-Licensed Professional, RMHC, Intern, EMDR
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Dade City, FL 33525  (Online Only)
Are you looking for someone to share your deeper struggles with who shares your Christian values and beliefs? Or perhaps you’re feeling sad or anxious and don’t want to overwhelm your friends? Feeling alone and overwhelmed by current or longstanding struggles can be a very difficult place to be. We are not meant to live life alone, overwhelmed by fear or sadness, or to avoid grieving the losses that steal joy from our lives. I believe we are designed to flourish and live meaningful lives. As a Christian mental health therapist and experienced pastor’s wife, I believe that lasting emotional healing can be real for you.
Are you looking for someone to share your deeper struggles with who shares your Christian values and beliefs? Or perhaps you’re feeling sad or anxious and don’t want to overwhelm your friends? Feeling alone and overwhelmed by current or longstanding struggles can be a very difficult place to be. We are not meant to live life alone, overwhelmed by fear or sadness, or to avoid grieving the losses that steal joy from our lives. I believe we are designed to flourish and live meaningful lives. As a Christian mental health therapist and experienced pastor’s wife, I believe that lasting emotional healing can be real for you.
(786) 933-5909 View (786) 933-5909
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David Brune
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, LMHC , QST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Dade City, FL 33525
Most of us have goals. Sometimes it may feel like “just getting by”, but most of us yearn for something a little more than where we currently stand. And we want to feel better especially in the quiet moments. It may look like climbing out of the pit of addiction, finally putting boundaries on unhealthy relationships or getting personal struggles under control. As a military career veteran, I feel that I can offer a unique perspective and approach to problem solving and goal setting. My experiences have cultivated an insight into human behavior, both in the quiet times and in the height of intensity that few therapist can replicate.
Most of us have goals. Sometimes it may feel like “just getting by”, but most of us yearn for something a little more than where we currently stand. And we want to feel better especially in the quiet moments. It may look like climbing out of the pit of addiction, finally putting boundaries on unhealthy relationships or getting personal struggles under control. As a military career veteran, I feel that I can offer a unique perspective and approach to problem solving and goal setting. My experiences have cultivated an insight into human behavior, both in the quiet times and in the height of intensity that few therapist can replicate.
(352) 758-4649 View (352) 758-4649
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Mark Allen Wallman
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Dade City, FL 33525  (Online Only)
Currently only seeing clients in Texas. I will be adding additional State Licensures soon! Welcome to my Psychology Today Site. I am a guide for a person or system seeking truth and peace who may be in the dark as to what blocks them in their journey. The guidance involves improving self awareness to identify needs, and helping an individual or system learn and practice skills to move towards fulfillment or those needs.
Currently only seeing clients in Texas. I will be adding additional State Licensures soon! Welcome to my Psychology Today Site. I am a guide for a person or system seeking truth and peace who may be in the dark as to what blocks them in their journey. The guidance involves improving self awareness to identify needs, and helping an individual or system learn and practice skills to move towards fulfillment or those needs.
(972) 736-9812 View (972) 736-9812
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Melissa McVan, LMHC Inc.
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Dade City, FL 33525
I offer a safe space to express your thoughts and feelings openly. My intention is to support you and further explore experiences from an alternative lens.
I offer a safe space to express your thoughts and feelings openly. My intention is to support you and further explore experiences from an alternative lens.
(561) 461-6489 View (561) 461-6489

More Therapists Nearby

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Starlett Armstrong
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Saint Leo, FL 33574  (Online Only)
Therapy is a collaborative/interactive process that allows you the freedom as well as the privacy to discuss issues that are too painful or difficult to discuss with your family and/or friends. Together, we will explore what brings you distress as well as what brings you relief. Therapy is designed to help empower you to accomplish mental health wellness and treatment goals. For therapy to be most effective, it is imperative that you take an active part in your treatment journey.
Therapy is a collaborative/interactive process that allows you the freedom as well as the privacy to discuss issues that are too painful or difficult to discuss with your family and/or friends. Together, we will explore what brings you distress as well as what brings you relief. Therapy is designed to help empower you to accomplish mental health wellness and treatment goals. For therapy to be most effective, it is imperative that you take an active part in your treatment journey.
(321) 353-6320 View (321) 353-6320
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Zoe Solorzano
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, QS
Verified Verified
Wesley Chapel, FL 33545
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with seven years of experience working with families and children in crises such as divorce, job loss, relocation, etc.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with seven years of experience working with families and children in crises such as divorce, job loss, relocation, etc.
(305) 676-7864 View (305) 676-7864
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Mario Morano
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Trinity, FL 34655  (Online Only)
Are you feeling frustrated and worn down? I am Mario, and I am here to help. Many clients have told me they find sessions with me to be "laid back yet highly effecive," and I hope to provide you the same experience. I provide individual therapy, and I also provide specialized intensive family therapy. I also provide supervision to therapists, as well as mental health education to medical staff. Using telehealth, I have been able to keep my rates low while providing highest-quality therapy to those in need. If you have been skeptical, or past therapy hasn't worked, then please give me a call.
Are you feeling frustrated and worn down? I am Mario, and I am here to help. Many clients have told me they find sessions with me to be "laid back yet highly effecive," and I hope to provide you the same experience. I provide individual therapy, and I also provide specialized intensive family therapy. I also provide supervision to therapists, as well as mental health education to medical staff. Using telehealth, I have been able to keep my rates low while providing highest-quality therapy to those in need. If you have been skeptical, or past therapy hasn't worked, then please give me a call.
(727) 645-0869 View (727) 645-0869
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Maureen Yates
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Ridge Manor, FL 33523  (Online Only)
I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor based in the Tampa Bay area. I have a Master of Arts degree in Professional Counseling and a second Master of Arts degree in Addictions & Recovery. I'm passionate about the work that I do and look forward to supporting my clients while they take the first step towards change.
I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor based in the Tampa Bay area. I have a Master of Arts degree in Professional Counseling and a second Master of Arts degree in Addictions & Recovery. I'm passionate about the work that I do and look forward to supporting my clients while they take the first step towards change.
(352) 995-2378 View (352) 995-2378
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Lynn Foltz
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooksville, FL 34602
Accepting new clients as of 04/01/2024. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Florida with 17 years of professional work experience and have worked with diverse populations from teenagers to geriatric individuals. I have experience in helping clients with reducing stress and anxiety, resolving family conflicts, increasing communication within relationships and families, and working with individuals with PTSD from trauma and abuse. I have worked as a Medical Social Worker and provide counseling for older adults coping with medical illness, dementia for both the client and care giver, transitions, trauma, grief and loss.
Accepting new clients as of 04/01/2024. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Florida with 17 years of professional work experience and have worked with diverse populations from teenagers to geriatric individuals. I have experience in helping clients with reducing stress and anxiety, resolving family conflicts, increasing communication within relationships and families, and working with individuals with PTSD from trauma and abuse. I have worked as a Medical Social Worker and provide counseling for older adults coping with medical illness, dementia for both the client and care giver, transitions, trauma, grief and loss.
(407) 305-7534 View (407) 305-7534

Online Therapists

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Susan G. Ellis, Ph.D., P.A.
Psychologist, PhD, MA
Verified Verified
Largo, FL 33771
Adult, adolescents, children, and families are welcome to call, inquire about services, and schedule an appointment for evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment for the problems in their lives and for the mental health and well-being they seek. I am here to help. I am a licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed school psychologist, and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator offering services to individuals, couples, marriages, families and relationships. I can help with behavioral and emotional problems and with interpersonal problems in your personal life and workplace. *Anger *Borderline
Adult, adolescents, children, and families are welcome to call, inquire about services, and schedule an appointment for evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment for the problems in their lives and for the mental health and well-being they seek. I am here to help. I am a licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed school psychologist, and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator offering services to individuals, couples, marriages, families and relationships. I can help with behavioral and emotional problems and with interpersonal problems in your personal life and workplace. *Anger *Borderline
(727) 205-1163 View (727) 205-1163
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Dr. John Knight
Counselor, PhD, ABMPP, LMHC
Verified Verified
Oldsmar, FL 34677
Providing Counseling Coaching and Therapy for Individuals, Couples, Marriage, Adolescents and Families. Assistance for relational issues such as Discernment counseling for couples, communication, emotional avoidance, recovery from infidelity, relational trauma, assessment and Therapy for Depression, Grief & Loss, Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Anger Management, Autism, Bipolar, BPD, PTSD, Sleep Disorder, Addictions such as Gambling, Alcohol, Sexual and Internet.
Providing Counseling Coaching and Therapy for Individuals, Couples, Marriage, Adolescents and Families. Assistance for relational issues such as Discernment counseling for couples, communication, emotional avoidance, recovery from infidelity, relational trauma, assessment and Therapy for Depression, Grief & Loss, Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Anger Management, Autism, Bipolar, BPD, PTSD, Sleep Disorder, Addictions such as Gambling, Alcohol, Sexual and Internet.
(727) 261-1491 View (727) 261-1491
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Eveliz Ivette Robles
Counselor, MS, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
Saint Petersburg, FL 33702  (Online Only)
Specialty areas include depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, general mood disorders post-traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, paranoid personality disorder, and attention deficit hyperactive disorder.
Now accepting new clients. - I am fluent in Spanish. - Weekdays & evening appointments available. I strive to bring an effective blend of experience, expertise, clarity, concern & action to the counseling process in order to maximize outcomes & provide genuine healing & wholeness to individuals, children & families. - Me esfuerzo por aportar una combinación eficaz de experiencia, pericia, claridad, preocupación y acción al proceso de asesoramiento para maximizar los resultados y brindar sanación genuina y plenitud a las personas, los niños y las familias. I am trained to conduct effective immigration evaluations.
Specialty areas include depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, general mood disorders post-traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, paranoid personality disorder, and attention deficit hyperactive disorder.
Now accepting new clients. - I am fluent in Spanish. - Weekdays & evening appointments available. I strive to bring an effective blend of experience, expertise, clarity, concern & action to the counseling process in order to maximize outcomes & provide genuine healing & wholeness to individuals, children & families. - Me esfuerzo por aportar una combinación eficaz de experiencia, pericia, claridad, preocupación y acción al proceso de asesoramiento para maximizar los resultados y brindar sanación genuina y plenitud a las personas, los niños y las familias. I am trained to conduct effective immigration evaluations.
(702) 904-8890 View (702) 904-8890
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Brooke Parker
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Altamonte Springs, FL 32701  (Online Only)
Anxiety and depression are my specialty areas, and I also have significant experience with addiction, ADHD, anger management, borderline personality disorder, codependency, LGBTQ+ issues, phase of life issues, relational issues, etc.
Hi there! I'm Brooke, and I'm here to help you to unpack all the emotional baggage that your family left for you handle all on your own. My goal as your therapist is to allow you the space that you need to process the issues that you have experienced throughout your life. I hope to create a warm and safe therapeutic environment where you will feel heard, where you will have the courage to share the things that have happened to you, and to help carry the weight of the things that have taken up space in your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others.
Anxiety and depression are my specialty areas, and I also have significant experience with addiction, ADHD, anger management, borderline personality disorder, codependency, LGBTQ+ issues, phase of life issues, relational issues, etc.
Hi there! I'm Brooke, and I'm here to help you to unpack all the emotional baggage that your family left for you handle all on your own. My goal as your therapist is to allow you the space that you need to process the issues that you have experienced throughout your life. I hope to create a warm and safe therapeutic environment where you will feel heard, where you will have the courage to share the things that have happened to you, and to help carry the weight of the things that have taken up space in your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others.
(407) 602-6711 View (407) 602-6711
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Holly Gardner
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Petersburg, FL 33702  (Online Only)
I specialize in treating, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, and Borderline Personality Disorder.
Are you struggling to maintain healthy relationships? Do you experience anger, depression, anxiety, mistrust, difficulty with communication, fear of failure? If you’re struggling with one or more of these things, let me help you find the balance that brings greater self-awareness, self-worth, self-compassion, and improved connections with others.
I specialize in treating, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, and Borderline Personality Disorder.
Are you struggling to maintain healthy relationships? Do you experience anger, depression, anxiety, mistrust, difficulty with communication, fear of failure? If you’re struggling with one or more of these things, let me help you find the balance that brings greater self-awareness, self-worth, self-compassion, and improved connections with others.
(727) 485-0867 View (727) 485-0867
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Shannon Heller
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Tampa, FL 33626
I assist clients with borderline personality disorder, addictions, parent coaching, relationship communication, conflict resolution, and developing greater connection and intimacy with loved ones.
I applaud you for taking the first step in searching for a therapist whose values and experience align with your goals. I believe in building a strong rapport with my clients so that you feel at ease in the therapy room and are feeling both heard and understood. My ultimate goal is for you to learn tools that can be used to improve the present problem and can also be applied in day-to-day life so that you are able to handle any difficulties when they present themselves. You can be assured that I will walk with you through this journey.
I assist clients with borderline personality disorder, addictions, parent coaching, relationship communication, conflict resolution, and developing greater connection and intimacy with loved ones.
I applaud you for taking the first step in searching for a therapist whose values and experience align with your goals. I believe in building a strong rapport with my clients so that you feel at ease in the therapy room and are feeling both heard and understood. My ultimate goal is for you to learn tools that can be used to improve the present problem and can also be applied in day-to-day life so that you are able to handle any difficulties when they present themselves. You can be assured that I will walk with you through this journey.
(813) 521-7262 View (813) 521-7262
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Patti Collard
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Wesley Chapel, FL 33544  (Online Only)
Hi there! Let me start by telling you a little bit about myself. I have been a licensed practicing clinician since 2010. I am trained and experienced in a specialized form of therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), but I also practice Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. I enjoy working with adolescents, college students, and adults with a wide range of challenges, such as Borderline Personality Disorder, depression (including postpartum), bipolar disorder, anxiety, eating disorders, substance abuse, self-harm, identity issues, and relationship issues. I also have experience working with patients in acute psychiatric crisis.
Hi there! Let me start by telling you a little bit about myself. I have been a licensed practicing clinician since 2010. I am trained and experienced in a specialized form of therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), but I also practice Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. I enjoy working with adolescents, college students, and adults with a wide range of challenges, such as Borderline Personality Disorder, depression (including postpartum), bipolar disorder, anxiety, eating disorders, substance abuse, self-harm, identity issues, and relationship issues. I also have experience working with patients in acute psychiatric crisis.
(727) 261-1284 View (727) 261-1284
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Tampa Bay DBT
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Tampa, FL 33625
These treatments have been proven to be effective in treating Borderline Personality Disorder, Substance Use Disorders, Eating Disorders, Panic Disorders, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders, Generalized Anxiety Disorders, Trauma Disorders, couples, and families.
Tampa Bay DBT is a group of mental health clinicians dedicated to the mission of providing evidence based psychological treatments to adolescents, adults, and families in a compassionate environment. Our clinicians are dedicated to receiving the most up to date trainings to provide the most effective care to the individuals we serve. We provide specific treatments including: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT), DBT for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (DBT-PTSD), Prolonged Exposure (PE), Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), and Emotion-Focused Couples and Family Therapy.
These treatments have been proven to be effective in treating Borderline Personality Disorder, Substance Use Disorders, Eating Disorders, Panic Disorders, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders, Generalized Anxiety Disorders, Trauma Disorders, couples, and families.
Tampa Bay DBT is a group of mental health clinicians dedicated to the mission of providing evidence based psychological treatments to adolescents, adults, and families in a compassionate environment. Our clinicians are dedicated to receiving the most up to date trainings to provide the most effective care to the individuals we serve. We provide specific treatments including: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT), DBT for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (DBT-PTSD), Prolonged Exposure (PE), Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), and Emotion-Focused Couples and Family Therapy.
(443) 856-6273 View (443) 856-6273
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Camille Spencer
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW
Verified Verified
Heathrow, FL 32746  (Online Only)
I have been very successful at helping and empowering individuals with overwhelming emotions and borderline personality disorder using DBT.
I combine traditional complementary methodologies and current neurological research to offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each client. I am committed to assisting each individual build on their existing strengths to live their best possible self. I assist my clients in reducing their overwhelming emotions and help them learn new skills to replace negative coping behaviors, among other goals through EMDR, DBT, and CBT. I work very hard to help clients achieve their life worth living. I bring humor and lightness to our work—we can have fun while also working hard!
I have been very successful at helping and empowering individuals with overwhelming emotions and borderline personality disorder using DBT.
I combine traditional complementary methodologies and current neurological research to offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each client. I am committed to assisting each individual build on their existing strengths to live their best possible self. I assist my clients in reducing their overwhelming emotions and help them learn new skills to replace negative coping behaviors, among other goals through EMDR, DBT, and CBT. I work very hard to help clients achieve their life worth living. I bring humor and lightness to our work—we can have fun while also working hard!
(321) 450-9272 View (321) 450-9272
Photo of Brenda Lynn Dornbach in Dade City, FL
Brenda Lynn Dornbach
MA, LMHC, CBIS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Ormond Beach, FL 32174
I specialize in helping adolescents and adults with an array of maladaptive behaviors including anxiety, depression, self-harm, mood disturbances, anger, and self-esteem struggles. I specialize in Bipolar Disorders and Borderline Personality Disorder. My goal is to help my patients redirect their negative and irrational thought patterns utilizing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques. I also implement Dialectical Behavioral therapy to teach my clients skills to regulate their emotions. Concurrently utilizing Motivational Therapy to encourage setting short and long term obtainable goals for future life fulfillment.
I specialize in helping adolescents and adults with an array of maladaptive behaviors including anxiety, depression, self-harm, mood disturbances, anger, and self-esteem struggles. I specialize in Bipolar Disorders and Borderline Personality Disorder. My goal is to help my patients redirect their negative and irrational thought patterns utilizing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques. I also implement Dialectical Behavioral therapy to teach my clients skills to regulate their emotions. Concurrently utilizing Motivational Therapy to encourage setting short and long term obtainable goals for future life fulfillment.
(386) 388-6812 View (386) 388-6812
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Darly Sebastian
Counselor, L, P, C
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Saint Petersburg, FL 33702  (Online Only)
My expertise lies in working with couples and individuals facing challenges such as infidelity, BPD and PTSD.
Are you prioritizing others over your well-being? struggling with boundaries and fearing rejection? Do feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt drive you to seek external validation? Are you suppressing emotions and enabling destructive behaviors to maintain relationships? If you find discomfort in solitude and constantly seek external validation for security, I can guide you. As a trauma-informed counselor, I help motivated individuals rediscover self-love and nurture healthier connections. With expertise in fostering emotional well-being, I offer hope for transformative change in your relationship dynamics.
My expertise lies in working with couples and individuals facing challenges such as infidelity, BPD and PTSD.
Are you prioritizing others over your well-being? struggling with boundaries and fearing rejection? Do feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt drive you to seek external validation? Are you suppressing emotions and enabling destructive behaviors to maintain relationships? If you find discomfort in solitude and constantly seek external validation for security, I can guide you. As a trauma-informed counselor, I help motivated individuals rediscover self-love and nurture healthier connections. With expertise in fostering emotional well-being, I offer hope for transformative change in your relationship dynamics.
(727) 761-0604 View (727) 761-0604

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Borderline Personality (BPD) Therapists

What is the most successful approach to treating borderline personality disorder?

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is considered the gold standard of treatment for borderline personality disorder. An evidence-based treatment, it addresses the extreme emotional reactivity, the relationship difficulties, and the acts of self-harm that create so much distress for BPD patients. DBT is a comprehensive program that includes both regular individual psychotherapy sessions and weekly group sessions of skills training.

What happens in treatment of borderline personality disorder?

Treatment typically consists of weekly individual therapy sessions that last an hour and group skill-focused instructional sessions that may last up to two hours. Patients are typically given homework “assignments” in which they are asked to practice in their daily life the skills they acquire in therapy. Patients also keep a diary tracking their emotions and impulses as a way to know which situations are most problematic and to help them gain control over their own behavior. Difficult situations and feelings are typically reviewed in therapy sessions and more constructive solutions found.

What kinds of problems does BPD treatment help with?

DBT was initially developed to dampen the self-destructive impulses of chronically suicidal patients. It is now the treatment of choice for borderline personality disorder, a serious condition marked by extreme emotional reactivity, relationship instability, and self-injurious behaviors. Treatment of BPD helps patients tolerate the flux of emotions without acting on them, often with a specific focus on tolerating negative emotions. DBT addresses the core problems of BPD—fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and impulsivity.

What is the goal of treatment in borderline personality disorder?

The goal of treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to relieve the extreme emotional distress that patients experience—to curb their emotional reactivity, to minimize their inclination to self-harm, and to reduce their impulsivity. Toward these ends, patients are not only taught an array of new coping skills and techniques for emotional regulation, they are given opportunities to practice them. Another major goal of treatment is interpersonal effectiveness; patients learn and problem-solve ways to effectively communicate in relationships, especially how to ask for what they need as a way to minimize hurt feelings.