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Flirting Personality Test (Men)

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Are you a flirt?

There are five flirting styles: physical, playful, polite, sincere, and traditional. Physical flirts use body language; playful flirts think it’s a game; polite flirts are cautious; sincere flirts look for authentic connection; and traditional flirts rely on conventional gender roles. See where you fall on this flirting personality scale.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I can tell if the person I’m flirting with is interested.
Disagree
Agree
2. I often find myself laughing when I flirt.
Disagree
Agree
3. When flirting, I typically make more eye contact than usual.
Disagree
Agree
4. I focus on the quality of the conversation when flirting.
Disagree
Agree
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5. I compliment the person with whom I’m flirting.
Disagree
Agree
6. I ask follow-up questions in flirtatious conversations.
Disagree
Agree
7. I’m not afraid to directly ask the person I’m flirting with for a date.
Disagree
Agree
8. When flirting, I nod along to what the other person is saying, rather than interrupting.
Disagree
Agree
9. Others would say I’m not too aggressive when I flirt.
Disagree
Agree
10. I try to be humble when I’m flirting.
Disagree
Agree
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11. I find myself maintaining an upright posture when in a flirtatious conversation.
Disagree
Agree
12. I withhold some information about myself if I’m flirting.
Disagree
Agree
13. Flirting makes me feel anxious.
Disagree
Agree
14. If the other person is not interested in me, I don’t get upset.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I enjoy witty banter when flirting.
Disagree
Agree
16. I make clear that I have a romantic interest in the other person.
Disagree
Agree
17. I try to find what I have in common with the other person.
Disagree
Agree
18. I genuinely enjoy learning about the other person’s interests.
Disagree
Agree
19. I try not to move too fast when flirting with someone.
Disagree
Agree
20. I don’t give up on a conversation if it hits a lull.
Disagree
Agree
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Who Is This Flirting Test For?

This test is for anyone who wishes to gauge their flirting style. It is designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic.

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How to Get Help

A therapist or counselor can help guide you to improve your romancing approach. Seek a mental healthcare professional in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Hall, J. A., Carter, S., Cody, M. J., & Albright, J. M. (2010). Development of the Flirting Styles Inventory.
Apostolou, M., & Christoforou, C. (2020). 
La France, B. H., Henningsen, D. D., Oates, A., & Shaw, C. M. (2009). 

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