I can identify with being " too compassionate " but I don't necessarily think that in my case at least, it's coming from a healthy place. Since I grew up with a depressed mother, I knew on some level that her happiness or unhappiness was linked to my own. Erroneously taking the blame for her unhappiness had the effect of multiplying it. So now I think I believe it to be my job to make sure everyone around me is happy- a misdirected effort to gain a sense of control over feeling at the mercy of the emotions of others. It doesn't work and leads to frustration and failure. Plus, as mentioned in the first response, taking on the pain of others does not lessen it for them. Thank you for a helpful article.

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