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I would just like to mention that I am often surrounded by well educated people, many of which go to colleges like Harvard and Yale, and almost all of them swear. These are students that have gotten high GPA's in very difficult high schools that include rigorous English courses. I believe there are situations in which swearing should not be tolerated, but in everyday speech or if in pain, then I don't think people should care about the language others use. Assuming you are from a different generation than me, I would also like to mention that there is a large gap between the older generations and the newer ones. Swear words are also constantly changing. For example, if I said the word "cherry", you would think of a red, circular fruit. Yet in the Victorian era, this was a vulgar word for a young woman. That is just one example of hundreds. In the next hundred years, the words you now think of as swear words will be either meaningless or harmless. In this generation, swear words are a lot less harmful or shocking than they were thirty years ago. Swear words are simply sounds just like any other. Also, swear words don't have to be for hurting people. When you were a kid, if you said you made a stupid mistake, you would not get in trouble. But if you call someone stupid, you would. The same thing should go with swear words in my opinion. My view on swear words is as long as you are not using them toward someone in a negative manner, you should be able to use them without getting bad looks or getting in trouble. Finally, I believe our focus should not be on the basic swear words you hear in the average teenagers conversations, but rather on the words that are not yet considered swear words but are much more hurtful. These include using gay and retarded as insults. When used in their original meaning, a sexuality and a mental illness, these are perfectly fine to use. Yet when these are used as insults, it changes the meaning to something terrible which will create new, hurtful swear words. Let's focus on the truly malicious words instead of the ones that no longer cause much harm.
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