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I read your article eagerly, since I have a teenager with ADHD. We are indeed American. And, while I would agree that limits, rules, and consistency are important for all children, kids with ADHD often truly can't comply, as much as we or even they would like.
Any parent with a child with ADHD will tell you that applying rules and sage advice offered by therapists is not always possible. It may seem that it is to someone who doesn't live 24/7 with a child who can't stop talking, walking, drumming on the table, throwing things--but it's simply not effective all of the time. Parents I know with these special kids do agree that some tactics work better than others, depending on the child and the age. Water, for instance, seems to work wonders in calming down even young kids. (My son has always been very clean!)
Now that my son is 16, bright, engaged, and kind, he will tell you that days without medication are torture for him. He can't concentrate on anything at school, his quick thoughts and inattention actually bother him. He doesn't like the way he acts, and will avoid social situations. On days when he misses his medication he will tell you he just wants the day to be over. With medication,he is involved in music, Scouting, friends, academics, and helping others.
I will never regret finding my son the medical help he needed, and treating the biological aspects of ADHD while I focused on the "real boy" beneath the behavior.
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