I agree completely. As a man, I've never felt this experience of being "noticed" by the world, and therefore never felt the sting of its absence once I grew older. Especially as a very normal, unexceptional-looking man who doesn't stand out in a crowd, I learned a LONG time ago that I had to work to make people notice me. I had to learn to engage others and generate interest. Additionally, as the "nice guy" who routinely got passed over, I was even MORE invisible sexually than your average Invisible Man. So while I can understand intellectually that this is a troubling issue for many older women, it's difficult for me to sympathize personally with the loss of something I, and many many men, have never had in the first place. I'm not being bitter - just honest.

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