I am in my early 40's and i can make myself invisible or not. Just as i did in my twenties and thirties. When i am depressed, nobody looks, when i am glowing 'they' notice me (or when i wear high heels!).
But somehow we, women 40+, have been told that we are not members of sexuality anymore, we are not supposed to be attractive and should be anxious about the future, living the doom scenario: the loss of a sexual life.

I don't know if it counts for every woman, but behind losing the feeling of being attractive, i think, lies a feeling of shame. We are not supposed to think of sex anymore, but we do. Even if we can't have children anymore, we do want to have sex.
If we can fully accept this, and live it, i think we might not be that invisible anymore.

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