I think you hit the nail on the head, Jef, by suggesting that non-attachment and personal responsibility constitute a wise paradox. Your comment brings to mind an old story about an American and an Asian who are walking through a construction site. Bricks from the building under construction break lose and hit each of them. The American becomes enraged and immediately begins looking for someone to sue. The Asian become very quiet and thoughtful, examining his to life to consider what he might have done to bring himself into this situation.