Good for you for having the good sense and loyalty to not turn on your father. I wish my daughter had had those qualities. I've talked to several adults that related to me how, during their childhood, one of their parents attempted unsuccessfully to alienate them from the other. Looking back, these people were all successful professionals.

I think that research into character traits of children who have resisted alienation might prove fruitful although I doubt whether you can "teach" that kind of character. You either think for yourself or you don't.

Although I miss my daughter very much, if she was willing to turn on me and tell horrible lies about me at age 10, I doubt that there was much hope for a fulfilling and mutually respectful relationship.

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